Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekday Open Thread

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Hi, hi, hi! I feel like we haven’t sat down and caught up in so long, so I wanted to take a minute during the hectic holiday madness to say hello. We moved into our new place 3 1/2 weeks ago and we’re slowly getting settled in. We still have to finish hanging some pictures, as well as curtain rods and curtains in two of the bedrooms (blinds are up though, so it’s not like we’ve been giving the neighbors a show every night or anything. Not that we’d be giving much of a show anyway. This time of year I’m usually passed out by 9 and Drew stays up for another hour or so listening to podcasts or organizing his record collection or whatever it is he does after I go to sleep. Two nights ago he cleaned, so props for that, Drew). One of my best friends is coming to visit from Chicago on Friday night and staying through the weekend, so that has kind of been our deadline to get our place presentable, especially the spare room which does triple duty as an office, playroom, and guest room.

Also over the last month, all three of us have been sick at least once, if not twice, each (two of us are sick in that picture above taken the day after Thanksgiving. You can probably guess which two, I think). I’m currently on antibiotics for bronchitis and now I’m afraid Jackson has caught it and I’m trying to nip it in the bud with kid-friendly cough syrup and vapor rub on his chest. The poor guy had some sort of stomach flu for like 10 days two weeks ago that he passed along to Drew who was just about as miserable as Jackson was (but an easier patient, for sure, as he can actually go to the bathroom himself, which is one of the many reasons I married him). All we want for Christmas this year is like a 4-week stretch with no sickness, please. Or, hell, as long as we’re making holiday wishes, let’s make it an 8-week stretch. That should get us through the brunt of winter.

Over the weekend we got a Christmas tree and it’s kind of huge. Not super tall, but wide. It basically takes up half of our living room, or roughly the same space as our entire living room in our last apartment. We don’t even have enough ornaments to decorate it but since one side faces the window, we’re leaving that side bare and decorating the rest. Sorry everyone who passes by and wants to see a better-dressed tree in the window. I’ll have to stock up on more ornaments during end-of-season sales in a few weeks and be better prepared next year. A friend of mine has hosted a tree trimming party for many, many years and has accumulated a huge collection of ornaments from friends who bring them to her parties. I felt envious admiring her beautiful tree over the weekend (at her tree trimming party) and decided I should maybe start doing tree trimming parties, too. Starting next year, I guess, since our tree is already decorated this year. Well, 3/4 of it anyway. Hey, should I have a party to get the last side of it done? Bring an ornament and you’ll get mulled wine and sugar cookies! And a side of bronchitis and stomach flu, too, if you’re really lucky!

Speaking of holiday stuff, I’m sending out my DW holiday cards this week to DW donors who requested a card as a small token of gratitude. I like the way they turned out and I have about 10 extra I can send to anyone who might be interested (well, anyone in the US โ€” sorry, it gets pricey to mail abroad). If that’s you, just email me with your mailing address and I’ll get one in the mail to you this week. As always, thank you for supporting the site, through reading it, sharing it with your friends and family, liking the FB page, shopping through the affiliate links, and making donations (which have been a huge help this year!). I appreciate it so much.

Oh, quick question for those of you with kids in preschool or who happen to be preschool teachers yourselves: what is an appropriate amount to spend on a holiday gift for a preschool teacher? Jackson is in school two mornings a week (six hours total) and I’m planning to give his preschool teacher, who is excellent and works so hard, a box of Milis caramels (my friend Mary’s new business) as well as a gift card (I think probably a Visa gift card, but maybe a Target gift card since there’s one close to the preschool and who can’t find stuff to buy at Target?). Is this a good idea and what would be an appropriate amount for the gift card?

Anyway, that’s what’s been up with me. What’s new with you? Are you knee-deep in holiday stuff too? Have you finished your shopping yet? Gone to any parties? Made NYE plans? We’re staying here for Christmas but flying to Missouri on December 30th to visit my family for a few days. I have no idea what NYE will bring, and I wouldn’t be surprised if I’m passed out by 9 as usual. Well, 8, on account of the time difference. Then again, we’ll have built-in babysitters (hey, Mom and Dad, you’re up for babysitting, right?) so maybe Drew and I will be wild and go see a movie or something. It would our first movie date together in 2014, if I’m remembering right. Better late than never, I guess. Here’s hoping we live it up a bit more in 2015, with maybe, like, two movie dates.

