It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Older and Wiser?” whose younger lover knocked up another woman. Keep reading to see whether the LW left her husband and is going for breakup number 12 with the younger lover.
And you don’t know what we’ve been like for 11 months. The breakups were because he wanted all of me and couldn’t have it because I was still with my husband. Why couldn’t he wait a bit longer? I don’t even think I’d have made the move to leave my husband if it weren’t for what he did. It tipped my emotional scale to realize I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING FOR ME! He’s back on Saturday and I don’t know what to do! He promised me he wouldn’t sleep with her before the abortion, that he loves me and respects where we are now. I am finally separated and living on my own.
How can I forget what he did? Can I? Or do I dump his ass and say fuck you! You messed up. You lose me and her. You have nothing left? But I do love him. I’m 43 and this isn’t infatuation! Is it?? Help!
MOA means Move On Already.
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