Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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Oh man, it’s a good thing it’s Friday because I just can’t anymore with this week. Indulge (or ignore) me while I whine for a minute: I’m at that stage in pregnancy when I feel like I’ve aged about 45 years in the last two weeks. Simple everyday tasks like making the bed can wipe me out for a whole morning. I get winded walking a couple blocks, I can’t really bend over, standing too long exhausts me, and I can’t sit down without grunting or stand up without grabbing something or someone for leverage (which makes for some awkward encounters on a crowded subway). My legs go intermittently numb from pressure on my nerves, and the other evening I had such an intense pain in my, well, we’ll call it pelvic area — a pain that actually has its own medical term with a funny name and a perfect acronym (‘SPD,’ which lends itself well to alternate names I’ve come up with) — that I had to break into my stash of Percocet that I got after my recent stay in the hospital so I could get comfortable enough to sleep. Combine that with an airless, muggy heat outside earlier this week and Jackson’s fucking holy terror behavior lately (let’s just say, this morning involved fishing out a freshly-laundered hand towel from a urine-filled toilet bowl as it was being flushed away, and, had that happened, oh, nine months ago, I very likely would not be pregnant right now or ever contemplating ever having another child ever again) and my need for Margaritas or, really, just a vat of tequila, is at an all-time high, seven more weeks to go.

How was your week?

And what are your plans for the weekend? I’m having dinner with some girlfriends this evening and going to a going-away BBQ on Sunday afternoon for our friends who live across the street and are, sadly, moving to another neighborhood in a couple weeks. And when I’m not doing those things, I will probably be sitting in the coolest spot I can find, fanning myself, and eating the chocolate cake I’m going to ask Drew to pick up for me because, if I can’t have tequila, then at least give me sugar. Happy weekend!

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  • honeybeenicki

    honeybeenicki May 29, 2015, 3:05 pm

    Oh Wendy, you give me so much to look forward to in the next few weeks 🙂 I’m 31 weeks today and I’m exhausted and puffy and my back hurts and I’m really not enjoying this whole pregnancy thing. Apparently some people like it, but I’m not a fan (the whole having the stab myself 4 times a day to test my blood sugar plays into that). I’m sorry your week was so shitty.
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    Maybe we need to start a donation page for the vat of tequila for after the baby comes. Who’s with me?

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray May 29, 2015, 3:50 pm

      So, when you say you’re not enjoying this whole pregnancy thing, do you mean, like, from the get go, it’s been uncomfortable or painful or whatnot? Or do you mean now, that you’re so far along, you aren’t enjoying it now? Because I’m enjoying pregnancy a ton! (I was really tired at the beginning of this pregnancy but I’ve already forgotten about that.) But I’m only 25 weeks along – but 26 on Monday! When does the other shoe fall? Does it get bad fast? Or, if I’ve been enjoying it so far, I’ll probably continue to enjoy it to the end? (Sorry, others, for bringing pregnancy talk out to the main page but come on, it’s so interesting! (NO? Ha.))

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        Sue Jones May 29, 2015, 4:00 pm

        Pregnancy when you already have a toddler/preschool kid is a LOT tougher than the first one. No naps whenever you feel like it. I got lots of prenatal abdominal massage and chiropractic adjustments and wore a belly belt so I was pretty good until the last week when I couldn’t even walk across the parking lot without my pubic bone hurting…

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      • Dear Wendy

        Dear Wendy May 29, 2015, 8:56 pm

        Yes to what Sue said. This pregnancy has been much rougher than when I was pregnant with Jackson. And I actually had dinner with a friend of mine this evening who has a son jackson’s age and is due with her second baby the day after me and she said right away, “God, it’s so much rougher this time!” My pregnancy with jackson was actually really easy until 26 weeks when I got a kidney infection and went into preterm labor. I got another kidney infection two weeks later and then my whole 3rd trimester was nerve-wracking and increasingly uncomfortable. With this one, I’ve been exhausted all the way through and although I’m not as nervous as I was last time, I’m just so uncomfortable and tired.
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        There are definitely women who love being pregnant (I’m not one), but even of those women, I’ve never known anyone love the final weeks of pregnancy. From about 35 or 36 weeks on, it’s pretty fucking miserable not matter how easy it’s been up ’til then.