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  • Lyra

    Lyra December 9, 2014, 12:57 pm

    I’ll start! The holidays are great but INSANE for me. I have 5 Christmas concerts in less than 3 weeks. My first one was last Friday, I have one this Thursday, and three next week. So by Christmas I’ll be passed out pretty much. Last week I had something after school until at least 8 pm 4 out of 5 work days so I was suuuuper tired. This week has much of the same, but a bit less insane.
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    I also joined a community band last week! I’m a flute player and ever since starting to teach I haven’t spent much time playing myself. It’s been fun but hard to believe how rusty I’ve become! Yikes!
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    Other than that, this weekend is my annual family cookie bake where all 50 aunts, uncles, and cousins get together and bake up a storm for like 4 hours. It’s insane but really fun. Navy Guy will be attending as well and I think he’s nervous, but he’ll do fine. Combined we have 4 family Christmas events total to attend, so I’ve been trying to find fun new recipes on Pinterest to try.
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    And my crochet business is slowly taking off. I started an Etsy shop a couple months ago and finally received my first orders in the past few weeks. I am also selling through a local vet too, so I’m hoping this will result in extra money to pay down my student loans!

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    • Lyra

      Lyra December 9, 2014, 1:04 pm

      Also regarding dollar amount for Jackson’s teacher, I would give her $10, $20 max. As a teacher, we aren’t at all expecting gifts around the holidays. I’ve received small things from students like ornaments or a plant or a small gift card which has all been really nice — but not expected. With the caramels, a $10 gift card to Target or Barnes and Noble or something would be a great idea.

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        Dear Wendy December 9, 2014, 2:43 pm

        This is a private school preschool teacher though (jackson won’t be eligible for public school until next year when he starts pre-k), and I feel like private school teachers have different expectations for holiday gifts maybe? I’m going to ask some of my neighborhood mom friends who also have preschoolers what they’re doing. I want the teacher to know she’s appreciated and I don’t want to seem cheap, but I also don’t want to go overboard, especially since we’re not rich or anything.

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        Lyra December 9, 2014, 3:27 pm

        I actually teach in all private schools. I can assure you it’s nice but not expected. ๐Ÿ™‚ Anything is appreciated. I received gifts from maybe 25% of my student last year.
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        I attended private school growing up too and my mom always just made our teachers an ornament or gave them a cookbook or something. I know they all really appreciated it.

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        Dear Wendy December 9, 2014, 6:48 pm

        So, I asked a couple of friends this afternoon what they’re giving their kids’ preschool teachers… and let’s just say it’s a good thing I checked what the going rate, so to speak, is in new york. God, I hope Jackson get s a spot in public school next year.

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      • Lyra

        Lyra December 9, 2014, 11:56 pm

        Uh oh. ๐Ÿ™

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      • something random

        something random December 10, 2014, 8:43 am

        eww- now I’m so curious what New Yorkers spend on preschool teachers for christmas. ..

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray December 9, 2014, 2:39 pm

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray December 9, 2014, 2:40 pm

        (but not the santa one. i want to wear one that looks like a real beard.)

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      • veritek33

        veritek33 December 9, 2014, 2:45 pm

        I have one of those! A red bead, though, of course.

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      • Lyra

        Lyra December 9, 2014, 3:28 pm

        I could sure try! I’m sure I could find a pattern somewhere. Let’s chat. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  • mandalee

    mandalee December 9, 2014, 1:14 pm

    Wendy, so sorry you have all been sick this last month or so. I’ve worked in preschools for a years and now I’m doing clinical rotations with lots of sick adults and I take a zinc supplement from October-March and I swear it helps keep me healthy for the most part during this time. It’s an awesome immune booster. I’ve had a lingering running nose but have yet to cross over to full blown sickness.

