Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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TGIF! What a crazy week this was, amiright? I blame the full moon.

I know I promised to write something this week about stay-at-home-motherhood and I did spend an hour or so trying to, but eventually I was all, “Eh, fuck it, I’m bored,” and I moved on to something else. I know you’re all heartbroken. But maybe I will be moved in the future to write some defense of the modern day SAHM or something — you know, something about how most of the SAHMs I know have side projects and careers they’ve put on hold and we are “more” than “just moms” (someone asked me a couple weeks ago if I was “just a mom,” and I think that’s what set me off in the first place, as if any woman is “just” any one role in life) but this week I couldn’t really find a fuck to give. Wow, two fucks — well, three now — in one paragraph. I guess it has been quite a week.

Speaking of the whole “careers on hold” thing, this week I had an opportunity to imagine going back to work full-time (basically, there was a job opening I heard about that sounded up my alley and then someone in a hiring position reached out to me about the very same job and I wondered if it was a sign or something). There are times I really miss working outside the home and all that entails — Being away from children! Getting dressed in something other than cut-offs and a t-shirt! Feeling validated about work well-done! Earning a paycheck!! — but I thought about it and I couldn’t imagine being away from Jackson all day, every day. Of course, I know plenty of people (including my own husband) who do it — who work full-time jobs and then come home and start the “second shift” and many of them couldn’t imagine it any other way (and many people don’t have a choice, which I definitely appreciate). And the kids of parents who both work full-time don’t seem any less happy or cared-for or well-rounded to me, so I don’t say this from a place of judgment at all, but I just know that I, personally, couldn’t find the energy to give a full-time job AND parenthood all the focus I would need to do them both well. Plus, if I took a full-time job right now, that would definitely be the end of DW. I couldn’t work full-time, be a mom and wife, AND keep up this site in anyway close to the capacity I do now. So, that’s that. I will keep on trucking on and doing my thing and hope that by keeping a foot in the working world, I can still have a long-term career of sorts.

Anyway, I’m babbling. I guess I did have more to say about motherhood, etc. And I will probably re-visit this topic again some time. But for now, let’s talk weekend plans. On my agenda: mojitos, a jog or two in the park, “Orange is the New Black,” maybe a picnic, some naps, bubbles. And you?

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    shanshantastic August 23, 2013, 4:05 pm

    OMG, am I the first? This is a first!

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    TECH August 23, 2013, 4:07 pm

    Did anyone else have a minor heart attack when they read the words ” that would definitely be the end of DW”
    I hope it never is the end of DW 🙁

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      bethany August 23, 2013, 4:09 pm

      I almost typed the exact same thing.
      NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

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    • Fabelle

      Fabelle August 23, 2013, 4:12 pm

      Yeah, my insides definitely flip-flopped. DW MUST ENDURE FOREVER

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      Christy August 23, 2013, 4:15 pm

      RIGHT?!

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow August 23, 2013, 5:59 pm

      Wendy, you’re kinda like a mom to all of us. You give us warm words of wisdom, tough love when we need it… and you break up our fights and put us in time out when we misbehave. WE NEED YOU.

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow August 23, 2013, 6:00 pm

        You’re also like our cool semi-imaginary best friend. Er, maybe I should speak for myself on that one.

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  • raptor

    gillociraptor August 23, 2013, 4:08 pm

    I got a bad, bad haircut today, everyone.

    It’s bad.

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      shanshantastic August 23, 2013, 4:09 pm

      Too short to fix? I could link you to some more awesome hats to cover it up until it grows out…

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      • raptor

        gillociraptor August 23, 2013, 4:11 pm

        It’s not the length (it’s hovering right above my shoulders), but the straight across bangs.

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        gillociraptor August 23, 2013, 4:12 pm

        Basically, I have the same haircut I had when I was seven years old.

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      • BriarRose

        BriarRose August 23, 2013, 4:15 pm

        Oh god, the lady who has been cutting my hair for EIGHT years accidentally gave me bangs last month. Same thing, straight across bangs. She actually said “I am SO sorry” right after I heard the scissors snip.

