It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Scared to Fall” who expressed fear over dating a guy who confessed, before they met face-to-face, that he had an STD. After the jump, find out whether she went through with their plan to meet and how she’s doing now.
Thank you and thanks to all those who commented on my letter. Before I went to visit him, we had a serious discussion about the STD he said he had. It turns out it was HPV. We talked mostly about how it affected his life, and how it could affect me one day if we became intimate in the future. He assured me that if I’m not comfortable with pursuing intimacy with him, he is understanding, and will wait. He had also mentioned that he would like to go to my doctor with me to talk about the STD, and mentioned I could take the shot to prevent the cancerous strain of HPV (I’ve actually already had the shot). It was VERY comforting to know how well informed he was, and how he wanted me to better understand his STD and protect my health.
That being said, I did meet up with him that weekend. It was hands down, the best date I’ve ever had! We did things the entire weekend, including dinner, walks, museum tour, amazing conversations, and we met up with mutual friends for a get-together as well! I am very happy I decided to meet him. It has been a few weeks now, and I can safely say we are dating only each other now. He is the most understanding, and caring individual I have ever met. Our in-person chemistry is off the chart. We see each other on weekends for now, and will see where this new relationship takes us!
I hope anyone who is in the same situation as me can look past such things and see how good a person really is. An STD does not determine a person’s identity. Trust your gut instinct, and always be safe.
Thanks for the update and best of luck to you and the great guy you’ve found!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.