It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Stuck in a Limbo Divorce,” the 40-something woman who was going through a divorce when she met a man online she really hit it off with. He told her he’d been through a divorce himself and that she needed 12 months to process everything before she’d be ready to date anyone seriously. Her divorce was dragging on, and she worried that he wouldn’t wait for her. And, of yeah, on the side she had a hot karate instructor she was banging “fortnightly,” so it’s not like she was just horny. Keep reading to see if her divorce is over and if Mr. Wonderful waited around.
So, happily, I was able to internalise the advice: that if he was into me, he would have called by now and, in reality, I probably wasn’t ready for a relationship based on mutual respect. In fact, pinning my hopes on such a wafer-thin promise of a relationship was likely heading me straight into a highly dependent relationship.
Anyhow, I have actually found a rather nice chap, and we’ve been seeing quite a bit of one another for a few months now. Although I must say he’s a bit of a rough diamond…what do I do with someone who takes me to a restaurant but holds his knife and fork like an axe? Cheers, Wendy.
I have no idea what an “axe” is, but I do love your accent!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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