Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread: October!

Everyone! I’m officially fullterm (37 weeks pregnant) which, for someone who was at risk for preterm pregnancy is pretty big. My due date’s still three weeks away, but basically I can expect to go into labor at any point now (well, at any point between now and, like, five weeks from now). Anyone want to guess when the big day will be? And how much this baby will weigh? And what his name will be? I’m guessing October 18 for the birth date. I know the name already, so it’s not fair for me to guess that. And weight? I don’t know. Maybe on the smallish side — about 6 lbs. 11 oz, I’m going to say. I’ve only gained about 16 pounds myself — which is sort of a surprise since I’ve been eating ice cream by the truckload — so I can’t imagine the baby is too big. Although, in the middle of the night when he’s pressing on my bladder, he sure feels like a lead balloon.

Anyway, all this is to say: man, I’m exhausted. It’s really hit me this week. I can barely keep my eyes open these days, but at night I just toss and turn and can’t get more than a few hours sleep. All the pregnancy books I read say this is nature’s way of preparing me for the sleepless nights ahead with a newborn. Well, nature, I’d rather rest up and enjoy my final days of peace.

Since I’m so tired, I’m at loss for a good weekend open thread topic today. And since I certainly can’t top last week’s — I loved reading about all of you, by the way! — I’m going to leave this as a true open thread and invite you to discuss whatever you want: relationship woes, happy news, bad news, October!, fall recipes, what new shows you’re liking this season, what baseball teams you’re rooting for in the post season, etc., etc. Go crazy. And I’m gonna go take a nap. Happy Weekend, and Happy October (the month I’ve been waiting for all year…)!!

P.S. How great is the video above, released yesterday? Two of my faves: Paris and Adele.

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    Emsz September 30, 2011, 5:18 pm

    Going to a party this weekend, thrown by my grandparents because they will have been married 59 years next week. 🙂

    Also, it has been 23C here for the last week >.<. This is way too hot for almost October (we normally get those temperatures in summer).

    Another thing: does anybody have any advice for getting rid of fruit flies? My room is being invaded, and I have absolutely no idea where they're coming from, but I find them quite annoying!

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      Joanna September 30, 2011, 5:49 pm

      Do you have any open containers (or glasses) of water? I noticed that seems to attract them.

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        MissDre September 30, 2011, 6:18 pm

        Pour a bit of wine into the bottom of a small bowl. Cover the bowl with plastic cling wrap and poke a bunch of holes in it with a pen. The little flies go in through the holes and then drown in the wine. Worked like a charm in my Mom’s kitchen 🙂

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        LennyBee September 30, 2011, 6:31 pm

        I do the same with vinegar rather than wine. Works every time. It is kind of gross to have a bowl of dead flies in your kitchen though…

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        amber September 30, 2011, 8:15 pm

        yep vinegar or wine and mix a little dish soap in so that they can’t land on top of water (it breaks the surface tension) and they’re less likely to be able get back out if the little holes are too big, etc. i hate fruit flies by the way they drive me crazy. we had an infestation in our lab one time and i thought i was going to lose my mind!

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      Marie September 30, 2011, 6:34 pm

      Pour vinegar into a wine glass, then add soap. The detergent destroys the surface tension so the when the flies touch the surface they drown. Suffering a fruit fly invasion myself – not fun!

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        amber September 30, 2011, 8:15 pm

        totally didn’t even read yours until i posted mine! the dish soap is the key 😉

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    Landygirl September 30, 2011, 5:30 pm

    Another one of my favorite bloggers (The Sassy Curmudgeon – Una LaMarche) just had a baby last weekend. It must be something in the water in NY! She had a home birth …http://volcanicensemble.blogspot.com/2011/09/baby-joy.html

    Another touching video I saw earlier today of a deaf woman hearing her voice for the very first time…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsOo3jzkhYA

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    MissDre September 30, 2011, 6:14 pm

    Woo Hoo! Congrats Wendy! So happy for you and I cannot WAIT to hear what the baby’s name is 🙂 Well, I’m happy that it’s October because Thanksgiving is only a week away and I can’t wait to sit at a table with my whole family and eat my Mama’s home made pumpkin pie. Mmmmmmmm!