        Basically, I feel your pain. I part mine on the side and try to make them do the side-sweeping thing.

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        gillociraptor August 23, 2013, 4:18 pm

        I’ll keep that in mind, thanks! They were supposed to be swoopy side bangs to begin with. I’m sorry it happened to you, too, but kind of glad to know I’m not alone in my hair distress.

        After it happened, I hoped that maybe I could pull off the Zooey Deschanel thing, but I can’t. Although when my husband came home, he said, “You look like Zooey!” So, he made me feel a little better.

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      • BriarRose

        BriarRose August 23, 2013, 4:21 pm

        Quite a compliment! I tried to rock them for a day, but I couldn’t see and realized I was old and chose vision over beauty.

        I would clip mine to the side at night when I was home to “train” them to stay to the side. It helped a little. Time makes it better too 😉

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        ktfran August 23, 2013, 4:41 pm

        So, most hairdressers – if you’re a regular – will give you a free bang clean up. Maybe let them grow for a couple weeks, then take a picture of side swept you like and ask him or her to clean them up for you????

        I know that doesn’t help right now, but it might make them a little more bearable for the next couple of weeks.

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    shanshantastic August 23, 2013, 4:09 pm

    Also, now that I’ve solidly established my first-ness…

    Tonight I’m going to a girls’ night with my coworkers and a couple of former coworkers. It’ll be fun, we all get along really well and our one friend is moving to Denver in October so fun time is limited. It’ll be the second Friday night in a row that I’m leaving Arthur home with Brian, so I also feel kind of guilty but not enough to stay home. I enjoy having a life again. 🙂

    Sunday we’re going to see my brother and SIL’s new apartment. They love it, so I’m sure we will. It also means our second sort-of-long trip with A, but now that we know what to look for we’re prepared.

    I’d be terribly sad if there was no more DW – I totally understand the lack of time to do everything right. It’s why I’m reluctant to look for a new job right now; I have the flexibility here to be home when I need to and still do some work (and my side gig), even if I don’t totally love what I do just yet.

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      applescruffs August 23, 2013, 5:01 pm

      Tell your friend who is moving to Denver that she can come hang out with the Denver DW-ers!

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    bethany August 23, 2013, 4:12 pm

    I’m getting my legs waxed this weekend. That’s the highlight of my weekend. Well, not really.

    Tonight we’re going to a Phillies game. Tomorrow my husband is taking me on a horseback riding trip (a birthday present from June). I can’t wait! Then Sunday’s the big leg wax 🙂 We’re also leaving for our 2 week road trip next weekend, so this weekend will be spent getting everything in order for that, and doing laundry and stuff.

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    • katie

      katie August 23, 2013, 5:26 pm

      ugh good look with the waxing. leg waxing might be the most painful thing in the entire world. right up there with my rib tattoo. yikes!

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      • BriarRose

        BriarRose August 23, 2013, 5:30 pm

        More painful than a bikini wax for you? I’m surprised! Bikini waxing is what does me in.

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      • katie

        katie August 23, 2013, 5:34 pm

        um, mostly equal pain, but what gets me the most is the shins. god those hurt!

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        Bethany August 24, 2013, 3:56 pm

        Luckily it doesn’t hurt too much for me. There’s just a few tender spots. I can’t wait for it to just be over with. My legs itch from all this hair!

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      Addie Pray August 23, 2013, 5:56 pm

      bethany! i met a guy from phillie. his name is bob. i said “oh hey my friend bethany lives in phillie….” 😉

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  • BriarRose

    BriarRose August 23, 2013, 4:13 pm

    I know it’s different for everyone, but for me personally it tears a tiny piece of my heart away every day that I have to work full time. My daughter is at before school care, then school, then after school care, for a total of almost 10 hours. I wish more than anything that I could pick her up from school, or let her ride the bus and be waiting for her when she got home.

    She starts 3rd grade on Monday and I don’t even get to walk her into school on the first day, since school around here starts at 9:15 (weird) and I have to be to work by 8. The good news is that she is happy, smart, and well-adjusted, and seems to love her life. I just wish I could give her a different childhood than the one I’m currently providing. Le sigh. I guess Mommy has the back to school blues?

