It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Un-Plus One” who was annoyed that her boyfriend of several months had accepted invitations to be the date for two different women at two different weddings. Keep reading to hear whether she confronted him about her feelings and if he still went.
Hey guys! I read most of the comments about my dilemma, and I did confront him about the two weddings. I thought that when he told me, he had already accepted, but when I confronted him about the whole thing he said he was just letting me know, and for all of those that are curious, noooo I did not cry and blow up at him about it. I never expected him to ask for permission but it’s nice to be told about these things at least. I told him if he was ok with me going to a wedding with one of my guy friends then I have no problem with him going with one of his friends. He did not like the idea, so I guess it made him think twice about the whole situation but even still, he went this past weekend to it (he declined the other).
Also, I got more information about this chick from my bf, and I learned she’s new to the area (just moved to Dallas) and simply didnt have any one else to go with so in the end I was fine with it. I asked how it went and he responded that he was glad he went because his “friend” would have had to sit alone at a table. I agree with what a lot of you said about his being clueless about whats socially acceptable to do in a relationship. I guess he was just trying to be a good friend. I think the girl would have survived though because she was going with her family and honestly I dont see the need to bring a date if my family was going to be there to keep me company, especially someone else’s boyfriend, but thats just me.
Thanks for the update!
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