Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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When they were packing up their house a few weeks ago to move, my parents found this old Samurai outfit that used to be mine when I was a little kid (we lived in Japan at the time). They mailed it to me and as soon as I pulled it out of the package, Jackson was eager to try it on. Cute, no?

Anyway, I’ll keep this brief today. I’m taking a solo trip to Chicago this weekend and I still have to pack and cook up some casseroles for the guys so they don’t go hungry in my absence. I’ll be there for three nights and while my schedule is pretty packed fitting in various friends I want to see, etc., I am very much looking forward to some down time, which will hopefully include several hours at the beach stealthily sipping beer and dipping my toes into Lake Michigan once again.

What are you up to this weekend?

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    Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:12 pm

    Good god that’s a cute kid. Do your parents have any pictures of you in that outfit, Wendy? That would be cool to compare.

    Speaking of your parents – heyyyyy Wendy’s Dad and Wendy’s Mom – how was the move? How is our Show Me state treating you?

    Who wants to hear my plans for this weekend? Everyone? Great! I’m hiking around Lake Geneva, Wisconsin tomorrow.That will take all day. Any Wisconsinites care to join? I’ll be with 4 friends and if they ask we met through yoga, ok?

    On Sunday I am getting up early to bike from Chicago into Wisconsin as far as I can get and then taking the train home. I’m doing this with my new biking boyfriend. Have I told you about him? He’s not a real boyfriend, but he’s a boy I met online who likes to invite me to go biking and that seems to be about it. And he eats vegetarian/vegan so I guess we bike and eat vegetarian while he talks nonstop, which is funny b/c usually I do the talking but in this case I’m just not interested in dating, which he doesn’t seem to be either, he just wants to bike and eat and talk. And that’s fine because I like biking, listening, and eating. Whatever.

    Then BAM it’s basically Monday already and this sucks because the weekend is already over and it hasn’t even started yet waaaaaaaa.

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:18 pm

      * In case it’s not clear, I mean it would be cool if there were pics of you at that age in that outfit to compare. I guess you could take a selfie in that outfit today but well I don’t need to see those.

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      rachel July 12, 2013, 4:37 pm

      AP come talk to me on fb

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        Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:38 pm

        Coming.

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      Wendy's Dad July 13, 2013, 9:04 am

      Hey Addie and everybody,
      WD here. The move has been absolutely grueling, but the Show-Me state is just fine. The Cardinals even won yesterday over the Cubs (I’m not one of the Cardinal fans who hates the Cubs, BTW). Anyway, we have been in somewhat of a transitional state since March when we learned that WM’s job was being eliminated. She opted to retire instead of accepting a move. So we are on our way to Springfield, where Wendy went to college. We’re currently hanging out in St. Louis (well, the area at least) visiting Wendy’s grandparents and other family. We ordered a new car from the military exchange new car sales before we left Germany. I ordered one from their inventory instead of having one custom made for us. “I need it by July 1st,” I said. “That should be no problem,” said the smarmy salesman. It is now July 13th, and nobody knows where the car is. We leave tomorrow for the Ozarks, but the car will be delivered to St. Louis. That will necessitate another trip back to turn in the rental car and pick up the new one. Oh, did I mention that we have had to rent a car because of their lies and misinformation? Yep. The company said that they would “try to help” with the rental cost. Yeah, this is the same lying bastard that said that the car would be here by the 1st. Then the 10th. Then the 12th, etc. I’ll believe it when I see it. On Monday, we’ll get to see how bad our house looks after 10 years of renters. Groan. Oh, and Addie, I may need you to write a very forceful “lawyer letter” to Exchange New Car Sales and tell them what you plan to do to them if I don’t get my car. Just kidding. When I turn WM loose on them, they will only wish that they had received a stern lawyer’s warning!

      So you asked, and now you know. Oh, and I’m not used to using pennies (we didn’t use them in the PX overseas because it cost more to transport them overseas than they are worth), and we had no sales tax on the military base. The German prices include the VAT (Value Added Tax….which is like a sales tax), so the price you see is what you pay. BTW, their VAT is 19%, so count your blessings. Even you guys in Illinois who pay enormous taxes in order to finance your governors’ trips to prison. And WTF with gas prices rising 40 cents in less than a week?

      OK, I’m done ranting. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

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        Wendy's Dad July 13, 2013, 9:05 am

        Oh, one more thing…I don’t think we have a picture of Wendy in that outfit because I think it belonged to her sister, not Wendy. But what do I know? That was a long time ago. Maybe Wendy’s memory is better than mine.

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        Wendy's Dad July 13, 2013, 11:21 am

        UPDATE: I just got a call from the local dealership. The car is in! Woot! That saves us a trip back which would be 4 hours each way. On the downside, I won’t get to see what an Addie Pray nasty lawyer letter looks like. πŸ™‚ Tomorrow we start the rest of our life in the Ozarks.

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        Addie Pray July 14, 2013, 12:25 am

        Oh good! My nasty lawyer letters are zzzzzzzzzzz, so I’m glad we are all spared that!

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    kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 4:13 pm

    I love how you get away for self-trips to Chicago! I hope I can do something like this when I’m a mother. I’m sure it does a world of good for you as well as Jackson and Drew. This weekend is my early birthday celebration since my boyfriend will be away for military stuff next weekend and the following 2 weeks. Tomorrow my parents are coming for a lunch I spontaneously planned today (they have my dog! So I’ll get her back!). If the weather’s nice we’ll go to the pool and tan. And then Sunday or Monday (we both took off) the boyfriend and I are going to Annapolis to get some Maryland blue crabs They have really strong rum buckets so I plan on getting tipsy before 1pm and then getting some fudge at a place in downtown Annapolis.

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:21 pm

      What are Maryland blue crabs? Sounds contagious.

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        kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 4:41 pm

        lolz, they’re just a type of crab caught in the Chesapeake bay. They have some blue on their body. Their meat is sweeter than a lot of other crabs but traditionally here you crack them and pick apart the entire body at a table covered with paper. Once you’re finished you just wrap up the paper and throw it away. Although the whole “I went to Annapolis and got crabs” phrase is thrown around a lot.

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        Christy July 12, 2013, 11:24 pm

        Man, gf always jokes about crabs because she’s from the west coast. Crabs are serious business.

        Seriously. They’re like my religion. That and Utz potato chips.

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        LadyinPurpleNotRed July 12, 2013, 11:30 pm

        I *love* utz potato chips! My mom always gets them for me when I visit home (MA) since I can’t get them where I am.

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        Morgan July 13, 2013, 2:41 pm

        I have the sticker of natty boh proposing to the utz girl
        on the door to my bathroom. It was there when I moved in but every time I see it I smile. Chrissy is probably the only person to have a clue what that means but that’s okay.

