Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Wedding-Related Questions?

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Next week is Wedding Week on DW! Oh yes, it’s true. And while I have a few columns already lined up, I could use a couple more letters to answer, so if you have a wedding-related relationship conundrum I can help with, please email me at wendy@dearwendy.com. And if I have given you wedding-related relationship advice in the past and you have an update, I’d love to hear and share it!

Let the games (almost) begin.

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  • avatar

    Morgan April 23, 2014, 5:26 pm

    This is incredibly exciting.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray April 23, 2014, 5:56 pm

    DISCLAIMER: GG, DAHLING, I VOW NOT TO ARGUE WITH YOU NEXT WEEK.

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    • GatorGirl

      GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 8:16 am

      Oh come on! We have to keep things interesting! (JK, I don’t think I can handle any more epic wedding battles.)

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray April 24, 2014, 9:26 am

        Maybe we could just do the fight now, before anything actually sets us off, so it won’t sting so bad? Here, I’ll do it for us:

        AP: Hey GG, that thing you are about to say next week? Don’t. That’s muy ridiculous!
        GG: I’m entitled to my opinion!
        AP: Well of course you are, but so is everyone else!
        GG: I am done engaging with you. I don’t know why I get sucked into these wedding debates, I’m done.
        AP: I’m sorry I got so emotional.
        GG: I forgive you.
        AP: All better.

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        • GatorGirl

          GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 9:38 am

          That’s an excellent summary.

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        • Fabelle

          Fabelle April 24, 2014, 10:04 am

          hahaha I love this. Also: “That would be rude!” / “You’re rude for saying people are rude!” / “I mean CONSIDERED RUDE according to ettiquette standards!” / “Fuck ettiquette!” / “We’ll agree to disagree.” / “I love you.” / “I love you too.”

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          • Addie Pray

            Addie Pray April 24, 2014, 10:11 am

            ^ Even better summary.
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            GG, I, for one, am really glad we just got all of this out of the way. Next week will be smooth sailing for us!

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            • GatorGirl

              GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 10:16 am

              IDK, with that FB unfriending…I think I’m ready to throw down.

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              • Addie Pray

                Addie Pray April 24, 2014, 10:18 am

                And the poop on fire you left on my door step? Not cool.

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          • Addie Pray

            Addie Pray April 24, 2014, 10:17 am

            Oh oh and if we are going to be TOTALLY ACCURATE here, we need a little action from others. So throw the mix:
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            TA: Team GG!
            Iwannatalktosampson: Go AP!
            AP: thank you for sticking up for me, iwanna, I will QuickPay you your $5.

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  • lemongrass

    lemongrass April 23, 2014, 6:31 pm

    And may the odds be ever in your favour.

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray April 23, 2014, 8:43 pm

      I louve the canadiaun superfluous u!

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      • lemongrass

        lemongrass April 23, 2014, 9:07 pm

        What can I say, eh?

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        • Addie Pray

          Addie Pray April 23, 2014, 9:16 pm

          Lol – I love that too, eh! Euh?

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          • lemongrass

            lemongrass April 23, 2014, 9:25 pm

            I love y’all. I wish I could say it in real life.

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            • lemongrass

              lemongrass April 24, 2014, 10:38 am

              I just realized that people reading this might think I was saying that I love AP and DW. I do, obviously but I was referring to the term “y’all”.

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              • Addie Pray

                Addie Pray April 24, 2014, 10:50 am

                Was it really necessary to clarify? No. 😉

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            • theattack

              theattack April 24, 2014, 10:54 am

              Why can’t you say it in real life??!

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              • GatorGirl

                GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 10:59 am

                yeah, why cant you use y’all??

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                • lemongrass

                  lemongrass April 24, 2014, 11:03 am

                  Because you’d get made fun of in Canada.

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                  • theattack

                    theattack April 24, 2014, 11:04 am

                    You should say it and then start making fun of everyone else who doesn’t say it. Problem solved.