    Question for the open thread: is anyone here on Ritalin? I just started it this week and I’m not really noticing much difference in my focus yet. My doctor said it would be like a light bulb going on in my head but I still feel pretty much as sluggish and unfocused as usual. Which sucks because I’m worried about my review at work coming up next month. I don’t think my boss is all that happy with my performance 🙁

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      PinkPanther September 30, 2011, 10:03 pm

      I’m not on Ritalin but I started taking an anti-depressant early last week and it took me about a week to really start to feel any difference… it might just take a few days for it to really kick in? Hope it starts to work for you soon! 🙂

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        MissDre October 1, 2011, 11:29 am

        I have been on an anti-depressant for a few years now. It was a tough go for me… it took three tries to get the right meds and in the beginning they all made me sick. Thank goodness I’ve found the right one now. Good luck to you, I hope you start feeling better.

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        PinkPanther October 1, 2011, 1:01 pm

        Glad to hear that you’ve been able to find a medication that is working for you. After almost two weeks on this medication, I am feeling significantly better. In the first few days I thought it was making me worse, but now it’s better. I’m hoping the trend continues. Before starting the medication, I was getting so worked up that I hadn’t been eating and had absolutely no appetite. I was force feeding myself. It’s nice to actually have a bit of an appetite again.

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      Lindsey September 30, 2011, 10:38 pm

      MissDre, your post caught my attention because of two things. One, I see you are Canadian. (me too! I’m in Toronto)

      And second of all, I noticed your comment about Ritalin because I am in the process of learning about whether I have ADHD. I haven’t been offically diagnosed yet but I’m fairly certain and am concerned about meds and what I should be taking/not taking, etc. I’d love to hear your experiences. (I know meds are different for everyone but perspective is always great).

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        MissDre October 1, 2011, 11:35 am

        Yay Canada! I went to school in Toronto (Centennial in the Danforth) but I’m back home in Ottawa now.

        As for me, I think I’ve been ADD my whole life but never really knew what it was. But then I just randomly read an article about adult ADD and I was like this is it! This is what’s wrong with me! So I went to the doctor and he put me on a very low dose of Ritalin (just 10mg in the morning, and he told me next week to start taking one at lunch as well).

        I can’t really say if it’s working or not. I thought it would be like a switch and all of a sudden I’d be able to pay attention at work and stop procrastinating (perhaps I had unrealistic expectations).

        My doctor told me to see how this goes and come back in a month. If I think it’s working, we’ll decide what medication / dose I should stick with (I’d prefer to be on a non-stimulant because I am epileptic and have insomnia). But he said I need to really notice a difference, because if the difference is minimal it’s not worth putting another pill in my body.

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      jess October 1, 2011, 6:51 am

      i took add medication for a long time (6 years every day, now I have a prescription but I choose not to take it) and there’s definitely a love-hate relationship with it. He must have you on a very low dose for you not to notice, which is good. If you take too much its like being on meth. personally, i think in 10-15 years that ritalin and adderall will be illegal in the US (as they are in many european countries), i think they are very dangerous and bad for people. They change you. They literally change your personality, and I’ve seen in my self and in others this change can be permanent.

      at the very least, they have this effect for sure:
      http://www.joeydevilla.com/2008/01/08/calvin-and-hobbes-now-with-ritalin/

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        jess October 1, 2011, 6:52 am

        btw the effects are immediate, the reason you don’t actively notice is because your dose is low. Your focus might be improving without you noticing. Please do NOT count on ritalin to keep you from feeling sluggish/tired- the drug is addictive when used this way.

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        MissDre October 1, 2011, 11:40 am

        I’m on just 10mg in the morning and will increase to a second pill at lunch next week. I actually plan to ask my doctor to switch me to a non-stimulant, but he gave me the low dose of Ritalin as a test (he’s the type of doctor that doesn’t like to prescribe pills unless absolutely necessary, which is good).

        I just have a very hard time focusing on anything. People at work talk to me and I don’t take in what they’re saying because I have 20 other thoughts bouncing around in my head. Then I have to ask a million questions. I seem to have trouble even pushing myself to finish the smallest tasks!

        Not to mention at home, I leave the milk out on the counter all the time, I lose my keys, can’t remember to put things away for the life of me and I’m very cluttered even though it overwhelms me. I just want to feel normal.

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        MissDre October 1, 2011, 11:40 am

        Oh and so far, it just makes me feel like I had a second coffee. Although, I did get more work done this week while in the office… it’s just that I still struggled through it.

