Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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I’m posting this on a Saturday this week; it felt inappropriate to post anything more yesterday after we started discussing the school shooting in CT. I stayed away from the news most of yesterday until we put Jackson to bed and then I spent a half hour or so — as much as I could stand — reading various articles and watching the evening news programs. It’s hard to wrap my head around such a tragedy — all those little lives lost and all the parents and grandparents and siblings and friends who are experiencing unimaginable grief now.

Of course, when I hear stories like this one now — which is far too frequent — it’s with a different perspective that I process the information than before I became a parent. Now, I immediately imagine if it had been MY son who was hurt, and it’s a place no parent wants to go, even just in thought. Back in October, there was a wife and mother here in NYC who came home from taking one of her three kids to swim class to find her two other children stabbed to death in their bathroom, their nanny lying nearby with a bloody knife at her side. I still think about that woman several times a day and pray that she finds strength to be the mother her surviving daughter needs.

Stories like these will ignite passionate debates about gun control and the need for better mental health care — debates and discussions I hope lead to some serious changes in the U.S.

But for now, I want to hold my Jackson tight and enjoy this holiday season we have together. I’m sending prayers to everyone who is suffering — for whatever reason — and know that in an instant it could be me…or you… or any one of us. So let’s enjoy the hell out of the happiness we do have — the joy of the season, the time with loved ones, and good news both big and small.

This weekend I have four parties I’m going to — two birthday parties, a holiday party and a going-away party. The holiday party tonight is an annual shindig our friends throw and they go all out — I mean all out. This year, I got some new shoes (the sparkly black/black fabric ones) to wear and I hope I don’t break my neck (I don’t wear heels often).

What about you? Do you have a big weekend planned? Holiday parties and shopping and drinking, oh my?

P.S. The photo above was taken on the first night of Hanukkah last weekend and it’s one of my new favorites. Isn’t Jackson looking like such a … boy? He’s starting to say a few words and I know within a few months he’ll be stringing some of those words together to say, like, sentences, which blows my mind already. I’ve been dying to know what goes on in his little mind and it’s crazy to think that it won’t be long before he’s able to tell me. Please God, don’t let it be, “You suck” or the equivalent.

Last night was the seventh night of Hanukkah and I made brisket and latkes — trying my best to be the equivalent of a good Jewish mother (says the woman who was raised in a Lutheran church). Happy Hanukkah to those who celebrate!

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  • katie

    katie December 15, 2012, 9:14 am

    i was just jolted awake to the sound of my cats knocking over my christmas tree. and, its too big for me to pick up and put back in the stand myself, so i have to wait until jake gets home to put it back together…

    oh yea and the star broke.

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      AliceInDairyland December 15, 2012, 10:47 am

      Darn cats! Why do they have to be so cute?!

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow December 15, 2012, 11:23 am

      Haha. And this is why I haven’t had an actual Christmas tree in 7 years.

      Although growing up, I always had cats and also had a tree. Only once did a cat manage to knock the whole tree over.

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      vizslalvr December 15, 2012, 11:50 am

      My husband and I just adopted a 3 month old kitten from the Humane Society yesterday. The 70 lb. dog and kitten are currently passed out on top of my husband while he plays Call of Duty. Luckily, no Christmas tree this year.

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        AliceInDairyland December 15, 2012, 11:54 am

        Congratulations!! I want pictures, I want pictures!! This is so timely, as I just put a picture of the BF up with both cats laying on his lap. I labeled it “New Cat Tree”. Ironic, because the big, expensive, 6ft tall one was sitting unused in the background.

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow December 15, 2012, 1:53 pm

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      • katie

        katie December 15, 2012, 2:28 pm

        oh those are so cute!

        im going to save them and show jake when he gets all rage-y about this. maybe it will help… lol

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    Trixy Minx December 15, 2012, 10:39 am

    I can’t get enough pictures of jackson.

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    Trixy Minx December 15, 2012, 10:48 am

    I have no major weekend plans. I’m covering for my coworker who is out of town which means I get to work nine days in a row and today is day five. I do need to get some xmas gifts soon but I have no time aster work and I’m always so tired after being at work at 5:30am. Ohh.. I do plan on making some homemade Kahlua filled with everclear. 🙂

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow December 15, 2012, 11:28 am

      Dang! How do you make homemade Kahlua?

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      • katie

        katie December 15, 2012, 2:25 pm

        probably similar to making homemade baileys.. booze, chocolate and coffee, right?

        in my experience, homemade stuff like this is incredible compared to the regular store bought version… yum.