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    • BriarRose

      BriarRose August 23, 2013, 4:23 pm

      Ugh, that sounds all whiny. I’m proud that I can work full time and still be a great Mommy. I just wish I got to see her a bit more, but we know how to make our time together count, so it’s all good.

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      bethany August 23, 2013, 4:29 pm

      The reasons you list are part of why I’m still hesitant to have a kid. It would/will break my heart to leave them 🙁

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      • BriarRose

        BriarRose August 23, 2013, 5:26 pm

        It IS tough, Bethany, but still so very worth it. Trust me. I think for me I get a little bummed every so often since these circumstances are not necessarily by choice, but most of the time I feel like things are just hunky dory. Nadine is exactly right–this is the only life Laura knows, and she’s a very happy and content little girl. And I think I’m setting a great example for her, and that makes me very happy.

        Along those same lines, my Mom was a SAHM my entire childhood, and I feel like Laura has a much happier childhood than I did.

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        BriarRose August 23, 2013, 5:28 pm

        I see I just accidentally wrote my daughter’s name about 30 times. Oops!

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      Nadine August 23, 2013, 5:00 pm

      she won’t know or want any different. Trust me, I’m sure you are there when it counts. I had a father who worked a lot, and long hours too, and my mother worked sporadically but long hours when she had it. And I did the before and after-care thing. And I was fine! she will be too. And when she grows up she will be so proud of you and how you provided for her childhood. I know. Sometimes my mum gets down about how she ‘has’ to work (none of her sisters do) and I remind her that I dont care about fancy stuff, but I am mighty proud to have a mother with a career. She is the only sister out of five to have a career and that makes me so proud.
      Sorry for the rant, you just seemed like you needed a boost!

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      • BriarRose

        BriarRose August 23, 2013, 5:27 pm

        Thank you Nadine, that was lovely!

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      Astronomer August 24, 2013, 12:48 pm

      Don’t feel bad! I was a daycare kid and loved it. Seriously, daycare was my favorite part of every day. I got to play games in a gym, do arts and crafts, eat snacks, and hang out with cool older kids. It was definitely good for me socially, too, because I was a total geek in school and didn’t have many friends my own age. Daycare gave me confidence, because the younger kids looked up to me and the older kids thought I was fun enough to do puzzles and write stories with. I also learned to be very independent and make choices about how I spent my time, like, “Do I want to go with the gym group or hang out by myself and read today?” Anyway, don’t b so hard on yourself. I think there are some wonderful benefits to daycare that us grown-ups tend to forget about sometimes.

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        Jodee August 24, 2013, 3:42 pm

        Seconded! I was a daycare kid with parents who worked full-time. All the way til middle school I had after-school providers who would come hang with me while mom and dad were at work (if I wasn’t involved in after school sports). Ivy league grad, have lived happily in multiple major cities, travel a lot, and couldn’t be happier to credit my success and independence to my parents. I’m naturally an introvert, but I know much of my ability to bond/make friends and connections has come from those formative years of having to bond/connect with numerous people outside my family. And I still love spending time with mom and dad on holidays and various trips home (and, of course, we’re frequently in touch by phone/email). Being away from a kid for 8-10 hrs/day is definitely not something to worry about. It doesn’t work for everyone, but for those of us who may need an extra push to get outside our family comfort zone, it can be extremely useful/educational.

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    ktfran August 23, 2013, 4:34 pm

    Chicagoans. Rock Bottom Brewery or the Roof at Tavern at the Park for after work drinks? Please help. Or, where should we go that’s downtown?

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      Addie Pray August 23, 2013, 5:55 pm

      You going with your co-worker lovah?

      I vote the roof at Rock Bottom Brewery.

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  • mylaray

    mylaray August 23, 2013, 4:42 pm

    I just want to say I love reading all the different perspectives on parenthood here. It’s made me think a lot of how my fiancé and I are going to do things if we are able to have kids. I wouldn’t have been nearly as aware of all the different options if I didn’t read DW.

