It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Suspicious Neighbor,” whose drunk, pantsless neighbor kept hitting on her husband. Keep reading to see what she had to say for herself to her husband and how he responded.
To all those that may have thought this letter was fake, unfortunately, it wasn’t and I really do have a neighbor that is a pant-less drunky.
My husband is definitely passive on most situations and does have a difficult time saying “no” to people and is a “people pleaser”. He does mean well, but he does over-extend himself quite a bit. As far as “tinkering” goes, he has a lot of hobbies. He has had many hobbies for as long as I have known him and that is just a part of who he is.
As to why I was not at the get-together – I honestly didn’t know it was going on. I was already asleep by the time this get-together was in full swing and I didn’t wake up until I heard loud cheering. I also wasn’t “peeping or spying”. The fence is in need of repair and is coming apart. We also have one school-aged child at home and an infant. I was with them in the house and had assumed my husband was in the garage or backyard.
After I witnessed all of the happenings with the neighbor – it’s infrequent enough that it’s not the first thing on my mind – I did confront my husband and told him that if he was interested in sleeping with her or having romantic dalliances with her or anyone else, to go right ahead and do it. After that, he could expect not to come home or see the kids everyday like he has been. I would prefer to be a single parent to two children than to have a man that doesn’t respect me as a wife and partner and someone I could trust. He looked shocked and said that he wasn’t having and didn’t want to have any sexual relationship with this woman or any other woman and he didn’t want to lose what we have worked so hard to put and keep together.
As for “Ramona,” this flirtatious/coquette-ish behavior is somewhat common for her. My other next door neighbor told us that she had come onto and tried to kiss him as well. I haven’t confronted her, but I will most definitely say something should she do it again (and she will) and I see it.
Well, that was one way to handle it. Please send another update if you ever express yourself to Ramona. I will get my popcorn ready…
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