Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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Happy, happy Friday! Oh, I’m so glad it’s the weekend! And last night our whole family actually got some sleep, which was much-needed. (I’ve had bad pregnancy insomnia and allergies keeping me awake for over a week, and then Jackson had three nights of intense nightmares keeping us all awake all night long; it was a good refresher for nights with a newborn, I guess . . .). Anyhow, it was a long week and I’m glad it’s just about over. And I’m sneaking away this weekend for a little R&R on my own, which I’m quite excited about, too. I plan to sleep and read and sleep some more.

Thanks again for indulging me and Jackson in our little Dear Jackson experiment yesterday. He loved playing and was really tickled to see his videos on the site and know other people were watching them, too. Maybe we will do it again some time. By the way, the photo above is Jackson in his happy place — new play-doh, a brief stop at Chuck E. Cheese (my personal hell, but he loves it), and spending time with mom and dad. I thought the photo captured one of the better moments of the Thrilling Threes pretty well.

Changing topics: I thought this was an interesting debate. What would you do if your mother promised you a family heirloom engagement ring but wanted to hand it to you in person and wasn’t going to come visit before you wanted to be engaged? If it were I, I’d make a weekend trip to go visit her, pick up the ring, talk about its family history, fly home, give the ring to my boyfriend to have it re-set or sized or whatever, and then tell him to give it back to me when he wanted to propose. In fact, that’s exactly what I did do (granted, my visit home was already planned, but, if going to visit my parents was the best/only way to get the ring, I think that would be reason enough to go . . . like, beyond seeing my parents, of course, as a ticket home is still cheaper than most engagement rings).

Anyway, what’s everyone up to this weekend, the last weekend of March (hooray, hooray, it’s almost April!)?

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  • honeybeenicki

    honeybeenicki March 27, 2015, 3:31 pm

    We have plans to do all the things we’ve been putting off this weekend. Well, that’s not completely true. My bonus daughter has chosen to move her room to the basement instead of sharing a room with the baby (the whole 3 days a month we have her). And since the part of the basement she will be in isn’t carpeted, we got some carpet squares so we’ll be working on that this weekend. Plus getting some other stuff organized in the basement. And some of the baby stuff that’s been piling up organized. And maybe we’ll Netflix if we have time. We spent all last Sunday Netflix-ing though.

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    • Skyblossom

      Skyblossom March 30, 2015, 7:54 am

      It’s probably better that she isn’t sharing a room with the baby. Sharing the room means having the parents bursting into the room ever two hours to feed the baby and teens like their privacy. I know that my teen daughter would hate sharing a room with a baby. When the baby becomes mobile she would also have trouble keeping her things out of reach of the baby. Her things would be a choke hazard to the baby and the baby could be very damaging to her things. It is much better if they are kept separate and she has a place of her own to go to for privacy and where her phone won’t get chewed and her make up is all hers and so on.

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    jlyfsh March 27, 2015, 3:44 pm

    I’m supposed to do another 5K tomorrow but I woke up sick. I’ve been trying to do a speedy recovery all day. I think my cough might be getting worse. Also my sister’s cat died very unexpectedly last night and everyone is so sad. And I’m too far away to go and give her a hug.

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    • Lianne

      Lianne March 27, 2015, 5:17 pm

      Aw jlyfsh I’m so sorry about your sisters cat 🙁 I hope you feel better and can run tomorrow.

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        jlyfsh March 28, 2015, 10:52 am

        Thank you for both, I finished! Three minutes faster than my last one. Maybe thanks to all the meds I took? Haha medicine head makes me forget jogging/walking hurts 😉

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  • Lianne

    Lianne March 27, 2015, 5:16 pm

    I’m planning to clean and organize this weekend. I feel I’ve been ver neglectful of my home since I’ve been traveling for work so much and it stresses me out. Plus I’ve been projecting that stress onto my husband and think he resents me for not doing as much as he does around the house. He assures me that’s not the case, but I still feel bad.

    It’s also his birthday on Tuesday so we will go out for a nice dinner tomorrow night.

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 27, 2015, 5:25 pm

      Spring cleaning over here in good ol’ Minnesota this weekend too!! I’m way too excited for it…

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    • Pamplemousse Rose

      Pamplemousse Rose March 28, 2015, 11:38 am

      My husband’s birthday is on Monday so we are also going out for a nice dinner tonight!

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  • Portia

    Portia March 27, 2015, 6:28 pm

    This was the first week of my new job. I’m gainfully employed! Wooo! I celebrated it a bit too early last night at happy hour, oops… A reminder that I’m not as resilient as I once was after a night out, and at least it wasn’t in front of my boss, so small victory?
    Tonight we’re celebrating with our favorite Chinese place for dinner and probably some much needed sleep, which I think will be the theme of this weekend. Sleep and getting in some long runs because our race is coming up soon.