    This weekend, I am going to try to start wedding planning. We need to start coming up with our guest list and it’s stressing me out because the only person from my family we will be inviting is a cousin of mine. And we live near where my fiancé grew up, so lots of his friends and family will be there, and it makes me a little sad I don’t have that. Anyways, we’re trying to come up with a venue and can’t decide. We would love to get married in his parents’ backyard because it’s sentimental for us, but it’s an hour away from our city and in the middle of nowhere and I don’t know if the logistics for our out of town guests would work. The closest hotel of any kind is 10 miles away, but they would have to rent a car at the airport and drive an hour themselves and I don’t want our guests to have to do that. All of the other venues in our city we like cost a lot more than we want to spend, and the deeper I get into planning, the less I want to spend.

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      Nadine August 23, 2013, 5:03 pm

      I have tried to start wedding planning, but when my budget is about £0 and its going to be in New Zealand, and all I really care about is the paperwork and the party, it is very hard to be motivated!
      Logistics for guests is my biggest headache. Stupid people in other countries wanting to come to my wedding!

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        mylaray August 24, 2013, 12:07 am

        Yes, exactly. One of my best friends is coming from India and I feel responsible for her and everyone and want to be a good host and make it easy and not too expensive for the guests. I love all my friends dearly, but they are spread across too many places!

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        Nadine August 24, 2013, 2:48 am

        Me too! I had to decide that as long as my immediate family are there (and his of course) and we don’t guilt trip our friends, the whole thing may be pulled off ok…..

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      • mylaray

        mylaray August 24, 2013, 7:59 pm

        Yes, hopefully. Good luck!

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  • katie

    katie August 23, 2013, 5:33 pm

    well i am leaving in a little while to take the train downtown and then dinner with my cousin, and im excited for that… but im more excited because i just bought, like, ALL the wine. i went to jewel with the intention of buying deodorant (no coupons, which wtf? but they were on sale so i stock up, i was down to 2!), and then im like, well why dont i look at the wine? and wow they had this clearance section. $3 bottles of wine. HELL YES. so i bought a bunch of them, and like 4 bottles of each. they were also doing a tasting too but nothing good.

    then i go to another grocery store for raspberries (.99! amazing! i got 5!), and ANOTHER wine tasting! and this malbec was just so yummy, so i bought two. one is for my cousin tonight for a birthday present.

    so part of the reason i bought so much today is that i am doing the 12 months of wine gift for my friend who is getting married in april! im excited. so you get one of those 12 count boxes for wine, with the little slots or whatever, then you get 12 bottles and decorate a tag for each bottle, and each bottle is for their “anniversary” that month, and then the 12th bottle is the most important, and its for their one year anniversary. i dont know what im going to do for that bottle. i wanna get something fantastic. ill have to get some guidance. she also asked me to make gum paste flowers for her wedding cake, which i am excited but scared about doing.

    i love wine.

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    lemongrass August 23, 2013, 5:52 pm

    I feel pretty much the same way about being a sahm as Wendy. I feel really fortunate that I am able to be home although it does require financial sacrifice for us. I absolutely love being at home, most of the time. As for our weekend, I’ll be continuing the sleep training I’ve been doing. It’s going really well except that I’m not used to sleeping long stretches so I’ve been lying in bed willing myself to go back to sleep. Go figure.

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    muchachaenlaventana August 23, 2013, 5:58 pm

    nothing really planned. maybe a beer festival tomorrow during the day. there is an event i want to go to tonight but could get complicated and its not really my roommates scene so it is probably for the best to steer clear 🙁 also its rainy and gross here and i am just not stoked on the weekend and feeling down! but i hope everyone else’s weekends are amazing!!

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  • thewriteway

    thewriteway August 23, 2013, 6:54 pm

    Not much here…going to practice my Zumba music and DVDs so I can improve on getting choreography down and hopefully not losing my place the next time I sub! Also, my brother is going back to school tomorrow, so I’m taking advantage of the peace in the house and the full day of no disruption to clean. I have work for two hours late tomorrow night too, so yeah, never an exciting weekend for me!