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                  • GatorGirl

                    GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 11:12 am

                    What? Canadians are too nice to make fun of people! I get “teased” sometimes by my northern family for using it, but I really don’t care. It’s just so convenient.

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    ktfran April 24, 2014, 9:05 am

    This is perfect. My middle sis just got engaged and is planning a pretty fast wedding. This October/November. We’ve already had to convince her she needs save the dates since about 80% of her guests are from out of town.

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    kerrycontrary April 24, 2014, 9:39 am

    Unfortunately I don’t have any conundrums for my wedding! Everything is going smoothly 🙂 But maybe that’s because my fiance and I just ignore most people’s opinions when they insert themselves into our wedding planning.

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      lets_be_honest April 24, 2014, 9:43 am

      Boooooring 😉
      I’m sure you can come up with something kerry! Maybe your future MIL smells bad? Anyone have missing teeth? Can I be invited?

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        bethany April 24, 2014, 9:46 am

        I think I’m just going to show up, uninvited. And maybe give a speech about how we’re internet friends or something? I’m sure everyone will love that. And I’ll obviously be wearing my wedding dress, too.

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          lets_be_honest April 24, 2014, 9:49 am

          There you go, kerry! You now have an official wedding related problem.

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        • GatorGirl

          GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 10:04 am

          Oh I want to come! And wear my wedding dress too!!

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            lets_be_honest April 24, 2014, 10:08 am

            I’m just gonna wear kerry’s. Figure if I get there a few hours before the wedding, she won’t have it on yet.

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              kerrycontrary April 24, 2014, 11:13 am

              hahaha don’t worry, I always bring an extra dress!!! Or I could just get married in my underwear.

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        kerrycontrary April 24, 2014, 11:16 am

        Actually…one of the groomsmen is missing a tooth. He wears a bridge, but I’m sure he will take it out by the end of the night hahahh.

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    bethany April 24, 2014, 9:43 am

    I’m surprised no one has brought up our go to advice– Just ELOPE!!
    🙂

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    • LlamaPajamas

      LlamaPajamas April 24, 2014, 10:04 am

      I initially wanted to elope but now I’m glad Llama Guy talked me out of it. It’ll be nice to have a little celebration with our families since none of them have met yet, and I’m looking forward to having lots of photos from the day. But I think getting married at his mom’s house with just close friends and family is maybe only one baby step above eloping…
      .
      You’re welcome to crash my wedding in your wedding dress, too! It’ll be fun because I’m not wearing a white dress so the guests will totally think you’re the bride and shenanigans and hilarity will ensue!

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        bethany April 24, 2014, 10:11 am

        I do love Vermont… And Llamas…

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray April 24, 2014, 10:13 am

        LP, I want to come too!
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        CALL-ME-HOBO, WHERE ARE YOU? DON’T FORGET I AM COMING TO YOUR WEDDING IN NASHVILLE TOO.

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        • call-me-hobo

          call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 10:30 am

          Please, PLEASE. Come to my wedding. Moose, too. I’ve already told the fiance that I *miiiiight* have invited some DW people. And if we ever have that darn Nashville meet-up more might come! Lol!

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          • LadyinPurpleNotRed

            LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 10:33 am

            I’m still working on trying to make this happen because I SO want to go to your wedding because I know how awesome and incredible it will be!!

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            • call-me-hobo

              call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 10:37 am

              I want you there SO BAD. I’m also sad that it’s almost May and you won’t be here for Renaissance Faire realness.

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              • theattack

                theattack April 24, 2014, 10:52 am

                Omg Renn Faire. We could do a DW meetup there!

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                • call-me-hobo

                  call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 11:04 am

                  If we had someone who could pick up Miel- it would be perfect

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                  • peppers87

                    peppers87 April 24, 2014, 5:28 pm

                    me me!! Nashville resident here with a car

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              • LadyinPurpleNotRed

                LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 11:25 am

                That makes me sad. I had so much fun when we went! I’m working on it…it depends on how fast I get a job in FL…but I’m working on it because I want to be there SO BADLY!