    I think the gift idea for his preschool teacher (caramels plus a gift card) is great. When it comes to the amount, it really depends what’s comfortable for you to spend. When I was a preschool teacher, we’d get gift cards anywhere for $10-$30 depending on what the parent gave us. Any kind of gift was appreciated so you can’t go wrong!

    Right now, I’m in a holiday limbo. My house is decorated and all that, but with finals this week and studying 24/7, I haven’t done any holiday present shopping or got to do any holiday-related outings. So, that’s a bummer but I plan on packing it all in after Thursday. We’re going to Vermont this weekend to celebrate my husband’s birthday so I’m hoping there’s some Christmas themed happenings at the resort we’re going to. As for New Year’s, I’m still in a weird limbo with my plans. One friend is hosting a baby friendly party, which will be packed with little kids, and as much as I love them, I’m trying to cherish what few child-free New Year’s I have left and I’m not sure if I’m into a low-key, little alcohol, infant filled New Year’s. I also over the wild, going out all night and getting dressed up New Year’s. So, I’m trying to find something in between- maybe a night out bowling and having drinks with friends? going to a fancy dinner?

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  • something random

    something random December 9, 2014, 1:18 pm

    Hi Wendy,

    So sorry you guys have been sick! Stomach sickness is the worst, too. Hopefully your building up your immunity to fight everything else off for the next six months.
    I feel like I can’t take my roller skates off, this season is so busy! I’m still stealing my guilty DW moments, though. New York is a lot more expensive but in Midwest I wouldn’t put more than $5-$10 in the gift card for preschool if you are also giving caramels. My older son in public school and I think they have a small limit (around $10) on what they can accept (to avoid looking like you’re bribing). I spent around $15 on an apple necklace that was on sale for my son’s teacher because she is wonderful. If she asks the price I’ll shamelessly lie. It sounds like your gift will be very generous to Jackson’s teacher. I hear a lot of teachers like target cards because they can use them on class supplies if the amount is too high them to personally accept.

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  • kare

    kare December 9, 2014, 1:26 pm

    I would say around $20 total for a gift would be fine. Most teachers don’t expect gifts at all, much less a gift card. However, I’d say go with Target over the Visa. One of my friends just received a Visa gift card and she’s having issues using it at some stores.

    I’m officially done with all my shopping! But I haven’t put up any decorations yet. It’s been a rough couple of weeks, but I’m taking some days off this week to catch up. (Well that and I have to or else I lose the vacation time).

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    • Pamplemousse Rose

      Pamplemousse Rose December 9, 2014, 6:06 pm

      I agree with Target over Visa. We got a Visa gc for our wedding and I could never get it to work and all the value slowly drained away from their monthly fees once it was activated.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray December 9, 2014, 1:51 pm

    Actually, I can’t tell who’s sick in that photo. You all look mighty fine to me!

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    Addie Pray December 9, 2014, 1:55 pm

    Oh don’t get a VISA gift card. Get a Target one or any store like that. Because here’s why: you have to pay a fee on top of the amount of the card when you buy it! I was at Walgreens this weekend and I bought 2 $50 VISA gift cards and 1 $100 one, and before the lady ran my card she warned me the gift cards were non-refundable (I said fine) but only AFTER I paid did I realize I had been charged $5.99 (or there about) for each $50 card and $6.99 (or thereabout) for the $100, and I couldn’t return them. So I wasted like $15. And I was so pissed! That is $15 that I could have spent toward (a) giving these recipients MORE gifts or (b) buying cheese! I was also pissed (at myself) for not looking at the bill before swiping my card.

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray December 9, 2014, 2:03 pm

      Nay, close to $20 I spent on top of value of the $200-worth of VISA cards. $20, holy shit! (Adding is hard). I could have taken cabbed to work twice for that. Or countless other things. Plus you know the merchants who accept VISA get a percentage so VISA is making out very well. I’m so mad at how that worked out and for not looking at the bill before I swiped my card. When will I learn?