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  • CatsMeow

    CatsMeow August 23, 2013, 7:37 pm

    At this particular moment in time, I am bored. I’m waiting for my nails to dry, and then I’m gonna gussy up some more and go out to a Big Lebowski themed burlesque show. In other news, I shaved my entire coochie today. It’s smooth as a baby’s bottom, which is good news because lately it’s been kinda irritated. I used coconut oil. God I’m such an over-sharer.

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    • AKchic_

      AKchic_ August 23, 2013, 10:41 pm

      You are, but I’m amused enough to read.

      I did my nails, then I made halibut, so my nails are toast. I need to remove the polish and re-do my nails. *sigh* Terrible. I’m just terrible.

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow August 24, 2013, 2:28 am

      DRUNK UPDATE:

      I set up my friends as fuck buddies, and it worked. They are having sex right now. RIGHT NOW. And instead of being happy I am only lonely. I am proud of my set-up skills but sad that I am not currently having sex. Fuckers kicked me out.

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow August 24, 2013, 9:28 am

        Still kinda drunk in the morning update:

        I found a Dorito in my bed. And I ate it.

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        Addie Pray August 24, 2013, 2:06 pm

        haha this one made me laugh

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        mrmidtwenties August 24, 2013, 5:37 pm

        If you don’t have a dorito or two hiding in your bed, I question your life priorities.

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        Addie Pray August 24, 2013, 8:53 pm

        now see, i don’t like doritos. but if i found a cheeto in my bed i wouldn’t kick it out.

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        mrmidtwenties August 25, 2013, 9:19 am

        I found an oreo this morning, I think I win

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        Addie Pray August 25, 2013, 9:45 am

        Haha you definitely win. I woke up 3 hours ago and have been lying here in bed writing and listening to music – which actually I can’t do – write *and* listen to music; it’s too distracting. But I thought I’d report what is in my bed: a pile of clean laundry I did last week but never put away, a remote control, an empty water bottle, and a letter from my insurance provider asking me to call them so they can verify my recent illness or injury resulting in treatment to me or a family member. I don’t know why/how that mail found its way to my bed. It must have been in my hand when I called the insurer back and I wondered back to my room while on the call. … Anyway, no oreo, or dorito, or cheetohs, so you definitely win.

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      Fabelle August 24, 2013, 1:58 pm

      Being on the computer as my nails dry is the only way I can sit still long enough not to fuck them up.

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        Fabelle August 24, 2013, 1:59 pm

        Oh, & I meant to add, that’s why I’m on DW right now 😀 (Otherwise my post was almost a non sequitar…)

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  • AKchic_

    AKchic_ August 23, 2013, 6:50 pm

    I spent the morning at a car dealership looking at new(er) vehicles. My credit is finally well enough that I am at that “starting out” new car buyer type phase. We found something that I liked (an ’06 Explorer with 3rd row seat), now finance has it and we’ll see. The keys were are missing so the vehicle won’t be ready until Tuesday, should I decide to get it.

    Last night, I had a kid try to bathe the kitten in the toilet.

    Tomorrow I have a wedding to go to.

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      MMcG August 24, 2013, 5:21 pm

      It is all about the certified used vehicle AK. As an economist once told me – a new car is basically the worst investment you can buy. An asset that literally loses 20-25% of its value the second you drive it off the lot and never goes up (unless you’re talking about some rare antique vehicle). Of course I’ve never seen the need for anything more than safe, reliable w 4 wheels and a seat so it doesnt impact me too much…

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  • theattack

    theattack August 24, 2013, 2:22 am

    We’ve been moving our shit since 6pm, and I had to move shit at work today too. The cats are terrified, poor things. P is still moving stuff, but I told him I was going to bed. I’m such a bad wife. We have to get up again in five hours to start again, and then we’re staying up late tomorrow for a concert. Basically I will die from exhaustion this weekend.

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      CatsMeow August 24, 2013, 8:35 am

      Moving is The Worst Thing Ever. I feel your pain.

