Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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Happy Friday, everyone! Hope your week was a good one. Mine was better than last week when I was so hormonal and crabby and sleep-deprived and frustrated with everything, I would have crawled out of my own skin if I could have. Instead, I settled for some Friday night beers and a good run Saturday morning and some weekend take-out meals, which helped turn things around.

Speaking of running, I signed up for my first ever race — a 5-mile Turkey Trot on Thanksgiving morning. I have been jogging on and off (a few years on, a few years off) since I was a teenager, but have never run in a race and really had no interest to until I watched Jackson watch 15 minutes of the NYC marathon a couple weeks ago and it suddenly occurred to me that running in a race could be one way of including my family in an activity that, until now, has always been very solo for me. I like that it’s solo — it’s my time to clear my head and all that — but I also like the idea of Jackson and Drew spending a half hour cheering me on as I cross the finish line and giving Jackson a fuller picture of this whole, “Mama exercising!” thing, if for no other reason than to model for him a healthy lifestyle… or at least a lifestyle that has a little more balance than just mama drinking beer on Friday night.

Anyhoo. Oh, the picture above is of Jackson sticking leaves into someone’s mailbox down the street from us, which I think is maybe illegal? But I thought it was cute so I let him do it long enough to get a couple of photos. Don’t report us.

Other than all that, I am looking forward to going to yoga later and then eating pizza and ice cream for dinner and maybe watching “Frances Ha” on Netflix if I don’t fall asleep before 8 PM. WHAT’S UP FRIDAY!

What’s new with you?

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    TECH November 15, 2013, 4:06 pm

    I’m sitting in on a grad school class tonight. I’m so grateful for the opportunity because I think it will help me figure out if I want to apply for this program. I haven’t been this excited about something in a long time.
    Sometimes it feels like I’m crazy to think about working full time, going to grad school on top of it, and figuring out how to pay my mortgage and tuition — plus sacrificing my Friday nights and Saturday days for three years to attend classes. But I’m starting to have faith that I will figure it out all out.

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      honeybeenicki November 15, 2013, 4:53 pm

      I sat in on some Law School classes 2 years ago and I was absurdly excited. The tour of the school technically only included sitting in on 1 class, but somehow I got the advisor to let me go to 4 classes. I was in heaven. Alas, I can’t make law school a) work with my schedule or b) work with my finances – too many lawyers, not enough good jobs. But it’s still a good dream. I love school.

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    bethany November 15, 2013, 4:06 pm

    I”m glad your week has been better than last week, Wendy!!

    Is it just me, or has today been the longest day in the history of the world?! Uugh. Can’t wait to go home!

    This weekend I’m going to see my grandmother for her 97th Birthday. She’s 97, blind and loves alone. Crazy, right? We got a hotel room for Saturday and have a king sized bed. It’s the little things that make me happy.

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    • Copa

      Copa November 15, 2013, 4:15 pm

      Yes, today has been a month long. My productivity has been at zero at work for the past hour beacuse I feel like I’ve been at my desk FOREVER.

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki November 15, 2013, 4:54 pm

        Must be something about today because it’s been that way at our office too (longest day EVER + no productivity).

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        RangerChic November 15, 2013, 4:56 pm

        My husbands grandmother turned 100 in September! She lived alone until about 3 years ago when she fell and broke her hip. So other than that and being hard of hearing she is actually in pretty good health…amazing!

        I’m going to try and get 85% of xmas shopping done this weekend. I don’t care about sales this time of year because I would rather pay full price and avoid crowds (though I am ordering a lot of stuff instead of actually going to the store) still…I hate it hanging over my head!

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    lemongrass November 15, 2013, 4:18 pm

    Glad you are feeling better, Wendy! Last weekend both E and I got the flu. It was his first time getting sick and we were at a friend’s house. I woke up at 2:30 to hear him gurgling. I picked him up and he threw up all over me and by morning he had gone through 4 pairs of my friend’s sheets. Luckily it was very short lived although he still doesn’t have his full appetite back. The next day when we drove home I had it though and that was the worst 3 hour drive of my life. I would rather redo the 45 min drive to the hospital in labour with contractions every 2 minutes than that drive home nauseous.