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki May 29, 2015, 5:51 pm

        I haven’t particularly enjoyed it at all. But there are some good parts. I love feeling him move around. But my body apparently doesn’t like being knocked up. It doesn’t help that the fertility drugs made me miserable before I got pregnant. But I’m sure you’ll continue to love it 🙂

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      • Lady_Red

        Red-Lady May 30, 2015, 12:30 am

        I didn’t enjoy pregnancy, and I actually had a pretty easy one, compared to what I’ve heard from others. I don’t get you people that love it. I kind of got a second wind at the end, though. Like, at 36/37 weeks I couldn’t do anything and just wanted it to be over, but at 39/40 weeks, (after missing all the dates that I thought would make for a cool birthdate) I started feeling OK, like, yeah, it’d be nice if he was born already, but it’s not that bad, I can be pregnant for a little longer.

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    K May 29, 2015, 3:18 pm

    Hooray for the weekend! Tonight I’m going to a tapas place with friends to celebrate a friend’s engagement! I’m hosting book club on Sunday and then my best friend is going to stay with me Sunday night because she’s in the area for a conference next week!

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  • Lianne

    Lianne May 29, 2015, 3:26 pm

    Sorry for a shitty week, Wendy. It’s almost over! And then you can have ALL the tequila. And if I am not pregnant yet, I will come to NYC and drink some with you!
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    We are going out with friends tomorrow night for rooftop drinks and oysters. Then on Sunday we’re having brunch with my brother and SIL at my favorite spot with build your own Bloody Marys – god I love Bloody Marys. Other than that I will cuddle with the kitty and FINALLY finish our wedding thank you notes.

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  • othy

    othy May 29, 2015, 3:30 pm

    Othello and I are celebrating our 9th anniversary tomorrow. And we’ve decided to do nothing but go out for a fancy meal and then spend the rest of the day chilling in our comfy pants watching TV. No errands, no chores, nothing.
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    We’re still slowly introducing the pup to the cats. He’s cool with the chill cats in the neighborhood, but he wants to chase after the ones who run. And of course, our cats have been more run than chill around him. So we’re working on doing visual introductions when they’re relaxed on the bed. It’s going slowly but we’re making some progress.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray May 29, 2015, 4:06 pm

    Tonight I have no plans. I may get a pedicure on my way home from work. And then I’m going to make a grilled cheese sandwich because pourquoi pas. Tomorrow I have lots of fun plans, including: massage, facial, friend’s book launch party, and dinner plans. PLUS, GUESS WHAT?! My sister is coming to town tomorrow for THREE interviews that she has next week — she’s SO CLOSE to getting a job in my city and I’M BEYOND EXCITED. It’s the answer to all my prayers. I’m going to have family in town, permanently, very soon!!!!!!!!!! I haven’t lived in the same town as family for over 10 years. JOY.

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    • Moneypenny

      Moneypenny May 29, 2015, 5:13 pm

      Aww, that’s so great about your sister moving!!

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray May 29, 2015, 7:05 pm

      Update: I ate a hot dog and Mac and cheese instead of the grilled cheese. Just to keep you informed.

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      • othy

        othy May 29, 2015, 7:36 pm

        But grilled cheese >>> hot dogs (however, mac and cheese, if well done, is on par with a grilled cheese).

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        d2 May 30, 2015, 7:52 pm

        As I read this, I am waiting for my mac and cheese to finish in the oven. Ah, the finer things in life…

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    Sue Jones May 29, 2015, 4:08 pm

    This is the last week of school for us here and each weekend for like the past month including this one I have had my son’s end of year stuff to go to. Recitals, martial arts tests, more recitals (dance), choir concerts…. Plus it rained 24 days this month which kind of sucks. I walked a 10K for Memorial Day with my son, because he wanted to and I figure he will be graduating high school in only 6 years so when he asks me to do something with him, I’d better do it! He wants me to do this Broadway singing and dancing camp with him this summer. He’s doing it and adults can do a little in the evening but I am not sure about that one, though I am thinking about it. I think I could pull off a good witch, like in Into the Woods (character is all about losing looks to aging, children growing up and moving out – you could say that I can relate). Work has been slower this week with everyone doing end of school and graduations and stuff so that is why I have had more time to comment about teenagers having sex. My husband has surgery next week. Should be routine to blast kidney stones (he’s done this before…) Otherwise I am looking forward to having some real summer weather and time for longer hikes and gardening.