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      • FireStar

        FireStar December 9, 2014, 2:17 pm

        I did the same thing once – and they wouldn’t let me pay for the MC gift card with my MC – which is annoying since I pay for everything on that card for the money back. It would have been better for me to just give cash. And who doesn’t like cash?

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    • Bubbles

      Bubbles December 9, 2014, 2:33 pm

      Yep. What a rip off. Same thing with gas cards! Gave gas cards to my kids for Xmas one year and they said that they’d get charged 35 cent every time they’d use the card! What the . . . that’s so wrong. So definitely give a gift card from a store (Target, Kohl’s, Macy’s, etc.).

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      Dear Wendy December 9, 2014, 2:39 pm

      OK, Target card it is, then.

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      ktfran December 9, 2014, 3:39 pm

      Not only do YOU have to pay a fee, when the recipient checks out somewhere, the amount has to be entered on the cash register, so, he or she would most likely want to use the entire amount at once. Or, you know, he or she uses a $100 Visa gift card it somewhere and the total was only $79.99. They would have to remember the $20.01 to spend somewhere else. It’s weird and confusing. It doesn’t deduct like regular gift cards. Unless it has changed in the last two years since I received one.

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        jlyfsh December 9, 2014, 3:49 pm

        Yeah it’s still that way! I ended up with one that has 88 cents on it! I hate that I wasted that change!

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        ktfran December 9, 2014, 5:09 pm

        You could go somewhere and say you want $0.88 put on that card and pay the rest another way… That would be hilarious.

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      HmC December 9, 2014, 4:27 pm

      Ha, yeah. I used to work at a bank during college and we sold those Visa gift cards, and every time someone would ask about them (esp during the holidays) I would talk them out of it. Frankly, all gift cards are a rip off. You are giving the company a free loan, plus they are dicks about refunding cash when you get low (even though that’s now illegal in CA- they have to refund if it’s worth below a certain amount) so everyone ends up spending even more than what the card was for. Plus you have to shop at that store, probably to buy something you would not have bought otherwise.. THEY should be the ones paying you, that is the only way they’d be worth it. Like it should be $20 for a $25 dollar gift card.

      So that’s my gift card rant. I get it, they are easy, and I do occasionally give one if I KNOW the person will use it up (ie. Starbucks or Target). But as an overall concept I think they are kind of BS.

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray December 9, 2014, 5:30 pm

        I regret buying the three I did. Obviously I am not making any more decisions without first running them by DW!!

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  • FireStar

    FireStar December 9, 2014, 2:09 pm

    We just got back from a week in Jamaica for my friend’s wedding. It was a little overcast but I’m not complaining. It was great doing nothing but chasing after a 16 month old and trying to convince her a high chair isn’t a death trap. She did get sick the last day we were there so we are knee deep in vapour rub ourselves though no meds for her age. Anyone know of any home remedies for sick babies? My tree is half up – just the lights so far…I’m trying to get munchkin used to the tree before adding things that break since she is at the must*touch*everything stage. Christmas shopping isn’t done at all…All I bought was the Plan gifts of Hope today (that I include with actual gifts to family)…though I’m sure not everyone can say they bought a buffalo today. That sounds like I accomplished something, right? What did you do today? I bought a buffalo! Yeah – I’m going to roll with that.

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    • Bubbles

      Bubbles December 9, 2014, 2:40 pm

      My family’s big on Chamomille tea for kids. Some pediatricians say OK, others no. Use at own discretion. From my experience it did mostly help when kids were sick or fussy.

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      Dear Wendy December 9, 2014, 2:40 pm

      You could try a small spoonful of honey for your daughter. You can dilute it with a little water if you want. That will help coat her throat if she’s been coughing. You can also run a hot shower and sit with her in the steamy bathroom with the door closed to help clear her sinuses.

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      • FireStar

        FireStar December 9, 2014, 2:55 pm

        Thanks – I’ve been rocking her to sleep in my bathroom with the shower on hot for the steam – that worked like a charm. And vicks vapour rub on her feet helped too. I think I will try the honey next. I never heard of the Chamomile – makes sense though – I like tea when I’m sick.