    In happier news, since Mr. Grass has gone back to work (a month) I have lost 10 lbs! Before that I hadn’t lost any of the baby weight but now I’ve made a dent in it. I have 15 more to go before I’m at my pre-pregnancy weight but I would still like to lose 10 more than that although I would be totally okay if I didn’t make it that far. But we’ll see, I could get pregnant before I lose that much anyhow.

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  • Fabelle

    Fabelle November 15, 2013, 4:21 pm

    The security guy at work, who is the night guard & doesn’t know anyone, really, just came up to me to say “a guy” was looking for me while I was on break. I can’t for the life of me figure out who, or why anyone would be looking for me, & it’s at the point in my day where my brain thinks this is a great thing to ruminate over. GET ME OUT OF HERE.

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      Banana November 15, 2013, 5:14 pm

      What if he has a million dollars?

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle November 15, 2013, 6:57 pm

        THEN I MISSED MY CHANCE hahaa

        Okay, I have a question for you guys– how do you show support when you’re driving past a group of workers on strike? On the road to my job, there’s all these guys protesting & who are on strike (like, they have signs, & also a giant inflatable rat?) & I wanna be like, “YEH-UHH! FUCK DA MAN” but what do I do? Honk? Wave? I don’t know why they’re on strike at all, but it’s a construction company & they’re out there every day & the person I was driving behind today must’ve flashed some secret hand symbol, because all the guys waved after the car & shit. And I wanted to be like, “BUT I SUPPORT YOU TOO. I JUST DON”T KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS THAT”

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      • katie

        katie November 15, 2013, 10:26 pm

        oh the rat is a union thing! my boss told me about that when we passed one of those.

        i think you are supposed to honk…? i honestly have no idea.

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow November 16, 2013, 9:10 am

        I was part of a protest once, although not a union strike, but most people honked in support.

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        Christy November 15, 2013, 8:32 pm

        If I had a million dollars….

        (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tajhs_FdT98, obviously.)

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    rawkmys0cks November 15, 2013, 4:23 pm

    I’m going to a Sondheim cabaret show thing tonight called “A Bed and a Chair: A New York Love Affair.” I think some famous Broadway people are singing, including Bernadette Peters. My fiance is a huge theater nerd and is making me go, but I will probably enjoy it somewhat? Musicals aren’t my thing, but one of the only musicals I actually do like (Company) was written by Sondheim. So there’s that!

    Sunday we are playing a strategic intergalactic space battle board game (Twilight Imperium) all day long with a bunch of friends. We’re gonna end up playing for 10 hours, and not finishing. But I’m super pumped because it’s my favorite board game ever!!

    Work really sucks lately. My job is supremely boring, but I like it because it allows me to pay rent and student loans, while also having a life and doing things that are important to me. For a while I was studying for the LSAT but I’m taking a break, so now I have no idea what to do with myself most of the time. My work-flow is really sporadic so I have long stretches of time where I just don’t do anything at all. Bleck.

    I’m excited that I’m commenting more and getting to know all you lovely people 🙂

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      Christy November 15, 2013, 8:44 pm

      We’re glad you’re commenting too! Everyone should comment more! We’ll love you too, unless you’re terrible AND self-promoting (cough anyone remember Hunt Brown cough).

      Also, that board game looks insane.

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  • BriarRose

    BriarRose November 15, 2013, 4:26 pm

    I have another date with my Turkish guy tomorrow! Comedy club and dinner. Is this what it feels like to be a grown up? This will be two weekends in a row of staying up past 11pm on a Saturday night. Not sure if my body can handle it.

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    starpattern November 15, 2013, 4:32 pm

    That’s great about the race, Wendy! And really a good example that I wish my parents had set for me. Like, I wish I had grown up with exercise being “just one of the fun things we do” – and races do make it so much fun. Good luck!

    My weekend is going to be relatively boring. But I’m going on a flea market adventure tomorrow with my interior designer friend to pick up some things to make my living room cute. It’s going to be Prague/Cape Town themed. Weird combo but she says it will work, haha. Yay!

