It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Missing Him,” who wanted reassurance that breaking up with a younger man who said he wasn’t looking for anything serious was the right decision. Keep reading to see how she’s doing now, ten months later.
It boiled down to his never having been interested in long-term in the first place, and telling me so one night, after I had suggested taking our association to the next level. You, of course, said it far more eloquently than I ever could.
I’m writing today to let you know that, a few weeks afterward, I met the man I’ve been looking for my whole life. As it happens, we briefly knew each other in our early twenties, but we never moved beyond a casual friendship. We had some mutual friends and would see each other at parties. Occasionally, we would get together – we both remember him coming over to my apartment once, alone – but nothing ever came of it and we lost touch over the years.
This time around he recognized me on a dating site and sent me a message. We’ve been happily together since May, a little over six months now. We are making plans for the future; everything is nice and natural, not forced. He wants me as much as I want him. He is kind and thoughtful, sensitive and caring and cuddly. And so smart and funny. He really cracks me up.
I’m just finishing my degree (I went back to college in 2014 at age 37 and that’s actually where I met the younger man). We are planning to buy a house together next year. All is well and right in my world.
Thanks for your kind advice all those months ago, Wendy. I feel like you and your readers helped me to see sense much sooner than I would have on my own. I may not have joined that dating site and may not have reconnected with Mr. Right if it weren’t for all of you. — Much Happier Now
I’m so glad to hear this and wish you and Mr. Right all the best going forward! Thank you for your uplifting update.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.