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        Jess October 2, 2011, 8:53 am

        Yea, I know what you mean. My childhood was rather miserable because I was constantly getting ragged on by teachers for being too messy/chaotic. I even had a teacher dump out my desks (yes, i had TWO extremely messey desks 🙁 ) in front of the whole class and make me organize my stuff while the other kids watched. Ugh I have a story like that for every teacher. I went on adderall when I was 18 and never would have had the grades i did in university without it.

        Still, looking back on it, I feel like we just live in a round hole society, and us “ADD” people are just square pegs. Adderall/ritalin change you into a round peg. It’s very 1984.

        I truly believe ADD is not a defect, not a disorder, but just our personalities. Ideally we would just find lifestyles/careers that would match us, but that’s pretty difficult in our current society.

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        Jess October 2, 2011, 8:58 am

        Also I want to add, just like you see in that Calvin and Hobbes cartoon, the “Add personality” comes with good things too- creativity, sponatenousness, excitement, imagination, etc etc

        Ritalin/adderall get rid of those things too along with the forgetfulness and chaos. I stopped taking adderall because I didn’t like the “round peg” I became. I just wanted to be myself again. I realized for me, “normal” was me *without* medication, even if I was more chaotic and day dreamy than other people.

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      kali October 1, 2011, 4:44 pm

      If Thanksgiving is only a week away, you must be in Canada, right? Because for the Yanks in the group, it’s at the fourth Thursday in November…

      And my little sister was on Ritalin as a kid but it never worked correctly and they took her off it rather quickly. Good luck with getting your meds adjusted properly.

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      Britannia October 1, 2011, 11:04 pm

      If you absolutely need a pharmaceutical solution to the ADHD problem, this: http://adhd.emedtv.com/ritalin-la/alternatives-to-ritalin-la-p2.html is a list of alternative medications.

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    Ruby September 30, 2011, 6:44 pm

    I’m eating a cookie-dough chocolate chip cup cake right now!
    Yummmm! :o)

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      Ladybug October 1, 2011, 8:26 am

      OK, that sounds like a tiny bit of heaven in a baking cup–did you make it or know how it’s made? I’m experimenting with cupcakes and that just made my list of varieties to attempt.

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        MissDre October 1, 2011, 11:41 am

        I love cheesecake cupcakes 🙂

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        amber October 1, 2011, 1:00 pm

        is that all cheesecake or the kind that are chocolate but filled with cheesecake then have cream cheese frosting? those are my favorite! 🙂

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        MissDre October 1, 2011, 2:53 pm

        All cheesecake. You just mix cheesecake batter like you normally would. Then for the crust, place a Nilla Wafer upside down in each cupcake paper (it will soften and flatten out as it bakes). Fill the papers, bake for 45 minutes. When they cool down, top them with your favourite pie filling (I love cherry, or lemon) and chocolate shavings.

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        amber October 1, 2011, 8:40 pm

        yum! i think i need some now 🙂

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      Michele October 1, 2011, 7:00 pm

      *drool*

      That sounds incredible! 😀

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    GatorGirl September 30, 2011, 6:50 pm

    Congratulations Wendy!! You’re so close! I like the 27th for the babe’s arrival.

    This weekend I am super looking forward to the Florida vs Alabama game! We’re heading out at 7am tomorrow to set up the tailgate, and have great tickets, GO GATORS!

    I’m usually very excited for October…but living in FL it is kind of a drag…the high today was 92, not exactly fall weather. I’m hoping to get a hay ride in this month, also some delicious Ocktoberfest beer (which I’ve been drinking since August but I’m looking forward to drinking more). Also pumpkin carving, I can not wait!!

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    L September 30, 2011, 6:51 pm

    Anybody have any tips in how to discuss transition from a long distance relationship to a not-so-long distance relationship (but not living together)? My boyfriend and I have opened a huge can of worms recently in discussing what might be in the cards for our future and we’re having some MAJOR issues compromising and often get into arguments. How does one find the middle ground?

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      savannah September 30, 2011, 7:58 pm

      Ahh, my boyfriend and I are going thought the same issue right now for a move probably in the new year. He just can’t seem to understand the idea that I will need my own place for a while (I’m the one moving) which is #1 on Wendy’s list. He just doesn’t see the value in having some relationship time between LDR and living together. It’s definitely been a issue of contention in the past few weeks and his reasoning, that I love his apt, the real estate market is so crazy right now and i’ll be over at his place all the time anyway, just furthers my feeling that I need to be approaching the conversation differently.