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        Morgan July 13, 2013, 2:42 pm

        *Christy.

        I don’t know why my iPhone doesn’t like that spelling. Huh.

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    bethany July 12, 2013, 4:18 pm

    I’m going to the Cat Circus tomorrow. Seriously. Can’t wait!

    http://www.circuscats.com/

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:22 pm

      no. this cannot be true.

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      Paki July 12, 2013, 4:37 pm

      I totally want to go to that!

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      lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:38 pm

      So you guys are cat lovers. My stepmom’s cat is old, so she worries about him and has been canceling vacations because of it. She installed a camera in every room of her house which livefeeds to her phone so she can watch him when she’s not there.
      Crazy or normal?

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 4:42 pm

        Crazy. My neighbor did this. When we cat sat she gave us the links so we could watch her cat on his webcams all day is we wanted to. We did not watch.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 6:29 pm

        Crazy for sure.

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        paperheart July 12, 2013, 10:10 pm

        I’m gonna go with crazy.

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        CatsMeow July 13, 2013, 10:01 am

        Definitely crazy. And now I totally wanna do it.

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        Fabelle July 13, 2013, 1:08 pm

        Crazy, but I feel like I’d do this…

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        rachel July 13, 2013, 1:23 pm

        I have thought about doing this with Toby before. I know he has some seperation anxiety and freaks out when I leave, but I would love to be reassured that he does calm down.

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    lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:23 pm

    I have the most depressing weekend of my life coming up, so I won’t down you guys with it. Jackson gets cuter by the minute. Have a great solo trip!!

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:26 pm

      NOOOOOOOOO why? Let’s talk about it.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:30 pm

        My friends’ baby, did you see that forum thread? He passed away early this morning. And just to add to that profoundly sad story, its the baby’s dad’s birthday today. They are holding up alright, and I’ll be with them again tonight, and then the services will be coming up over the next couple of days.
        I don’t know if this is positive news, but they donated all his organs, and his mom is pregnant, so I’m trying to focus on that part of it.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:30 pm

        Also, just a shoutout to DW for keeping my mind off of this. Its been a blessing.

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        Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:34 pm

        Oh no I did not see that. That’s horrible! I’m really sorry.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:37 pm

        Thanks Addie.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:37 pm

        ps Wendy, this is probably bringing down a happy weekend thread. You can delete that if you want.

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        convexed July 12, 2013, 5:08 pm

        That’s awful. I’m wishing you a lot of strength for yourself and enough to share with your friends.

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        Classic July 12, 2013, 8:52 pm

        I’m so sorry, LBH. That is just terribly sad.

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        lemongrass July 12, 2013, 10:55 pm

        That is one of the saddest situations I have ever heard of. My heart goes out to that family. I’m sure having your support at this time will be really helpful.

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    cdobbs July 12, 2013, 4:27 pm

    i’m off to a lavendar festival tomorrow and then i plan on whipping up some lavendar cupcakes (even though it is way to hot up here in Canada to bake right now!)

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      lemongrass July 12, 2013, 10:57 pm

      Very cool! Where is it?

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    ktfran July 12, 2013, 4:27 pm

    You picked a good weekend Wendy. The weather is pretty awesome right now.

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    TECH July 12, 2013, 4:29 pm

    So I signed up for an adult kickball league. I know some other DW’er’s have done it. It sounds like fun. Plus, I figure I will make some new friends. I really need to make some new friends.
    The only thing, I’m scared to show up alone! I won’t know anyone. I know, I know . . . I sound like an insecure middle school girl.
    They are kicking off the season at some bar where you get to meet all your team mates and your opponents and get your t-shirt etc.
    I’m just nervous because I never go to bars alone.
    Any thoughts? People sign up for intramural sports alone all the time, right?

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:37 pm

      You’ll be ok!

      Don’t break a finger trying to catch the big bouncy red ball as it flies toward your face – just step out of the way, someone else will get it.

      Have fun!

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      kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 4:43 pm

      I’ve done Kickball and I signed up with friends but they never came, so I usually just showed up alone and played with people I had met like 1-2 times. You’ll be fine! Everyone’s friendly and they sign up for intramural sports because they want to make more friends and they want to be social, like you!

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      convexed July 12, 2013, 5:12 pm

      I’m thinking of learning to play soccer and joining the bottom-level adult rec league in my area…I have not played soccer since third grade but my BF plays and when I watch his games it just looks like sooo much fun. And like it takes a lot more coordination than I have! I think people sign up for intramural sports alone, yeah. It’s not weird. People enroll in college alone, they apply for jobs alone…it shouldn’t be any weirder to do something just for fun that way.

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      othy July 12, 2013, 5:16 pm

      Isn’t that part of the reason people do intramural sports? To hang out with new people?

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        othy July 12, 2013, 5:17 pm

        And, it’s not like you’re going to the bar alone. You’re going to the bar with people you don’t know *yet*, but it’s not like you’re going to be sitting by yourself at the bar.

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    iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 4:31 pm

    I’m going out to rage tonight because the boy and I have had super stressful work weeks. Well and it’s his friends birthday I guess. Tomorrow I’m hiking a 14er. Sunday I’m laying at the pool after morning yoga. In summary, Colorado summers are the shit.

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 4:38 pm

      That sounds like a perfect weekend to me!

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      Sue Jones July 12, 2013, 5:36 pm

      Hey you have to get up super early to hike a 14er to avoid the storms! Don’t rage too late!

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    Diablo July 12, 2013, 4:37 pm

    In two hours I go on holidays for 3 weeks! How awesome is that? Tonight, Shakespeare’s “Comedy of errors at our riverside festival. Tomorrow, party with friends, including yours truly rocking out on the guitar. I am pumped. M and I will be doing a lake trip for a week that will mainly consist of lying around being lazy on a beach and imbibing, maybe some canoeing and hiking. We have a little 9 ft Boler trailer that we think is the neatest thing ever. I’ll be incommunicado for some of that time, but i’ll toast you all each day while I’m away (it’s no bother). If they have wifi at the lake, maybe I’ll try to keep up with the drinking game. Could be dangerous, even without work the next day. Then, because she started a new job and has not yet accumulated much vac time, I’ll be driving to Victoria solo to visit one of my oldest friends.

    He is estranged from his partner, with whom he has three kids, but is living next door to them to stay close to the kids. Their attempt to deal with a cheating situation (on her part) by opening the relationship (essentially to allow him to cheat for revenge), amazingly, did not lead to everlasting bliss. His life would make for some awesome DW letters, but no promises. Even if the visit turns crazy, I love driving through the mountains!