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    CatsMeow December 15, 2012, 11:27 am

    I also have a birthday party to go to tonight – it’s my friend’s surprise 30th. So I’m doing that, and I’m also going to try and finish my Christmas shopping.

    I finished my finals this week, so it feels weird to have free time! I’m so excited that during winter break, I’m “only” going to be working full-time, with no other major obligations. I feel so free.

    Yesterday we had our holiday party at work, and it was kind of bizarre. There was a flash mob, karaoke, and costumes. I never expected it to be so wild! Even the FedEx guy who was randomly passing through decided to get up and dance. I think everyone must have been secretly drinking or something.

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      Addie Pray December 15, 2012, 3:35 pm

      oh oh oh is this a surprise party for a friend with bed bugs, by any chance? (just trying to figure out who posted that in the forum…)

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    AliceInDairyland December 15, 2012, 11:57 am

    I am trying to stay focused for exams this week. I always start out so well in the semester, lose steam, and don’t do as well as I could if I just buckled down for the last week. So as always, I am trying. Not as many exams are cumulative this semester which is helping immensely. What isn’t helping is having 5 exams in 6 days: Epidemiology, Immunology, Pathology, Virology, and Bacteriology. Ugh. That looks miserable.

    So no plans except studying for the next week. Boo.

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow December 15, 2012, 12:28 pm

      Holy shit.

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      Addie Pray December 15, 2012, 3:34 pm

      Holy crap that’s a lot of ologies! You can do it, doc! 😉

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    lemongrass December 15, 2012, 12:23 pm

    No early Christmas parties for me this year. There were several babies and some friends moved away this year so get togethers have been pretty infrequent. This next week is the last week my husband works graveyard shift and I couldn’t be happier. I’m so happy for him to be a normal person again and we will get more time together. We have our tree up (which is perfect this year! I love finding a perfect real tree!) so this weekend will just be hanging out around the house and eating gingerbread men. Maybe we’ll go for a drive down the beach or to the lake to go fishing if I feel up to it. I’m slowing down these days!

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  • Fabelle

    Fabelle December 15, 2012, 1:35 pm

    My brother’s wedding is tonight! (Well actually, it was on 12/12/12, & the party is tonight) Yayy. I am off to the forums now though, to ask an ettitquette-related question about this…

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      lets_be_honest December 15, 2012, 2:04 pm

      Saw the post. Maybe meet in the middle n give 400. I think 300 is fine though.

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 15, 2012, 3:54 pm

        Yeah, probably just gonna do $300. I knew to turn to DW for this 😉 haha

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    Fabelle December 15, 2012, 3:55 pm

    Also, shoutout to Wendy’s Lutheran upbringing. I was also raised in a Lutheran church! (this is exciting for me, because I know only like, 1 other Lutheran in my life…)

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      Megan_A_Mess December 16, 2012, 1:39 pm

      Add another to your list! Granted, I haven’t been to church in about three years, but that’s another story for another time 😉

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      jlyfsh December 16, 2012, 4:17 pm

      I’m another Lutheran to add to your list!

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    • Imsostartled

      Imsostartled December 17, 2012, 10:42 pm

      Me three!! 😀 Wooohooo!!! Also have not been to church in awhile, becoming a Christmas/Easter Lutheran minus the Easter. haha

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    Le Pinch December 15, 2012, 4:18 pm

    The only Christmas decorating I do now is to put my 12″ Charlie Brown tree on my bookcase with this awesome hand painted calavera (sugar skull). Its the only way the cats can’t get to it because if it is holiday themed, it is fair game for their destructive claws and teeth.

    This weekend I am just going to visit a friend who had a tumor removed from his neck, finish up a dogsitting gig, and maybe tomorrow help a friend move, and possibly do an interview for a lady that was interested in adopting Olive (the pup I am fostering. ) She seems like a nice lady, and her little dog supposedly likes other dogs, so we’ll see how it goes. I’m gonna miss the little pipsqueak tho.

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    Kerrycontrary December 15, 2012, 7:57 pm

    We did our ugly sweater party last week and it was awesome! I loved everyone there and no one got too drunk. Drama free! This weekend I finished all my Christmas shopping. I didn’t know if it was possible but I think I’ve financially made it through the holidays, and I was able to donate/volunteer as well (which feels like a Christmas miracle).

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    Amit December 18, 2012, 2:43 am

    Don’t worry, Wendy!It’s clear sailing for the first 12 years. The “You suck!” phase will only come after about 15 years or so.

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