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        L September 30, 2011, 10:01 pm

        I’m in the same boat, Savannah. I don’t want to live together, he does. I feel as though the dynamic of our relationship would be drastically different even if we could just see each other once every week…or even just once every two weeks! The distance has really burdened me recently. It’s been stressful talking about all this potential change and we’re both too stubborn for our own good. Not to mention it won’t happen for a while yet, we’re just trying to get things settled and asking the tough questions like “are we still on the same page?” “what role do our careers play in this transition?” “what if one gets a job really REALLY far away?” It’s been stressful. Ugh.

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        Bekah October 1, 2011, 5:05 am

        I moved around the world to be with my boyfriend. We had separate places for 6 months and then moved in together. It was the right thing to do for so many reasons. It is stressful to end an LDR because you are so used to only getting to communicate with someone on one level. Suddenly, you have to communicate on all levels. It is definitely something you need to ease into!

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        savannah October 1, 2011, 3:51 pm

        The distance has been burdensome to you and you want to move closer to him but you’re talking about only wanting to see him once a week or two? Maybe that is confusing to him in this sense: One of the reasons my boyfriend is having trouble with the separate apartments is that in our LDR when I am ‘with him’ I am living(staying) with him and when I am ‘away’ I am living with other people. Things are really black and white in that sense and we both act differently towards each other depending on the distance situation, and the time we give to our relationship is very different. It feels very all or nothing.
        About all of these questions you’re bringing up, we’ve been discussing some of them too and for a while I was a lot more concerned with having mutual answers to all of these ‘what if’ questions than my boyfriend. But he felt like I was ‘what if’ing’ our relationship to death and reminded me that you cant plan a relationship around a break up. While I now think he’s right I also think that what you guys are talking about is great and essential to coming to some sort of shared idea or even priorities. I feel like it’s a hard but important balance to strike.

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        L October 1, 2011, 4:19 pm

        Oh trust me I’d much rather see him every (or almost every) day. We’re at a point where seeing each other once every six weeks is difficult due to scheduling. We also need to think practically and think about our future jobs too, and it is very likely that we would not be able to get jobs in the same town. If he was an hour away instead of five, I would be able to drive out to see him essentially whenever I wanted which is something we don’t have right now.

        We are also both at points in our personal lives where we have major transitions going on — finding full time jobs, trying to find a place to settle down, etc. Adding all that together had just created a royal mess. I wish the solutions were easier to work out.

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      Wendy September 30, 2011, 7:09 pm

      Here you go:

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      GatorGirl September 30, 2011, 8:29 pm

      I just moved 900 miles in June to end a 2 year and 10 month long distance phase of my relationship!! I actually am one of the people who wrote into DW about this same subject! All of Wendy’s advice was spot on, I do have a few things of my own to add.

      -In regards to separate places, this was a very hard call for us. We lived together for 2 months, and have had our own places for 2 months, and are seriously regretting having 10 more months of individual leases. My suggestion is to get separate places with a 6 month lease, that way if you’re not locked into anything too long
      -Do a date night. Even though we were spending way more time together, I found that we sat at home in out PJ’s a lot. Dressing up and going out even for just one drink or ice cream is keeping the “new-ness” that our LDR had going.
      -TALK! If it drives you nuts that he leaves his socks in the living room or any other thing bring it up and talk about it. And don’t forget you’re not perfect either.
      -Wendy said give it 3 months, we found the 2.5 to 3.5 month point to be the most difficult. So I would say maybe give it 4 or 6 months.

      Good luck and enjoy it! It’s a really fun, exciting but challenging transition!

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    fast eddie September 30, 2011, 6:00 pm

    My wife finally retired yesterday and we’ll host a neighborhood potluck tomorrow evening to kick off her new found freedom from having to get up and go to work. I’ll smoke a salmon, ceviche appetizer, ambrosia salad, melons from the garden and what ever else shows up.

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      callmehobo October 1, 2011, 12:41 am

      Ohh, Congratulations to your wife, Eddie!

      Also, your potluck sounds like it is going to be the bee’s knees.

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      Anna October 2, 2011, 6:37 pm

      Hooray for freedom! I wish I could retire…

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    JC McCandless September 30, 2011, 7:02 pm

    I’m guessing Oct. 20th for your baby, and 7 lbs. 2 oz. Good luck! It will be amazing!