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      lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:41 pm

      I know a couple like that. He cheated, they had 2 kids, she had him move out, so he moved in next door. 7 years later they remarried. (He’s actually the one who sent flowers that I was talking about on the other thread today)

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        TECH July 12, 2013, 4:49 pm

        I would imagine living next door to your ex would make it nearly impossible to move on. I would be so tempted to constantly look out my window and see who was coming over my ex’s house.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:54 pm

        Haha, they actually both dated other people during their divorce.

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    convexed July 12, 2013, 4:57 pm

    My weekend is looking awkward. Going to a wedding with my boyfriend—all his family will be there, he is in the wedding, and there will be all the awkwardness of trying to find a way to look busy while he attends to his duties and poses for pictures, while fielding the questions about *our* relationship status and future plans….oh god. He is one of those guys who ‘doesn’t know how he feels about marriage’…so the honest answer would be: “Well, I love the guy but our future plan will probably be to break up if/when I decide he’s a guy I could spend forever with and he still ‘doesn’t know how he feels about marriage’. But first he’ll ask me to move in with him to ‘see how things go’ and then I’ll say ‘not without definite future plans’ and he’ll say ‘moving in is how we see if those are in the cards’ and then there will be a long silence in which we both realize important things”. Haha, is that a good answer to the well-intended but devastatingly awkward question? Or should I just smile brightly and go refill my drink? God do I ever intend to keep refilling my drink tomorrow…but just to the point where I’m not the drunk and teary-eyed girlfriend stumbling around someone else’s reception. I actually um walk better in heels when ‘tipsy’.
    It’s funny to read those articles/studies in the links and really be hit with how much it fits with my own anxieties right now. And how much those anxieties spark anxieties about whether those are such cliche, conventional anxieties. I’m a feminist and very independent, but I still think if I love someone enough to want them to be my family I want to make it legal, and I want them to be like, ‘Yes, me too’.
    I just wish I could coast through this summer without having to confront the issue of our future or lack thereof by attending a &*#[email protected]!! wedding of one of his family members! Sadly I have the feeling this is going to be one of those things that later I look back on and think, “That was when I started pulling back in earnest, out of that bad-logic reflex I have to sabotage myself in order to protect myself”. I am jealous of all the non-downer weekends you folks may have planned.

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      TECH July 12, 2013, 5:02 pm

      Ugh, I have so totally been there. Weddings have a tendency to make me depressed. They did even when I was in a relationship. Hopefully you will meet some cool people and the food will be good and the drinks strong.
      Can I just say that the following statement fits so many people on Dear Wendy: “I’m a feminist and very independent, but I still think if I love someone enough to want them to be my family I want to make it legal, and I want them to be like, β€˜Yes, me too’”
      So you are not alone and you are completely normal for feeling the way you do!

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        convexed July 12, 2013, 5:05 pm

        Thank you, TECH! Sometimes I think the angst would be tolerable if I didn’t meta-angst it…if I didn’t feel like I was somehow a hypocrite and having feelings from another generation…glad to know it’s not just me, and if I’m suffering I’m suffering in good company.

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      convexed July 12, 2013, 5:02 pm

      Ugh, why does someone ‘like’ this? Whoever it was, can we switch bodies like in Freaky Friday and you live my weekend for me? Bonus if you do not tell me how it went, just hand off a drink to me while we switch back.

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        othy July 12, 2013, 5:22 pm

        It was probably a like of sympathy.

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        Lindsay July 12, 2013, 5:55 pm

        Or in agreement, like that they felt the same way.

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      TECH July 12, 2013, 5:07 pm

      Also, I think it’s completely boorish behavior to ask an acquaintance when they’re going to get married. Which is basically what would happen to you at this wedding. Probably a lot of your boyfriends friends, family, and acquaintances will be throwing those questions at you. People you aren’t at all close with.
      I don’t even ask close friends “When you are you getting married?” because it’s such an sensitive and loaded topic for some people.

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        othy July 12, 2013, 5:24 pm

        And of course, once you *do* get married, you start getting hit with the ‘when are you having a baby’ questions. Despite having told the in-laws that we aren’t planning on having kids, we get pestered every time we go over there. I’m starting to think I need to give them some awkward answers. Like “I think we’re doing it wrong, could you demonstrate how a baby is made for us?” or “Well, the doctor said that I’d never be able to have kids after the miscarriage” or even just a blank stare. Ugh, families.

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 6:36 pm

      Oh you’re making a mountain out of a Mole hill. Smile and say something polite when people ask about your relationship “oh we’re so happy now we wouldn’t want to shake things up!” “we’ll see what happens!” “I don’t know if I’m old enough/ready/have the money/believe in marriage right now” and then compliment anything wedding related the bean dip, the bride, the fancy tp.

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        convexed July 12, 2013, 7:34 pm

        Thanks! It will probably be fine. Sometimes I just need to be talked down from the ledge and told I’m overthinking.

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    convexed July 12, 2013, 5:15 pm

    Yeah. What puzzles me is that it’s so often older people. I get asked that by my coworkers, by my grandparents…you’d think having 50 to 80 years under your belt you’d have picked up that this question isn’t the surefire entry to a smooth conversation.

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      TECH July 12, 2013, 5:29 pm

      Maybe I’m oversimplifying things, but I tend to think that people who ask “When you are getting married?” or “When are you having a baby?” have never experienced the intense heartbreak of NOT being able to have those things.
      For instance, a women with fertility issues would never ask another woman “When are you having a baby?” Because she knows it’s a deeply personal and sensitive topic. She knows the heartbreak of not being able to have a baby herself. So why would she put another woman in the awkward position of having to answer that question?
      When you experience losses in your own life it makes you more compassionate towards other people’s circumstances.

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        convexed July 12, 2013, 5:52 pm

        I agree.

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        convexed July 12, 2013, 6:43 pm

        And I also feel it’s transferable. I have no idea if I have fertility issues, since I’ve never tried to have a baby, but I’ve been in enough states of fear/uncertainty/disappointment that I know any question that asks someone when they plan to or why they haven’t yet attained some ‘normative’ status—-mother, married, careered, pregnant, degreed, ‘moved on’, etc—is not a safe question. At best, it’s not your business but they might be open to talking about it; at worst, you’ve deeply embarrassed them, made intrusive assumptions, or touched open wounds. I feel that everyone deserves to not be asked questions of any kind about their body, which include weight and health/disability status, reproductive plans, eating habits. If you don’t already know whatever information about someone, it’s because they haven’t chosen to tell you, and you should trust they have reasons for choosing what to share and with whom. You might be curious, but if you don’t leave it to them to bring it up, your personal question, on top of being uncomfortable for them, forces them to choose between talking about something they don’t want to, or being evasive/dishonest, or shutting the conversation down awkwardly. Sure, deflecting awkward questions is a good skill to have, but an even better skill to have is how to not ask personal/awkward questions that aren’t really your business. Or as we say in Pittsburgh, don’t be nebby.

