Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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I had my first date with Drew on May 5th, 2006. We hadn’t met in person yet, but we had been emailing back and forth for two weeks since our mutual friend, Meg, called Drew up and told him I’d be visiting NYC and asked if he might like to show me around. From his emails I knew he was funny, liked baseball and movies, knew how to sew a hem, and had grown up in Manhattan. I didn’t know what he looked like save for a teeny photo I was able to find when I Googled him. And he didn’t really know what I looked like either.

On our first date, I wore: an apple green, knee-length corduroy skirt, a navy blue tank top with a sequin sunburst pattern, a brown leather belt, and green wedges (I still have the outfit packed in a storage container under our bed. It doesn’t fit anymore and I don’t really know why I’m saving it except that it feels wrong not to). I took the Q train from Astoria, where I saw staying with friends, to Soho. It was the first time I rode the subway alone. I walked up the stairs from the platform to Prince street and saw the back of Drew and knew it was him. He turned around and I smiled.

He was nervous, which I pointed out to him several times on our walk to the sushi restaurant he couldn’t seem to remember how to get to, which I’m sure he appreciated.

“You seem nervous!” I said, cheerfully. And then I asked him if he was crazy too.
He told me he was.

By the time we finally got to the restaurant, I’d decided it really wasn’t a love connection, despite how much I liked him over email. Our chemistry was off, I thought, and I didn’t like how nervous he seemed. Did he not like me? Why didn’t he seem more excited to be with me?

Over dinner, though, my feelings changed. He had funny stories and he made me laugh. And he remembered a lot of what I’d shared in emails, which I appreciated. And he had really kind eyes and made me feel comfortable.

We had a great time together and the next afternoon he asked if I’d like to go out again. We had brunch the next morning β€” the first time he ever went out for brunch, he said β€” and then walked to Washington Square Park where we sat on a bench and people-watched for an hour or two. There was an old couple on the bench next to us and for a passing moment, I imagined us as an old couple one day sitting on a bench watching the time go by.

It seemed crazy, imagining us together like that. We’d only just met. We lived in different cities. I had a life in Chicago, he had a life in New York. And yet, there was something about him that felt like home to me.

It’s been seven years since that weekend we met, and Drew still feels like home.

This weekend we’re taking out first trip alone together since Jackson was born. It’s just two nights away, but we’ve been counting down the days for weeks. We’re going to celebrate seven years together, and all that we still look forward to.

Happy weekend to all of you (especially to my mom who celebrates a birthday on Sunday and to theattack who’s gettin’ hitched!).

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    GatorGirl May 3, 2013, 4:18 pm

    Have fun Wendy!!

    I keep a few momentos, clothing wise. I have the shirt I re-met my fiance in and the first shirt I wore spending the night at his house. I love them.

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      GatorGirl May 3, 2013, 4:44 pm

      We went to see I Am Legend for our first date, haha.

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  • Jess

    Jess May 3, 2013, 4:33 pm

    Beautiful!!!! Enjoy every minute together, you lovebirds!

    And congrats to theattack this weekend!!!

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    • Diablo

      Diablo May 3, 2013, 4:42 pm

      Yes, all the best, attack! I’m sure you can allow yourself SOME sentimentalism for this one day!

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    Lily in NYC May 3, 2013, 4:34 pm

    What a sweet story!

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    Fabelle May 3, 2013, 4:36 pm

    Aw, this is adorable—have fun, Wendy! And congrats to theattack πŸ˜€

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    lemongrass May 3, 2013, 4:39 pm

    Aww! I have no idea what I wore on my first date with my husband. We went for sushi, too! And then to watch No Country for Old Men which was a terrible movie, especially for a first date. It was the most awkward date I had ever been on. We were both a bit nervous until the first kiss when sparks flew and all of a sudden the nerves were gone. Enjoy your weekend together!

    Congrats, theattack! Your anniversary is the star wars holiday: May the 4th be with you!

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  • Diablo

    Diablo May 3, 2013, 4:41 pm

    Hey Wendy and all,

    Nice story, Wendy! Ain’t love great? @Iwanna, no more of your negativity, now!

    So here’s my story: As I mentioned in a forum this week, last week my wife and i passed the 24th anniversary of what we call our first “date.” It wasn’t really a date but it sure counted. It was my 23rd birthday. M and i were friends already in grad school, and she invited a bunch of our gang to her place for a BBQ and party. We partied for several hours and gradually the last of our friends headed home. I declined a ride home from a sober friend. Skipping forward about, say, an hour, and never youse guys mind all the specifics, but we “became official.” The way M put it at the time was, she tripped me and then beat me to the floor. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was doomed. We got married four summers later, but I was done for as of that moment.