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      fast eddie September 30, 2011, 7:34 pm

      I’ll take the 19th in the late morning while I’m have some basil cells cut off my nose. Don’t fret folks it’s really minor.

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    A.P September 30, 2011, 7:27 pm

    Adele can do no wrong <3

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    jubietta September 30, 2011, 7:41 pm

    Get Your Mamms Grammed

    It’s that time of the year for me, and I wanted to put a reminder out there to anyone who has breasts of their own or apprecitaes them on a friend or family member – Mammograms Save Lives. If you’re due for your annual screening, make an appointment. If you know someone who might need one, encourage them. Cancer sucks!

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      JK September 30, 2011, 7:54 pm

      Regular breast exams (as well as all the rest) really are so important.
      My OB/GYN orders them routinely, 2 years ago (at 30, with a 1 year old), I had to get a biopsy due to some very suspicious images in the mammo. After what was probably the worst month of my life til I got the results back, luckily everything was ok, now I bug all the women in my life to make sure to get checked regularly!

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      fast eddie October 1, 2011, 10:02 am

      If you have ANYTHING going on with your breasts DO NOT ACCEPT the easily given opinion of “it’s nothing to be concerned about” based on a mammogram.

      Breast cancer is extremely scary and mammograms are the least invasive diagnostic method of detection but they are NOT CONCLUSIVE proof of being cancer free. My wife had lumps that were painful when pressed. Multiple grams and needle biopsies were negative and the lumps got larger and more painful. A surgical biopsy confirmed cancer that had spread to the lymph system. She went through surgery and treatments with ongoing estrogen suppressant. Five years later it can back on her ovary, had more surgery and increased the suppressant dosage. It’s still in her lymph system and could come out anyplace in her body anytime.

      Hers isn’t an isolated case. If you have any reason to suspect that somethings going on, go to whatever means of getting a conclusive diagnosis. Your life depends on it.

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    cdubs September 30, 2011, 7:41 pm

    I’m going to guess October 22, 6lbs 9oz, and his name will be Brennan (totally pulled that out of my butt, altho I’m getting married on the 22nd, so that’s where that came from!)

    On an open discussion note, I am originally from NJ, and worked in NY for a year before moving to DC to be with my bf (now soon-to-be-husband) and my friends from college. Well, I’ve decided I’m tired of this area, and want to move back to NY. I never actually LIVED in NY before tho (just commuted) so I would love some advice (ps SUPER EXCITED to finally move to the city after wanting to for so long!). But anyway!

    Apartment hunting in the city is much different than anywhere else, and I also don’t know the best neighborhoods to live in (Manhattan or Brooklyn). NYers….any advice?

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      katie September 30, 2011, 8:11 pm

      i had a friend who was swindled out of like 2 grand trying moving to NYC… so just be careful with the apartment searching!

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        cdubs September 30, 2011, 8:39 pm

        Eep! How did that happen?

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        katie September 30, 2011, 8:56 pm

        i dont remember exactly, but it was something like he was looking for apartments on websites, places like craigslist… and he found one that he thought was great, and the guy wanted a “down payment” on the rent or something weird like that…. and so he forked over the 2 grand the guy wants (maybe it was the first months rent? i dunno), and never heard from him again, and found out it was a fake address.

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        Bethany October 1, 2011, 12:02 pm

        Same thing happened to a friend of mine- In Philly though. The guy showed her the apartment, she signed a lease and gave him $$. She showed up to move in and the key he gave her didn’t work. She tried calling him- no answer. A girl who lived in the building said that she’d seen a couple other people coming in trying to move in too. She went to the police and they tracked him down and they went to court. Well, he kept no-showing for court. It’s been several years and she still hasn’t gotten her money back!

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      Kristen October 1, 2011, 11:04 am

      That’s my longtime boyfriend’s name too!

      It’s a good one 🙂

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    JK September 30, 2011, 7:50 pm

    I had the worst start to the day today, I found out that a friend of the family had passed away after a long battle with melanoma. She really was a brave person, always thinking of others (she was really sick already and would ask me about my pregnancy), and maintained her sense of humour til the very end.
    She had a great blog http://melanomalisa.blogspot.com/?spref=fb for all those interested, very inspirational. Probably a good idea to keep tissues handy though.