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        kali December 10, 2014, 3:30 pm

        I read someplace that you’re not supposed to give honey to kids (and was told by my medical team it’s verboten for chemotherapy patients) because of possible botulism. Although when my girls were little (they’re in their 30s now), I made teething biscuits with honey in them and the girls survived.

        Might want to check with your pediatrician before trying it.

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        Dear Wendy December 10, 2014, 5:41 pm

        Jackson’s pediatrician said after the age of 1, small amounts of honey is fine, but of course, everyone should check with their pediatrician about anything they might be unsure about.

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      something random December 10, 2014, 8:47 am

      I’m So jealous about Jamaica; but sad for the baby. I don’t have anything except to keep her hydrated and propped up when she sleeps. Also cool, moist air before she goes to sleep. Like opening a window and having her breath deep for a couple of minutes (bundled of course).

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  • mylaray

    mylaray December 9, 2014, 3:03 pm

    I still have so much to do! I’m done with gifts except for a few small ones. I need to hit up the post office to ship everything. I have lots of baking and decorating to finish. I feel so behind. We also don’t have our tree yet. We’re going to Vegas this weekend, so hopefully next week we can still get a good tree. I like to keep a tree up through orthodox Christmas in January, so that’s my excuse for being late right now.
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    I love NYE and my birthday is January 1 so I usually throw a big party on both days for our friends. But my husband is being sly and telling me not to plan anything this year because he has better plans. Hmmm. Just trying to keep everything low key this year.

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  • muchachaenlaventana

    muchachaenlaventana December 9, 2014, 3:23 pm

    Ugh I am just not doing great right now. Work is so incredibly slow and my supervisor just came in to ask why I billed so few hours in November–um I have nothing to do! I can’t bill if I don’t have work (which I have repeatedly told all of my supervisors) I am relatively new here (September) and am afraid they hired me when they had more work because I was really busy and now it is slower and they realize they don’t need me I will be let go. So this is really adding a lot of stress to my holidays. I wake up every day dreading work and afraid I will get fired (let go).

    I have not gotten any gifts, I am trying to do some DIY gifts but I really don’t know if I will have the time for it. On top of that the gifts I want to get my boyfriend are really expensive and I wish we could just take the money we would spend on gifts and put it towards an awesome trip somewhere and just have a nice dinner/romantic date night for our Christmas celebration.

    I have my little baby tree up, which is very cute and my mom got me some fun Christmas wine glasses, plates and mugs and I want to have a little Christmas party but my next two weekends are both packed and then boom, it is Christmas. I am in the spirit a bit, but nowhere near as much as past years. I can’t take much time off because I have 3 bachelorette parties in the next 6 months I need to save vacation time for–which kind of sucks.

    Sorry about the sick family, my sisters twins are always sick and it is not fun, those poor little guys are such troopers though. I hope people are feeling more joyous than I am.

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    Kate December 9, 2014, 3:41 pm

    Weelllllllll, I’m in Cabo at the moment. Lianne got married on Saturday. Then my husband and I moved to a different resort because we had free nights from getting married there last year. This place now puts any drink you want in a coconut. Mostly I drink straight tequila though, less calories. Anyway, beautiful wedding, beautiful bride, and now she’s getting some alone time with her man. Not sure if this link will work but here goes…

    https://m.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10152844206749351&id=689149350&set=a.10151243158939351.481782.689149350&source=56&ref=bookmark

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    TheRascal December 9, 2014, 4:21 pm

    Oooo! A few weeks back, I had asked the forum about help with a gold dress for my brother’s upcoming nuptials. And I just got one: http://www1.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/lauren-ralph-lauren-dress-sleeveless-sequin?ID=1115542&CategoryID=21683&LinkType=#/fn=BRAND=Ralph%20Lauren&spp=20&ppp=96&sp=1&rid=&spc=166

    And it was on sale!!