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      starpattern November 16, 2013, 3:05 pm

      Update: All I found at the flea market was a $5 bowl. And lots of beautiful area rugs that aren’t nearly big enough. 🙁

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    rachel November 15, 2013, 4:35 pm

    I’ve had a lousy week. I don’t know what’s up with me, but I’ve wanted to cry over everything. Maybe the winter is getting to me already. Not a good thing. I found out today that a missed opportunity that I had just sort of passively blamed my boss for is probably actually my fault. Like I missed an opportunity to do something good for my career, and I probably can’t blame him. I have no good reason for why I didn’t do it. But it’s too late now. It just makes me doubt that I’m cut out for this whole career stuff.

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      jlyfsh November 15, 2013, 6:50 pm

      i feel ya rachel, i’m having one of those weeks too. i’m currently eating dark chocolate m&ms and reading us weekly (which i just randomly started getting for free??). i just want to hit reset or something. 2014 has got to be a better year, right??

      and don’t worry i’ve done more than one thing that i thought made me not cut out for a career. but, somehow i’m still here. you’ll get through it! 🙂 science is amazing some days and other days i want to run away and just play with puppies.

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      SasLinna November 16, 2013, 7:14 am

      I sometimes have the same doubts. But really, don’t believe them. Missed opportunities simply happen from time to time – there will be other opportunities in the future.

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  • katie

    katie November 15, 2013, 4:36 pm

    i am drinking tonight and im excited about that.

    other then that, work is getting busy for me! im finally learning the whole process and its fucking complicated and crazy and i just keep doing stuff wrong. it sucks, but thankfully no one gets mad at me for it because they know im still learning.

    next week will be 4 weeks straight in PA… and thats about all i can take at once!

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    GertietheDinp November 15, 2013, 4:40 pm

    Sister is getting married on Sunday. Early Thanksgiving on Saturday. This is my weekend and I am excited!

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    Tax Geek November 15, 2013, 4:46 pm

    I get to be Mr. Mom to my two boys for the next 10 days starting early tomorrow. My ex is going out of town until 11/25. I am excited to have unfettered and unfiltered access to them.

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    • honeybeenicki

      honeybeenicki November 15, 2013, 4:57 pm

      Have fun with that! How old are your boys? I get really excited when we have the kids in the summer and I’m off work and my husband is working and I just get to have lots of times just hanging out with the kids and doing fun things.

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        Tax Geek November 15, 2013, 5:03 pm

        They are 13 and 9. And no big plans. I too am looking forward to just hanging out without worrying about parenting time schedules. Homework though, may be another issue.

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki November 15, 2013, 5:15 pm

        Homework can be fun if you try 🙂 During the summer I had my daughter do extra “homework” because she got really bad grades the year before and she needed to work on some things and we made it fun. Just enjoy having time with them! They get old so fast. Mine are about to be 16 (tomorrow!) and 13.

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        Tax Geek November 15, 2013, 5:33 pm

        Happy Birthday!

        Actually, I think the homework will be OK because Thanksgiving is coming up so hopefully it won’t be too much.

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    • theattack

      theattack November 15, 2013, 5:03 pm

      Yay, so exciting! Are you planning anything fun?

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        Tax Geek November 15, 2013, 5:30 pm

        I think I see much wrestling in my short-term future. The 13 year old loves to wrestle and then the 9 year old will join in. And this will continue until one of us gets a little too rough. Then hurt feelings, wailing and knashing of teeth, and then three of us to three corners.

        Then 20 minutes later we do it again.

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  • honeybeenicki

    honeybeenicki November 15, 2013, 4:59 pm

    I am doing my Christmas shopping this weekend. I already have some of it done, but I want to get the rest done. I’m annoyed because I’m usually pretty much done by this time but this year I’m not even halfway there. But, we’re going to Door County next April for our “mini-moon” (never got a honeymoon, going for a long weekend on our anniversary – just the two of us) and plan to get all of 2014’s shopping out of the way then.

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    • katie

      katie November 15, 2013, 5:01 pm

      ahhhhh christmas shopping!!! jake and i have no good ideas for his family. which is not fun. and i really dont have any ideas for mine either…. ugh…

      i love looking over the black friday sales though! i think we are going to end up going to my cousins so i will miss out, which sucks, but oh well.

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      FossilChick November 16, 2013, 6:15 pm

      I adore Door County, and now I really want to go there and drink cherry wines. Have so much fun!