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      cookiesandcream September 30, 2011, 8:01 pm

      My condolences for your loss, and I’m sending good thoughts your way! I took a look at her blog, and you’re right! Your friend seems like an amazing person and very inspirational!

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    katie September 30, 2011, 8:12 pm

    wendy, im guessing the 23rd, only because that’s my birthday!

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    Rachelgrace53 September 30, 2011, 7:53 pm

    Ok I’m guessing October 16, but I like the 18th a lot too. I’m guessing one of his names will be Jude. And I think he will be 6 lbs. 10 oz. Can’t wait to see him!

    I’d just like to say that despite all the relationshit I’ve been through the past couple weeks, I’m hoping/expecting to be completely cheered up tomorrow by the most intensely beautiful fall weather North Carolina has ever seen, just in time for my town’s Apple Festival tomorrow! Excited! If my windows had screens, I’d leave them open all night!

    I’ll leave you with a link to track the progression of autumnal foliage! I don’t know about anyone else, but I’m excited!!

    Happy resting, Wendy!

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      cdubs September 30, 2011, 8:39 pm

      Ahhh leave my windows open with the fall weather is one of my favorite things EVER! That was a hard part in moving to our apt. I love our current apt, but the windows don’t open 🙁

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        cdubs September 30, 2011, 8:39 pm

        *leaving

        yeesh.

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        Rachelgrace53 September 30, 2011, 9:36 pm

        Wow isn’t that a fire hazard? And also, a major bummer??

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        cdubs September 30, 2011, 10:30 pm

        Well we do have a balcony door (no screen). But yes it is a total bummer 🙁

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    JK September 30, 2011, 9:32 pm

    I´m guessing the 13th for the baby, no idea the weight though.
    Wendy, it might be easier for you to catnap throughout the day, even if you dont actually sleep just lying down for an hour or so will help you rest. Not necessarily for the sleepless nights (I lucked out and both my daughters were great sleepers, I had to wake the oldest up on the very first night for her to feed!!), but for the birth. Even if it isn´t too long (again in my case I was lucky, both births lasted 4 and a half hours from 1st contraction to baby) you definitely need all the strength you can muster! (It´s really not that bad though!! or again, maybe I was lucky)

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    Lolabeans September 30, 2011, 9:46 pm

    I’m spending the weekend with my boyfriend, it’s my birthday (23) on Wednesday, so he is treating me o a night away in niagara on the lake (wine country). I’m soooooo excited!

    Next weekend we are heading home home to Ottawa for thanksgiving and have 3 turkey dinners to eat and all friends. I can’t wait! Gatineau Park will be beautiful with all the colored leaves.

    Congrats Wendy, on making it to full term. Great news, I’m sure you’re very relieved! Enjoy your weekend and. Hope you get some good resting in.

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      Lolabeans September 30, 2011, 9:47 pm

      Oh and I’ll go with October 17th, 5lbs 4 oz.

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    Lindsey September 30, 2011, 10:48 pm

    I’ve had the craziest week this week. I’m dealing with some stuff with my business and I ended up on a writing bender for the last 24 hours. (Getting ready to go to bed soon). It’s been one of those weeks with very high ups and some crazy lows. I lost a client today but several hours later one of my clients added things for me to write, which may make up the difference.

    I’ve been a bit bummed about the fact that I might have Add but at the same time had a very rewarding conversation with my sister that blew my mind.

    So positives and negatives!

    But I wanted to pass on a great tip that I learned this week. Someone mentioned that instead of having a bigt to do list that stresses you out, you should have a list of things you’ve already accomplished. I wrote them all out on my whiteboard and every day I want to add to it. Now that it’s Friday I look at it and realize I did more work then I thought!

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    Addie Pray September 30, 2011, 11:52 pm

    I’m going with: Oct. 17, Noah, 6 pounds, 6 ounces

    Boom!

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    callmehobo October 1, 2011, 12:46 am

    Dang, Addie you took my day AND my name guess. I like Noah Atterberry. It sounds like the plucky hero in a really good read. But I think the weight is gonna be 8lbs 4oz- nobody’s made any chubster predictions yet!

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      Addie Pray October 1, 2011, 5:01 am

      If I *win*, I’ll share bragging rights.

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        callmehobo October 1, 2011, 11:45 am

        Hahaha, that’s so generous of you, Addie 😉

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    Skyblossom October 1, 2011, 9:58 am

    Oct. 5, 6lbs and 2oz, with the middle name Andrew. No idea for a first name.