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    bethany July 12, 2013, 4:35 pm

    Oh, and we just had another beer tasting at work. Today was Beer Advocate’s #1 Beer, Heady Topper

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      TECH July 12, 2013, 4:37 pm

      How are you allowed to drink beer at work? And are you hiring?

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 4:44 pm

        Eh, I’m not really sure. We’re a very pro-drinking company though. It’s essentially like a frat house around here sometimes.
        A few weeks ago one of the guys got “kidnapped” by his friends for his bachelor party from the office, and before they left, I went to the kitchen, grabbed a bunch of beers and told them to have fun. His friends were shocked that we had beer in the fridge at work!

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:48 pm

        What do you do?

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        Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 5:07 pm

        yea, what do you do, bethany? i don’t think i ever read you say.

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        Bethany July 14, 2013, 8:52 am

        Just standard office work- Nothing exciting!

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        Addie Pray July 14, 2013, 5:54 pm

        What? There is no “standard” office work. … Something fishy is going on…

        Bethany’s in the CIA, you guys!!!!!!!

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        Diablo July 12, 2013, 4:53 pm

        My friends own a small print shop with a staff of about 12. They work very hard and do lots of overtime, but the rule is no working after 5 pm without beer. Ya gotta have standards.

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      convexed July 12, 2013, 5:00 pm

      Oh man, the downside of working in early childhood education is beer tastings are definitely not part of the workday.
      I can feel free to taste some milk or apple juice though. Hurray!

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    Sue Jones July 12, 2013, 5:38 pm

    I’m flying to the East Coast tomorrow to hang out by the ocean for a week. No 14ers for me this weekend! In fact, I should be packing!

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    Lindsay July 12, 2013, 5:53 pm

    I’m taking some trips to various greater NYC areas outside the five boroughs. One on Long Island and one on the Hudson. It should be fun, but I’m exhausted by not sleeping in my own bed.

    Anyway, this marks three weeks before I leave the city for good. I gave my notice to my boss today, but I still have to let our department know Monday at our meeting. That was one of those moments where it hit me that this move and grad school are really happening.

    Mostly I’m trying to forget the fact that my eye doctor told me I have high eye pressure, which is really freaking me out because I don’t want glaucoma or eye surgery or blindness. He said we’re just going to monitor it (well, it’ll be somebody, but not him) because my eyes are healthy otherwise. Blah. I had a mini-freakout where I was like, WELL, I guess I’ll have one of those canes one day and a seeing-eye dog and I’ll have to learn braille. I’m better now, though. I’m good at comforting myself.

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      rachel July 12, 2013, 6:03 pm

      My sister has had high pressure for a few years – she just goes to the eye doctor more often than most people to have it checked, but I think it doesn’t have to be a Big Thing.

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        Lindsay July 12, 2013, 6:08 pm

        That’s good to hear! (Not that she has it, but just that it hasn’t been a problem.) It hadn’t occurred to me that it could be a problem that I could have, at least not unless I was old or had diabetes or something.

        I also feel like I have too many minor-for-now health issues that could become a big deal later on, and did not want another.

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 6:14 pm

        She is sort of the same way actually? Like she seems to always have really random, hard-to-diagnose problems that don’t end up being a huge issue. Maybe I would too if I went to the doctor more often, haha.

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        Lindsay July 12, 2013, 6:32 pm

        Haha, that’s funny. Yeah, I am all about the doctor, and all it’s gotten me is like four different specialists I’m supposed to check in with at various intervals, all while being very healthy and not actually being on any medications, etc.

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      convexed July 12, 2013, 7:09 pm

      Ooh, icky eye stuff—a topic I know a lot about, not from being a doctor, but from having f&cked up eyes my whole life! If there is a painful way they can prod, needle, or flood your eye with chemicals I’ve likely been there.
      If they are monitoring it, try to relax. For real, because you are on the right track. Go to all your appointments and religiously use any eye drops they might give you–that is how you help prevent it from becoming glaucoma.
      I have had elevated IOP as well as several eye surgeries (a lens implant–basically a cataract surgery along with some cornea stuff) and they are not fun but not nearly so rough as body surgeries. Glaucoma at least is so common that a good doctor will know exactly what to do to track the situation and attend to if it develops.
      One thing that might make you feel better is to find out which local emergency rooms have an eye clinic or eye specialist on call. That way you can relax knowing if you start having any new or alarming symptoms, you can get them taken care of right away. It’s unlikely, but I have razor thin retinas at high risk for detachment, and I know that if I suddenly see bright flashing lights where to go to actually get care, vs just be told to wait til Monday and call an eye doctor. It really took the edge off my mini-freakouts to know what to do if my nightmare scenarios actually unfolded. For instance, if you’re terrified of glaucoma, you know if you experience any vision loss or defect in your field of vision to get attention right away. When you find a new doctor, get the after hours nurses line. You will feel much better knowing, hey, if you wake up in the middle of the night and aren’t sure if you’re about to go blind, you can have the doctor paged and they will tell you what to do.
      Honestly, I wouldn’t be worried. The first treatment (after making sure the high pressure isn’t caused by a side effect of some medication you’re on, or some lifestyle factor like smoking) is medicated eye drops to lower the eye pressure. Not too invasive! If you monitor it and follow the doctor’s instructions if they give you any, it usually doesn’t develop into glaucoma. IF LEFT UNTREATED it *can* develop into glaucoma. But you’re not doing that, and you’re probably not looking at surgery or needing to learn braille anytime soon. Also, since you’re moving, take advantage of multiple opinions. Some doctors will treat anything over a certain threshold of pressure, and some are more conservative, and prefer to watch and wait. Find someone whose approach you feel comfortable with.

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        Lindsay July 12, 2013, 7:27 pm

        Thanks for all your advice and comforting words! I feel like I’m fairly well-versed in a lot of medical things, but never have been with eyes, so it’s nice to hear from someone who has been through eye stuff. I’m really good about going to appointments and following medical advice, so it sounds like that’ll work in my favor if this becomes an issue (and in making sure it doesn’t!). πŸ™‚

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        Mr. Cellophane July 14, 2013, 10:10 am

        Ok, so, I AM an Eye Doctor. This is not something to worry about. Slightly elevated IOP is not a big deal. In fact it is very common. Go to your appointments, play the boring video game (visual field test) and get the pictures taken every year or two. In a young otherwise healthy female I would be unusual for you to actually have glaucoma, but ocular hypertension would be no biggie.
        In fact IOP is multi factorial, and may be increased by how much water you have had to drink, your anxiety level during the test ( are you relaxed or “squeezing/bearing down”) your position in the chair, etc. One high IOP reading does not mean glaucoma. It is only a snapshot. On this day at this time your IOP was slightly elevated. If it continues to be high in the coming years, you and your doc can dig a little deeper. Don’t be at all concerned until you are being seen every 3-4 months on a regular basis.
        By the way, the only people I have seen in 25 years of practice that go truly blind from glaucoma are the people who have neglected to treat it or been undiagnosed for YEARS ( like 30+ years).