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  • peppers87

    peppers87 November 15, 2013, 5:04 pm

    I thought “Frances Ha” was adorable!!! I loved it. Is it on instant watch?? If so, I know what movie I will be having a few gin + tonics while watching tonight…

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  • mandalee

    mandalee November 15, 2013, 5:08 pm

    This weekend is homework, homework, and more homework. I felt like I was working ahead in my classes, and now I’m behind somehow. I’m just ready for this semester to be over so I can celebrate and relax and wait for my admissions decisions to come in for grad school after the holidays.

    My husband and I are also going to look at a potential perfect-in-pictures house tomorrow and I’m really excited but I can’t tell any of my local friends and it’s been hard not to blab about it to them. My friend recently became a real estate agent and has been majorly hinting she wants to help us find a house, but she has no experience and is super disorganized and I just don’t think it’d be the best fit for first time housebuyers who know nothing either, especially because the housing market here is super-competitive and a seller’s market at the moment. I have yet to break the news to her and I know it’s going to go poorly, so I’m being a shitty friend and avoiding the conversation for as long as possible.

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    • beelzebarb

      beelzebarb November 15, 2013, 7:49 pm

      I feel ya! I have exams soon. Today I was going through my notes from earlier in the semester, and I found the following sentence: “The statutory period ends at the end of the statutory period.” At least my logic is ironclad…

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    Banana November 15, 2013, 5:11 pm

    Banano has a gig tonight. It starts at 9:30pm. They’re sharing equipment with the band that follows them so we’re staying until at least 11pm. Then we’re going to try to see a friend’s band play a late set at midnight.

    I will get home at 6pm, and have to be ready by 7:30pm. Do I take a nap, or pound a Red Bull? I don’t find short naps refreshing. They are extremely frustrating and groggy-making for me. Red Bull makes me cranky and doesn’t actually make me less tired, it just prevents me from going to sleep.

    WHICH DO I DO

    FYI I might be drinking a lot of coffee at the Meetup tomorrow.

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      lets_be_honest November 15, 2013, 5:15 pm

      Frappucino!

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      Tax Geek November 15, 2013, 5:16 pm

      If you don’t want to nap and don’t want Red Bull, then don’t do either.

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        Banana November 15, 2013, 5:19 pm

        I reject your logic and replace it with my own!

        Hah, I know that’s right, though.

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    • TaraMonster

      TaraMonster November 15, 2013, 6:07 pm

      Yay! Meetup tomorrow! 🙂

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      Christy November 15, 2013, 8:46 pm

      Sorry I couldn’t make it tonight – I was already in my PJs when I saw the invite. And I hope you did neither, like everyone else said.

      Also coffee is allowed.

      Also there will be tiny food on sticks.

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    • Copa

      Copa November 16, 2013, 11:14 am

      Redbull + vodka makes me feel PUMPED about life.

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  • theattack

    theattack November 15, 2013, 5:16 pm

    I was supposed to get to have a girls night with my best friend this weekend, but she apparently has the flu. I am majorly disappointed. We haven’t seen each other since May, and we don’t live close enough that I can just drop some soup off at her house without her feeling obligated to let me stay. I’ll probably just get drunk and clean house this weekend now. I might go watch a roller derby game.

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    jlyfsh November 15, 2013, 5:16 pm

    i signed up for a turkey trot too! but i’ve been having stomach issues and i have an ultrasound tuesday to rule out gallstones/gallbladder issues. i might not be able to run in the race now! i’m so upset, i’ve just been working so hard!

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    • othy

      othy November 16, 2013, 5:22 pm

      My cousin just had her gallstone out on Tuesday, and the surgeon gave her the okay to run a half marathon on Thanksgiving. And, she’s encouraged to still do small runs this week to reduce blood clots.

      Good luck with the gallstone issues.

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        jlyfsh November 16, 2013, 5:37 pm

        thanks!

        yeah i’ve been in a fair bit of pain so i’m not able to run as much as i’d like. i had to just walk a little this morning instead of my normal run. i’m mostly worried that they’ll want to do the surgery next week. but, that’s probably wishful thinking. i don’t think things will happen that quick. they did mention the potential for pain meds if it is definitely my gallbladder. which is pretty exciting. nothing i’m taking over the counter is really touching it right now! maybe pain meds will make the turkey trot easier! 😉

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  • mylaray

    mylaray November 15, 2013, 5:41 pm

    My bachelorette party is tonight. It’ll be a fun girls night out (I don’t know what’s in store yet) and then it’s a joint bachelor/bachelorette thing at the strip club I used to work at. I’m so excited!! I’m usually a low key person and am not doing any other pre wedding festivities, but I’ve always wanted to do something a little wild for the bachelorette party, so it should be great.