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    cdobbs August 24, 2013, 6:48 am

    that is the weirdest picture….what does it mean?…why is the guy in the chair and the girl is under the chair?

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow August 24, 2013, 8:35 am

      I think she just got done giving him a beej.

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        CatsMeow August 24, 2013, 9:27 am

        And the caption? “Inflamed by passion” makes me think about STDs. Drink!

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        cdobbs August 24, 2013, 12:23 pm

        ok, it totally makes sense now 😀

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    Boosker August 24, 2013, 1:03 pm

    I was a little surprised to hear you refer to yourself as a SAHM along with some bloggers that I read. It seems to me that if you have a business venture going on, you’d be classified as working from home. I think of SAHM’s or SAHD’s as being focused solely on parenting. Like I’m planning on teaching and tutoring solely online (if it works out) when I have kids, but I would tell people I was an English professor when they asked, not a SAHM. I guess it makes sense, because you are a mom who stays home, but I think my surprise is exposing my narrow view of what I thought being a SAHM or SAHD entailed. Maybe there’s some leftover negative energy (which wave of feminism should I blame here?) surrounding the term SAHM that’s influencing my definition.

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    • Classic

      Classic August 24, 2013, 1:24 pm

      I, too, am perplexed by the terminology. I took care of my child myself, at home, and also worked from home and financially supported the two of us. I never referred to myself as a SAHM but maybe it is just because it never came up in conversation, I don’t know.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy August 24, 2013, 2:34 pm

      I would not have characterized myself as a SAHM either a year ago, but I realized quickly that people – especially people who were meeting me in the context of being a mother (like in my moms group or at the playground or at kids’ activities) perceived me as a SAHM. In my group of mom friends, I was the token SAHM. Like, they called me that; I didn’t call myself that. And people who saw me at the playground twice a day – SAHMS themselves – just assumed I was one of them. And I remember feeling sort of offended, mostly because it seemed like any work I was doing outside of being a wife and mother was totally overlooked or thought of as merely a hobby, but also because I had a a narrow view of SAHMs myself. And the more I thought about it and the more I met other woman who were staying home with their young children, the shittier I felt about being so snobby. So I decided to embrace the SAHM title because although I am a work-from-home mom, the work I do takes a smaller percentage of my time and focus than the mothering I do, if that makes sense.

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    Addie Pray August 24, 2013, 2:20 pm

    HEY YOU GUYS! Can I just say I am muy impressed by people who write creative things for a living, or even for a hobby? I am. I write a film review every month that is ONLY 475 words. When you figure that about 100 of those words are easily taken up with just introducing the movie and the director and the actors or whatnot, that only leaves 375 words to put on paper, but that’s too many! It’s stressful! It’s hard to think of something to say that’s meaningful and original. Every month. And it takes me DAYS to put it together. Even though it’s just like 5 short paragraphs. And the end result? Is just meh. Like, how the hell do you create so much GOOD stuff that’s meaningful and original all the live long day? I’d be one broke ass author/blogger. So kudos. I don’t know how you do it.

    Also, I’d just like to say this review I do, which I do for free – which is ok b/c I like to do it. Or I should say, I like it when it’s done. And when I can see my name and picture in the paper like a celebrity of sorts, even though only 2 people read the review, my mom and some guy named Dwight who emails me after each column. Anyway, I’d just like to say that this free gig is expensive. One, they won’t email me the column or mail me the paper, I gotta subscribe. The paper itself is only $1 so thats fine. But if I want a nice formatted PDF? I have to pay for it. And it’s $50! So, basically, this column I write costs me each month: $12 (movie) + $12 (popcorn and soda) + $5 (mini wine bottles I sneak in) + $50 (formatted PDF) = $79 per month. That’s bullshit.

    Also, will someone send me 475 clever words about Orange Is the New Black because that’s what I’m writing about and so far all I got is Orange Is the New Black is, like, really neat. Yo.