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  • Moneypenny

    Moneypenny May 29, 2015, 5:12 pm

    Yikes, I’m sorry the week was so crappy for you! And double yikes for toddler terror. That’s definitely not something I look forward to (in future hypothetical children).
    Tomorrow I am going to buy new sunglasses, which is a big deal bc they’re prescription and I’ve had my current ones for 7 years, and I am SO excited to pick out new ones. (Even though I know they’re going to cost me a bit since I have expensive ones in mind.) My best friend from college is going to call me to catch up tomorrow (yay phone dates!), and I have a workout training session on sunday. Otherwise, I will be sitting in the sun, reading.
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    Also, I went on a date last night. It was good, pretty fun, we talked a lot (we went to close high schools and are from the same area, and knew a few of the same people in hs). When we parted, he said we should do this again, and I agreed, and he rushed off to catch his train before the light turned red. Now, the last time someone told me that, it never went anywhere, so do people just say this sort of thing when they don’t mean it? I dunno. Dating stinks.

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    • Moneypenny

      Moneypenny May 29, 2015, 5:15 pm

      OH ALSO: I will be in Denver on June 16-17. What should I do?!? And, are there any interesting places that I should stop at on the way to or from Denver and Grand Junction?

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        Anonymous May 29, 2015, 9:17 pm

        Is Glenwood Springs between? Right off I-70 and amazing hot pools!

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      • Moneypenny

        Moneypenny May 29, 2015, 10:08 pm

        Cool! I will look it up! 🙂

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        K June 1, 2015, 8:28 am

        Yes, Glenwood Springs is in between – we stopped there on the drive from Denver to Utah last June. We didn’t bathe in the springs but did eat at an amazing Polish restaurant! And enjoy the drive on I-70, it’s beautiful!

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      • Stonegypsy

        Stonegypsy June 1, 2015, 3:53 pm

        Oh! Denver. Oh my gosh, there’s so many fantastic things. And you’re coming during arguably one of the most beautiful parts of the year (my friends will tell you not to trust anything I say, because I’m prone to hyperbole, but they are the most wrong ever when they say things like that).
        But it all depends on what sorts of things you enjoy. I absolutely adore City Park, and they’ll have the fountain on. Great place to go and sit and have a picnic. There’s a view of the museum across the lake, too.
        Le Central is a fantastic place for a meal, but then I could say that about a huge number of restaurants in this city. It’s a good place for foodies.
        You could check out the botanic gardens, the art museum is fantastic, and in fact it’s worth it to just spend an afternoon wandering around downtown.
        And if you smoke weed, I feel like we have more dispensaries than coffee shops by this point.

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      jlyfsh May 29, 2015, 5:36 pm

      Sorry dating stinks, hopefully you still had fun!

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      • Moneypenny

        Moneypenny May 29, 2015, 5:39 pm

        I did have fun! That’s the most important part, right? 🙂

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        jlyfsh May 29, 2015, 5:43 pm

        Yes! 🙂

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    • Portia

      Portia May 29, 2015, 6:37 pm

      I just got my first pair of prescription sunglasses a few weeks ago! It seemed like a thing I didn’t need, then I could never wear regular sunglasses because I couldn’t see a thing, but I wear them any opportunity I have. For what it’s worth, I support the buying of expensive-ish prescription sunglasses. I mean, they’re expensive anyway…

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      • Moneypenny

        Moneypenny May 29, 2015, 10:11 pm

        Right!! I got new lenses in my current sunglasses frames when my Rx changed, and they were $300! Just for the lenses! Geez. And now my Rx is slightly different, again, and everything is *just* blurring enough that it’s noticeable. I take good care of them (I’ve had them for 7 years with no scratches) so I feel like it’s time to just splurge on some new ones! Besides, I’m getting crows feet so I need to protect my face.

