Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Updates: “Rugby Widow” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Rugby Widow” whose original letter appeared in a His Take column when she asked the guys how she could convince her husband to give up rugby now that he’s in his 30s and more prone to dangerous injuries. She gave an update in August, writing: “My husband isn’t quitting but he seems to be blowing off practice more. So I think that time will help him let this part of his life go.” Now, two months later, it seems Father Time has spoken. Read on:

So Jarek said in the original column that eventually my husband would know when to stop playing rugby. Well, we are there. After a few weeks back on the field, my husband had the same symptoms he had before. He went back to the specialist and the tests were way more invasive, including a prostate exam, cat scan, and a little camera up his penis to look at his kidneys. These tests came back clean but scared him to death.

He just took a little longer than I did deciding it was time for him to quit playing (and I think I just tried to rush him).

What a relief! Glad to hear he did the smart thing.

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at wendy@dearwendy.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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  • TaraMonster

    TaraMonster November 23, 2011, 1:49 pm

    I would just love to hear the “I told you so” conversation behind this one!

    “Well, honey you wouldn’t have that little camera in your penis hole if you’d just listened to me in the first place.”

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      Taylor November 23, 2011, 1:56 pm

      Ha!

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      Emsz November 23, 2011, 1:57 pm

      Brilliant, and hilarious!

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      Addie Pray November 23, 2011, 2:00 pm

      Ouch. The thought of that hurts my penis, and I don’t even have one!

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      • Skyblossom

        Skyblossom November 23, 2011, 2:35 pm

        My thought exactly! I’m not even a man and it made me wince.

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      Tax Geek November 23, 2011, 7:35 pm

      Yeah, that would go over well…

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