It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “More than a Friend” who wondered whether it was a mistake to sleep with a guy she likes on the first date and to tell him he makes a great “FWB” even though she’d like to be more than just friends with benefits. Keep reading to see where things stand between them now.
The only problem is – I find it strange that our lines of communication are so low that I didn’t even KNOW we were together when he clearly did. Things are going strong, but we don’t see each other as much as I’d like or talk as much as I’d like and I hope I can learn to communicate better. Your column and the comments from readers really helped me and I greatly appreciate the advice.
Girl, quit waiting around for him to set the tone of your relationship and take some initiative. If you want better communication with him, then communicate better. Talk to him. Tell him you really enjoy his company and would love to have more of it. Call him up to talk. Plan dates that allow you to connect. This is your relationship as much as it is his, so take some ownership in it. Before he thinks you aren’t interested and finds someone who shows him she is.
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