    As a guy, i honestly don’t remember what I was wearing. Presumably some kind of pants. But i was drinking margaritas. Damn you, demon cactus!

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      painted_lady May 3, 2013, 5:22 pm

      Wasn’t the important part the fact that later you weren’t wearing pants? So, you know, I assume you remember that part…

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      • Diablo

        Diablo May 3, 2013, 5:27 pm

        Well, I’m sure i started out with some kind of pants on, but that evening gets blurrier and blurrier with the passing years. Oh to be young again. Just for an hour or so later this evening. I’ll show her who’s young enough! Yeah!

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        painted_lady May 3, 2013, 5:30 pm

        Hey-o!

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      beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 6:23 pm

      I love the part where she tripped you and beat you to the floor. I’m definitely adding that one to my repertoire.

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    lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 4:43 pm

    Happy anniversary! Enjoy your weekend!

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  • katie

    katie May 3, 2013, 4:47 pm

    i cant remember anything i wore anytime without pictures, and im terrible with dates (jake and i just “made up” an anniversary date and we both forgot it this year…), and i really dont keep sentimental things…

    clearly i suck at being a woman. lol

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      lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 4:50 pm

      I feel like if I thought a little longer, I would come up with some memory of a first date, but I can’t so far. Peter’s much better with those sorts of things. He gets me lingerie on the anniversary of our first time together, so when I see the bag, I remember. That counts, right? I do have some mementos though.

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        lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 4:57 pm

        Ok I remember! Our first official date without the kid and including a restaurant was this place nearby on the River. It was great, and we were both relieved we had stuff to talk about that didn’t involve the kid (who I really need to make a fake name for…anyone?).

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        CatsMeow May 3, 2013, 5:23 pm

        I have no idea why, but I’ve always pictured her as a Haley.

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      • Classic

        Classic May 4, 2013, 10:13 am

        Pippa!

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        d2 May 4, 2013, 1:22 pm

        Clarissa?

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      • Classic

        Classic May 4, 2013, 2:27 pm

        Can she be lil_be_honest?

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        lets_be_honest May 6, 2013, 9:06 am

        Love it!

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    • katie

      katie May 3, 2013, 4:50 pm

      although, i will admit, i kept the panties i was wearing when i “lost it” for longer then i should have… and then i remembered that is ridiculous and i threw them away. lol

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        lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 4:51 pm

        I kept the pee stick pregnancy test…

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      • katie

        katie May 3, 2013, 4:57 pm

        ha you win!

        but thats not a contest you want to win, really…

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        lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 5:11 pm

        No, no it isn’t. Funny story though – when my sister was a senior in high school they did a scavenger hunt with all sorts of weird shit on the list. One of the things was a positive pregnancy test. She was happy I saved mine. lol

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      • katie

        katie May 3, 2013, 5:52 pm

        haha, thats hilarious. so now i am curious..

        1. who wants high school seniors finding positive pregnancy tests?

        2. is it sanitary to keep that? i mean, theres pee on it. do you have it in like a plastic baggie? does it smell? did you scrapbook it?

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        lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 6:24 pm

        haha, no, I didn’t scrapbook it. I’m not totally insane. Just a little insane. It was in a ziplock.

        The scavenger hunt was run by the students, no school affiliation. Other items on the list: a skip it, photo with hasidic jew, roadkill, slap bracelet, lava lamp. Bizarre, right?

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      • katie

        katie May 3, 2013, 6:31 pm

        skip its are the shit though, lol

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        lemongrass May 3, 2013, 6:35 pm

        I kept mine until about halfway through my pregnancy. It was sitting in my junk drawer and then I was finally like, what do I need this for? It just seemed wrong to throw away!

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        lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 6:38 pm

        Who throws away a perfectly good Skip It?

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      • Lady_Red

        Red_Lady May 3, 2013, 9:32 pm

        lemongrass, you’re talking about your pregnancy test, right? ‘Cuz how do you keep a skip-it in a junk drawer? That would be quite a junk drawer!

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      • lemongrass

        Lemongrass May 4, 2013, 1:50 am

        Lol yes, I’m talking about my pee stick.

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    bethany May 3, 2013, 4:52 pm

    You made me tear up a little. So sweet. I hope you guys have a great weekend!

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      bethany May 3, 2013, 4:53 pm

      I also still have the jeans I wore on my first date with “Howard” (husband’s new fake name!). They don’t fit anymore, but I feel weird getting rid of them, too.

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        lemongrass May 3, 2013, 6:35 pm

        HOWIEEEEEEE!