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                lets_be_honest April 24, 2014, 11:31 am

                I worked one summer as the Steak on a Stick girl there! Meat on a stick. You can’t go wrong.

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            • theattack

              theattack April 24, 2014, 11:18 am

              When are you moving, Lady?

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              • LadyinPurpleNotRed

                LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 11:23 am

                May 9th… two weeks!

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                • theattack

                  theattack April 24, 2014, 11:25 am

                  Wow! That’s soon!

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                  • LadyinPurpleNotRed

                    LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 11:27 am

                    I know!! I’m going crazy trying to get everything done! I also unexpectedly got a new roommate and her two cats because her old apartment got swarmed by termites for the fourth time in less than a month. Since she was going to be moving into my apartment after I leave, we just moved her in early.

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                    • theattack

                      theattack April 24, 2014, 11:32 am

                      That sounds really chaotic! But yay for someone to take over your lease!

                      There’s a possibility that I might be in Memphis with my husband for an anniversary trip next weekend. If we go, would you want to get lunch or something?

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                    • LadyinPurpleNotRed

                      LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 11:56 am

                      It is crazy…but coming home to furry animals that love you is pretty awesome. So I like that. And it’s super awesome having my lease taken over
                      YES! I would love to!

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                • GatorGirl

                  GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 11:33 am

                  Yay moving to FL in the summer! I moved in June. What a freaking adjustment that was. We’ll have to figure out a meet up once you’re settled!

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                  • LadyinPurpleNotRed

                    LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 12:03 pm

                    Definitely! I’m excited, but definitely nervous as well

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        • call-me-hobo

          call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 10:36 am

          Also- if you need the info-

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          • call-me-hobo

            call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 10:39 am

            I may have just left the link so y’all could see what a total hottie I’m marrying. Check out those pictureeess #humblebrag

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              No Pants April 24, 2014, 10:42 am

              I stalked and love your pics!

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            • LlamaPajamas

              LlamaPajamas April 24, 2014, 10:47 am

              You’re both so cute! I love the book photos.

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              • call-me-hobo

                call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 10:50 am

                Awwwwww, thank you. If you look carefully, the two books I have are Jane Eyre and Pride and Prejudice.

                I fully expect a link to wedding llama pictures!

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            bethany April 24, 2014, 10:49 am

            AWWW!! You guys are so cute!! I love the library pictures!

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            lets_be_honest April 24, 2014, 11:32 am

            So you’re the most adorable person on the planet. Good to know.

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              lets_be_honest April 24, 2014, 11:34 am

              Also, where’d you get the dress from the library pic?

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              • call-me-hobo

                call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 12:43 pm

                It’s a Lilly Pulitzer dress I got when it was on mega-sale. I only paid $50 bucks for it.

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            • LadyinPurpleNotRed

              LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 12:46 pm

              She’s even more adorable and awesome in person!

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              • call-me-hobo

                call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 12:52 pm

                D’awwww. That’s just because the Lady is such a delight to host! I miss you and our Friday Bride-day chats. Sorry I couldn’t talk the other day. Also, LBH, I believe that I’m second adorable-est, because I’m not a crusading middle-schooler who stops bullies at her own expense/makes cupcakes for them.

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                  lets_be_honest April 24, 2014, 12:54 pm

                  Aww that’s sweet call me. Thanks!

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                • LadyinPurpleNotRed

                  LadyinPurpleNotRed April 24, 2014, 12:54 pm

                  I miss them too! It’s okay. We’ll chat again soon!
                  That’s true…silly me. Lil is the most adorable…but you’re a close second.

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          • theattack

            theattack April 24, 2014, 11:33 am

            Your wedding site is blocked on my work computer for inappropriate content. haha Those must be some very interesting photos.

