It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Practicing Self-Love” who was pissed off over her husband’s secret, ahem, self-love practices.
I do expect my husband to masturbate, so I have no illusions that he doesn’t. But when he told me he gave it up after we were married, I believed him. After I had my first son, we couldn’t have sex for 5-6 weeks. The man was hurting! I even told him to masturbate but he refused. Of course, that was years ago, so maybe he has since then realized he needs to when we can’t have sex regularly.
In regard to losing weight and many comments about that: I would love to lose weight but have no motivation. I do believe I am a bit depressed. We do not live close to any family. I also moved away from many of my friends to be with him. It has been hard for me to make friends here because a lot of social aspects are church-based (I live in the south). We do not attend church mainly because my husband does not like organized religion, and there are no churches for my own religion. We really have no close friends or family nearby. I am hoping to talk to my doctor soon to resolve this issue.
Thank you to all the readers for the comments.
Thanks for the update. I hope you take a more active role in making friends, though. You could look for Meetups in the area centered around activities you enjoy. You could take a fun class. Get involved at your children’s school and make friends with other parents. Having a community will do wonders for your mental health. And, of course, it’s great that you’re going to talk to your doctor about how you’re feeling, too. Good luck!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.