Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Updates: “Vegas Bride Responds”

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Vegas Bride” who wondered if she was obligated to invite her family to the elopement she dreamed of having in Vegas. She wanted to invite her dad, whom she knew would be a very low-key guest, but felt that, if she invited him, she’d have to invite the rest of her immediate family as well as her fiancé’s family, and then she wouldn’t really have the private elopement she was hoping for. “What should I do?” She asked. “Invite no one? Only invite my dad (secretly)? Invite 20 people and probably say goodbye to what we’d hoped would be a vacation?” Keep reading to see what she and her fiancé decided to do.

I want to thank you and the commenters so much for your thoughtful answers and help with my decision!

After some more deliberation on whether to invite family or not (it came down to either inviting ALL of our immediate family, step-dad included, or just going by ourselves), we decided to make the trip solo. Everyone in our families totally understood and supported us (including my dad, who also gave us a very generous pre-wedding gift to spend on our trip), and we had a BLAST! We got married by Elvis, which was SO much fun, and all of our family and friends got to watch the ceremony live online. We had the rest of the week to shop, sight-see and just enjoy each other’s company.

My mom, aunt, cousins and sister threw us a reception in my aunt’s backyard about three weeks later as their wedding gift to us, and we had 60 of our closest family and friends there to celebrate with us. They made most of the food themselves, they decorated the yard beautifully, and we finished the night around a fire with some drinks, laughing and reminiscing. Everyone had a fantastic time, and I still have people telling me how much they enjoyed it and how they loved how fun and casual everything was.

Thanks again for all of your help!

P.S. If I had to do it over again 100 times, I would do it the exact same way every one of those 100 times! I loved everything about our wedding 🙂

 

Aww, so glad you got your dream wedding and your family was so supportive. Sounds like everyone had a wonderful time!

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If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at wendy@dearwendy.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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24 comments… add one
  • othy

    othy September 8, 2014, 1:26 pm

    I’m glad it worked out so well, and congratulations. I also love that your family was able to stream it live, and that you had a small family and friends party later. Sounds like the best of both worlds.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray September 8, 2014, 2:00 pm

    That sounds like a great wedding! And I like that people could watch online. Fun!

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    Taylor September 8, 2014, 2:42 pm

    Love it! So nice to hear a wedding story where people are happy to be getting married, happy with their wedding, and happy for the couple!!!! It’s almost as if those are things that should matter =)

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  • possumgirl

    possumgirl September 8, 2014, 3:40 pm

    I wish we could thumbs up the posts themselves. This is wonderful to hear. Congratulations LW!

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    Married By Elvis September 8, 2014, 4:29 pm

    Congratulations! Getting married by Elvis is always good. Young, thin Elvis or fat Elvis? I won’t call him old, fat Elvis since I’ve now outlived him. We got married by fat Elvis in an ill-fitting jumpsuit. Yes, there’s rampant man boob in my wedding pictures.

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      MsMisery September 10, 2014, 12:43 pm

      I think there is every permutation of Elvis imaginable. I know a guy who makes a living as a Star Wars Stormtrooper/Elvis mash-up (look up Elvis Trooper). He can marry people, too, and is just in general a blast to know 🙂

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  • Portia

    Portia September 8, 2014, 5:03 pm

    This is adorable, I’m so glad your wedding turned out so fabulously! And streaming the wedding online – genius.

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    catz47 September 8, 2014, 5:11 pm

    We went with the young, gold-lame wearing Elvis! As a special Dear Wendy update treat, here’s a pic of the ceremony! http://i.imgur.com/hFfGS1R.jpg

    Thanks again for your help everyone, I loved the responses and advice I got!

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    • Astronomer

      Astronomer September 8, 2014, 5:20 pm

      Wow, love it!

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray September 8, 2014, 5:27 pm

      That. Is. Fucking. Awesome. You, catz, are my new favorite.

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        catz47 September 8, 2014, 5:32 pm

        yessss, AP, you just made my night my making your a new favourite!

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    • TaraMonster

      TaraMonster September 8, 2014, 5:16 pm

      That is a seriously awesome picture!

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    • Moneypenny

      Moneypenny September 8, 2014, 7:48 pm

      That is too cool! I love it! I also love your dress, it’s super pretty!

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        catz47 September 8, 2014, 9:14 pm

        Thanks! I got a helluva deal on it too 😉

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    • othy

      othy September 8, 2014, 9:02 pm

      I always love it when brides get lost in their groom’s eyes.

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    • Portia

      Portia September 8, 2014, 9:55 pm

      That picture made me tear up a little. Even with the gold-lame Elvis.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy September 9, 2014, 9:12 am

      This is awesome.

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      ktfran September 9, 2014, 9:14 am

      Awesome! Congratulations!!!! You two look so happy.

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    • Bubbles

      Bubbles September 9, 2014, 7:36 pm

      Oh wow! Thanks for sharing. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it. That picture is absolutely beautiful and what an amazing update. I think some brides & grooms get so caught up in the wedding they forget about what is really important.

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      Taylor September 10, 2014, 9:49 am

      AWESOME! Elvis has a Hugh Jackman vibe =)

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  • TaraMonster

    TaraMonster September 8, 2014, 4:35 pm

    Aww what a fun wedding! This makes me want to elope… I mean, after I find someone I want to marry. Haha.

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    catz47 September 9, 2014, 9:27 am

    Aww thanks everyone!

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    MsMisery September 10, 2014, 12:43 pm

    I really hope online/streaming weddings are the wave of the future.

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    HmC September 10, 2014, 1:24 pm

    Wow this is so awesome, love LOVE your pic with Elvis! I had a big ish wedding but can definitely see the appeal in going this route also and why this would also work well for a lot of couples. Mazel tov!!!

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