Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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Ok, but seriously, the snow has been pretty and all, but enough is enough. The ice, the freezing temps, the slushy subways and buses, the old dirty snow piled on the curbs — I’m done now.

In other news —. Nope, no other news. Except we spring ahead this weekend, don’t forget. And that means spring IS coming. Soon, I hope.

In the meantime, have a great weekend, everyone!

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    K March 6, 2015, 4:06 pm

    Sooooo ready for the weekend, spring and DST. We ran out of oil at work today and I am freezing right now, can’t wait to leave.

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    Sunshine Brite March 6, 2015, 4:11 pm

    I just started my weekend because my sanity. Everything at work is at MUST HAPPEN NOW level which is impossible to manage. I’ll get back at it outside of my 40 over the weekend for a bit just to make next week manageable especially since I have a new supervisor starting Monday. Must use positive coping skills…

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    muchachaenlaventana March 6, 2015, 4:28 pm

    So over winter. I have gotten SAD really bad in the last few weeks and just am in such a funk. I just am longing for Spring. I feel generally negative and terrible about everything going on in my life right now. This weekend I have to trek home for a bridal shower and then back the same night (2 hour or so drive) and just really want to crawl in bed and sleep until April.

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    Lurker March 6, 2015, 4:31 pm

    Please send precip west post-haste.
    Like, now

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    Rangerchic March 6, 2015, 4:32 pm

    My in-laws are coming for lunch tomorrow and Sunday is supposed to rain…which is better than snow. I’m feeling kind of blue today even though it is sunny…I think I just need a mini-vacation with my husband and no kids for some rejuvenation but don’t know when that can happen as most of the weekends in March are full with something or other…Blah!

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  • Lianne

    Lianne March 6, 2015, 4:42 pm

    Yay, weekend! Seriously. I am so flippin’ happy for Friday it’s crazy. And a little sad.

    But anyway, I am SOOOO excited to surprise my husband with a kitty tomorrow!!!

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    • veritek33

      veritek33 March 6, 2015, 4:55 pm

      As in, he doesn’t know the kitty is arriving? Or you’re gonna sneak attack bomb him when he’s not looking? Either way, have fun!

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      Kate March 6, 2015, 6:47 pm

      Omg wtf

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        Sunshine Brite March 6, 2015, 7:18 pm

        Yeah, my thoughts haha.

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  • Portia

    Portia March 6, 2015, 5:20 pm

    Yeah, I’m ready for spring too. My mom (in Utah) said she had some pussywillows start to bloom. I think the East Coast needs more weather like that…
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    And, I’m excited it’s finally Friday because Bassanio’s been working nonstop on a hearing that finally happened today, so he might actually exist again! It’s been almost a month of him constantly working, which has sucked. There was a small chance of the hearing being postponed due to the snow and that was a big pile of NOPE from me. There would have been a strongly worded letter… To be fair, his boss has been going back and forth about rescheduling a newly planned hearing because he’s getting married that day. So not as bad as it could be, but still.

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  • veritek33

    veritek33 March 6, 2015, 5:38 pm

    I’m working tonight and then going to take my little sister swimming tomorrow, visit my bff’s baby, and the celebrating a friends birthday on Sunday. Should be a decent weekend!

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  • Dear Wendy

    Dear Wendy March 6, 2015, 6:26 pm

    Drew’s famous, you guys: https://www.instagram.com/p/z5xBpApOrP/

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      Jane63 March 6, 2015, 6:44 pm

      OMG Is that his shoulder!!!??? He IS famous. Lucky girl.

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray March 6, 2015, 6:54 pm

      Best looking shoulder I ever saw! Can Drew get me a job? I want to meet famous people. I’ll do whatever – legal stuff, get coffee, share brilliant ideas, whatever

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  • Lyra

    Lyra March 6, 2015, 6:52 pm

    Yikes, this winter HAS felt long but at the same time it feels like it was JUST Christmas, you know?
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    My birthday is on Sunday and I’m hosting a birthday party for 150 of my closest friends…aka, 4 people are coming over here on Saturday for a potluck and board games. 😉 Definitely looking forward to it! I do like that my birthday falls in the season when there’s nothing to look forward to because it GIVES me something to look forward to. 🙂 And I already started celebrating by cracking open a hard cider. Cheers!

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    • othy

      othy March 6, 2015, 9:14 pm

      And by you hosting, you mean you demanded all of the expensive things and made your rich friends plan it and shell out the cash for it, right? Happy birthday!