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  • Fabelle

    Fabelle May 3, 2013, 4:53 pm

    Oh. First date stories? I think the outing I remember as being our official “first date” was to see the film Moon. I wore a green cotton tube dress thing from H&M. I don’t know what he wore. He played a CD from this band I’d told him I liked while we were driving there, & it was cute, but I felt awkward (like, “is he enjoying this music or playing it for my sake??”) Also, it poured horrifically the entire time.

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  • mylaray

    mylaray May 3, 2013, 5:09 pm

    My boyfriend and I had our first date over 2 years ago, but have really only been together for a year. Anyways, it was a blind date set up by friends (we had been talking on the phone beforehand) and we knew we would click right away. We parked our cars in an outdoor lot and didn’t realize we had to be gone by 11 pm. We were sitting in a coffee shop and lost track of time so much, and were shocked to find both of our cars towed around midnight. Neither of us had a lot of money back then and we were pretty pissed about it. It ended up being an adventure to get a cab to bring us to our cars-we thought the towing place would be open at that time, and they weren’t. He lived much further away than I did, so we took the cab to my place where I hesitantly let him spend the night. At the time, both of us were mad about spending so much money taking cabs, getting our cars, but it makes for a funny story, and we always laugh about it now.

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    • beelzebarb

      beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 6:18 pm

      I love first date stories that involve total disasters πŸ™‚ Nothing like finding out whether you can handle adversity as team at the first available opportunity!

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        mylaray May 4, 2013, 12:50 am

        Me too, your story is adorable!

        My boyfriend ended up spending over $300 (which I think is a lot) on our first date because we had dinner before the coffee shop and spent money on a few other things, and while I didn’t actually sleep with him that night, I always joke that he ended up with a high class hooker.

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    beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 5:32 pm

    I’ve told this story on here before so some of you might know it. My husband and I didn’t have a first date. I went out with a friend and some of her friends that I’d never met came along too. We ended up going to a drag show. While we were there, my purse got stolen. I was an hour from home and I had no car keys and I ended up staying at his place for a few days while I replaced all my stuff. We hit it off bigtime so I never left. At our wedding, my BIL gave a toast that included something about how one crazy night turned into a one-life stand so…yeah, he basically told my whole fam that I gave it up on the first night. Oh well. Also, I still have what I was wearing that night too. I hope the pants will fit me again someday. Sigh.

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    • beelzebarb

      beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 5:33 pm

      Also, congrats to theattack! πŸ™‚

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    • Diablo

      Diablo May 3, 2013, 5:44 pm

      I love that phrase “one-life stand.” And as my story above suggests, I also gave it up the first night. Can a guy be a slut? Cuz i think i might be one…

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      • katie

        katie May 3, 2013, 5:53 pm

        i gave it up the first weekend, does that count?

        sluts unite!

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      • beelzebarb

        beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 6:14 pm

        Yes!!! And Diablo, I enjoyed the phrase but I’m not sure my grandparents felt the same way. Afterwards, my mom started to ask me about it but then she saw the look on my face and said “Right. Nevermind.”

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        lemongrass May 3, 2013, 6:37 pm

        We did it the first night too, no regrets!

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        GatorGirl May 3, 2013, 9:37 pm

        We did it before our first official date…eck.

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      • beelzebarb

        beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 9:46 pm

        I love all of these success stories! Slutcess? GG, ours wasn’t an official date either. I was just stranded and he was the one person in the group who had a spare room. We both ended up getting schwasted after my purse disappeared and so….yeah, one night stand, spare room unslept in. I woke up the next morning and realized that the “escape before he wakes up” option wasn’t available. We spent the weekend watching Arrested Development (he’d never seen it) and playing darts and by the end, we realized we were in it for the long haul.

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        painted_lady May 3, 2013, 6:25 pm

        I gave it up as we were on our way out the door to dinner. We hadn’t technically had a date yet. I’m okay with being kind of a ho.

        Autocorrect is not, however. I just had to re-type “ho” like four times.

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        beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 6:31 pm

        Autocorrect is so judgey! And I’m fine being a ho too. It obviously worked for all of us :p

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        painted_lady May 3, 2013, 6:36 pm

        Yes! It needs to keep its sanctimonious comments to itself – oh hey, you meant “hi,” right? No? Perhaps “Hu,” then?

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      • beelzebarb

        beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 6:46 pm

        And yet most of the entries on damnyouautocorrect.com seem to turn innocent things like shopping lists from your mom into requests for deviant sexual behavior…

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        Lindsay May 3, 2013, 6:49 pm

        Autocorrect makes me say “whore” when I don’t want to. Is it trying to tell me something?

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      • beelzebarb

        beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 6:56 pm

        I tried using Google’s voice mail transcription app. My husband ended a message by saying “Crap, I just stepped into a mud puddle! Gotta go, gimme a buzz.” It was transcribed as “Snap! I must step into the blood party! Gotta go, give me blood.” So creepy.

