It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “More Than a FWB?” who wondered if she should express her feelings to her FWB of five months before leaving town for the summer.
After careful thought and deliberation (okay, all of 15 minutes!) I let him know that we were done. Of course, he spent the night drunkenly texting me a mixture of sweet nothings, confessions of undying love, and some not-so-pleasant words. The next day, he tried to ‘take back’ all that he had said (because if you’re drunk when you do something, you don’t have to be accountable for it, right?) and wanted to confirm that we were, in fact, done. I asked him what it was that he wanted and he said he didn’t know. That was all I needed to hear to know it was time to MOA.
I am sad that I lost someone who was a very close friend to me for the last few months. But ya know what? In hindsight, and I know if he pulled that crap with me, then he wasn’t really a good friend anyway. So, I gave myself two days to be sad about it, then I put on my favorite dress and got back out there.
Thank you for your advice. I do think it was the best way to handle the situation.
Thanks for the update. Have a great summer — maybe you’ll even find someone to date who isn’t so ambivalent about what he wants!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.