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    • veritek33

      veritek33 December 9, 2014, 5:02 pm

      That’s beautiful!

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  • Lyra

    Lyra December 9, 2014, 6:50 pm

    My cards arrived today!!!! Lyra’s second annual crazy cat lady Christmas card is here!!!!! Navy Guy was a champ and humored me by taking pictures with me and his cat too. Lesson learned: it is REALLY hard to photograph two cats and two humans at once.

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  • kare

    kare December 9, 2014, 7:36 pm

    Well my brother rolled over his truck driving high on pills (or some other opiate) today. Fortunately no one else was involved. He doesn’t appear to have any injuries, but he’s getting checked out just in case. This is his second car accident in 4 days. He is also homeless now after stealing a lot of things from my parents. So yeah…not a great week. We really want to get him in rehab, but it’s pretty hard to get someone in against their will.

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      call-me-hobo December 9, 2014, 7:55 pm

      Oh, kare, I’m so sorry. I know how hard it is to try and get someone help against their will, and I hope that he ends up getting what he needs. I remember that you have been struggling with this for quite some time- hopefully, he won’t hurt himself.

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      • kare

        kare December 9, 2014, 10:43 pm

        Thank you. Things have a weird way of working out for him, so I guess we will see what happens. At least he won’t be on the roads anymore.

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    • something random

      something random December 10, 2014, 8:52 am

      So sorry to hear about your brother. Stay strong. Glad he will be off the road.

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  • Pamplemousse Rose

    Pamplemousse Rose December 9, 2014, 11:52 pm

    Such a great family photo! Totally couldn’t tell any of you were sick. I’ve finished most of my shopping except for a couple of gift certificates to local shops (cheese shop!) I decorated by putting up lights inside and out while listening to Boney M (best Christmas album ever!) We’re not putting up a real tree this year because we leave for Mexico on the 28th, so our tree is a little ceramic one that my grandma made in the 60s. I got a couple of new ornaments anyways that I will pack away for next year.

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    • something random

      something random December 10, 2014, 8:53 am

      I agree, its a nice photo. It’s a damn near miracle to get a pic where all of us (only four) are looking and smiling at the camera/phone. I usually have to do a burst.

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    Julesoola December 10, 2014, 10:00 am

    So much hair envy!

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      Dear Wendy December 10, 2014, 11:33 am

      Thanks (I assume this comment is in reference to me and not drew or jackson, not that their hair isn’t enviable or whatever). BUT! I went in for what was supposed to be a leeeetle trim on Saturday and the stylist cute like five inches off my hair. I’m so upset!! It’s not like the worst haircut ever, but it’s so much shorter than I wanted! And I’ve been growing it out for so long! And I told the stylist that. And he said he was only going to cut one inch. I just don’t understand what happened and why he ended up giving me a fucking bob when I did NOT ask for a fucking bob. Ugh.

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray December 10, 2014, 11:39 am

        you’re fucking bob?!!!

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        Addie Pray December 10, 2014, 11:40 am

        i dunno, sometimes my fingers just type stuff and then my brain thinks and what it thinks is “that doesn’t make sense.”

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        Addie Pray December 10, 2014, 11:41 am

        and then the DW site says “slow down you’re commenting too fast” and i think it would be more appropriate to say “slow down you’re not thinking first”

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        jlyfsh December 10, 2014, 11:41 am

        that happened to me once, i cried in the grocery store after. and my hair ‘shrinks’ so it was a bob wet. it was more like a mushroom shaped mess dry. i invested in good bobby pins and headbands and luckily it grew out. it took me an entire year to be brave enough to get it cut again though. which i just did about three weeks ago!

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        Dear Wendy December 10, 2014, 11:47 am

        I didn’t cry, but I really wanted to. I’m still so upset about it. I was liking my hair a lot that last couple of months and then just like that, it’s gone. I know it’s just hair and it will grow back, but it’s the feeling that this was so out of my control that I hate. Like, I had no say in it and now something I actually liked about my appearance won’t like good for probably many months.