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      • Lindsay

        Lindsay May 3, 2013, 7:29 pm

        Hahaha. The worst thing it did to me was tell me my friend said “Hey Honey” when she actually said “Hey Lindsay.” Yours is so much better.

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      • beelzebarb

        beelzebarb May 3, 2013, 9:20 pm

        We’d watched 28 Days Later the night before so it was even more terrifying because I couldn’t help imagining him getting bitten by one of those rage monkeys. Yikes.

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        Caris May 5, 2013, 11:20 am

        this made me laugh so hard im crying

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      • beelzebarb

        beelzebarb May 5, 2013, 6:46 pm

        It was priceless! Glad you got a laugh out of it πŸ™‚

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    Addie Pray May 3, 2013, 5:58 pm

    Congrats theattack and have a great weekend, Wendy! I challenge both of you to make a baby this weekend….

    Also, what have I missed? Today was a BUSY day for me. My head is about to explode. Go ahead, ask me any question about non-competes under New York law and I can answer it. I think I’ve read every New York state and 2nd circuit case law on the matter. Boom! My eyeballs are fried.

    I’d like everyone to also know that for some stupid ass reason I decided today would be the day I dusted my bike off to ride to work. Today. The coldest and wettest day of the week. I will NEVER EVER remember to check the weather forecast before I leave home. It’s virtually impossible for me to do that. Why? I don’t know. My former secretary used to text me in the morning to let me know what level of coat I would need (I have three coats: one for teens and below, one for the 20s, and one for tempers in the upper 30s and 40s. Anything above 50 requires a light jacket. She knows these things. She used to text me things. Frankly, it wasn’t apart of the job description then, and now that she’s not my secretary, well, it remains NOT part of her duties, which is a good case for her to continue to do it, know what i mean? I am going to try to get her to start texting me again.)

    Another thing I’d like everyone to know is that I am NOT going to HH tonight – no, I am going to yoga. Because goddamnit to hell I need it.

    Ok, now how is everyone? I feel out of the loop.

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      Addie Pray May 3, 2013, 6:02 pm

      Also, after this weekend, one DW wedding down and just one to go…. we can get through this, guys! πŸ˜‰

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        GatorGirl May 3, 2013, 8:22 pm

        There are at least two…mine and MaterialsGirl!

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        d2 May 5, 2013, 6:24 am

        And Jess’. Who else are we missing?

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        Sunshine Brite May 6, 2013, 7:50 am

        Mine isn’t until next year

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    • katie

      katie May 3, 2013, 6:05 pm

      well i had a very nice, slow day at work, and now i am debating whether or not to go jeans shopping (ugh). i actually had a revelation when i was in the city this past weekend: i shouldnt wear jeans anymore. they arent cool. the people who look good dont wear them. but my jeans are not fitting anymore. and i have no other way of going about dressing myself, so jeans it is.

      also, im getting a jellyfish painting made for me because i would kill real jellyfish if i tried to own them.

      also, this is my only weekend off in a while, im pretty happy just sitting here at home and doing nothing!

      maybe i should do some zumba.

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        lets_be_honest May 3, 2013, 6:29 pm

        I have a lovely watercolor of jellyfish in my bedroom.

        I’m skipping zumba for roomba. haha!

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        GatorGirl May 3, 2013, 8:24 pm

        Whattttt, pleanty of people who look good wear jeans. They are like a wardrobe nuetral! I wouldn’t have any bottoms if I didn’t wear jeans!

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        katie May 3, 2013, 8:34 pm

        well, when i look at all the nice, well dressed people in the city, none of them wear jeans! they are all in nice dresses, skirts, not-jean pants…

        i also would be pants-less if i didnt have jeans. i just hate that fact.

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        GatorGirl May 3, 2013, 8:59 pm

        You could do something like this…

        Still jeans, but not slumming. Or this

        Or this

        I love jeans. Colored jeans can look stylish too. Also I’d be screwed if I lived in a super big posh city because I can not put that much effort into everyday. Putting makeup on everyday would never work for me.

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        katie May 3, 2013, 9:24 pm

        i mean, i try to look like that. but i just know i dont. lol

        i do have one -exactly one- “nice” jeans outfit. the very nice lady at the buckle picked it out for me. its skinny jeans, a pair of boots, and this shirt that has like cut out holes on the shoulders, and some beading around the neck.

        i have now worn it out with everyone i know, though, so… again, i suck at being a woman.

