It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Take Two,” who had recently reunited with a ex-boyfriend but started having doubts again when she learned he continued to date the woman he once cheated on her with. Find out whether she decided to keep seeing him or to dump him, after the jump.
So, to make a long story short, I broke up with him. It hasn’t been easy, and we’ve still had more contact than I would like to admit, but I am doing really well and know that I am making the right decision. I realized that so much of the hurt that I was feeling came from the sense that I wasn’t enough for him, and the feeling that at any time he might meet a girl that he thought was hotter or cooler and want to be with her instead. I have always had high self-esteem, but it really suffered in the tail end of our relationship. Even in the past few weeks of being single, I have been amazed by the amount of male attention I have been getting, and how much guys really want to put in the effort to impress me and take me out. I hadn’t fully realized that I had internalized the idea that I wasn’t enough to hold a guy’s interest. About two weeks ago, I met a guy through mutual friends who is really cute and more of a gentleman that any guy I’ve ever been with. He has been extremely clear that he thinks I’m beautiful and awesome, and has planned a date for us later this week. I’m not putting too much stock in it, because its just a date, but it is really nice to be reminded that there are other guys out there that would be honored to give you their full attention. Thank you everyone for their extremely helpful input 🙂
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If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.