Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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On Fridays, I get Joanie to myself all day (well, I do from the time we drop off Jackson at school until we pick him up six hours later). She usually takes a humongous nap starting around 11 or 11:30, so I try to make the first few hours of the day with her really count. In the past, we have gone to story time at the library or sing-alongs at a local cafe. We walk a lot, she snuggled in the Ergo, her head swiveling in every direction, taking in the world. When Drew’s dad was in hospice a couple weeks ago, I gave our part-time nanny the week off, and Joanie and I rode the subway an hour or so every day to see Grandpa (and Daddy). It was such a sad week, of course, but one bright spot was watching how excited Joanie was to ride the train. She’s a real people-person, that one. And she LOVES the hustle and bustle of city life. She smiles and coos at every rider, and sometimes manages to break the fourth wall that prevails in a crowded New York City subway car, collecting a few smiles from even the most jaded city-dwellers.

It had been almost two weeks since her last subway ride, and I thought Drew could use a little mid-morning pick-me-up, so Joanie and I made an impromptu trip to surprise him at work. We got there just in time to see the Rockefeller Christmas tree go up. I snapped that photo above of the excited tourists who were lucky enough to witness this historical moment. And I don’t say that ironically either. I wonder when the last time was that the Christmas tree was raised as temperatures reached into the mid-70s in Midtown Manhattan?

Speaking of the holidays, there are 48 more days until Christmas and only 30 days until Hanukkah starts. If you’re someone who likes to get shopping done early, check out my gift guides from past years for ideas, and keep in mind as you start your holiday shopping (or finish it, if you’re an overachiever) that any purchases you make through my Amazon link helps support this site. (Thank you!) Do you have a wish list started for yourself yet? I’m so boring and middle-aged that I’m hoping for a new blender, maybe a new pair of knee-high boots, and some winter accessories (scarves, gloves, etc.).

Anyway, happy weekend to you all!

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    Rangerchic November 6, 2015, 4:48 pm

    Happy Friday everyone!
    The holidays for us there year are going to be very difference since we moved 12 hours away from our entire families (and oldest daughter). Our oldest daughter is going to come here for Thanksgiving and it will just be the four of us…me (her mom), her dad and sister. We always went to my parents (which would be different this year anyway since they recently divorced) or my in-laws so we were always with a lot of people. I guess we need to make our own traditions now!
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    I can’t even think about Christmas yet!

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray November 6, 2015, 5:22 pm

    Hiya guys! TGIF! Except when you aren’t working the days of the week don’t really mean much! That’s life on maternity leave for me. Except I guess they do mean something; they mean another week is over and my maternity leave nears closer and closer to the end! No!!!
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    I haven’t been Dear Wendying much during leave because it’s hard with a baby in my arms and nursing, which he seems to be doing 24/7; the boy likes to eat! And he eats so well he’s just about doubled his birthweight in his 7 weeks and 4 days of life. He’s huge. (Plus it’s hard to use the mobile site for me – how do I switch back, can any savvy Dear Wendiers help?)
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    I’ve now enjoyed 8 weeks of leave and I have 6 to go. I’m due back the Monday before xmas – so the first two weeks back will be 3-day weeks, what with Xmas and New Year’s the next week. That sounds like a good transition to me. Though honestly I wish I could stay home with this sweet pea full time while someone else works and provides for me financially and takes on the stress and burden of being the one responsible for us financially and for paying the mortgage, putting food on the table, maintaining health insurance, etc. Any takers? Anyone? Come on!
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    What can I say, I’m really enjoying this baby. He doesn’t sleep through the night yet – do babies ever? It doesn’t seem like that could ever happen. But he usually gives me one really long chunk of sleep – like 4 hours or 5 or one time 9!!! – so I’m up on average 2 times a night. Well, to clarify. I don’t sleep those long stretches, just he does. He’ll go down around 7 pm then wake up at 1 am, then again at 4 am, then 6 am… Ok, stop me; these days all I want to talk about are sleeping patterns, feeding schedules, nursing, etc. I need to remember these convos are not interesting to anyone but new parents. Maybe going back to work will be a good thing. It will force me to reconnect with society. And it will force me to shower and get dressed. And I need a hair cut. My hair is getting so long and stringy. I look like Kim Davis, that Kentucky county clerk.
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    Anyway, just chiming in to say hi! I miss you guys! I’m really liking motherhood and this baby of mine. He’s very chilled. And I like all his expressions. He’s a charmer this baby! I’m excited for all the fun things we get to do together.