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        GatorGirl May 3, 2013, 9:29 pm

        I think I usually look better in my head than I do in real life but oh well! The LC Lauren Conrad line at Kohls has some super cute tops that don’t cost too much. Just swap out a few cute tops with your skinny jeans! I also have started stocking up on necklaces and scarves. Instantly makes almost any outfit out. Francesca’s is my favorite place for moderatly priced jewlery. ($10 to $50 a peice)

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      painted_lady May 3, 2013, 6:34 pm

      I am the worst about this as well. I forgot the temperature regressed to October last night and wore tiny shorts and a t-shirt to practice, and then thought I would freeze when I walked out of the rink covered in sweat. And then AGAIN this morning – stumbled out of the house in a t-shirt, no jacket. My kids know I’ve had a rough week what with my grandmother’s funeral mid-week and missing two days of school for that, and then being put through some bizarre derby hazing ritual at Wednesday night scrimmage that involved me playing jammer the entire time, which means I was exhausted halfway through and EVERYONE wanted to hit me, and so they were very sweet when they asked me why I hadn’t bothered with a hoodie this morning AND got iced coffee if I was so very cold. It was so cute…and I felt pretty stupid.

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    sobriquet May 3, 2013, 6:52 pm

    Aw, I hope you have a great weekend, Wendy!

    Nigel and I met at a coffee shop and ended up talking for an hour or so. First impression: he was too “clean cut” for me, but I found him interesting and easy to talk to. And I remember thinking that he had perfect teeth. We talked about all the things you shouldn’t talk about, like politics and religion. He called me the next day and asked me out on a real date a few days later, but we didn’t end up waiting that long. I ended up bringing over a bottle of wine to his place that night and we talked until 3 in the morning. That became the trend for the next several days in a row- come over and stay up talking until 3 or 4 AM. By the time we went on a real date, we were basically in love. Yeah, yeah, we moved fast, blah blah I know, BUT we waited an entire month before sleeping together. So there’s that!

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  • Lyra

    L May 3, 2013, 7:24 pm

    Wendy, I know what you mean when you say that Drew felt like home. I’ve only been with my boyfriend for 3 months but we both love how comfortable we are with each other and I love how I can turn to him with anything. If I’m upset with something he’s done, or if he’s upset with me, we find compromise right away. Obviously it’s still a very young relationship, but I can tell that he would be someone who I could be happy with long term. He’s such a great guy and he’s so good for me. I’m still very much myself with him and he would never ask me to compromise myself for him. I wish I had realized about two years ago that you shouldn’t have to work overly hard to make a relationship work. Now that I’m with a guy where things are easy I can’t even believe that I wasted so much time forcing something that was never going to work.

    Oh and on our first date I was wearing a hot pink shirt with a dark purple cardigan and my favorite pair of jeans.

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    fast eddie May 3, 2013, 7:18 pm

    Nothing like a love story to make me feel good and Wendy’s was great.

    I meet my wife, Onnie at a nudist facility but she spotted Lee who was tall and that was that for 10 years. She moved on and into a house with my old housemates and came to see all of them which grew from interested to very interested. After 4 months we finally went on a date and she wouldn’t kiss me good night. I mean we seen each other naked hundreds of time and she wouldn’t kiss me good night???

    Later that week after patching up my ego I asked to come to my boat, and home at the time, for dinner on Friday night, Labor Day weekend. She did and didn’t go home until Tuesday morning. Eight years later we became legal and will celebrate our 25th anniversary this August at the Space Needle in Seattle then drive up to Canada for a week or so. Maybe I’ll get lucky…

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  • Copa

    Copa May 3, 2013, 8:40 pm

    D’aww. I loved this. And these stories are all sweet. πŸ™‚

    My current boyfriend — let’s call him Esteban — and I met online last December. He “winked” at me within moments of setting up my Match account, and I remember a brief moment of panic knowing that other users could see me. But, I read his profile and remember feeling relieved — he seemed normal, so maybe online dating wasn’t that bad. A couple days passed and during that time I discovered how bad online dating could be. Lots of messages, very slim pickings. When I did get a short, sweet message from Esteban a couple days later, I actually announced to the friend I was with that I thought he’d be my new boyfriend. We messaged back and forth for a few weeks, all the while breaking a lot of the rules of online dating — our messages were too long, we divulged too many details, we took longer than two weeks to meet up in person — and finally met up in January.

    Even though we were both confident we’d hit it off in person, we half-joked that we should keep it short and sweet just in case and decided to meet up for mid-day drinks. If we’re being honest here — I panicked at the idea of meeting an internet stranger in the car and was a few minutes late getting into the bar, then got REALLY shy when I realized he is more handsome in person than in photos. The fact that he didn’t hate me for being a horrible conversationalist in the first 20 or so minutes of our date still shocks me. But, when I’d finally composed myself (a lil late!), we had a great time. Our quick mid-day drinks lasted for over 6 hours and only ended because he had to go to his sister’s birthday dinner.

