Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

Hi! I just remembered that I didn’t write a weekend open thread post yet. Oops. Happy Friday! It’s 5:40 PM and I just woke up from a nap. I don’t sleep well at night these days and, since Drew got home early today on account of going to to work at 6 AM, I handed Jackson off to him and crashed. Now I’m awake and waiting for dinner delivery. And writing this post. Hope you all have a wonderful weekend, full of good company and great food and the best weather and maybe a killer sunset and some ice cream, too. xox

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    fornowandtomorrow June 5, 2015, 6:06 pm

    Hope everyone is having a great start of the weekend!! I just became the rebound of a romantic interest/friend :/ I have terrible timing and attract MWLSE (men with low self esteem). How do I stop this?! >_<

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    • Lyra

      Lyra June 5, 2015, 6:31 pm

      Can you provide us with some more details? Like how did you guys get together, when did he break up with his girlfriend, how you feel about it, etc.

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        fornowandtomorrow June 5, 2015, 6:50 pm

        I mentioned this website to him once; hope he doesn’t wander over here >_< Met at an athletic-related group winter of last year. Didn't take notice of him until late March after he broke up earlier in the month. This fact I didn't find out until recently. After dating in May til now for 3 weeks, I noticed that he still missed his ex a bit, and was suffering from a crisis of confidence for quite some time. Says he never feels ready to date women. Decided to take a 'break' from dating b/c both of us have other priorities such as figuring out his life, and me finishing my academic program. I thought his intentions were good, until talking with another friend who mentioned that I was a rebound. Since I noticed his self-esteem was low, I looked up a couple articles online, which basically say that dating MWLSE is a bad, bad, bad idea. I feel like I know what I want in a guy, and he has most of the qualities I'm looking for. But we're both in places in our life that's in transition.

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        Lyra June 5, 2015, 7:11 pm

        Hmmm. Well I think breaking things off with him was a good idea, it’s obvious he wasn’t in a place to give you his full attention. Actually I applaud him (and you!) for realizing you weren’t ready to date each other. Obviously I don’t know the details, but I disagree with those articles you read…if you click and you like each other and you’re willing to date each other and open up, what does it matter? If you like someone and click with him, that kind of goes by the wayside anyway. In fact I think dating can *help* with self esteem and confidence issues. I’m not necessarily saying that someone should date solely to boost their own confidence, that’s obviously a horrible idea, but having someone who is supportive and loving and caring can help build up self esteem.
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        Anyway, sounds like this was just a case of bad timing which happens quite a bit. I would let him go and start dating other people for now.

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        fornowandtomorrow June 5, 2015, 7:23 pm

        Haha, yes it was surprisingly mature of both of us, I guess. Yeah, I get that dating can help boost confidence and has other pluses. My counselor told me that as well. I just don’t want to be somebody’s permanent set of crutches :/ I’m going to focus on finishing my program and getting a job first before going into the dating pool again. Thanks for the response! 🙂

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        Lyra June 5, 2015, 7:36 pm

        You’ve got your head on straight! 🙂 I think this guy really just wasn’t ready to date you.

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    d2 June 5, 2015, 6:06 pm

    I’m glad you are getting some rest! I dozed off while sitting at the computer and just woke up. But I didn’t have a good reason to fall asleep. Other than it’s Friday – is that a good enough reason?

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    Portia June 5, 2015, 8:10 pm

    A nap sounds lovely.
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    I woke up this morning and was pretty ready for Friday. Then Bassanio reminded me that we’re doing all this wedding stuff this weekend. So I hid under a pillow. And when I’m not doing that, I’ll be writing my article. Happy Friday?

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    • Portia

      Portia June 5, 2015, 8:33 pm

      Oh, and I convinced Bassanio to watch Wild with me by describing as “like A Walk in the Woods, but on the West Coast,” so we’ll see how long he lasts.

