It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Scared to Come Clean” who was anxious about sharing her HPV diagnosis with her boyfriend. Her letter was posted as a “Your Turn” column, and after the jump, hear what she has to say about your advice and how she’s doing today.
First off I would like to thank everyone for their very supportive feedback. I was really surprised and it actually gave me a little more momentum to come forward. It even made me research HPV more than I had before because in the beginning I was scared and didn’t want to come across something I would not want to see or read. But reading everyone else’s stories made me research more for myself based on what my doctor told me. Coming clean was something I had to do. Not telling my boyfriend was simply out of the question. I find a lot it easier to just be upfront in a relationship, especially if it’s something that is bothering me.
I DID, in fact, tell him the same day I saw everyone’s feedback. We were sitting on the couch casually watching T.V. and I just decided to turn down the volume and say what I had to say. He wasn’t really shocked because he said he had been tested for STDs not too long before we got together and said the only STD he couldn’t test against was HPV. He did, in fact, know a little about HPV and understood completely. He assured me to just do exactly what my doctor told me and we will get through this. I am just so thankful he understood my situation and made me feel at ease about the whole thing. There are nice guys out there after all!
I just want to thank everyone again for helping me understand you don’t have to be considered “dirty” or “sleezy” to contract this sort of thing. I rather look at it now as one of the sad consequences people go through from having sex — protected or unprotected. I am just glad I found out my problem before it was too late, and if I could give any advice myself it would be for sexually active women (and men) to get tested as frequently as you can (when you change sex partners) and keep up with yearly paps!
Thanks for the update and best of luck to you!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.