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            • call-me-hobo

              call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 12:47 pm

              You wouldn’t BELIEVE how far I can bend my leg behind my head 😀

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        No Pants April 24, 2014, 10:27 am

        Can I come and wear my wedding crutches?

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        • LlamaPajamas

          LlamaPajamas April 24, 2014, 10:32 am

          Of course! Everyone is invited to crash with or without their wedding finery! There’s totally going to be a line to get photos taken with the wedding llama – I love it.

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          • GatorGirl

            GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 10:33 am

            I’m so jealous of your wedding llama.

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          • call-me-hobo

            call-me-hobo April 24, 2014, 10:35 am

            I am also jealous of the wedding llama.

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          bethany April 24, 2014, 10:48 am

          I loved your wedding crutches, btw. (I looked at all your pics within minutes of becoming FB friends. And to anyone else I’m FB friends with, I’ve done that with your pictures, too)

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            No Pants April 24, 2014, 10:51 am

            Thank you! I was telling LP that I sometimes wear them around the house for fun. I stalked all of your photos as soon as we became FB friends, too! Maybe I’ll wear my wedding dress to your house next week, and you can wear yours too. Then we’ll be like that Friends episode.

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              bethany April 24, 2014, 11:35 am

              Ummm… I put on my veil sometimes. I just hang out around the house in my veil. If my dress wasn’t all sealed up in a special box, I’d put that on, too.
              BUT– If you wear yours, I’ll bust mine out of the box. OOH, and maybe we can try each other’s on, too?!

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              • GatorGirl

                GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 11:50 am

                damn I wish I was coming up to PA a few days earlier!

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                  No Pants April 24, 2014, 11:59 am

                  When are you up here again?? I am more than happy to wear my wedding headband for you.

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                  • GatorGirl

                    GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 12:29 pm

                    May 3 to 17. I’ll have to FB friend you so at the minimum the 3 of us can plan a thing.

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                  • GatorGirl

                    GatorGirl April 24, 2014, 2:37 pm

                    OMG no pants. You are so tiny and pretty!

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                No Pants April 24, 2014, 11:57 am

                I didn’t wear a veil, but I always wear my sparkly wedding headband! I can definitely wear that to your house. No problem. And then you can wear your veil. And then we can switch! Ahahaha Dave is going to think I’m insane.

                Where did you get you dress sealed up in the special box? I’m trying to find a place that will do it for me.

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                  bethany April 24, 2014, 12:08 pm

                  The store I got my dress from did it for me. They fucked up big time and did that for me for free to try to make up for their mistake.

                  Oh, and I wear my wedding shoes all the time, but that’s only because they are Reef Flip Flops 🙂

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                    No Pants April 24, 2014, 12:22 pm

                    Oh, duh. I bought mine at a store in Suburban Square. I’ll see if hey do it.

                    I think we are the same person; I wore my Reefs at my reception.

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                      bethany April 24, 2014, 12:25 pm

                      Not Priscilla of Boston, right? Because I think they have gone out of business.

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                      No Pants April 24, 2014, 12:37 pm

                      BIjou Bridal – it’s the brick building that’s kinda separate from the rest of the shops.

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  • kmtthat

    kmentothat April 24, 2014, 11:58 am

    Oooh, can’t wait to sit and eat popcorn and watch the comments sections fllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyyy.

    And I never want to have a wedding. Just a my groom. And a dress. And cake. And I want my cat to be there. Is that weird?

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      Sue Jones April 24, 2014, 8:24 pm

      No, that is basically what we did.

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    Sunshine Brite April 24, 2014, 6:56 pm

    Oo gosh, what could I send in? It’s going pretty well and the hiccups are just little bumps.

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    Sue Jones April 24, 2014, 8:23 pm

    Oy, please no! At least all the bridezilla drama will be contained to only one week, right?

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