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      convexed July 12, 2013, 7:19 pm

      Also, when I talked about emergency rooms I was speaking as a highly anxious person who likes to over prepare and plan for unlikely calamities. Glaucoma develops slowly, so any loss of vision is not noticeable right away usually.
      Monitor the pressure with your doctor, and get your optic nerve and full eye health exam every year, or as recommended, if your IOP puts you at higher risk, and they will catch it if you’re gonna get it, and treat it.

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    Leslie July 12, 2013, 6:25 pm

    Jackson looks so cute! I’m headed to a wedding for one of my oldest friends. So excited!

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    theattack July 12, 2013, 6:25 pm

    I don’t know what my deal is right now, but I’m really emotional lately in mostly negative ways. I’m not a big drinker (maybe one beer through the whole work week and four over a weekend on average), but all I want to do lately is drink. I think I might be slipping into depression again.

    I’ve always been on the fence about kids, and my husband definitely wants them. The past few weeks have made me REALLY not want them, but I know that I change my mind almost every day anyway so I thought I’d just figure it out eventually. I figure that I’m not ready for kids anyway, and I’ll know if I want them when the time is closer. But right now I HATE children. I almost wish I didn’t have these kittens sometimes because I don’t like dealing with people/things that are stupid like kids. Earlier this week at work I had to babysit three kids for half an hour, and it was the hardest and most annoying thing I’ve done in months. I don’t like caring for things at all, and I have no desire to be put out by someone else on the regular. I’m hoping this is just another phase I’m going through and that it’s not permanent. I think I’m too young to know, but the pressure of it all makes me want to drink my way to a place where it doesn’t matter. I’m scared that I won’t eventually change my mind.

    And I feel envious of people in their 20s who party all the time and know how to dress well and make themselves look good and go out all the time. Maybe that’s just because I’m terrified of being locked down by tiny humans because I don’t even like going out to clubs.

    Sorry for the rant. I don’t really have anyone I can say this to in real life without causing drama.

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      Lindsay July 12, 2013, 6:35 pm

      I feel the same way about children. Those are almost my exact reasons for not having them. I know that everyone has to put up with the annoyances, but for a lot of people, the joy their child brings them outweighs that. So I feel like it ends up being a determination of which side outweighs the other?

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 6:37 pm

        Very true. And there aren’t very many people out there who admit that the joy doesn’t outweigh the bad, and I know it has to sometimes. People tell me all the time that it would be different with my own kids, but how do you KNOW that for sure? I need a test drive before purchasing, thanks.

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        Bittergaymark July 12, 2013, 7:20 pm

        I get NOT wanting to have kids… But isn’t this something to discuss BEFORE getting married?

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 7:30 pm

        We did discuss it. I’ve just flip flopped on kids so much that there’s no way of knowing what I’ll want long term, so it wasn’t something to base our relationship around. Sometimes I think I do want them, but this month I don’t. My indecision is not worth sacrificing an otherwise great relationship over right now. Who knows, it might be our demise ten years from now, but historically I’ve leaned more toward having them anyway, so I assumed I would want them down the line. We agreed it was worth the risk, but it doesn’t make it any less scary when I’m freaking out about it, ya know?

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        TECH July 12, 2013, 9:50 pm

        Maybe I’m looking at this in an overly simplistic way, but would it help to say to yourself, “My life will be great no matter what I decide!”?
        In other words, if you did have a child, would that be a decision you regretted? I highly doubt it. No one I know regrets having their child, even those who get pregnant by mistake. Even those people who have extremely problematic relationships with their children rarely say, “I regret having a child.”
        Again, I apologize if I made a very serious decision overly simplistic. But I try to play with scenarios like that in my head about my own life. I try to go over situations in my head deciding I can be happy no matter what I decide. Sometimes there is no right or wrong answer to questions like that (I hope that makes sense!)

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        theattack July 13, 2013, 11:22 am

        That’s a really helpful point to think about. Thanks!

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 6:44 pm

      πŸ™ days (or weeks) like this suck. Don’t freak out about your drinking unless it’s affecting your relationship or work. Sometimes you just have to have a case of beer week.

      As far as the kids, I feel your pain. Other peoples kids suck. Almost with out a doubt. Also, kitchens suck too a lot of the time. I knew its cliche but y’all have time to figure out kids. Like 10 years. Don’t stress about it!

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 6:52 pm

        Thanks. Ftr, I’m not actually worried about my drinking. It’s still relatively low, but it’s unusual for me which makes me feel shitty?

        My main concern about kids, which I was too scared to even type in my original comment, is that we won’t resolve it and it will eventually tear us apart. It’s so far in the future that it doesn’t even matter at the moment, but stressful nonetheless when my feelings about it are this strong right now. And if I mention my confusion to my husband he gets pissy, probably because he feels like I’m trying to take his dream away, but I’m scared of being pushed into a corner.

        Sorry for being like this, and thanks for listening to my break down.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 6:59 pm

        You know, I think it’s really awesome that you’re trying to work through your own feelings before shit hits the fan. I totally get how hard it can be to have a conversation where you’re trying to explore your own thoughts, not nessisarily make a final decision or change his mind. Maybe it’s time to think about counseling or confiding in a close friend who can talk through it? Or that aunt who threw your shower? Would she give you any good advice?

        No one is going to have a magical right answer. If it comes down to it, you might think of a session or two of couples counseling so P will be able to see that you’re not attacking him, but trying to work through it.

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 7:11 pm

        Everyone in my real life wants us to have kids, so I can’t really trust anyone to be unbiased or to not lash out at my doubt. I’m not really ready to make a decision about it, so I’m not going to go to counseling for it yet. If it’s still a problem in five years or so I’ll look to that. Hopefully I’ll get out of this phase soon.

        I honestly think P is scared to admit that his picture perfect dream might not work out. He knew this a long time ago, but I’m starting to think he wants to deny it, ya know?

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        Lindsay July 12, 2013, 7:20 pm

        That’s really hard, that everyone wants you to have kids because it leaves little room for you to say that you’re unsure, etc. It’s really not their business. You guys are the only ones who should really get a say in this…

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    GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 6:50 pm

    Guys I made ice cream!! And it was fabulous! I don’t think I am eve going to buy ice cream in a box again!

    This weekend has nothing fun planned, sadly. Well except dinner Sunday with a groupon! Ny style pizza that is to die for down here in FL. Otherwise we’re working out part time jobs too much, cleaning the apt, and grocery shopping. How fun.