    Oh, and I wore a black top (short sleeves with ruching), skinny jeans, black high heeled boots, and a funky necklace. He wore jeans, a brown sweater, and a pair of shoes he’d purchased just to meet me.

    Who knows what’ll happen, but I’m infatuated for now!

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    rachel May 3, 2013, 9:04 pm

    Yay first date stories! Ross and I met online, and talked for a couple weeks or so before we met in person. For our first date we had burritos for dinner, and then went to a bar for a few beers. I remember I wore khaki capris and a blue shirt that I had gotten compliments on the color a few times, Ross wore jeans and a black t-shirt. We didn’t kiss, or even hug goodbye, haha. I still tease him about that occasionally. It’ll be 4 years in July. πŸ™‚

    Hope you enjoy your weekend away Wendy! And Congrats to theattack!

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  • cricket

    cricket May 3, 2013, 9:41 pm

    ok, i am one of those serial lurkers.. i visit the site daily, but never feel i have anything to add that one of the regulars hasn’t already stated.. especially ap. πŸ™‚ but your story is so cute, and awesome, i just feel happy reading.. i first saw “dear wendy” on the frisky, and i’m so very glad you went this direction.. i met my fella at an art store, but got to know him at an art car event..he had a pirate truck, i had a ‘louisville’ pride station wagon. the sea shanties got me.. and the pirate flag. he accepted my dinner invite after an art gallery closing, on halloween. 5 years later, it’s still silly, and amazing. we visit new york fairly often, his family is there.. i always secretly hope i’ll run into you!

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    mandalee May 3, 2013, 9:48 pm

    Aww Wendy, I love your first date story! I hope you and Drew havea blast this weekend!

    I had a little bit of a one night stand hookup before my first date with my husband but I still remember what I wore and what happened. I wore a green and white striped shirt on and my favorite pair (at the time) of dark bootcut jeans and tan wedges. We went out for dinner at an Italian restaurant and he ordered stuffed peppers, and even though I knew I was slightly allergic to peppers, I ate them anyway. I ended up throwing them up at my house right after dinner when we were hanging out, and I was so embarrassed. Then, it was so abnormally hot the night of our date and we had already hooked up at this point, so he stayed over my parents house with me and we slept in minimal clothes. He ended up meeting my dad coming home from his late shift at 3am in the morning on the way to our downstairs bathroom in his boxers and a t-shirt. My dad is this big intimidating biker guy, which I failed to mention to my husband, and we all still laugh about their first meeting when my husband clarified he was “here for your daughter, not your wife”, like that would help him standing there in his boxers lol Not the classiest of first dates, but we’ve been together 6 years this month, so I guess it all worked out.

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    mouelberry May 3, 2013, 10:00 pm

    Aww, such a sweet story. Congratulations on seven years!

    My first date story with my guy is rather silly. He picked me up from my dorm, and got a little turned around on the way to the restaurant. He was going to turn on the GPS, but I thought I knew the way (only later would he learn how bad my sense of direction is). Long story short, we got really lost. Then, suddenly, it started to pour.

    He hydroplaned and blew a tire. I thought I was going to die. Freaked out, we pulled over, only to remember that he didn’t have a spare in the trunk. We called AAA. After a half hour, this big, burly guy came out to help him fix it. Cold, damp and hungry, we pressed on and finally made it to the restaurant. Once there, the food and conversation were great. Before we knew it, we were the last table there. He brought me back to my dorm, where we sat outside in the car talking for at least another hour. No kiss though, that came a few nights later, when we stayed up until 4am talking and watching old West Wing episodes in my room.

    I didn’t wear anything too memorable, but he wore a nice button down (which was one of my favorites of his for years after). Up until that point, I’d only seen him in t-shirts and jeans in class, so I remember thinking it was sweet of him to dress up. It also allowed me to have a classic “oh! this is a real date!” realization.

    He always says that his favorite moment of the night was when we were sitting in the car waiting for AAA and I took my shoes off. It was then he realized how comfortable I felt around him, and how comfortable he could be around me too – despite a somewhat disastrous start. Like Wendy said, it just felt like home. πŸ™‚

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    Addie Pray May 3, 2013, 10:29 pm

    HEY YOU GUYSZZZZZZZZZZZ – With Wendy away this weekend, she’s probably not checking this forum. We could probably get away with a lot of stuff. I personally would like to see two people have a debate that turns into a fight and gets out of hand and then *BAM* one person calls the other a name. Who wants to go?

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      Addie Pray May 3, 2013, 11:48 pm

      Oh come on. … Abortion! Immigration! Terrorism! The Pope! Chairs at weddings!