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      Jodee August 24, 2013, 3:48 pm

      Oooh. Here is what you could (maybe) discuss – the reversal of standards for male/female characters in the show. In supposedly “great” male-centric TV (The Wire, Breaking Bad, even Mad Men), women play a secondary role/primarily exist to support men/give them depth (you can look up “refrigerator women” for more on that – not true of every female in those shows, but definitely true of many). In OItNB, the men primarily exist as obstacles/conflict for the women (most of their actions seek only to create problems for the ladies). How/why that’s refreshing/a new dynamic is really interesting.

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        Addie Pray August 24, 2013, 4:48 pm

        Oh that’s a great point!! Now just make that point in 475 words for me…

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    Bethany August 24, 2013, 3:56 pm

    Uugh. My relaxing Saturday was not meant to be. We got home from a baseball game late last night, and I realized that the cat had fleas. He’d had some weird bumps/scabs around his neck, and I didn’t know what they were, then last night I realized. Both cats were scratching, and one had a patch of hair missing and a couple of sores. I slept about 2 hours last night because I was so upset. I got up at 6am and went to buy flea collars, then once PetSmart opened I went and got flea shampoo and something similar to Frontline. We gave both cats the flea bath, and that seems to have helped a lot. Tomorrow we can apply the other flea killer stuff. Last night I also saw freaking flea LARVA on the bed in the guest room. It was horiffic. So today after the flea bath I stripped all the beds, pillows, couch cushions- basically anything I could wash, I washed. We swept, then vacuumed, then steam cleaned all the floors. It was so gross. UUgh.

    Anyone have any other suggestions to make sure I got rid of these fuckers?

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    Addie Pray August 24, 2013, 4:52 pm

    Update: I am laying out naked on my roof. My ass is burning. I’ve left my top on because I like tan lines there – the white boobies really pop against the tan stomach and chest. I’ve put a lot of thought into how to use the sun to make your boobs look bigger and your ass smaller.

    I am also eating peanut butter out of the jar and reading Orange Is the New Black the memoir.

    Everyone is busy today and I am bored. MaterialsGirl said she’d go for a walk with me later – yay!

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      Classic August 24, 2013, 5:42 pm

      I do it, too! To make my waist look smaller, I make sure to tan my left and right sides at least as much as front and back. Really!

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      cdobbs August 25, 2013, 6:07 am

      how is that book? i need something to read and i keep hearing that title come up over and over again

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    paperheart August 24, 2013, 8:46 pm

    B and I started watching “Orange is the New Black” on Thursday and I looooove it. I was skeptical at first, but now I’m obsessed.

    Also! Do y’all remember when I talked about starting trying to lose weight on the last deleted thread? Well I’m down 4lbs since then! I’m really proud of myself, because I’ve been really good about what and how much I eat. And I feel really good, too! I always roll my eyes when people talk about how good it feels to eat good food. Like, eating chocolate feels good too. Haha. But i really do feel better now that I’m eating better!

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      lemongrass August 24, 2013, 9:56 pm

      Good for you! I need to do that too. I’ve been really really bad lately. I made a batch of caramel and I am never doing that again.

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    quixoticbeatnik August 25, 2013, 9:38 pm

    I have been so busy that I haven’t looked at DW nearly as often as I used to! However, I feel like that’s a good thing since I like my life so much better now 🙂 This weekend was good! I met painted_lady on Friday, and she is as awesome in real life as she is on DW! We went to an 80’s mixer at the Museum of Natural Science here…which was more like, futuristic instead of 80’s? We were confused. Also, ridiculous lines for the (too few) bars. I prefer 80’s night at this club called Numbers instead, haha. Cheap drinks and tons of dancing. But we met some of my other friends too, and PL actually knew one of them from years ago. Crazy! I also went clubbing last night and drank too much so I’ve been slightly hungover all day and haven’t done anything. I need to be applying for full-time jobs like CRAZY now that my internship is ending. I hate applying for jobs. It’s so soul-sucking.

    Also, I unfriended my ex-boyfriend on Facebook and I am glad I did. He made me mad and I didn’t want to talk to him or look at him or hear about him….so I won’t. Maybe we will/can be friends eventually, but not now. I have too many negative feelings about our relationship right now.

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