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 7:00 pm

      Also, I’ve been hungry for days. Like I can not satisfy my hunger. It’s annoying. And no I’m not pregs.

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      theattack July 12, 2013, 7:12 pm

      Yay for homemade ice cream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      Bittergaymark July 12, 2013, 7:29 pm

      What flavor? A friend of mine once made some for me in my favorite flavor and I just about DIED it was so good… She made me Black Licorice Ice Cream and it was beyond amazing…

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 7:43 pm

        We just made French Vanilla for our first go round. I’m thinking coffee next time, or maybe a mint chip. Or something fruity. Or beer ice cream. The possibilities are endless.

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        Bittergaymark July 12, 2013, 7:51 pm

        Well, the Black Licorice was INSANE…

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 9:49 pm

        I think you should try something with lavender. Or, you can’t ever go wrong with chocolate, peanut butter, caramel, and marshmallow – or any combination of those.

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 10:17 pm

        Ooh caramel, what about like a salted caramel ice cream? That would be yummy. Really though, it’s hard to go wrong with ice cream..

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 11:08 pm

        See, I’m the weird-o who doesn’t like chocolate, peanut butter, caramel- basically anything super sweet or sugary. I like my ice cream more plain or fruit flavored. GGuy loves super sweet stuff so I’ll have to make him some super sweet stuff.

        Cats the lavender sounds good. I saw a recipe for basil ice cream which was interesting. And tomato.

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        vizslalvr July 12, 2013, 11:18 pm

        Beer ice cream! Since you like craft brews and aren’t a huge fan of sweet, it’s worth a try. I had some fairly recently at a restaurant and it was super yummy. I’m going to try a batch with some of my husband’s home brew soon. I have a feeling it would be good with some pretzels (maybe chocolate covered, even though I don’t really like chocolate either) or peanuts).

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        rachel July 13, 2013, 12:38 am

        Oh, if you don’t like super sweet what about green tea or red bean?

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        A La Mode July 13, 2013, 2:08 am

        Pistachio ice cream! Make it super pistachio-y and it’s amazing.

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        lemongrass July 12, 2013, 11:22 pm

        Coconut lemongrass! That ice cream flavour is the origin of my screen name, it’s my fave flavour!

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    mandalee July 12, 2013, 6:58 pm

    This weekend I’m taking my first biology exam in 5 years. Basically, if I suck at this exam, there’s no way I’m going to make through my second-degree nursing program, so it’s a little exam in reality, but in my head, it’s a BIG EXAM. After that, I’m going to visit my niece who was born last Friday. She’s adorable and her pictures inspire me me to make really lame cooing noises all day long. I love babies, well other people’s babies, so I’m excited to hug and snuggle a kid I get to give back.

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    GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 7:47 pm

    Oh guys! I need advice! Should I make a forum post? So twice in the past two weeks GGuy and have been out (at the bar) and have met really nice people! One was a couple, the other was two dudes (not a couple, the ones GF showed up as we where leaving). We hit it off with both sets of people, and we’re sort of dying for some couple friends or at the minimum friends out side of his academic circle. How do you make friends with random people you meet out while in your late 20’s. Chances are we will run into them again, so do we just say hi? Facebook friend them? Our common interest of craft beer (discussed with both sets of people) would be an easy thing to connect on. I’m justo stumped how to go from a nice conversation or two at a bar to forging a new friendship.

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      TECH July 12, 2013, 8:37 pm

      I have felt that way lately, too. Not in terms of making friends with couples, but just making friends in general. I met a cool girl I have a lot in common with last week and would love to hang out with her. But it just felt awkward saying “Can I have your number?” like asking her out on some weird sort of friendship date?

      I think it just gets harder when you are out of school and you don’t have sort of “pre-defined” ways to make friends. I think if you run into them again you just say hi and see if the conversation flows naturally and easy. Maybe ask them if they want to go on a brewery tour together some time?

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 9:08 pm

        I asked a girl at my part time job if we could be Facebook friends. I felt like a combination of a huge asshole/creep and the lamest person alive. Why are friends after college so hard?

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      rachel July 12, 2013, 9:29 pm

      I don’t know. I facebook friended a couple of girls I hung out with after a brewery tour, and neither they nor I have made another move. It’s so awkward making friends as an adult.

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        TECH July 12, 2013, 9:38 pm

        I don’t know. Maybe the solution is to be the first one to make a move. But make sure it’s not forced. I’ve never been the type of person to have a ton of friends. I guess all it takes it’s 1 or 2 good friends and you meet people through them and things just happen organically.

        I know I really need to make more friends so I decided to reach out via Facebook message to a couple of girls I used to hang out with about 3 years ago. One didn’t answer at all. The other one responded in a friendly but superficial way.

        It kind of made me feel bad about myself. But I guess if they’re not genuinely interested in hanging out with me, I shouldn’t want to hang out with them.

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      Christy July 12, 2013, 11:31 pm

      Find a beer tasting and casually invite them!

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      Bethany July 14, 2013, 8:53 am

      I say go for it. The worst that can happen is they say no.

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      Skyblossom July 14, 2013, 11:11 am

      You keep going to the bar where you met them and if they live in the area you will bump into them again and again and most times you are there you talk to them and you get to know them and they get to know you until you are comfortable inviting them over to your place or vice versa. Maybe you have a craft beer you invite them over to taste. Maybe you talk about wanting to visit a local brewery and see if they say they’ve been wanting to visit it too, if and only if they mention they want to do that you suggest you could all meet at the brewery. I would only do this after knowing them for at least several months.

      If they have fun while out at the bar where you first met them and they are local they will go back over and over because they have a good time there. You may need to notice what days of the week they are there so you can make your schedule overlap with theirs.

      We’ve made lots of friends over the years and it comes from repeated interactions. Don’t come on so strong that it feels creepy. We’ve had a woman do that to us. She didn’t even know us enough to know our last names and she was wanting to take our picture to put up in her living room. I know you would never be that creepy but just be aware that you let it happen naturally and don’t come on so strong that they avoid you. Friendship is one of those things that takes time.

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    Classic July 12, 2013, 8:50 pm

    I just think it is so great that your parents still had your little Samurai outfit and now Jackson gets to wear the same one that you wore. He’s so cute in it.
    Have a great trip!

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    CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 9:50 pm

    I day drank and now I’m transitioning into night drinking, I guess. HI Y’ALL!! I heart you all! I’m going to call DW D-Dub from now on, btdub.

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      CatsMeow July 13, 2013, 1:47 am

      Yep, I think if anyone asked, I would currently classify myself not as “tipsy” but as “deeeeeeee-runk!”

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    lemongrass July 12, 2013, 11:25 pm

    Jackson looks adorable, Wendy. That would make a great ‘then and now’ picture to recreate when he gets older.