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  • Stonegypsy

    Stonegypsy March 27, 2015, 7:03 pm

    I’m supposed to go to a show with my boyfriend tonight. But I really really really don’t want to. We fought (over text – terrible idea) last night and I’ve started questioning if I even want to continue with him, even though when things are good they’re amazing, and I got barely any sleep and felt awful all day. So I’m still upset, even though he’s decided that we should just let it go, and tired and blah. But I said I’d go 😛

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 27, 2015, 10:19 pm

      Is this the same dude where you couldn’t get enough sleep?

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      • Stonegypsy

        Stonegypsy March 28, 2015, 7:31 pm

        Yeah… Though he did end up, after his initial reaction, agreeing that he would make sure there weren’t any rehearsals going on at his place before we decide where to spend the night, and he’s kept his word.
        In this instance, thinking about it, I really did overreact to something that probably normally wouldn’t have been a big deal, and read an insult where there wasn’t one. And I’ve been reading him as kind of hot and cold, but I’m pretty sure that the phases I’m thinking of also line up with phases where I’ve been kind of depressed anyway, so… I think it might all be in my head. I’m just going to start writing things down as they happen so I can look at them more objectively later and see if there’s actually a pattern there or if I’m imagining it.
        #reasonsIneedtobeintherapy

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      • Stonegypsy

        Stonegypsy March 28, 2015, 7:38 pm

        It was sort of uncomfortable at the show last night (though the show itself was fantastic and I’m glad I went), I was still tense and upset, and felt like he was refusing to look at things from my perspective. But this morning we made up.

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  • mylaray

    mylaray March 27, 2015, 7:16 pm

    I’m at a coffee shop killing time, before seeing my husband’s show tonight. Last night I saw Father John Misty, which was a great show, but I’m exhausted and hoping to stay at home and reorganize the rest of the weekend. I have clothes from ages ago that don’t even fit me, that I only hold on to for sentimental reasons, but I think it’s time to let go.

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 27, 2015, 10:17 pm

      I’m reorganizing too! I loooove getting things in order and getting rid of junk!!

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    Kate March 27, 2015, 7:54 pm

    So, being alone in San Diego today, I bought a new outfit and tiny cans of sparkling wine and lay around the pool and had lunch and a few drinks. Then I took an Uber to get a blowout at an unknown establishment and I got home and realized the front of it was a bit F’d up and I would have blown a stranger for a round brush, which I didn’t have. So I texted my husband and asked if he could stop at Target and get me a brush (he has the car). He was stuck in traffic because his cheap-ass Getman friend who never gets a rental car got him lost dropping him off. So I thought I’d be stuck with a busted blowout, but he came back with two different brushes. I married a gem, errybody. We’re going to World Famous on the beach with a bunch of people for dinner. I look good!

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 27, 2015, 10:18 pm

      You’re totally drunk, girl! But yes you look great, ’cause you always look great! Your hussssband is totes a keeper.

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        Anonymous March 27, 2015, 10:23 pm

        Haha yes, I’m so drunk!!! We waited 70 minutes for a table for 6.

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        Kate March 27, 2015, 10:46 pm

        How did you know?

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    Kate March 27, 2015, 7:57 pm

    *German. And I don’t mean to imply that all Germans are cheap or do things like crash passenger jets deliberately, and I’m somewhat German myself.

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      d2 March 28, 2015, 9:04 am

      Haha, I thought the “Getman” was intentional. As in “I’m at the airport, come get me”.

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        Kate March 28, 2015, 10:07 am

        Haha, no, just me trying to type on an iPhone and drink a can of wine.

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        Sunshine Brite March 29, 2015, 5:24 pm

        They need to create a good winephone.

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  • something random

    Something Random March 28, 2015, 4:30 am

    My boys are officially on spring break so I’ll probably be MIA for awhile. Have fun everone.

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    Anna March 28, 2015, 7:42 am

    It’s been an interesting week. I’ve been talking to a guy I met through a friend and he’s really sweet but kinda wimpy, like he’s afraid of driving and was surprised/afraid to see a gun in my desk drawer. It’s because he’s not from here so I can’t blame him but I do like his personality and his British accent. I was telling my colleague about him and we agreed about guns not only being fun but necessary for home defense. My colleague lives out in the country and has plenty of room for target practice on her land so I’m going out there today to shoot targets and then drink some mojitos. After 2 years in the city, I’m excited to spend a little time in the country again and make sure I’m still a good shot. And as long as Brit Dude never tries to curb my gun-toting ways, he may be a keeper. We’ve joked about moving to Colorado together and starting our own business!