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    • something random

      something random November 16, 2013, 1:44 pm

      Hope it was fun! I like the idea of a joint thing. I haven’t heard of that, before.

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      • mylaray

        mylaray November 16, 2013, 5:17 pm

        It was fun! And it was nice to have our friends mingle with each other at the joint thing.

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  • Lyra

    Lyra November 15, 2013, 6:38 pm

    The week went quickly! I can’t believe it’s Friday already.

    I got some bad news this afternoon. A woman who was my church music director when I was growing up has been fighting cancer for two years. She’s somehow managed to beat all odds. They thought she had weeks to live back in January. She sent all her friends and family an email basically saying that she was at peace and was ready, but she overcame it and was in remission for months and months. Today, she sent an email to us that her doctor informed her earlier this week that the cancer had come back and was terminal. I think at this point, she may be out of miracles. She’s an amazing person and honestly when I was younger I wanted to be her when I grew up. Heck, even now I want to be her when I grow up. She’s the type of person who lights up any room and who treats EVERYONE with dignity and respect. She’s only about 50 years old. It’s just so so sad that someone so amazing and incredible has had to go through all this.

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    • Lyra

      Lyra November 15, 2013, 7:01 pm

      OH, and Sunday marks 1 year since my big breakup. I think I’m going to get all dolled up and go out with friends for drinks to celebrate. I love seeing how far I’ve come.

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      • Lyra

        Lyra November 15, 2013, 8:19 pm

        AND, tonight I cleared out my Facebook friends list and deleted Divorced Guy, Ex 2, AND ex 1’s girlfriend. It feels grrrrrrreat. Now I’m drinking wine straight from the bottle. Cheers.

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      • Copa

        Copa November 16, 2013, 11:09 am

        The 2-year anniversary of my big breakup from College/Grad School Boyfriend came and went without me noticing it a couple weeks ago. Last year I was SUPER aware of it. Yay for moving forward!

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      • katie

        katie November 16, 2013, 11:45 am

        i seriously dont think i would be able to tell you even the month of any of my breakups. i mean jake and i had to literally “make up” an anniversary, so… maybe thats why

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      • Lyra

        Lyra November 16, 2013, 12:43 pm

        I have a really really good memory for dates — anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Not to mention that was one of the most sucky days of my entire life so unfortunately the date stuck.

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      • Copa

        Copa November 16, 2013, 1:42 pm

        I think it’s because we had a shitstorm breakup that finally ended days before our anniversary, haha. Had it not been so close to our anniversary, I don’t think I would’ve remembered the exact date?

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        jlyfsh November 16, 2013, 3:55 pm

        i’m really bad at dates. some people can remember everything. m and i made up our anniversary too.

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        painted_lady November 17, 2013, 1:30 am

        My last big breakup was a week before Christmas. I remember that sucker for a reason – I spent the entire day so sick to my stomach I couldn’t eat anything and having to run off into another room to cry. That Christmas sucked so hard.

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    Christy November 15, 2013, 8:31 pm

    GUYS.

    So I was looking at wedding rings (like ya do) and I remarked to gf that I liked a copper one that I saw. She said “For an everyday ring?” to which I responded “No.” (Implying that it was for a wedding ring.) She bit her tongue to stop from saying something, I pressed her to tell me, and she said “It reminded me of the girl with the copper pots.”

    GUYS. She remembers the copper pots stories from me talking about DW talking about them. She’s obviously the best.

    That’s all; had to share immediately.

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    • beelzebarb

      beelzebarb November 15, 2013, 8:35 pm

      She’s a keeper!

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      • mylaray

        mylaray November 16, 2013, 12:44 pm

        I love to cook and have always wanted a set of copper pots. My parents had a gorgeous set, and even though they’re really hard to keep clean, I still love them. I’m not sure I would actually ever spend such a crazy amount of money on pots and pans, but it’s nice to think about. Except, she ruined copper pots for me, and I just can’t do it. I still cringe when hearing about that.

