Hey, did you know tomorrow is Valentine’s Day? It is! And those of you who hate it I hope appreciate that I didn’t make a big deal about it this week with listicles and gift guides and cutesy this and thats, but I can’t not mention it at all, so: Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone! I happen to like the day because I like love in all its forms and incarnations: romantic love, platonic love, familial love, pet love, neighborly love, the love I feel for a perfectly cooked cheeseburger (hmmm, cheeseburger; I think I just decided what we’re ordering ). I’ve had my share of unhappy Valentine’s Days, sure — those times in middle school when all the other girls got piles of candy grams and the only one I ever got was either from my mom or like the student council who sent one to everyone. And then in college when I lived in a dorm my freshman and sophomore years and the front desk would be FULL of flowers and candy and gifts delivered for residents and there was never anything for me. And then there was the year I had just broken up with my live-in boyfriend of four years and was lonely and sad and decided to freelance for the day at the flower shop I’d worked at the two years prior and it was a madhouse, of course, and rather than distract me, it just made me sadder and lonelier and I went home so exhausted and I ordered Chinese food (or was it Thai?) and watched TV and cried.
So, I know unhappy Valentine’s Days, but I’ve also known plenty of good ones, too, and not just when I’m in a relationship. (That seems to help though I’ve had a few less-than-stellar ones when I’ve had a boyfriend, too). I wish I could go back and tell the me of lonelier times to use the day as an excuse to express love to all the people I cared about and to spend time with friends and make dinner plans with other single pals and not put so much importance on the day and set expectations for more casual relationships that couldn’t be met. I can’t, so I’ll just tell you if you need to hear it: If the day makes you sad, shake it off. Do something nice for yourself. Do something nice for someone else. It’s a Saturday, so, if you have the day off, fill it with the things that make you happy.
It’s going to be, like, zero degrees here and snowing, so we will be spending our Saturday Valentine’s Day indoors. We have good friends coming over in the morning and then I don’t know what we’ll do in the afternoon. Maybe watch a movie or something. (Ooh, that reminds me: We took Jackson to his first movie in a theater last weekend — it was part of the kids’ film festival in Brooklyn — and he loved it and can’t wait to see another movie, so that gives us one more indoor activity we can do with him, which is great because these winter days with a restless 3-year-old are llloooonnngggg). Jack and I are going to make brownies and cookies this afternoon for Drew, which was supposed to be a surprise, but, of course, after I made the mistake of mentioning this plan to him (because I’m an idiot), the second Drew walked in the door, he said, “Daddy! Daddy! I thought Mommy and I could make brownies and cookies for you! I thought you could share! It’s a surprise!”
The song I posted above, “That’s How Strong My Love Is,” is “our song.” Otis Redding sings it, and Otis was a name I was considering if we were having a boy instead of a girl. I also like Owen a lot, too. And I like Blake and some others, but there wasn’t one that really felt right, so it’s a good thing we’re having a girl because there are tons of girl names I love. (We’re pretty settled on one already though).
Anyhoo, I babble. Have a wonderful weekend, everyone. I hope you are lucky enough to spend some of it with someone you love. xoxo