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      • Lyra

        Lyra March 7, 2015, 9:23 am

        Haha, you caught me othy!! 🙂 I can’t even fathom that — the most I ever ask my friends to do is bring a dish to pass, which is always super fun because you get a whole variety of different food.

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      • othy

        othy March 7, 2015, 3:06 pm

        We usually do that when we host BBQs at our house. We’ll supply the meat and booze, and have everyone else bring a side. It works out great.

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 8, 2015, 8:08 pm

      YOU GUYS I found the best recipe for drinks! NG’s parents got us some Puerto Rican rum when they were on vacation a couple weeks ago, so we used a splash of that, then about an ounce each of orange juice and pineapple juice, then a splash of club soda. The “splash” of rum turned into a LOT of rum by the end of the night haha. It was really good, and not too many calories!

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    Nutella March 7, 2015, 1:04 am

    Hey guys, lurker here but I needed a place to vent… I feel like I’m having a mid life crisis at the age of 36. I wanted to post this yesterday on the deleted thread but I ran out of time and I don’t care who reads this anyways.

    This year has been crappy. I’ve lost a friend because of some shady things he did, which means he was never really a friend to begin with but it still stung and it has also fractured other relationships since we have other mutual friends. One of my cars died shortly after that and then my dog died not long after that and I just found out my local bar which is my home away from home is closing too.

    I’ve also had a friend (whom I refer to as my ‘not boyfriend’) staying with me since just before Christmas (he was only supposed to be here a week) and although we act like a couple, he makes me dinner, he does all the household chores and we have sex, we are not dating and he got really sick this week and almost died.

    My next door neighbor is a pathological liar and makes me want to move but I love my apartment too much and refuse to give him that power over my life. Also he and I used to be really close as well until shady friend above fucked me over. I seriously just want to escape and run away forever to island someplace. The only family I acknowledge is my mother and she lives on the opposite coast from me and I limit contact with her as it is. I feel like the only thing holding me from doing a “Thelma and Louise” is my boss, as I know he cannot function without me and is my only purpose in life right now.

    I want to be in a relationship, I do not have kids nor do I want any, and for some reason I have yet to find any man who doesn’t want children, plus its difficult to date when you have a “not boyfriend’ living with you. Also that Friday links article today about the “boyfriend muscle” hit waaaayyy too close to home for me and made me start crying when I read it because I’ve felt more than once that even if someone ever wanted to date me I don’t even know how to be a girlfriend anymore.

    Before someone suggests that I should get a hobby, I should note that for the last 7 years I had a hobby. It was a job I did in the evenings/spare time that was a fun job, and provided a social outlet and physical activity, I just happened to also get paid as well. I recently left that job/hobby because I was lacking free time to try and cultivate relationships, friendships, romantic or otherwise.

    Lastly, I have to go to a cousin’s wedding in June and I’ve been dreading it since I heard about it. I have almost no relationship with this cousin but my mom does and she wants to see me and so does another cousin (one I can tolerate) whom I haven’t seen in years will also be there. If I go, it means my mom won’t come visit me, and her visits always make me anxious, so I feel like going is the lesser of many evils. The rest of the family that will be there are judgmental of me and I haven’t seen them since my father’s funeral ten years ago and it haven’t missed them at all. When I mentioned this to my “not boyfriend”, he invited himself to come with me which is going to be a disaster I’m sure for many reasons. Although I’m the oldest of these cousins (I’m an only child BTW), I’ve never brought a date to anything and I’m the only one not married and not interested in marriage and having babies and the family doesn’t understand that. I moved away from ‘home’ to a place that they all look down their noses at and think I’m beneath them for it as it is and my not boyfriend, although he is amazing to me, but to others, and especially first impressions, he comes off very rough around the edges and we will be the gossip of the wedding. Oh, and my mom met him over Christmas and she hated him so I already know there is that.
    Sorry for the novel.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy March 7, 2015, 8:04 am

      You need to take charge of your life and start making better/smarter/wiser/healthier choices. Stop sleeping with your not a boyfriend. That relationship sounds confusing at best and like it’s hindering you from pursuing real relationships (you said yourself it’s hard to date when you’re living with a man you’re having sex with). So, stop having sex with him and tell him to move out. Also, why would you take him to your cousin’s wedding? That sounds like a shit show. Just tell him that’s not going to happen.