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      Jane63 November 6, 2015, 7:45 pm

      Good Luck, AP. I hope it all works out for you!

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy November 6, 2015, 8:11 pm

      Babies do eventually sleep through the night, I promise! We moved Joanie out of our room to her crib this week and she immediately slept through the night — 7:30 pm to 6:30, no crying-it-out necessary. Three nights in a row she’s done that and we’re keeping fingers crossed for tonight. Now, if only we could get her big brother aboard the “sleep through the night” train.

      And, yes, a new parent almost only wants to talk about sleep patterns, nursing, blah, blah. I was like that with jackson, but not with joanie. I don’t have any friends with babies the same age, but even when I meet other parents of similar-age babies, I really don’t want to talk about baby stuff. Or at least , not more than a couple minutes. I thing I got it all out of my system the first time!

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    • kare

      kare November 6, 2015, 9:30 pm

      It sounds like you’re doing well, AP! Glad to hear it!

      And for what it’s worth, I’m a childless person who enjoys hearing about all the mundane things. A) because I want kids at some point and B) anything about babies or puppies or kittens is interesting to me.

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki November 8, 2015, 8:29 am

        Then you should come to my house and see the baby and kittens interact with each other. Its pretty much the coolest thing ever.

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      honeybeenicki November 8, 2015, 8:28 am

      They do eventually sleep through the night πŸ™‚ We had to move ours to his own room at 6 weeks because neither of us (me and baby) were getting any sleep (daddy was of course). Starting at about 8 weeks he started sleeping through the night for the most part (about 7-8 hours) and he now sleeps 10-12 hours a night. Except last night. Because we screwed up his schedule so he was up at 2:30… and 3:30. Until about 4:30. And I had to get up at 5 to go to work. So now I’m half asleep at work.

      The 3 day weeks will be a lifesaver when you go back. I was so happy to go back on a Wednesday and have a 3 day week for my first week back because otherwise it would have be a LONG week. It was a long week anyway, but probably a little easier knowing it was only a few days.

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    • MaterialsGirl

      MaterialsGirl November 9, 2015, 11:55 am

      Hey! he slept 9 hours and 15 minutes after I held him πŸ™‚

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    d2 November 7, 2015, 10:07 am

    I never lived in New York, but years ago I used to routinely go into NYC for jobs. Maybe it’s the kid in me, but I always found the tree at Rockefeller Center to be impressive. I once saw it tied up on a truck as it was arriving, but never saw it being raised.
    That was a great idea to turn around and take a picture of the crowd, capturing the awe in their faces. I like that the photo is in black and white. It gives it a sense of being timeless – like the tradition of the tree itself. My first thought was that it was an old photograph, until I saw a couple of mobile phones being held up to take pictures.

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      Dear Wendy November 8, 2015, 9:38 am

      I took a photo of the tree, too, but I think the photo of the crowd is a lot more interesting. The tree, though, when it’s all dressed up will be impressive. This will be my tenth holiday season in NYC, and I always like walking through midtown at Christmastime, and especially seeing the windows on 5th ave and the Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center. It’s fun having kids now to share those things with.

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      • othy

        othy November 8, 2015, 3:53 pm

        I got to do this for the first time last year when I was in NYC the weekend before Thanksgiving. It was so awesome to see all of the decorations I usually see on TV in person. Such a fun time of year to be in the city.

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  • MaterialsGirl

    MaterialsGirl November 9, 2015, 12:03 pm

    Ah wendy, the weather in NYC was BEAUTIFUL! Ran on Friday and Sunday through Central park.. went to lots of really great restaurants and saw American in Paris. Wish i had more time to see more shows, but it was a great trip.

    Hudson was nice, but man.. when you can’t actually fit on the toilet because the room is too small, i can’t even..

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