It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Thinking I Should Have Eloped,” the bride whose fiancé’s sister was demanding that her baby not only be allowed at the wedding, but be the ring bearer as well. Keep reading to see whether the LW decided to allow the baby to come or not.
My fiancé ended up calling his sister and hashing things out. Initially she continued to act like there was no possible way for her to ask a friend to watch the baby or find a sitter, but my fiancé stood his ground, and he gave her a million options for child care on the wedding day, including offering an on-site babysitter and reiterating our offer to pay. When she realized we weren’t caving, she backed down and said she would still like to be in the wedding and she would “work something out” with the baby. So now she is back in the bridal party. Hopefully we set a precedent with her and the rest of the wedding planning will be smooth sailing!
Good for you guys for standing your ground. I think setting this precedent will serve you well in the decades ahead as this woman’s SIL. Best wishes on a happy wedding and marriage!
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