      As for a hobby, you should definitely get one. It doesn’t have to be another part-time job. In fact, it shouldn’t be. You want something that will be fun and casual and not so time-consuming that you have no space in your life for a social life. Ideally, it would be something that introduces you to like-minded people.

      As for your local watering hole closing, find another one. It really only takes a few weeks of hanging at a place regularly to start feeling like a regular. Plus, a new place means new people, and it sounds like you could use some new people in your life.

      Do you exercise? If not, start. Get out for walks or jogs. Take a yoga class or pilates or kickboxing or go to a climbing gym. Do something active to release the endorphins that help you feel good.

      If you think you might be depressed and no amount of exercise or hobby-gettin’ is going to make you feel better, ask your doctor for a referral for a shrink (or find one on your own) and discuss treatment options, which can range from talk therapy to medication (sometimes just a temporary low-dose med is enough to get a mildly depressed person through a particularly challenging time).

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray March 7, 2015, 7:03 pm

        When bittergaymark says you’re too bitter, it’s time to check yourself!

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      • LadyinPurpleNotRed

        LadyinPurpleNotRed March 7, 2015, 7:03 pm

        I don’t think wiser words have been spoken.

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray March 7, 2015, 7:04 pm

        Oops, this was supposed to be in response to Nutella

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 7, 2015, 9:50 am

      I agree with Wendy in terms of your not boyfriend. I think he is just complicating things, especially since you say you want a relationship. You can’t have a traditional relationship if you maintain this pseudo relationship with him. I know you say he’s awesome, but I think you are severely limiting your options because it sounds like you are almost afraid of letting him go.
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      It sounds to me that maybe you’ve lost your purpose in life. I’m not talking about religion (unless that’s your thing), but just overall it sounds like you’re just…lost. What I would do if I were you is I would get out and volunteer, even once per week. Do you love animals? Volunteer at the Humane Society. Do you love kids? Join Big Brothers Big Sisters. Do you love reading? Volunteer at the library in some capacity. Do you love just helping people? Work at a soup kitchen once per month. I feel at my best when I’m helping other people. It’s a huge reason why I’m a teacher actually. Helping people gives me this natural high that I just can’t explain, and it definitely isn’t something that I would get from an office job sitting at a desk all day. I know not everyone is like me and not everyone loves helping people so much, but I think it would give you that sense of purpose again.

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    • bittergaymark

      bittergaymark March 7, 2015, 5:28 pm

      Eh, it seems like you don’t like many people. Why is that? Just look at your letter, it kinda sorta seems EVERYBODY is an idiot — or hard to deal with — or stabbing you in the back all the time? Or looking down on you… Honestly? More often than not? When there is THIS much drama going on constantly… much of it is usually simply in your head…

      As I read your letter, all I could think was — Gee, and I sometimes think that I have a bad attitude. You seemingly like very few people… And that makes for a bleak and miserable life.

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    jlyfsh March 7, 2015, 9:59 am

    I finished my 5K! Then I got the best waffle ever!

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 7, 2015, 10:11 am

      Congrats, Jlyfsh!!!

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray March 7, 2015, 7:06 pm

      Ats my jlyfsh!

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    d2 March 7, 2015, 11:15 am

    OMG, it’s above 40 degrees F at my house right now! There is grass starting to show in my front yard!

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  • sobriquet

    sobriquet March 7, 2015, 5:58 pm

    We officially started our rental house search today. I have lived in an apartment for the past 3 years and I am very much ready for more space. I want a yard, and a neighborhood to jog in, and a garage to park my car in (so I don’t have to drive around and search for a tiny parking spot far away from my building like I do now). We viewed a few houses this morning and found one that is perfect for us and shockingly still available. It’s in a great location for us- a few blocks from our gym and the grocery store, and a few miles away from some of our friends. It has 2 stories, so our cats will have room to run up and down stairs. It’s in a great, peaceful neighborhood. And it is very clean and nice and new looking. It’s a place I can see us living in for the next few years until we’re ready to buy a house. Fingers crossed! The rental market in Austin is INSANE and I don’t want this one to get snatched away.
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    I feel like once we move into a bigger place with multiple rooms, I can finally start stocking up on baby stuff (and hopefully Wendy will post a helpful shopping list for all of us first time pregnant DWers!). At that point, I’ll be out of the 1st trimester and hopefully feeling a lot better. Pregnancy sucks so far, but it’ll all be worth it in the end. Only one more month of perpetually feeling like I have the flu. It’s funny, before I got pregnant I thought the hardest part was going to be abstaining from alcohol. HA, I WISH! Right now, the thought of drinking booze just… no. It sounds awful. The last 2 weeks have already felt like an endless hangover.