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        K June 1, 2015, 8:31 am

        I’ve had my prescription sunglasses for maybe 4 years? But they’re all scratched and I want new ones. I might use Warby Parker since they’re cheaper and I just used them for my regular glasses. Hope you enjoy the new ones!

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    Sue Jones May 29, 2015, 6:10 pm

    This is the last week of school for us here and each weekend for like the past month including this one I have had my son’s end of year stuff to go to. Recitals, martial arts tests, more recitals (dance), choir concerts…. Plus it rained 24 days this month which kind of sucks. I walked a 10K for Memorial Day with my son, because he wanted to and I figure he will be graduating high school in only 6 years so when he asks me to do something with him, I’d better do it! He wants me to do this Broadway singing and dancing camp with him this summer. He’s doing it and adults can do a little in the evening but I am not sure about that one, though I am thinking about it. I think I could pull off a good witch, like in Into the Woods (character is all about losing looks to aging, children growing up and moving out – you could say that I can relate). Work has been slower this week with everyone doing end of school and graduations and stuff so that is why I have had more time to comment about teenagers having sex. My husband has surgery next week. Should be routine to blast kidney stones (he’s done this before…) Otherwise I am looking forward to having some real summer weather and time for longer hikes and gardening. I was having trouble posting earlier today, hopefully this goes through!

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    Jane63 May 29, 2015, 8:17 pm

    Good luck to you, Wendy. Hope all goes well! You won’t even remember this when you have a grand baby. Isn’t life awesome?!

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    Sunshine Brite May 30, 2015, 9:33 am

    Feel better Wendy! I’m such a real adult it’s like weirdly playing dress up for too long. I’m waiting for appliances to be delivered

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      d2 May 30, 2015, 8:02 pm

      Haha, I feel like an imposter and some day I will be found out that I have just been masquerading as an adult for all these years.

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    • Portia

      Portia May 31, 2015, 9:54 am

      I also feel like I’m playing adult: last weekend we installed a light fixture and took a trip to the country.

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    • othy

      othy May 31, 2015, 12:49 pm

      We installed new carbon monoxide/smoke detectors in our home. Then we bought 20 bags of mulch for the garden. When did I become an adult?

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    Sandy May 30, 2015, 10:16 am

    My weeks been stressful pretty much the entire time and when I’m stressed I cry so I’ve either cried or been on the verge of crying everyday this week. I even looked up kick boxing classes as a way to relieve some of this stress (I even looked up crossfit) but haven’t been able to get in contact with anyone at the gym. I’m feeling a lot better today after a decent nights sleep (finally) and I’m supposed to go swim 800m this afternoon o.o. I hope your weekend goes swimmingly Wendy! Sorry about the bad week.

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  • Lyra

    Lyra May 31, 2015, 8:01 am

    I’ve been off the radar the last few days due to moving this week and finishing it all up yesterday. I hate moving. But I LOVE the new place. So so so much. It’s a huge upgrade and SO CLOSE to a LAKE. Like I have 8 miles of walking trails around a lake literally 3 blocks from the new place. (ahem, Cassie and Sunshine Brite you guys are coming over, stat!) I still have no internet so I’m at the mercy of coffee shops and free wifi. Thus when I had to drop Navy Guy off at the airport to fly to his Navy training at an ungodly hour this morning, I decided to get stuff done online since the coffee shops were open and no one in their right mind was awake yet, yay!
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    Anywho, this weather has been PHENOMENAL so today will consist of a nice long walk or bike ride and finishing up some home projects! Yay!

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    Lizzle June 1, 2015, 2:48 pm

    Hey all. Getting in late on the open thread. This weekend was super weird. My parents came over for dinner last night and barely spoke. My husband was super antisocial and played video games upstairs until it was time for dinner. At least he played cards with us but after that he went back upstairs. Funky mood all around. Looking forward to my trip to Napa this weekend because I need some joy in my life.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy June 1, 2015, 3:15 pm

      Maybe blame mercury retrograde? Or, is your family normally so antisocial?

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