      Nothing?

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      • katie

        katie May 4, 2013, 12:04 am

        AFP, the original DW rebel.

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        Amanda May 4, 2013, 8:43 am

        If there are no chairs for guests at a wedding ceremony then there shouldn’t be a wedding. πŸ˜‰

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        Addie Pray May 4, 2013, 12:11 pm

        niiiiice, you shit stirrer! except the one person who will fight you on that is away. so you should say something like, i dunno, i’m at a loss.

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        Amanda May 4, 2013, 1:05 pm

        How about you must provide your wedding guests with a sit down dinner, buffet and stations with prime rib, filet mignon, crab legs and lobster tails, because otherwise you’re a douche.

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        Amanda May 4, 2013, 1:06 pm

        Also, sending thank you cards for gifts received is completely unnecessary and a huge waste of time. Who still does that? πŸ™‚

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        Amanda May 4, 2013, 1:20 pm

        Speaking of gifts, you should print on the wedding invitations that you and your future spouse would like cash (in $100 denominations, obs), or if you’re more traditional, print where you are registered. Your guests will truly appreciate your candor.

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        GatorGirl May 4, 2013, 3:02 pm

        Oh Amanda!

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        Amanda May 4, 2013, 3:43 pm

        πŸ™‚

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        Wendy's Dad May 4, 2013, 2:30 pm

        For the record, Wendy didn’t have chairs at her ceremony. Well, there were some for old folks (like her mom and me and Drew’s dad). Having the guests stand probably kept the ceremony short. They did have chairs at the reception.

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        Amanda May 4, 2013, 3:47 pm

        I’m sorry Wendy’s Dad, I was just kidding. I remember reading about Wendy’s wedding and from the pictures it looked like a fun and beautiful wedding.

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        Addie Pray May 4, 2013, 9:09 pm

        Yes, we heard about it. Gator Girl was so distraught over it she got her panties in a wad.

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        trixy minx May 4, 2013, 10:11 pm

        lmfao

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        GatorGirl May 4, 2013, 3:05 pm

        Is it rude to only serve alcohol I like? Do I really have to think about my guests likes? Haha.

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        Addie Pray May 4, 2013, 9:08 pm

        Well, it’s ruder to serve alcohol only you like than it is to only serve alcohol you like… I mean, at least also provide some food and… chairs, know what i mean?

        *But*. I think the rudeness of it turns on WHAT is your favorite alcohol. If it’s red wine, then, no, not rude at all.

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        Addie Pray May 4, 2013, 9:11 pm

        Oops, I meant it’s ruder to only serve alcohol you like than to serve alcohol only you like. Because the latter means you could also do other things, like serve food and offer chairs. I’m too drunk on mimosas – I’ve been drinking them ALL DAY – so I’m not making any sense.

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        Classic May 4, 2013, 10:12 pm

        I am only having vodka, due to your damn biggest loser contest.

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        Classic May 4, 2013, 10:52 pm

        That was meant to be humorous πŸ™‚

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        Addie Pray May 5, 2013, 7:15 am

        oh man, listen guys, no more drinking for me. i can’t handle it, and i do regrettable things. ok new rule: no more drinking until…. sat., when i have a dinner thing, and there will be wine, but i will try to only have a couple of glasses b/c i don’t want to be drunk and say and do bad things. there, it’s official now. i’ll tackle the week *after* next later.

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    Rachel @ Reality Chick May 3, 2013, 10:23 pm

    Lovely story Wendy. I racked my brains trying to remember what I wore on my official first date with my husband, but couldn’t… I can remember the black dress and sheer patterned cardi-thing I wore to the wedding I met him at, though. Like you, it seemed like an almost impossible love story; he lived in the UK, I lived in Australia but as my mum always says… The heart wants what it wants.

    I hope you guys have a fantastic time away together celebrating seven years. Congrats!

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    Amanda May 4, 2013, 8:44 am

    I hope that Wendy and Drew are having a fantastic time on their getaway but most of all, I hope that theattack is having a wonderful wedding day! Congratulations!

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    Sunshine Brite May 4, 2013, 11:15 am

    Congrats Wendy! Have fun away!

    Congratulations theattack! Makes me excited for next year.

    Wyatt and I went out for the first time at a American restaurant that has games available for when conversation lags or you want to stretch out the night. I wore a white fuzzy sweater and jeans and my awesome boots. He wore his blue plaid shirt. We stayed until close.

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      L May 4, 2013, 12:26 pm

      Dave and Buster’s by any chance? I grew up in Minnesota and will be moving back in a few weeks!

