It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Trying not to be a Bridezilla” who was upset when her recently engaged brother set his wedding for six weeks before hers. Keep reading to see how it all turned out and whether her wedding was, indeed, ruined as she feared it would be.
Generally, I am a very logical person, and I did agree with the advice that such a situation is not the end of the world and that it doesn’t matter in the long run. I guess I needed someone from outside of the drama to be the calm voice of reason in the middle of an emotional storm. Things were very stressful at the time; we had just bought a house and had two weeks to move out of our apartment in the dead of winter. Also, the Wedding Industrial Complex is very insidious and can get to you even when you are actively trying to ignore it.
As for the two weddings, my brother’s was very elegant and lovely. My wedding was more fun and relaxed — so they were very different kinds of weddings. And the out-of-state relatives whom I really wanted to come managed to make it to my wedding after all (and some even made it to my brother’s as well). Was it stressful on my parents? Yes, of course. Have people come up to my parents and be shocked that both of their kids got married within weeks of each other? Many times. (Luckily, I managed to hide my smile whenever that happened). Does it matter in the long run? Nope. Everyone still loves each other and now we only argue over who is cheating at cribbage.
Thanks for the advice, I needed it.
Thanks for the update!
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