It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Wary of the Class Flirt” who was upset when she found some emails her husband exchanged with a particularly flirty woman he reconnected with at his high school reunion. Keep reading to see whether all is forgiven.
I am sorry to say that I have stopped reading your threads because, while I understand people writing in for advice as I did, I do not agree with all the character-bashing that your readers engage in. People are looking for answers and it IS possible to comment on people’s posts without calling them names and making them feel horrible.
But…to give you an update, we are doing wonderful! We have now been married for eight months. We are very happy together and my husband is completely transparent with me. He understands that he caused us to have a trust issue, and he is 100% willing to do whatever it takes to prove himself to be trustworthy once again. We have come a long way and, pretty soon, it will only be a faint memory.
I will say, however, that I have had to put in the work in order to find true forgiveness in my heart towards him. I realized my inability to forgive was only hurting myself, and I determined that I wanted to live a happy life. My faith in God also helped me to forgive.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at email@example.com.