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        Portia June 6, 2015, 4:26 pm

        Update: he watched the whole movie, but I forgot to warn him about the needles and drug use. Oops!

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    Kate June 7, 2015, 8:37 am

    I’m just lying in bed on this beautiful Sunday morning, reconfiguring my shit list in my head. The room with all my clothes in it is being occupied by a person who’s now in one of the top spots on that list.

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    • coconot

      coconot June 7, 2015, 11:21 am

      This sounds like an interesting story waiting to be told…

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        Kate June 7, 2015, 11:46 am

        I’m done with the whole human race.

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        Dear Wendy June 7, 2015, 11:54 am

        Well, we need details.

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      • Portia

        Portia June 7, 2015, 12:35 pm

        Agreed.

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    Kate June 7, 2015, 1:03 pm

    Well my husband’s BFF of 20+ years, who was living 2,000 miles away for the past 3 years, just moved back to town. Not to blow him up online, but he’s a hot mess. We all went out last night but the rest of us went home at 11:30 and the two of them went out. They came home at 2 and my husband was annihilated, like I’ve rarely seen him. They had run into some of my friends at a club and i was worried about what he might have said, because he knows stuff about them, but they were all being typically dysfunctional. Then I kept being woken up by drunken stupidity all night. Luckily this shit almost never happens, but I hope it doesn’t become more frequent now that this guy is back home. His backstory is beyond ridiculous and is like a DW letter IRL that would enrage this community.

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      something random June 7, 2015, 4:30 pm

      Sorry. My husband and I’ve had versions of this come up. Luckily for us the toxic/train wreck friends were never all that close and pretty much faded away, naturally.

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    • Pamplemousse Rose

      Pamplemousse Rose June 7, 2015, 5:21 pm

      My husband’s trainwreaky friend is talking about moving to our city. I hope it’s all talk, but I’m worried. The problem is he doesn’t have other friends here and I’m not sure that he gets that my husband doesn’t have time to drink with him all the time, especially with a busy toddler and baby #2 on the way…

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    • Portia

      Portia June 7, 2015, 5:43 pm

      That sucks. I hope it doesn’t get worse/he spends more time with other friends.

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        Anonymous June 7, 2015, 5:51 pm

        Me too! thanks guys!

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    snoopy128 June 7, 2015, 4:42 pm

    I’ve been inside all weekend at a conference and it’s really eating away at me. It’s 30C and stunning out, I’m at a lakeside community in a motel with a pool and I spend 8am to 8pm inside and then need to get my other work done. This conference extends into next week.
    How do people get through conferences? I can’t leave as I play a minor administrative role 🙁

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    • something random

      something random June 7, 2015, 6:18 pm

      Can you Dear Wendy on your phone?

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    Kate June 7, 2015, 5:17 pm

    Conferences kill me. They are usually the worst!

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    mrmidtwenties June 7, 2015, 5:49 pm

    This weekend blows. I ended up in the hospital yesterday after throwing up all morning and with the worst aches, pains, and fever I’ve ever had. Luckily the ER was fairly quick and found I have bacterial pneumonia. I think there should be a rule if you get sick on the weekend, your weekend doesn’t count and you get to take 2 days off whenever you want.

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      something random June 7, 2015, 6:12 pm

      That sucks but I’m glad you’re on the mend. I think I’d give myself a Monday to fully recuperate if I could get away with it.

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark June 7, 2015, 9:40 pm

    I, too, have had a hilariously shitty weekend. Honestly, I sincerely think if I called a suicide hotline right now… they’d listen to me — then simply shrug before saying: “Oh, fuck yeah, dude. What are you waiting for? Go ahead. It’s time…”

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      something random June 7, 2015, 9:45 pm

      Sorry. I’ve never called a suicide hotline before so I don’t know what they’d say. I’m curious to know. Sorry you’re feeling low. I wish I knew how to help.

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    something random June 7, 2015, 9:58 pm

    Good night. Get some rest. All of you.

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