Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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I posted this picture on Instagram this week but couldn’t resist sharing it again here. It perfectly captures the relationship developing between Jackson and Joanie lately. Now that she’s mobile and active and showing more and more of her personality every day, Jackson, who has always been so protective and sweet with her, is seeing her as a little playmate and she thinks he is the funniest person in the world. It’s super cute and satisfying to watch them enjoy each other as much as they do. While I was in Missouri, I saw an old friend of mine whom I remembered talking to exactly two years ago about my worries over having a second baby. Jackson had been such a challenging baby and I was concerned about how I would manage if a second baby proved to be as challenging. But not only is Joanie one of the most chill babies ever, Jackson has also matured so much in the past six months that things are, at least for the time-being, very manageable and fun.

“I wish I could take a picture of life right now to show the me of two years ago that things would be turn out ok,” I told my friend. This is the picture I’d show.

Drew and I are now at a similar sort of crossroads as where we were a couple years ago, only instead of thinking about having another baby (all done with that!), we’ve been giving lots and lots (and lots) of thought about where to buy a home/put down roots. Do we stay in our neighborhood, which is changing very quickly and where so many of our friends are fleeing from? Do we move further out in Brooklyn? Move to the ‘burbs? Leave the area completely? And, if so, where do we go? For a long time, moving was not really a possibility, but that’s changed, and over the last seven months we’ve been doing lots of soul-searching (and casual house-hunting). I told the same friend the other day that I wish the me of two years from now could look out her window and take a picture to show present-day me. Are we looking at trees and grass? A backyard? A car parked in the driveway or lots of cars parked on the street? Are we happy? Did we make the right decision?

Anyway, for now we will focus on the summer ahead. It’s going to be a bittersweet one, saying good-bye to close friends, enjoying some long weekends away, trips to Coney Island and the beach, picnics with pals in the park, swim lessons and camp and, for me, barre classes, and, when it’s all over and the school year starts again, Jackson will start kindergarten (on the same day I turn 40, no less), which will probably lead to my favorite kind of public crying: group crying (or “peer tears,” if you like a good rhyme). But that’s three months and a world away. In the meantime, there’s a brand new Paul Simon album out today, which bodes well for summer ahead, I hope. And here’s one more photo (from our Missouri trip) I can’t resist sharing:

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I’d show that one to the me of two years ago, too.

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  • MaterialsGirl

    MaterialsGirl June 3, 2016, 3:09 pm

    Wendy, this is such a happy picture! Joanie is so cute and getting so big already! And JACKSON. Wow. He is already starting that progression from toddler to boy; face is getting leaner and you can get an idea of what he will look like through middle school and beyond (remember this when he’s a stinky preteen who pees all over the toilet seat for no reason and leaves the seat up so you fall in during the middle of the night. Too many brothers). Anyway, I’m always so happy for you when you get to take the annual trip to Missouri. It’s definitely one your ‘happy’ places and it shows!

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    Rangerchic June 3, 2016, 3:25 pm

    Such sweet pictures! I hope they have a happy relationship as they continue to grow. It has taken my two girls a long time to really get along. They got along as small children then grew apart for awhile. They are such different people but I do believe they will eventually have a good adult relationship, which is my hope!
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    I’ve got a hair appointment in the morning and I’m going for a drastic change. I need something different. I’m in a bit of a style rut as well (thinking of the forum thread from the other day-had lots of great ideas). But I think I’m going to start with my hair and go from there. I hope it gives me the boost I’m looking for to get my wardrobe in order too. I’m 40 so most of the stuff I have I feel isn’t “me” anymore.
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    Went rafting on the Poudre last weekend which was fantastic and no one fell out (though I almost did…again. I just can’t keep my butt on the raft it seems!). So this weekend is chill and preparing for an onslaught of two siblings and their families visit who arrive on Father’s day for a week…that’ll be 8 extra people in our house. I’m looking forward to the chaos but got some prep to do!!!

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      ktfran June 3, 2016, 3:56 pm

      Ranger, my sister, who was 1 year, 11 months younger than me, and I were not close growing up. Like your girls, we were different people and we had vastly different personalities. Frankly, I didn’t like her much. Fast forward to now. We’re great friends and really close. Granted, it took living apart for that to happen, but it did! And I’m so happy it did! I hope it works out for your girls too. I didn’t see it when I was younger, but there is something to be said for shared history and a bond only siblings share.

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      Dear Wendy June 3, 2016, 4:14 pm

      There’s really something about turning 40 — especially if you have a kid or two under 5– that makes you feel like none of your clothes work for you anymore. i’ve been in the middle of a closet rehaul for the last six months of so, trying on so much stuff and finding that I don’t really know what my style is anymore. So I just keep trying stuff on and hoping something will look ok.