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        Sunshine Brite May 4, 2013, 12:44 pm

        Nope, Chatterbox Pub. Hopefully it will be spring by the time you get here, booo cold weather. I want all four of my seasons if I’m going to live here.

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        L May 4, 2013, 1:11 pm

        I know! My hometown had a snow day on Tuesday! It’s insane. Spring is taking FOREVER this year.

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    AliceInDairyland May 4, 2013, 3:48 pm

    Conversation after reading this thread…

    Alice: Do you remember what either of us wore on our first date? You had your baseball cap on backwards and I remember thinking “uh oh, kinda doofy.”

    Boy: “I think you wore a crewneck sweatshirt. Luckily you were cute enough that I ignored it.”

    Alice: “I guess I deserved that.”

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      AliceInDairyland May 4, 2013, 3:51 pm

      Oh yeah, we walked around in the arboretum and I was late because I had lost my car (wtf street parking…) I was super nervous because we had met online and I was kind of convinced he would kill me so I kept babbling about how much I wanted miniature cattle. He asked if I wanted to go get ice cream or coffee afterwards but for some reason Oprah’s voice said “Never leave to the second location!” in my head so I was awkward and we went our separate ways. Second date was better, we did dinner and I was pretty sure he was not an axe murderer at that point. (Axe murderer because I met him on the internet, not that he gave me any sort of creepy vibe btw)

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        Copa May 5, 2013, 8:57 am

        I had to whole “axe murderer fear” at first with my boyfriend, too! He is the first and only person I’ve met in person from the internet, and while I know plenty of people do it and never have issues (I’m guessing the most common issue is people lying or exaggerating what they’re like IRL), there was still that little voice in the back of my mind that made me worry a little. Maybe a month or so into dating, my boyfriend “Esteban” and I had a conversation something along the lines of…

        Me: I’m so glad you are who you said you were!

        Esteban: Did you ever really doubt it after we met?

        Me: Not seriously. It was nothing you did or said, but I *did* have a few moments of doubt when I’d think to myself that internet axe murderers probably need to be charming enough to get the victims alone.

        Esteban: What if I’m an axe murderer who is still charming you?

        Me: If you were an axe murderer who waited this long to kill me, I’d think you were a loser axe murderer.

        Haha. πŸ™‚

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        AliceInDairyland May 5, 2013, 4:08 pm

        Bahahaha! That is totally how I felt too, my BF is the only guy I have ever met over the internet as well. First time’s the charm?

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        Copa May 5, 2013, 4:47 pm

        Haha. The first time I went to his apartment (we’d known each other for about a month at this point — I believe it was actually the same day as the aforementioned conversation), I actually took a small, fairly useless knife (like an exact-o knife, but larger) out of my “car safety kit” and put it in my pocket juuust in case. Once I was inside, I realized how stupid I was being, so I showed him my “shiv” and we both laughed about it. I’m glad he has a good sense of humor!

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    vizslalvr May 4, 2013, 9:12 pm

    My husband and I were set up on a blind date. He had worked in the same position I did a couple years previously, and my co-worker had stayed in touch with him and thought we would be a good match. The first time she tried, he was dating someone else. A few months later, he was single and we met up. I was planning to do a drop by at a super bowl party he was going to near where I was going to meet up with a huge group of friends to watch the game, but ended up spending the whole night there. It was a true love connection when he told me he also hated Bruce Springsteen, who was performing the half time show that year.

    I was wearing an off-the-shoulder brown sweater dress with white leggings and brown leather ankle boots. He has since told me his first thought on seeing me was, “You have got to be fucking kidding me. This can’t be the right girl.”

    No idea what he was wearing. But he has basically one outfit – old slightly faded t-shirt and jeans. So, some variation on that.

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    Christy May 4, 2013, 11:54 pm

    My gf and I had our first maybe-date, not-a-date over two years ago πŸ™‚

    Also, the roommates I just left are batshit. Batshit. Thank god I’m free of them now. Latest drama: They have PROOF I was stealing their water bottles. (News flash: I haven’t been home in weeks, and I don’t like bottled water.) And now, I’m free, and I don’t have to give a shit anymore. Thank Christ.

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      Christy May 5, 2013, 8:45 am

      Thinking about the maybe-date, I wore a purple sundress and my light red heels. I think my mother has the sundress (we can share clothes) but I still have the heels. My gf wore a skirt and heels–literally the first time I’d ever seen her in something other than jeans. It was so weird (and I was so not ready to date) that we didn’t go on another date for like 9 months.

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    Katie May 5, 2013, 9:38 am

    Ok, it’s almost 9am the day after theattacks wedding day, and there is only 2 pictures on Facebook. I need more pictures to look at.

    Also, I get so freaking confused when people change their names… Lol

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