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        jlyfsh December 10, 2014, 11:57 am

        yeah i always freak out that my hair will stop growing length wise. my mom’s doesn’t really grow well anymore, it would take her years to get it down to her shoulders. i was freaked out it would be that length forever. i understand the lack of control. before she turned me around we both agreed two inches off to my shoulders. then she was done and i turn around and i have hair to my chin! she could tell i was upset and tried to clarify that it was to my shoulders. it was to my shoulders if you took away my neck! (i’m apparently still upset about it)

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      • FireStar

        FireStar December 10, 2014, 12:41 pm

        Did you say anything to him? That happened to me too. And the owner had to come out and fix my hair.

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        Dear Wendy December 10, 2014, 12:55 pm

        I didn’t. I think I was too much in shock and also unsure whether it was as dramatic/bad as it seemed in the moment. I did say, “It’s so short,” and he sort of sheepishly shrugged and said, “Here, let me just even it up a bit,” and i told him not to cut anymore. Later, I wish I had expressed my feelings better.

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        FireStar December 10, 2014, 1:30 pm

        It’s hard because you feel so vulnerable just sitting in the chair. And it is too late for them to fix by then so you are just shocked quiet. In my case, I was in undergrad and the owner just saw my face and came over to me. When I walked in the salon he came up to me and told me I had beautiful hair and to not cut it – and then his employee ruined it! The stylist gave me the choppiest short layers while leaving length in the back – it was like the worst mullet ever had grown out. The owner had to cut off all the hair in the back to just make it an actual style I could wear out in public – but that left me with hair just above my shoulders – when I walked in with hair almost to my waist. At least I didn’t have to pay for it.
        Hopefully your hair will grow back quickly.

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        ktfran December 10, 2014, 1:20 pm

        I’ve cried several times after a haircut. Yes, it’s just hair and it grows, but a bad hair cut, or the stylists taking crazy liberties, sucks. A hairstylists always knows when I’m unhappy because you can see it in my face immediately.
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        Anyway, Wendy, I feel for your. I really do.

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        Julesoola December 10, 2014, 1:59 pm

        It’s for reals gorgeous. My own hair thinned out a lot due to medical reasons last year and is just now starting to recover. I definitely understand how much it can eff with your mind when you feel like you don’t like, or even recognize, your own head of hair.

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        SasLinna December 10, 2014, 6:33 pm

        I totally understand why you’re upset, but just wanted to say you look great.

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    kali December 10, 2014, 3:25 pm

    So here’s my update. I’m still undergoing chemotherapy for my ovarian cancer although my last three scans have been clear. This is maintenance chemo and will be completed in late January. I am counting the days until it’s over. Because my drugs have changed, my hair is starting to grow a bit which is nice although it’s completely white and very curly now. Apparently chemo leaves you with curly hair for months afterward!

    The chemo kills my immune system so I did all of my Christmas shopping online and I am done! So happy. Last year I was only 2 months into chemo and getting it weekly as opposed to every three weeks now. I am feeling much better than last year although I still have no stamina. I didn’t do anything for anyone last year for Christmas and I hated that. I love this holiday and my sweet boyfriend hung icicle lights to cheer me up last year. I made him leave them up all year so I could see them every night.

    The biggest thing for me is that I am so grateful for everything I have and the wonderful people in my life. I’ve made it a point to tell people what they mean to me and how much I love them.

    Anyway, I’m not looking for sympathy or anything, just wanted to share my change of perspective. And also, if you or someone you know is diagnosed with cancer not to believe the statistics online as most of those are old and out-of-date, even for those with stage IV diagnoses. I shouldn’t be here and yet I am and I’m planning to go back to work as soon as possible.

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      muchachaenlaventana December 10, 2014, 3:33 pm

      This is really inspiring. I am glad you are enjoying the holiday season a bit more and that good things continue to happen!

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      Dear Wendy December 10, 2014, 5:43 pm

      So glad you have only a few more weeks to go of maintenance chemo! I hope you are feeling stronger and maybe even enjoying having curly hair for a little while. Best wishes on continued good health!

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