Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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Last weekend Drew surprised me with a night at our favorite inn and spa north of the city. He arranged for a sitter to stay with Jackson, and he planned our train trip and even booked a prenatal massage for me (which was later changed to a facial because the massage therapist was snowed in and couldn’t make it to our appointment; no problem — my dry, hormonal skin appreciated the extra care). We did this same trip exactly a year ago, which was the last time we got away for an overnight somewhere just the two of us. We left early Sunday morning and got home Monday evening, which gave us approximately 26 hours or so at the inn, where we basically camped out in front of the fireplace and watched the snow fall and ate Pringles. Très romantique — and relaxing! I didn’t have to wipe anyone else’s butt or make anyone dinner or clean up anyone’s play-doh before it dried out. And, really, that’s all a girl wants. Or, this girl anyway. So, thanks, Drew, for surprise getaway.

This weekend, we don’t have any big plans. Ooh, unless there’s another surprise awaiting. Saturday evening, we’re celebrating a newish friend’s 40th birthday at a bar in the West Village where I will look longingly at everyone’s fancy cocktails while I sip my Shirley Temple or whatever it is I’ll be drinking. Those of you who don’t drink for whatever reason, what do you order when you meet friends at bars? Do you stick with soda or water or juice or some non-alcoholic beer or do you have a standard sort of mocktail that you always get? Ooh! I owe a DW donor a dedicated Drinking with Dear Wendy (I haven’t forgotten about you, I promise! It’s just that Dear Wendy hasn’t had a drink in months!), so I think I will make it my mission to find a good cocktail recipe that can be made with and without booze and tastes equally (or, even nearly) as delicious. And suggestions?

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    ktfran February 6, 2015, 4:16 pm

    I have zero mocktail suggestions for you, unfortunately, but this question did remind me…
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    Last Saturday I had brunch at a spot on Southport (I’m only saying the name because I’m sure you know Southport is moms in lululemon pants pushing strollers central, but I digress) and the drink menu had a list of several mocktails. Kind of perfect for that neighborhood, I would say.
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    I know my friend would always ask for something with citrus for her mocktail. I know nothing more than that. Good luck!

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  • Kate B.

    Kate B. February 6, 2015, 4:16 pm

    When I go out I usually drink ginger beer, iced tea, Arnold Palmers or non-alcoholic versions of alcoholic drinks: virgin daquiris, virgin pina coladas, virgin mojitos, virgin rum and cokes. 😉 (Or rum and Pepsi in my case.) A good virgin mojito is a dream come true.

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    SasLinna February 6, 2015, 4:18 pm

    Both of you look great (and really young) in this picture. Spa visits are the best.
    As for mocktails, I tend to go for the sweeter, creamy ones (like with pineapple and coconut) that I wouldn’t even like if mixed with alcohol (for some reason, sweet alcoholic beverages are really not my thing at all).

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    RedroverRedrover February 6, 2015, 4:36 pm

    Today is my 5-year wedding anniversary! Tomorrow we’re dropping our son off at his grandma’s, then we’re going to spend all afternoon house-hunting, then we’re staying at a cool hotel downtown and going to a nice french restaurant for dinner (our fave). And sleeping in on Sunday!
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    Virgin pina colada makes an excellent mocktail. Or orange juice with pineapple juice and club soda. And grenadine. Putting grenadine in it makes it more like a “real” drink. Basically I would say you need three things – a juice, a “fizz” like club soda/ginger ale/7up, and grenadine. Ta-da! Mocktail. 🙂

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      Pamplemousse Rose February 6, 2015, 7:27 pm

      Happy Anniversary Redrover! Also out of curiosity, how old was your son the first time you left him overnight(s)? We are planning a long weekend (4 nights) for our anniversary in April and I’m wondering if it’s too soon to leave our daughter for that long (she’ll be 11 months).

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        RedroverRedrover February 6, 2015, 11:02 pm

        Hi Pamplemousse, we left him at my mom’s overnight at Christmas, when he was about 7 months old. Just one night, but he was totally fine. And we left him multiple times after that. He was always with one of his grandma’s, at their homes, so it wasn’t a strange person or strange place.
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        That being said, when I was a teenager, I babysat babies overnight. Younger than 11 months, for sure. And they were fine. If your daughter doesn’t know the person sitting, you could have a few visits beforehand so she gets to know them. But I’m guessing you’re leaving her with family anyway. Wouldn’t hurt to have one or two overnights before then, to get her used to it.

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      • Pamplemousse Rose

        Pamplemousse Rose February 7, 2015, 5:31 pm

        Thanks for the tips! Good luck house hunting and enjoy you’re night out!

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        RedroverRedrover February 6, 2015, 11:11 pm

        Oh! And I forgot the best thing for overnights! We bought a little tent for him to sleep in, and he loooooves it! It’s the best. It gives them a little cozy, safe spot to sleep. We bring it when we go on trips instead of using a hotel crib. And we bring it to his grandma’s for overnights. I got it at about 10 months. It’s called the PeaPod Plus. It’s pricey, but personally I’ve found it so worth it. There’s also the PeaPod, which is less expensive and a bit smaller. When I got it, I would bring it out during playtime to get him used to it, so he’d like it. Now, as soon as he sees it he start screaming and running around and trying to get in it. It’s so great.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy February 6, 2015, 7:47 pm

      Happy anniversary! Today is also an anniversary of sorts of drew and me. It marks 6 years since we got engaged.

      Have fun on your special night away!

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        RedroverRedrover February 6, 2015, 11:06 pm

        Thanks! We actually got engaged on the day right after you then! Feb 7, 2009. 🙂 We got married 364 days after our engagement. Just shy of a year. 🙂

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    • something random

      something random February 7, 2015, 12:22 pm

      Congrats!!