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    Megan_A_Mess July 13, 2013, 12:31 am

    Jackson is too cute! I love it! Also, we are having some rather kickass weather in the midwest, so it seems you picked a great weekend. Safe travels and have fun!

    As for me, this is the last weekend that I am working before the wedding and honeymoon. Then I’ll have about 16/17 days off before going back to work. I still don’t really feel like we’re going on our honeymoon, but that’s probably because we’re flying standby, so we don’t really know when we’ll be leaving. I am keeping my fingers crossed we get to leave the day after the wedding (the wedding night would be great too, but the flights are almost sold out.) But we don’t have a real set date for it, so that kind of sucks. But I am excited to just get away for a bit. After all that Mr. Mess and I have been through these last two years, I think we deserve a nice vacation away from it all.

    But then next week will be full throttle getting the house wedding shower ready/final wedding planning/finishing up my online class/packing for honeymoon craziness, so it’s almost kind of nice to be away from the house right now. I even made a schedule of things that I am going to do next week, on what days so I keep myself nice and busy, and that way I have plenty of time to reschedule things if something else gets thrown off.

    Even tiny wedding planning is stressful! I had a really sad moment last night, just feeling irritated with the whole world and their negativity. However, I sat down with my music, some of my origami paper, and folded lucky Chinese stars for about three hours, and that seemed to help. I feel better today, but until the 24th, when everything is over and the only thing we have to worry about is getting on plane and getting to Vegas, I won’t really feel that much better. We’ve also decided that for two of the (hopefully) six days we’re going “offline”. We’re turning our smartphones off and just being with each other, so that will be awesome. We won’t have internet access anyways, and our hotel doesn’t have free wi-fi, so that’s kind of good. I legit need a break from “virtual” life.

    Also, since I am a cook, a few months ago, I burned myself on my inner arm. Earlier this week, I burned myself again, right under those two burns, so now I have four of them and one looks just terrible. I am actually afraid it might infected. I’ve really reached my limit, so I decided to apply for a new job today, and they called me back, to come and fill out an actual application. I am not sure if it will amount to anything, but I am keeping my fingers crossed. It would be a normal 9-5 job with benefits and weekends off, and I have NEVER had that, so I am really hoping it goes well.

    TL;DR – Working this weekend, with lots going on in the next two weeks!

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    cmary July 13, 2013, 6:29 am

    I went for a second interview for a job yesterday afternoon, and got home to an offer letter in my email! The pay isn’t anything great, but it’s decent and definitely better than the temp job I’m working now, and there are full benefits and the chance to move up/around in the company.

    This morning we’re going for a hike, and we’ve got a birthday party/BBQ this afternoon. Anyone have any good chicken salad recipes? I’m following the SCD diet now so I want to bring something I know I can eat safely. After not eating meat for about 16 years, adding chicken and turkey has been easier than I expected. And tasty!!

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      cmary July 13, 2013, 2:43 pm

      SCD legal chicken salad recipe found: 4 pieces grilled chicken breast, shredded. Two ripe avocados, mashed into delicious gooeyness. Juice from a half a lime, two tablespoons cilantro. Mix together. Eat all of it immediately.

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    Sunshine Brite July 13, 2013, 7:26 am

    I’m going to a friend’s wedding in Boston. We’ve been enjoying the city and I had fun at the bachelorette party. Wyatt got to meet some important people to me at the welcome dinner. Then tonight will mark a great change that’s been 6 years in the making. These two are great together and it makes me really happy to be in boston for the first time and to witness their commitment today.

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    AliceInDairyland July 13, 2013, 10:18 am

    …guys my BF needs a pretend-name for DW. I don’t know what to pick.

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      GatorGirl July 13, 2013, 10:22 am

      Mad Matter?

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      Fabelle July 13, 2013, 11:37 am

      Mine does too. I’m about to just stating calling him Faboylle or something.

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        Fabelle July 13, 2013, 11:38 am

        “Stating calling” what. I mean, *start calling. And I haven’t even day-drank yet!

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        Bethany July 14, 2013, 8:54 am

        I made one up for my husband, but I forget it. Maybe I will call him Bethano!

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        Classic July 13, 2013, 12:17 pm

        Alex or Fabian

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        Classic July 13, 2013, 5:52 pm

        Fabien, Andre, Jacques, Luc, or Marceau

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      rachel July 13, 2013, 12:02 pm

      Farmer Fred?

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      Classic July 13, 2013, 12:16 pm

      Benjamin

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        Classic July 13, 2013, 5:51 pm

        or J.R. or Almanzo.
        You guys can just ignore me– I just like these games a lot πŸ™‚

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        Fabelle July 14, 2013, 12:44 pm

        I like your suggestions! Alex makes me think of this kid I know, but Fabian could work πŸ™‚ Or maybe Andre or Jacques, if I don’t wanna attach the “fab” to it at all.

        And I like “Benjamin” for Alice’s.

        @Bethany, yours was “Howard” I think!

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        Classic July 14, 2013, 1:37 pm

        I quickly realized that Alex was really for me and not one for you. It was because right before I quit the dating site that I tried recently, I exchanged messages with a man who looked really good to me in his pictures and his name was Alex, so I suddenly decided I like the name Alex! In one of his photos, he was wearing a hat and big jacket, like a trapper or a mountain man or something. Never met him in person, but I like imaginary Alex now πŸ™‚

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        AliceInDairyland July 14, 2013, 6:53 pm

        Ooh I like Benjamin. It’s adorable.

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    Fabelle July 13, 2013, 11:40 am

    My boyfriend scheduled himself to not work at his summer job today (yay), so we’re going to probably go to a winery or something? The weather looks iffy.

    And tomorrow, I don’t know. Who are all the people who’ve joined that website, Girlfriend Social? I met up with one girl a few weeks ago, but the one I’d been talking to the most kind of fell off the face of the Earth after mentioning we should meet up (just in a vague manner, no plans were solidified). I’ve never online dated, but this really feels like that 😐 Ahh!

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      rachel July 13, 2013, 11:58 am

      I joined it but there aren’t many people here. I “exchanged coffees” with 2 girls and nothing came of it, and exchanged a few emails with one other that just didn’t really pan out. It is totally like online dating, but with lamer profiles, haha.

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        Fabelle July 14, 2013, 12:47 pm

        Yeah, I kind of lost steam with the whole thing, but in the beginning when I was messaging & sending coffees galore, I was getting lots of prospects (or whatever). I think I’m burned out now, though. haha (I did find a lot of people close to my age & area though, so keep trying! You too, Bethany!)

