When this post goes up, I’ll be boarding a plane back to NYC after spending two days in Missouri to attend my grandfather’s funeral. I’m grateful I was able to get back and pay respects to the man who meant so much to me, as well as seek and offer comfort from my family as we all said good-bye to Jack Bonser. It was a touching service, and I was especially moved by essays my grandmother and aunt wrote, as well as a poem by my uncle, and then at the cemetery, the five-gun salute and the playing of Taps (my grandpa was a WWII vet) totally brought on the water works. But it was all nice and moving and just what he’d have wanted, really.
My grandpa always told us to call when we got home so he’d know we were safe. At his funeral, my aunt told him he didn’t need to call; we knew he got home safely. Right after the funeral, we found a penny on my seat in the car (it wasn’t there before the funeral, and the door was locked). The year on the penny was 1988. Grandpa’s birthday was 8-8 and his favorite number was 8. I think he wanted us to know he got home safely, after all.
This was an emotional and tiring week, but all of your kind words brought some comfort. And though I didn’t plan to do a donation drive the week my grandfather died, your contributions certainly helped ease whatever financial anxiety I had about the expense of flying to the funeral and paying our babysitter for so many extra hours this week. Your donations have also made a big dent in the site overhead for the year, and I can’t tell you how thankful I am for that. So far, over 75 of you have made donations, totaling over $1400! I am floored by your generosity and the sense of community I feel from this site.
If you would like to make a donation, this is the final day I will explicitly invite you to do so until next year’s drive. You are always more than welcome to hit the support button at the top of the site, but this is the week that your collective donations really add up – even, and especially, the smaller ones. From the bottom of my heart, thank you, thank you, thank you!
We’ll be back to normal on Monday, with no more annoying donation drive messages, I promise. Until then, have a wonderful weekend. It’s mother-fuckin’ fall!