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    • Lyra

      Lyra November 15, 2013, 9:36 pm

      Bahahahaaaa the copper pots. I forgot about those.

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    • TheLadyE

      Elisse November 15, 2013, 11:38 pm

      I remember those! That girl, who still writes for the Frisky, just recently got married. Crazy. That was like 3 years ago. At least.

      …aaaand now I feel old.

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      • beelzebarb

        beelzebarb November 16, 2013, 1:11 am

        It was about 3 years ago. She kept the copper pots AND the fancy heels he got her for Christmas. There was some sort of justification for the fact that she was allowed to reclaim the copper pots while he had no right to take the heels back, but it was something other than the relatively understandable “he left me so I get to keep my gift and repossess the one he gave me” one. Elisse, if you’re old, you at least have company. How do I remember these things?

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        painted_lady November 17, 2013, 1:35 am

        IIRC, he basically kicked her out of their shared apartment with like two days notice, or something. She’s terribly annoying, but I did kind of understand why she kept them. Oh, and she was a little vague, but I think she pressed him for an explanation and he started screaming some really shitty things at her and threatened to throw her things out in the street. I could be getting this wrong, but I do remember thinking he was being a real dick about the whole thing.

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        scattol November 16, 2013, 8:45 am

        And it was probably not enough of a feminist wedding: http://www.thefrisky.com/2013-10-29/lets-talk-about-feminist-weddings/

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      • Lyra

        Lyra November 16, 2013, 10:59 am

        A true feminist doesn’t go around shouting from the rooftops that they’re a feminist — like she does in EVERY article. I honestly think she’s more insecure than anything.

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      • katie

        katie November 16, 2013, 11:44 am

        that was actually a good article, i think.

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      • something random

        something random November 16, 2013, 12:21 pm

        I find that I have to push myself not to be annoyed and pick apart this writer’s essays. Back when I actually read the Frisky, I felt like she was always provoking her audience with attention-grabbing pieces. Like when she wrote about being the other woman or how victimized she was when she got dumped or laughing at the guy who asked her out. I realize to some extent writers success comes from being able to pull in large numbers of readers and controversy helps to do that. Nobody engages in neutral, boring pieces. But I always thought she was more about controversy than substance. And many of the commenters that respond always seem really negative and gross.

        When I consider what the piece is trying to say without thinking about the writer, I realize that she is addressing a relevant topic. How do you balance ideals with comprise, personal preference with traditions that originally subjugated women?

        I just personally think there are much more insightful writers on the topic including Wendy and probably most of the commenters on this site (like the people on this thread).

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      • something random

        something random November 16, 2013, 4:17 pm

        Okay, I just re-read my response and I was overly pissy earlier. I’m glad someone’s out there telling young feminists its okay to feel pretty in dresses. Clearly, I was in the give the copper pots back camp. 🙂

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      Morgan November 16, 2013, 9:04 pm

      I was unwillingly in an antique store today (I kind of hate them) and there was a full set of copper pots! I died laughing which was super inappropriate because the store was really quiet, but I couldn’t help it.

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  • CatsMeow

    CatsMeow November 15, 2013, 10:35 pm

    my week sucked. I already bitched about it on the forum so I won’t do it again. But, yay, it’s over? Now I’m in my hometown for a baby shower, but I hope to ditch town as soon as it’s over and go back to St. Louis and get drunk at my friend’s party. Ha.

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  • TheLadyE

    Elisse November 15, 2013, 11:43 pm

    I’m going to my state’s Renaissance Festival, which is AWESOME and lots of fun except 1) it’s 2.5 hours away and 2) I have to see my ex there because he works the gate. But I’m taking one of the kids from church and we’ll have a great time, especially since we don’t have to walk around all day with my ex (like we did last year) with him stopping literally every 30 seconds to talk to someone else he knew.

    So yes – very excited! I should return home with some lovely trinkets.

    AND this is the beginning of my birthday week! I’m seeing my favorite comedian next week (Craig Ferguson!) and then going out with friends and my sweet new boyfriend next weekend. It’s the start of a great week…even if the end of it will mean I’ll be fully entrenched in my 30s.