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    • Lyra

      Lyra March 28, 2015, 9:36 am

      Is this the same or different guy as the bartender??
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      I went shooting for the first time last spring and loved it. I think we’ll go again sometime, possibly with my friend and her husband — he works security so he actually carries a weapon at all times, even off duty because he has a conceal and carry permit. Apparently it took my friend a while to get used to that, and she still doesn’t necessarily like that he carries a firearm everywhere, but they work it out. Maybe this dude would be the same way in the fact that it may take a bit of getting used to, but he may become ok with it.

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        Anna March 29, 2015, 12:26 am

        Different guy, but I’m keeping my options open here! After wasting 9 years with the wrong guy, I am really trying not to let that happen again. I’m afraid I’ve become terribly picky but this dude could have what it takes if he is ok with how badass I am.

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      • Lyra

        Lyra March 29, 2015, 1:18 pm

        Picky is good!! I definitely do NOT think your expectations are ridiculous either, so don’t feel bad for having high expectations. 🙂

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      • mrmidtwenties

        mrmidtwenties March 29, 2015, 5:01 pm

        @anna, I can relate to Brit dude. As a Canadian, it would scare me for anyone to have a gun in a desk drawer, mostly because that would be illegal here and totally unnecessary for self defense, but I lived in America, you can bet your ass I would have a gun because not having one there seems scarier.

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      • mrmidtwenties

        mrmidtwenties March 29, 2015, 5:02 pm

        *if I lived

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        Sunshine Brite March 29, 2015, 5:30 pm

        Not always, there’s a lot of places around where I live now where you can’t take gun even with a carry permit so it’d be a bigger liability than it’s worth most of the time. My workplace included, it’s against policy to carry a weapon while doing my job. I just have to trust my instincts and training.

        I just have a shotgun that I haven’t shot in awhile because I learned early on that I dislike hunting for the most part. I was too short and couldn’t keep up with the guys when I first tried pheasant hunting and it was waaaay too boring to deer hunt.

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    peraltro March 28, 2015, 12:32 pm

    In the Muslim world you have Friday and Saturday off, but work Sundays. So I’ll be in my office working away until around 7pm, at which time I’ll go to the airport to collect someone who’s coming to visit me. Then we’ll set off for a 10-day vacation in this country which, on paper, is the kind of vacation you imagine that royalty would take. And yet I’m full of conflicted feelings for my guest and a small part of me wishes that the vacation was over before it’s even begun!

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      Anonymous March 28, 2015, 7:50 pm

      Dude! Just stay in the moment and do fun things and stop overthinking. Do not make this weird. I’ve never seen such angst over a vacation!

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        peraltro March 29, 2015, 10:44 am

        Heh. This is like the dentist telling you to relax when you tend to freak out about needles – easier said than done. Anyway, at this point I’m not feeling angst…I’m just feeling fatalistic. I shouldn’t have agreed to this, but it’s too late now so all that can be done is to make the best of it. And at the risk of seeming spoiled or ungrateful: going on a holiday where your every whim is taken care of is great – but it’s not like it’s a guaranteed cure for personal unhappiness.

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        Kate March 29, 2015, 11:14 am

        Uh, no kidding, but in your case I hope it takes you outside your head temporarily. Why don’t you just focus on giving your guest a good time and not on your own misery? I know you can do that. You’ve already decided you’re going to be unhappy, so just work on making her happy. The fabulous nature of the activities you’ve planned aren’t that relevant, but your behavior absolutely is.

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  • Pamplemousse Rose

    Pamplemousse Rose March 28, 2015, 2:51 pm

    We are officially buying a house today!! We put an offer in on Monday and had a home inspection yesterday. As long as the sellers are agreeable about getting a professional electrician to repair some hazardous electrical issues (ie. lights in a shower that aren’t rated for use in a wet area), it’s a done deal. Maybe I shouldn’t get too excited about it quite yet, but this is the third house we’ve tried to buy. Third time’s a charm!

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      vizslalvr March 28, 2015, 8:38 pm

      Fingers crossed for you! We close 5/1 on our home. I was so nervous about asking the sellers to take on a few (relatively) minor repairs including re-grounding an outlet, adding more wattage to the electric box, and unclogging a slow-draining sink … but they agreed within 12 hours. It’s hard not to get excited when you find a house you really think is a good fit for you, so you have my sympathy. But go ahead and get a little excited – it sounds like your contingency demands are totally reasonable and not expensive enough to be a deal-breaker for even a mildly motivated seller. (Based on my totally inexperienced opinion, ha.)

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    Ani Nani March 30, 2015, 9:32 am

    On the subject of the heirloom engagement ring, I agree with you, Wendy: Go and get the ring yourself! My engagement ring was my husband’s grandmother’s ring who had died not long after we began dating. His aunt had the ring, and we drove down to Florida for the weekend solely to pick up the ring(it is about a 13 hour drive from our house). We left Friday morning and came back Sunday morning. I was supposed to be unaware of the reason for the trip, but my husband is awful at keeping secrets. Of course, he then waited almost another year before proposing 🙂

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