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    Bethany October 1, 2011, 11:58 am

    I got married last weekend (!!!), so this weekend I’m adjusting to real life again! I started by sleeping for 14 hours last night (sorry Wendy- don’t mean to rub it in!). Our wedding situation was VERY stressful, and it took a huge physical toll on me. We were married on Hatteras Island in the Outer Banks. Hatteras was cut off from the Mainland during Hurricane Irene, and up until 10 days before the wedding we were unsure if it would even happen, since there was no road to the island. We ended up having to take 2 ferries to get there (adding about 4-5 hours to the trip). About 50 of our guest made it down. The DJ bailed, the cake fell apart about 2 hours before the wedding (though she fixed it, and I couldn’t even tell anything was wrong), and it rained for about 4 days straight. And that’s about half of what went wrong! So, being home and not having to deal with the stress has been really nice for us! So far being married is wonderful. It’s brought out something really special and emotional in my husband, and I love it!

    As for the baby- My guess is Oct 11, 6 lbs 4oz, and his name will be James.

    Good Luck Wendy!!

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      amber October 1, 2011, 1:05 pm

      where on hatteras did you get married? i vacation there every year in buxton in a housing development that’s almost to frisco and the name is eluding me right now! it’s sound side though. love hatteras so much! glad you were able to get down there despite the issues!

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        Bethany October 1, 2011, 4:42 pm

        We got married at The Inn on Pamlico Sound- It’s between Buxton and Frisco (kinda near the school). We vacationed in Buxton when I was a kid, and my now-husband and I have been going down and staying in Avon the past few years. I love it there 🙂

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      PinkPanther October 1, 2011, 1:11 pm

      Congratulations on your marriage! 🙂

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    Kate October 1, 2011, 12:25 pm

    Oct 17, Chase, 6lb 6oz.

    How do you guys know if / when you’re ready for a new relationship? I ended a years-long relationship about 6 months ago, which was definitely NOT going anywhere and had run its course for a while before it officially ended, but it’s still like a punch in the gut and total emotional overload on the rare occasions where we see each other at an event (mutual friends). We are not in contact, although there’s no hostility and we care about each other a lot. It’s just really painful.

    Anyway, I’ve been dating… have gone out with several guys over the last couple months, and just met one I was really attracted to. However, I just don’t know how I would go from once-a-week dating to a full-on relationship with someone. I mean, I’m only going on 2nd date with this one guy, so I don’t necessarily mean him in particular, but just in general, how does that happen and how do I know if I’m ready? Does anyone know what I mean?

    PS – I’m mid-30s and don’t have a lot of experience being single.

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      Skyblossom October 1, 2011, 1:11 pm

      When it feels like a great idea it’s right. When you want to do it you know it’s right. When it’s not a struggle you know it’s right. When you’re ready you won’t need to question it. I think it depends on being at an emotional point where you’re ready and then meeting the right person, the person you can’t wait to go out with and think about all the time.

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      cdubs October 4, 2011, 8:23 pm

      Chase is my fiancé’s name! It’s a good one 🙂

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    Michele October 1, 2011, 6:56 pm

    Woo hoo! Full term!! I guess he’ll be born on Oct 17th and weigh 6 pounds 8 ounces. Can’t wait to see pics!

    I had a crazy week at work with several overlapping deadlines but I made it so I’m much happier today. My boss has been on maternity leave and I’ve been doing both her job and mine but she returns on Monday! She had a boy too. 🙂

    I baked chocolate chip cookies this afternoon and tomorrow I’m going to make chilli…its supposed to rain here all week and chilli sounded like a good way to deal with the gray. Well, the cookies help too…

    I hope you’re able to get some sleep Wendy!

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    Caroline October 1, 2011, 8:28 pm

    I’m gonna say Jason or Christopher for the baby’s name. October 20th. But anything is fantastic, really! 🙂

    I’ve been sick all week and so I am using this weekend to just relax and rest up. Being sick in the middle of midterms and projects is really no fun at all. But I’ve been enjoying the guest rabbit my family has right now. It is super adorable and I wish we could keep it, but we already have a rabbit and they do not get along. So now we’re trying to find someone to adopt it or a shelter that will take it – the SPCA will not take “strays.” If there’s anybody on DW that would like to adopt a rabbit and would take care of it, please let me know! I want this rabbit to have a good home because we think it may have been abandoned 🙁

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      Caroline October 1, 2011, 8:28 pm

      In the Houston area, that is.