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        Rangerchic June 3, 2016, 4:31 pm

        @Ktfran – thanks for that! I’m happy it worked out for you and your sister and that you guys are close, that is so great! I do believe it will workout for my girls. I think it will help a lot when they don’t live under the same roof as well – sometimes you just can’t live with your favorite people 🙂
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        I totally agree with the “I don’t really know what my style is anymore” statement. I just want clothes to magically appear in my closet that fit and look great and make me feel good in them. Alas, I am not magical.

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        Anonymousse June 4, 2016, 11:46 am

        I’m right there with this fashion identity crisis.
        I need a stylist. And a hair stylist.

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    keyblade June 3, 2016, 3:26 pm

    So sweet.

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  • LadyinPurpleNotRed

    Ladyinpurplenotred June 3, 2016, 3:36 pm

    Call-me-hobo is visiting me this weekend and we are having so much fun!! She’s the best to hang out with

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      Dear Wendy June 3, 2016, 4:15 pm

      Oh, fun! I’ve met both of you in person and you both are fun to hang with. Have a great time!

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    • MaterialsGirl

      MaterialsGirl June 3, 2016, 4:20 pm

      SO FUN!!! call me hobo gave great tourist tips for nashville!

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    Amber June 3, 2016, 9:30 pm

    Gorgeous picture!

    My hubby and I are celebrating our 10th anniversary today 😀

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  • Skyblossom

    Skyblossom June 4, 2016, 8:40 am

    When it comes to deciding where to move sometimes you don’t know until you see it. You’re in a position where you don’t need to rush to find something. You can relax, take your time and wait until something grabs both of you. Something that you both love and feels right.

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    Anonymousse June 4, 2016, 11:48 am

    They are adorable, Wendy. I catch glimpses of a happy relationship like this with my kids and it gives me hope.
    I feel you on the settling down somewhere…

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    Kate June 4, 2016, 2:40 pm

    Dealing with my intense anger issues with a brow and lip wax, a salad, and a blowout.
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    You have to love when some lady at Drybar says,”I want to look like I didn’t try.” I side-eyed her hard at the shampoo sinks, then I saw her checking out and she was all barrel curls. Yeah, baby, your frienemies at the birthday party will think you rolled out of bed like that.

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    Portia June 4, 2016, 4:10 pm

    Those are the sweetest pictures! Reminds me of when my niece and nephew were smaller and they really hit this sibling groove. We saw them last weekend (for the first time in over a year, they live so far away!) with their new baby sister and now I can’t wait to see her get initiated into the siblinghood. Gosh, I miss them so much already.
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    And this weekend I’m feeling my age: exhausted from jet lag, I did something crazy to my back in my sleep and am on pain meds. Oh, and I went to Costco when it opened.

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      Kate June 4, 2016, 6:06 pm

      Unfortunately you may need a new mattress. That happened to me and it was so bad.

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      • Portia

        Portia June 6, 2016, 9:23 am

        You know, I’ve mentioned to my husband once or twice that I think it’s time for a new mattress. Maybe this is the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Hopefully it’s just a metaphorical straw and won’t actually break my back before I get a new mattress…

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    Katherine June 4, 2016, 5:06 pm

    Come to Harrison, NY. Great schools, train to city, a house that’s walkable to downtown (where we are about to eat at an awesome place), and then we can be friends!!

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      Kate June 4, 2016, 7:40 pm

      Like right in Newark? I’m there all the time. Near the train station.

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        Kate June 4, 2016, 7:47 pm

        I forgot all my toiletries last trip. I had my makeup but nothing else. I had to uber to this Shop Rite and buy everything.

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      Dear Wendy June 5, 2016, 7:42 am

      Sometimes it’s tempting to move to the Westchester area! There’s so much we love about the city, though; I’m not sure, even given how much we’d gain, if we want to sacrifice what we’d have to give up. Something to think about though.

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        Kate June 5, 2016, 1:27 pm

        Oh I was drunk and I read that as Harrison NJ. Which… Isn’t… You know.

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    Bondgirl June 4, 2016, 6:15 pm

    Wendy, your children are beautiful. Maybe it’s just me, but based on previous pics, I think Jackson is starting to look a lot like Drew!

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      Dear Wendy June 5, 2016, 7:44 am

      When he was a baby and a toddler, we heard all the time how much he looked like Drew. Now, not so much, but maybe there’s a look in his expression here that is reminiscent of Drew. I think both kids look a lot like each other and not particularly like either one of us (or, like a pretty even split of us, I guess).

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