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        Copa July 14, 2013, 5:38 pm

        I’ve never used Girlfriend Social but I did VERY briefly online date, and I laughed aloud reading about “exchanging coffees” — apparently even galpal-type websites have something similar to online dating “winking”. πŸ™‚

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      Bethany July 14, 2013, 8:55 am

      I joined, but there are only 2 people who live close to me and they’re both really young. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but I’m looking for friends closer to my age range. I’m going to keep trying though.

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    Sobriquet July 13, 2013, 1:45 pm

    My birthday is this upcoming Wednesday and my mom is taking my boyfriend and I to dinner tonight to celebrate. I chose the Cheesecake Factory and think I may be in the mood for carrot cake cheesecake tonight. Tomorrow I’m meeting up with friends at a little swimming hole to beat the heat.

    Oh. And I chopped off my own hair yesterday to give myself bangs. New hairstyle for my 27th year of life! (Er, technically my 27th birthday and 28TH year of life according to my smarty pants boyfriend)

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      Copa July 14, 2013, 6:33 pm

      Happy Birthday!

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  • katie

    katie July 13, 2013, 3:21 pm

    so this weekend i am in the north Philadelphia suburbs visiting my friends! its my best friend from college and her fiance. this is my same friend who asked me to be her maid of honor. i had no idea how close my work in PA was from her place! it was only like an hour and a half. so my friend is at work and me and her fiance are here watching movies and im sort of working. and dwing.

    she has the cutest new kitties! a 10 month old girl named zoe, which is the same name as my cat! and then a little 3 month old kitten named jack who is so cute. so im just hanging out and playing with kitties this weekend. and then back to work on monday! and then home thursday and then hopefully ill be home for a while. after thursday i will have been away from my house for 13 of the last 15 days or something ridiculous. and i miss my cats.

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      katie July 13, 2013, 3:26 pm

      oh i had my first WaWa experience today- and it was pretty good!

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        Bethany July 14, 2013, 8:56 am

        Hooray for Wawa! What did you get? Did you try the coffee?

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        katie July 14, 2013, 11:43 am

        i did not try the coffee, should i?

        i got a philie cheesesteak or whatever with cheddar and lettuce. boring, right? lol

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        GatorGirl July 15, 2013, 8:12 am

        Ewwwww lettuce is so not supposed to go on a cheesesteak!

        And yes, wawa coffee is fabulous. Definitely try some.

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        bethany July 15, 2013, 9:19 am

        Next time you go, let us know in advance, and we’ll tell you what to get πŸ™‚ Their coffee is very good. I highly recommend it.

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    lets_be_honest July 13, 2013, 3:35 pm

    The wedges came today! I got the red ones,Wendy, and I’m calling them my Wendy Wedges haha. So cute, and really comfortable! Thanks for the recommendation.

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    L July 13, 2013, 6:35 pm

    I need to let off some steam…

    As many know, I’m at my summer camp job right now, where my ex also works. It’s been so so so tough trying to keep my distance while maintaining a professional demeanor. I realize I’ve come off as a complete and total bitch to more people than just him. I hate that I care so much about what other people think about me. So, I made the decision this week to extend the olive branch to him…and we’re kind of friends again. I can talk to him without getting pissed off. I’m not rolling my eyes at him *as* much. And it actually feels good. Like, a weight is finally lifted off my shoulders. As weird as this is, when my most recent ex (ex 2) and I broke up, I actually talked to ex 1 about it. Honestly he knows me best and he still understands me really well. He’s always been able to read me like a book and that hasn’t changed. He listened and he told me genuinely that I deserve better and that ex 2 acted like a dick. Oddly enough, it’s nice to be friends with ex 1 again. It has allowed me to let go of some things that I had been holding against him for a long long long time.

    The shitty part about this summer is that I feel kind of excluded from other groups of friends. Like, it feels as though everyone has their niche and their group and I’m left alone. The people at this camp are like a second family to me so this is a really weird and different feeling. I think it’s because of how I’ve acted towards ex 1 at the beginning of the summer. I’ve never felt so ready to go home during camp but I am already really ready to be home again and we still have two weeks left. I know I haven’t exactly been an easy person to get along with at times this summer. I think that plays a big part in why this has been such a rough summer. Since this place has such meaning to me, I will likely come back in future years…but right now it’s soooo weird.

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      vizslalvr July 13, 2013, 7:32 pm

      L, I thought of you today looking through my best friend’s pictures – they’re doing a reunion at the summer camp she and her husband worked at with a bunch of friends. She worked there all through college in the summers, so I am intimately familiar with camp drama, and it sounds like you’re handling things admirably. Since extending an olive branch to Ex1 was so successful, maybe extend an olive branch to people in the niche groups, too? There’s no reason you shouldn’t enjoy the last couple of weeks at camp.

      And, FWIW, everyone I know who worked at camp had one weird/off summer like yours. But based on my time there for the bachelor/bachelorette party with all of the camp people and the pictures, it all works out in the end and they all still love and go back to camp.

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    quixoticbeatnik July 14, 2013, 1:52 pm

    It’s been a pretty good weekend for me so far. I went to a cousin’s wedding on Friday, which was fun! It was even better that I didn’t have to drive home after since I had quite a few (free) drinks there – I just crashed with my parents at a nearby hotel. Then I had some friends come over last night to my new apartment while my roommate is out of town. I’ve only been here a week so far but I LOVE it! My half of the rent & bills is about the same as my old apartment but it is sooooo much nicer. Washer/dryer (thank god, I hated going back and forth to the laundry room, especially in the TX heat), dishwasher that actually CLEANS my dishes, valet trash and recycling, good location, super cute apartment – and I love my new bedroom and garden tub. I’m so happy here! I started my co-ed kickball league on Wednesday and it is so. much. FUN. Everybody is really cool and there’s lots of drinking and we’re planning on playing awesome music when we go up to bat and I’m just so glad I decided to join. There are also so many cute guys. I’m newly single…and I want to flirt like hell and make out with someone so badly. I need to step up my hotness game. Things are good right now. Hopefully they will stay that way!

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    Copa July 14, 2013, 5:40 pm

    I saw my boyfriend this weekend for the first time in 3 weeks! YAY! We sucked face in public. I like him a lot. Ha.

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    TECH July 14, 2013, 6:24 pm

    So, I think I have completely forgotten how to flirt. I spent the day at the beach with just myself and a good book. There was a cute guy there who was swimming and then laid out in the sun near me. He looked right at me, we made eye contact, and he smiled at me. But I didn’t know what to say to him, so I didn’t say anything. I mean, what should I have said, something lame like, “It’s really hot today, isn’t it?”
    Ugh, I am so lame. I need to gain more flirting confidence.

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      Copa July 14, 2013, 6:32 pm

      Lame flirting is fine! At least, I think it is. In my experience, when someone is interested — even just a lil bit — lame works.

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