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    CC October 1, 2011, 8:45 pm

    I love fall normally it’s my favorite time of year! September has not been the best month on record this year though. And I could actually use some advice.

    Early this month my boyfriend of a year and a half and I broke up. It was not a friendly break. I’ve been trying to move on with my life but last week I after bleeding pretty heavily, I went to the doctor to find what I thought was my period what actually a miscarriage. That was fairly traumatic for me, and after a blood transfusion all is well, physically at least. My question is should I tell my ex? I asked the advice of a few guy friends some said they’d want to know others said what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him. Should he know that I was pregnant, but no longer am?

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      Rachel October 2, 2011, 5:36 pm

      Wow, I’m so sorry that happened to you! I have never been through anything like that, so I don’t know how much my opinion is worth – but I don’t think I would tell him. Mostly because you said you had a bad break up. If you were still friends that would be one thing, but I’d say surround yourself with people who will be supportive and leave him in the past.

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      L October 2, 2011, 11:57 pm

      I agree with Rachel. You don’t want to add more pain on top of what you already have had through your miscarriage — not to mention potential drama. I’m very sorry for what you have gone through, CC. I’d suggest finding support through those who you know love you and will support you through anything. Also consider going to see a therapist so that you can clear your head and deal with your situation as you see fit. Good luck!

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    Elizabeth October 1, 2011, 11:24 pm

    On the subject of babies, I’m wondering how the Dear Wendy readership would react if you were on the other side of this table and learning that your fiance’s sperm donation resulted in approx 70 children!

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    Addie Pray October 2, 2011, 8:13 am

    I had the best Saturday night. Who wants to hear it? Ok, I’ll tell you. I biked up to Wrigley Field with a sleeping bag rolled up in my basket and I found a spot in the middle of outfield and met a friend and we watched Ferris Bueller’s Day Off on a jumbo screen under the stars! Well, I don’t think you can actually see stars in Chicago, can you? Not last night. But it was a cool (cold, actually!) and clear night. [Groupon organized this event – it was $10 for a bleacher seat and $25 for general admission to the lawn… I chose the lawn.] Anyhoo, the movie was fun of course but what I really enjoyed “camping out” essentially in the middle of Wrigley Field cuddled in my sleeping bag … They should show movies there more often. I think there were more people for the movie last night than there are on any given day to watch the Cubs play.

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      Lindsey October 2, 2011, 1:45 pm

      That sounds awesome!!!

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    Anna October 2, 2011, 6:43 pm

    WOW, it’s almost time for the baby! Sounds like a rough time, Wendy, but you will be fine! Soon to be a proud mama, so you’re lucky. I don’t have any guesses as to the date or weight…I have no idea how to guess that kind of thing.

    As for me…I went out for Mexican food and margaritas with my man and my bestie last night then slept in today until 5 pm. It’s too cold and rainy to do anything anyway. Now I’m just chilling in my pajamas until I have to go to work at 11 pm.

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    Elle October 2, 2011, 9:11 pm

    For the name guess, I would go with Matthew. 6 pounds, 8 ounces. Oct 17.

    I fixed my bike yesterday, and went on a 10 mile ride today. Listening to my favorite radio, wind in my hair, I had a blast. I also spotted a laundromat ( I moved to a new place without washer/dryer, so I had to find a laundromat) that I missed driving in my car. On Saturday, I went with some new friends to a place that only sells organic stuff, and the pizza there was really good. Friday night I was out with a bunch of other people from work, I had a lot of fun. It looks like Friday nights with people from work are going to become a regular thing, and I’m looking forward to Friday nights now.(I should probably mention that I don’t see the people from work at work at all. We only meet on Friday :)). And I love my job!

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    Trixy Minx October 2, 2011, 10:50 pm

    Anyone have any suggestions on getting my roommate to stop hitting on my good friend? I’ve only beenn living here a few months and I really like my roommate but he has been trying to get my gf to hang out with him. Its kinda gotten annoying since she HAS a bf but they are not on the best of terms right now. My roommate asked about it and I told him about their relationship and that it was rocky (he just wanted to know why she slept over). What should I do? I don’t want him to get mad at me for her not wanting to hang out (I doubt he will but just in case he does) and I also dont want her to feel uncomfortable coming around. Thanks!

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