It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Reality Bites” whose long-distance boyfriend confessed he never wanted to leave his hometown after leading her to believe he was prepared to move. They’d been ring shopping and she said: “I’m not young (35) and afraid, if I walk away because of location, I may regret it big time. My priorities are shifting and career/goals are becoming less important, but general happiness as an individual is really important to me, married or single, and I’m trying to be realistic about all of this.” Keep reading to see whether she decided to move for love or stay put and risk losing her boyfriend.
I decided to walk away from my relationship. It took three months of damn near begging, crying, and feeling worthless, but I eventually let go and, hopefully, I made the right decision. I think I did, but it’s still fresh so it’s difficult to see that from here. My hope is that a year from now I can look back (hopefully with an awesome new guy) and this will all be in the past. However, not moving to Detroit permanently was, I’m 1000% sure, the right decision!
I plan to start dating again soon and am optimistic about whatever is next in my love life.
P.S. I read an amazing book after the breakup called “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken” and it helped me TREMENDOUSLY!!
Thank you for the update and best of luck to you as you move on and move forward. I do believe that when we are courageous in making decisions, we don’t regret it.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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