It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Suspicious Neighbor” whose drunk, pants-less neighbor kept hitting on her husband. She updated us once before, and now she has some more news.
A couple of weeks ago, my husband had asked a neighbor for some help and Ramona came over as well. While the neighbor was helping my husband, Ramona came up to me while I was sitting in my computer chair and playing with my son. We went into my living room and out of no where, she said “It feels like you hate me and I really don’t want you to. When I drink, I do some crazy things and I don’t want your husband and I do come off strong and I’m sorry.”
I was definitely caught off guard by this straight forward discussion that she initiated. She did apologize for her husband as well because, as she put it, is kind of crazy and has been having some “man issues”. She also said that they’ve been having marital problems and is contemplating divorce for the first time in 10 years. She then invited me over for wine any time I wanted – though I’m quite sure I won’t be taking her up on that offer.
All in all, it was incredibly anti climactic. I have to admit that I am happy that she brought it up and apologized for anything she might have done to offend me. So, to me, it’s water under the bridge, but I’m not going to get super chummy with her.
Again, thanks for your advice on how to deal with the situation. On a side note – Wendy, have you thought about making t-shirts (I would wear one!) with the logo on the mug (that I totally love!) on it?
Hmm, I might make t-shirts. But would anyone buy them (besides Suspicious neighbor)? Unforch, I haven’t made my investment back on the mugs yet — hopeful it will happen eventually… — so I am a little hesitant about creating more DW merchandise if there isn’t enough interest. If people want to weigh in, that would be great. Would you buy a t-shirt? What would it need to be priced at (including shipping) for you to get one?
Re. Ramona, I gotta say, I kinda like her. I mean, I’m glad it’s not my husband she’s draping her pants-less self all over, but you have to admit — she keeps things interesting, right? Plus, I bet she’s got a good supply of wine. And you know what they say about keeping your friends close and your enemies closer. Might not be a terrible idea to stop by for a drink some time…
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