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 7, 2015, 7:27 pm

      Oooo, I hope you get the house!!! That sounds like a great move to make right now for you and your growing family! 🙂
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      Navy Guy and I will be looking for places here in the not-so-distant future. We are planning to rent for probably a year starting in August and then hopefully buy after that! I’m sure it will be stressful trying to save up for that down payment!

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      • sobriquet

        sobriquet March 8, 2015, 11:34 am

        We got it! We have to pay a bigger deposit because we’re both self-employed, but we were expecting that. I wish this was a deleted thread so that I could post the link. I’m so excited not only that we found a great house, but that we were able to complete the house hunting process in a single day!

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      • Lyra

        Lyra March 8, 2015, 8:02 pm

        Yaaaay!!! So great!!

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        d2 March 8, 2015, 8:21 pm

        Wow, amazing, in one day! Congratulations.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray March 8, 2015, 4:19 pm

    In puppy news (by the way, is he still a “puppy” if my dog Moose is 17 months old?) is still afraid of the hardwood floors. So know what I did? I bought a 25-foot Persian rug runner for the hallway. So now he is all set. I have the most spoiled dog ever.

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    • Portia

      Portia March 8, 2015, 7:50 pm

      What a pampered pup! 🙂

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    d2 March 8, 2015, 7:30 pm

    I just realized that we (USA) changed to Daylight Savings Time this weekend! How did I not know about that until just now?
    There are two clocks in my house that I never got around to changing to standard time last fall. Well, I guess I can finally scratch those two items off my to-do list…

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    • Portia

      Portia March 8, 2015, 7:49 pm

      Haha, excellent! Waiting until the next time change to do something about the clocks is a thing I aspire to.
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      I changed them at like 9pm last night. Then fell asleep. Exciting times over here…

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    vizslalvr March 8, 2015, 8:16 pm

    I’m generally a lurker, but I’m super excited because our offer on a house was accepted today! I am so excited to be a homeowner! I want to shout it from the rooftops but since nothing is 100% until after the inspection, I will share with random internet strangers instead. 🙂

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      d2 March 8, 2015, 8:31 pm

      Congratulations! Soon you will be able to shout it from your very own rooftop!

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        vizslalvr March 8, 2015, 8:33 pm

        Ohhhh good point! Thanks for the well wishes!

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    • Pamplemousse Rose

      Pamplemousse Rose March 9, 2015, 1:17 am

      Congratulations! We made an offer on a house that was not accepted. Maybe it was the same house?!?! Wouldn’t that be a crazy coincidence?

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        vizslalvr March 9, 2015, 5:07 pm

        Ahhh it would be crazy! I doubt it, though. They made no mention of another offer and we went back and forth a few times.

        Good luck with your house hunt!

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    Kate March 9, 2015, 7:58 am

    I’m making an offer on a place today. The market is loco so #anythingcanhappen

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    • Lianne

      Lianne March 9, 2015, 9:12 am

      Keep us posted!

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray March 9, 2015, 5:11 pm

      Did you get it, did you get it?? Is it near Lianne?

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        Kate March 9, 2015, 5:48 pm

        Just parking at the RE office to put it in now! All offers are due by 11am tomorrow… It’s that kind of market. And I have to put a contingency in the offer. The place has a 2-car garage but my husband’s truck doesn’t fit in it he found out today. So he’s waiting for the owner of the shop across the street to say how much to rent him a space. If it’s a reasonable price he can expense it because it’s his work truck. Contingencies don’t help, so we might not get it… But that’s ok. It’s early in the season AND he just negotiated zero rent increase for us today. Sadly we’re not looking near Lianne because of where my office is located.

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    MsMisery March 9, 2015, 11:26 am

    I went to Wizard World Comic Con in Chicago (Rosemont) on Sunday. I got a Terminator action figure and a Deaths-Head moth (Silence of the Lambs), and I met Drea DeMateo, or I stood next to my friends while they talked to her and got her autograph, and Bud Bundy/David Faustino said hi to me. Fun times. /nerd.

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