Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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Happy Friday, happy weekend, Happy Summer Solstice, and Happy Father’s Day to any of you DW men who are dads, including both my own father and my baby daddy, Drew. I am lucky to have been raised by a great dad and to be raising a family with a man who is not only a fantastic father, but also a pretty kick-ass husband. And as my gift to him, I am going to try to go maybe two hours on Sunday without complaining about my chronic discomfort and pain, my complete inability to sleep at all ever, and my relentless heartburn and indigestion. Don’t get too excited, Drew — I said try. Other than that, I’ll probably spend the rest of the weekend guzzling antacid and practicing relaxation techniques in vain. Holla!

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  • Dear Wendy

    Dear Wendy June 19, 2015, 8:30 pm

    Oops, I don’t know why comments were closed on this — sorry.

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    Kate June 20, 2015, 5:55 am

    I’m excited because one of my personal pet projects came to success yesterday. There’s a guy at work, 3 or 4 years out of college, who I started working closely with a year ago. He doesn’t report to me but he’s the project manager on a lot of my stuff and he’s awesome. Last summer it seemed like he was being slightly underpaid, so I got a round of feedback for him, identified a couple of minor things to work on, and then wrote a script for him to talk to his boss, and he got a raise. Since then he’s been looking to get promoted to Senior PM, so we have been strategizing and updating his “case” regularly. He got another raise a few months ago, and finally yesterday he got the promotion and a $15K raise that sets him up to get to six figures next time. I’m selfishly happy because now he won’t leave, and I really need him if I’m going to do well in my new job. Anyway, I learned this crap from my mom and from reading books, and he said he had felt at a disadvantage because his parents aren’t in the corporate world and couldn’t give him this kind of advice, so I feel good that I could pass it on. I’m starting to work on another one now, more of a challenge.

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    • Portia

      Portia June 20, 2015, 6:36 am

      That’s really great of you for helping him out. I know I’ve appreciated my mentors/advisors who have helped out in work/school.

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    • Lianne

      Lianne June 22, 2015, 7:31 am

      That’s awesome, Kate! I can attest to the good professional advice you provide. I’ve been the beneficiary of it a few times! 🙂

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  • Portia

    Portia June 20, 2015, 6:30 am

    I solved what seemed to be turning into a huge family incident this week by talking to people directly. I feel like such an adult. Also I’m kinda glad my mom saw my aunt in all of her crazy, dramatic glory and now I have one high-profile incident to point to when I don’t want to invite her to something in the future. Because she is a pill.

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  • thewriteway

    thewriteway June 20, 2015, 8:11 am

    For those of you that have followed my dating adventures thread in the forum, I can say I have not heard from “Ryan” (from OKCupid) in three days ever since he came to me insisting he needed my help with his life crisis. I did not respond back to him either. It still remains to be seen if he’ll re-materialize, but I’m done with him either way. I also feel lied to since he said he wanted to take it slow with meeting someone, but he ran into wanting my emotional availability after one date.

    The best part of this whole thing was when a friend of mine insisted that I need to talk to Ryan so he can learn what he did wrong and grow from it, and it’s also great for me if I communicate with him so I can develop too! After all, she did that to her husband who came on too fast and they’ve been married three years! I mean…I guess it’s good advice if I were already committed to Ryan, but do I really owe him an explanation and hand holding about how intense he was after one meeting?

    Oh well. In other news, I had my first orientation for my new job on Tuesday. I was overwhelmed at first, but now I’m feeling a little better and trying to throw myself into the material I have to work on at home as much as possible. I have three more trainings next week and I might even end up re-thinking my career. The latter is too early to make a decision on yet, but it’s definitely opened my eyes more to other ideas!

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    • Portia

      Portia June 20, 2015, 8:52 am

      My vote is you definitely don’t owe it to him. I mean, you never owe anyone an explanation. It’s great things worked out for your friend, but it’s a different situation/person. And it’s not your job to fix him.

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      sarita_f June 22, 2015, 1:13 pm

      TWW – OMG no. Don’t listen to that friend ever again, her advice was horrible. Seriously – you didn’t want to see the guy again after he got creepy (good instinct). He is now not in touch. PROBLEM SOLVED. Don’t poke the bear by tracking him down for unsolicited feedback. You met him once, you aren’t qualified to give him advice on anything. MAYBE if he asked, but even then I would vote to not reply, that would just be a way to get a response out of you. Anyways.

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  • Pamplemousse Rose

    Pamplemousse Rose June 20, 2015, 5:27 pm

    Yesterday was an exciting day! In the morning we went to the lawyer to sign the paperwork for our house – we get possession on Thursday, brining our 5 month long selling/moving/buying a house saga to a close.

    Then in the afternoon I had an ultrasound and we got to see our new little one is looking healthy, with a strong heartbeat of 163!! (If wives’ tales are to be believed, that means it’s another girl) I’ll be 11 weeks tomorrow (which is fig-sized for those comparing to fruit).

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy June 20, 2015, 5:57 pm

      Congratulations on all fronts!

      My baby is apparently the size of a head of romaine lettuce but feels like a big watermelon to me.