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    honeybeenicki February 6, 2015, 4:38 pm

    Here’s one I like and is easy to explain to a bartender if they don’t know what you’re talking about:
    Cran-Apple Cider
    Rim glass with cinnamon sugar. Combine equal parts cranberry juice and apple cider. Garnish with a rock-candy swizzle stick.

    I usually just order a soda when I go out but sometimes I like a “mocktail”… really I like anything with extra cherries. Yum.

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    ktfran February 6, 2015, 4:58 pm

    Ooh… I was just checking out the menu of the place I’m eating tonight and saw this:
    SEASONAL MOCKTAIL
    ginger beer, lemon balm, lemon verbena, fresh lemon

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy February 6, 2015, 6:00 pm

      Omigosh, I was just googling cocktail recipes with ginger beer and lemon (or lime) juice!

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  • mylaray

    mylaray February 6, 2015, 5:04 pm

    I love alcohol probably too much so I need to limit how much I drink, usually just twice a month. But I drink a lot of virgin drinks in between. I love raspberry lime Rickey’s with seltzer, grenadine, and lime juice. I love them with vodka and triple sec too. I think they usually work best with a seltzer or fruit base. But my husband makes great mocktail White Russians. He uses almond milk, cocoa powder, coffee, nutmeg, and maple syrup. It’s delicious.
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    Tonight, I’ll probably have some wine though. I’m so, so exhausted. I love my job, but I’ve been working 90 hour weeks and it won’t end for another few months so I need a bath, some wine, a foot massage, and to catch up on DW.

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    GertietheDino February 6, 2015, 5:53 pm

    Tonic water with a splash of cranberry or lime. Looks like the real deal, but it’s not.

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    lurky February 6, 2015, 6:00 pm

    It’s not technically no alcohol (just really really really low alcohol) is to get seltzer and bitters or ginger ale/beer and bitters.

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  • Lyra

    Lyra February 6, 2015, 6:46 pm

    Navy Guy and I are spending yet another Friday night in. We like being homebodies so it’s fine, but we’re both trying to save up as much as possible for the wedding fund (because UGH…weddings = $$$$$). I’m really excited because things are falling into place and things I’ve thought about are becoming a reality, but at the same time, budget…ugh. I creamed him in Scrabble a couple weeks ago so we may recreate that. Otherwise…any good ideas for cheap date (or “date”) nights? We will have a lot of them until August.
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    Also, this weird “Get your ex back! Powerful and easy to use text messaging system!” ad thingy keeps on popping up on the side of my window. Uhhhhhh weirdo relationship ad, DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOU ARE??? DW doesn’t believe in any of that crap.

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    Jennylou February 6, 2015, 7:07 pm

    For the mocktail, virgin sex on the beach is pretty awesome. 😛 Pineapple juice, cranberry juice, peach nectar, and OJ. Yum!!

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  • Pamplemousse Rose

    Pamplemousse Rose February 6, 2015, 7:33 pm

    We are going to spend the weekend finishing up a bunch of cleaning, decluttering, painting etc. to get our house on the market after next weekend. Once it’s listed we’ll start actively looking at houses too!! (there are a few online that I’d really like to see now – it’s so hard to be patient)

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    Sue Jones February 6, 2015, 8:51 pm

    Tomorrow morning I am going to sleep in for the first time in over 2 weeks! Maybe even until 8:30 or 9AM. Even though when my son was young I went 3 or 4 entire years without sleeping in, I am so looking forward to waking up with the sun higher in the sky! Please, don’t call me tomorrow morning!

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      Sue Jones February 6, 2015, 8:52 pm

      Oh, and tomorrow is our 18th wedding anniversary! Maybe we will go skiing!

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      • something random

        something random February 7, 2015, 12:17 pm

        Congrat’s Sue (if you’re up, yet)

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      Anonymous February 6, 2015, 11:12 pm

      Congrats!!!

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    Milla February 7, 2015, 1:03 am

    Tonic water and lime makes a really yummy and refreshing drink, and is easy to order at bars, especially if they have good tonic water. I mean, ideally there’s gin involved, but you know. . .;)

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  • Regina Chapman

    Regina Chapman February 7, 2015, 6:57 am

    Gosh, you guys look SO. GREAT. in that picture. I’m happy to hear that you got away from butt-wiping and play-doh-duties for once!
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    As for the no alcohol, I feel your pain. I’m not pregnant, but I’m on meds that, combined with alcohol, turn into a kind of SUPERDRUNKZZEMOTIONAL detonation bomb, so I try to keep it alcohol free or have 1-2 drinks at the max.
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    In bars I usually go for the 0% alcohol white beers. Weihenstephaner and Erdinger make very decent ones that still feel like you’re drinking. Not a big fan of sugary pop drinks, so once I get tired of white beer I’m usually out of options. At home I mix this fabulous weird pomegranate/cranberry juice that I get from the Polish greengrocer with tonic water (much like Milla’s suggestion). At least doesn’t make you feel like you’re being punished:).
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    Have a great weekend everyone!

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    lindsaybob February 7, 2015, 8:25 am

    When I was pregnant I drank a lot of cranberry juice and lemonade with a wedge of lime. It’s a bright cheerful colour, more interesting than a plain soda and tastes good too.

    I also had a gorgeous virgin raspberry mojito that the bartender made for me when we went to a cocktail bar for my friend’s hen party while I was pregnant.

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  • something random

    something random February 7, 2015, 9:53 am

    I haven’t tried either of these recipes but if anybody is game for experimenting I’d love to know how they come out because they seem like they would make good summer drinks for company.

    Minted Cucumber No-Jitos
    http://www.bhg.com/recipe/minted-cucumber-nojitos/

    Honey-ginger limeade
    http://www.bhg.com/recipe/honey-ginger-limeade/

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