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki June 21, 2015, 10:27 am

        One of my apps said mine is the size of a cantaloupe and another said pineapple. But I think watermelon is probably much more accurate. I have had a little heartburn until this past week when it has hit me hard. My midwife recommended ranitidine and that seems to help a little.

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        Dear Wendy June 21, 2015, 11:35 am

        Oh, I haven’t heard of that — I’ll have to check it out. I only had a teeny amount of heartburn with Jackson, but it’s been just horrendous with this pregnancy. Actually, almost all the symptoms have been much, much worse this time. It’s crazy how pregnancies can differ so much even for the same woman. I’m sorry you’ve been hit hard with the heartburn, too. Just a few more weeks to go!

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        RedRoverRedRover June 21, 2015, 11:41 am

        FYI ranitidine is just Zantac. At least in Canada. I’ve been on it on and off to help with acid reflux. So you don’t need a prescription unless you need a higher dose.

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki June 21, 2015, 6:00 pm

        Yep, just zantac. I bought generic and couldn’t remember which one the name brand was.

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        Cleopatra Jones June 21, 2015, 5:51 pm

        The old wives’ tale is that when you have a lot of heartburn the baby will have a head full of hair (at least that what my mom always said). I’m not sure how true it is BUT I had A LOT of heartburn with my last one. I was eating Tums like they were candy–handfuls at a time and my kiddo was born with a whole head of soft curly hair. : -)

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        Dear Wendy June 21, 2015, 6:25 pm

        I’ve heard that too! In the last ultrasound I had, five weeks ago, I swear I saw some curly hair. I have another ultrasound this Thursday — maybe I’ll get a better look this time. Otherwise, I shall have to wait til I meet her in person. I’m especially curious what color her hair will be!

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  • Pamplemousse Rose

    Pamplemousse Rose June 20, 2015, 6:12 pm

    Thanks Wendy! The reason we decided to sell our lovely little house was so that our family could grow, plus this new house puts us in a position that I don’t have to go back to work after this one if I don’t want to. We’re very happy with how it’s worked out 🙂

    Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy. I hope it is uneventful until she make her arrival!

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  • honeybeenicki

    honeybeenicki June 21, 2015, 10:25 am

    Happy father’s day to all the men out there. Our weekend started terrible, but its OK now I guess. My husband woke me up in a panic Friday morning because our dog had gotten really sick, couldn’t really walk, was cold and pale and was completely lethargic. He’d been a little sick earlier in the week, but had (we thought) gotten better. We rushed him to the emergency vet at 6am. Apparently he had multiple masses, likely in his GI tract and one was causing massive internal bleeding and his spleen was triple the size it should have been. Because of the blood loss and his age and other factors, they said we could do meds or treatment that might give him a few days or weeks. We thought that would be selfish of us so we made the decision to let him go. It was devastating.
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    We had plans to do a pre-baby trip so we still did that. I think it made it a little easier to not sit at home and miss him. We managed to have some fun, but we’re home again and it seems so empty. Luckily our other dog appears to be completely unaffected. She is snoring away stretched out on the couch.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy June 21, 2015, 11:45 am

      Oh, no! I’m so sorry about your dog. That IS devastating. *big hugs*

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki June 21, 2015, 6:02 pm

        Thank you. It sucks and I’m sure will continue to suck. They’re family and we had no notice. We may or may not have adopted a kitten today. Turns out grief makes it hard for me to say no.

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        Dear Wendy June 21, 2015, 6:24 pm

        A kitten will make things better! And so will a baby. But, yeah, losing a pet is terrible under any circumstances. To lose one when you’re very pregnant and have no notice is especially hard, I would think (we almost lost Miles when I was 8 months pregnant with Jackson during a sudden and fast-moving illness; we were very lucky, but I remember just the thought of unexpectedly saying good-bye to him broke my heart). Hang in there.

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      • Lianne

        Lianne June 22, 2015, 7:35 am

        So sad honeybee 🙁 I am so sorry for your loss. I hope the kitten fills the void for you a bit. We got ours right after my miscarriage (getting him had already been planned, so the timing was coincidental) and it helped immensely. I have so much love for that little guy!!!

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      • something random

        something random June 22, 2015, 8:02 am

        Sorry about your dog. Good luck with your new kitten.

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  • Amybelle

    Amybelle June 22, 2015, 8:26 am

    I had similar stomach issues when I was pregnant with my twins. I tried so many different things but ginger tea helped the most. You make it from fresh ginger root, chop up about 2 tsp, put it in a mug, pour boiling water over it and steep for about 10-15 minutes, then remove the ginger. I usually put some honey in it. It’s good as iced tea with honey and lemon too. Works for children with upset tummies as well.

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    for_cutie June 22, 2015, 11:25 am

    Aww poor Wendy – I had horrible heartburn constantly with both of my kids. For my first I would drink 1 tablespoon of baking soda mixed in water before bed. It tasted awful, but it was the only thing that calmed the acid so I could sleep. For my second I took ranitidine daily like @honeybeenicki recommended and it made a huge difference in my symptoms. Good luck Momma, your baby girl will be here soon!

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