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    rachel November 16, 2013, 2:29 am

    My student loan payment is going up next month. Just a few dollars, no big. Except I would like to know whether that money is going to the principal or whether the interest randomly went up. Oh, yeah, and I can’t figure out how to access my old statements to see because my loans have been sold TWICE in the slightly less than a year I have been paying on them. grr.

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      Copa November 16, 2013, 11:13 am

      My payments went up when my loans were transferred to another company. (They claimed they weren’t sold, though? I don’t know how it works.) When I called new Loan Company to ask about it, it was one of the few times in my life that I got outwardly upset with the customer service rep on the other end of the line. I didn’t go ballistic or anything like that — I’ve always truly hated when people get all riled up at the CSR when that person is more than likely just doing what he/she can & following company procedures — but my tone was curt & agitated. And I felt like an asshole.

      Anyhow, 🙁 for student loans & increases in repayments & never knowing what’s what.

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    Ammie November 16, 2013, 11:20 am

    Good luck on the Turkey Trot, Wendy! I think that’s an awesome example to set for Jackson. 🙂 I had a 5-miler on Thanksgiving set too, until I got a stress fracture. Blah. 😛 The perils of the long-distance runner.

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    Copa November 16, 2013, 11:21 am

    So, I think I may have posted about this already somewhere? But I have nowhere to be until 3:30 today, so I’ll tell it again:

    I had a bunch of housing woes recently that started with a gap between leases, giving up an apartment for a potential job, then losing an apartment I’d put a deposit down on due to management error. So I’ve been at home since September, and GAH(!!!). In any case, I’ve been apartment hunting and found THE perfect apartment. It’s about 15-20 minutes away from work (1/3 of my current commute), it’s downtown, the rent is really reasonable for the neighborhood, and it’s in a small, 5-unit building that is kept in meticulous condition by the landlord. A friend is currently living in one of the units, but needs to move out next month to move closer to his new job. He is telling the landlord I’d like to move in when he moves out, and although the landlord is supposed to be very picky about his tenants, I should know sometime this weekend (Monday by the latest, I’d say) if the perfect apartment can be MY perfect apartment.

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    vizslalvr November 16, 2013, 11:52 am

    I finnallllly got my division assignment at work yesterday. Which is good, because I’ve been treading water for two weeks as an attorney doing half clerk/half attorney work. But bad because right after the boss gave me my assignment, one of the most senior attorneys told me I could take part of his docket, and I was supposed to sit second on two trials next week. If I had been able to maintain that, I might have just slid into a position in felony which is my long term goal.

    And I was cornered by another supervisor into volunteering to judge at a mock trial competition in an hour. Which, whatever – good networking and all that. But I’m a naturally lazy person outside of work and would love to play The Sims all afternoon instead.

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      AliceInDairyland November 16, 2013, 5:42 pm

      OMG Sims. I hardcore love Sims 3 pets… Now I want to play so bad but I have 10 more lectures to get through for my exam Monday…..

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        vizslalvr November 17, 2013, 10:47 am

        YES. Sims 3 pets is what I’ve been playing! They have vizsla as a breed!

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray November 16, 2013, 6:03 pm

    Hi guys! Hope everyone is having a good weekend. For those wondering about the saga of “Addie on Ambien” I’d like to report that after my scary episode of blacking out and finding out the next day I emailed a horrible, horrible “I want you back” email to my ex and called RCN to bitch about my cable, I stopped the Ambien. I also followed my therapist’s advice to stop sleeping with my iPhone and my laptop, I started sleeping better. Thank GOD.

    I had a horrible Tinder date last night – it was so horrible that it was hilarious and I wrote it down and emailed my friends. Today at brunch I told them more about it and they said I gotta write these stories down. So now I got it in my head that I should write a book about (bad) dating. I have another Tinder date tonight which I view as only a win-win situation. Either it’s great, win! Or it sucks, win (because he can get a chapter in my book). Hurray! I’m taking my lemons and turning them into lemonade. Boom!

    In other news, I. Cannot. Stop. Eating. I need an intervention.

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      Lyra November 16, 2013, 11:26 pm

      Spill the details of your horrible date, AP! I think DW should compile a book of horrible date stories. I could include my date with the creepy texter guy who started talking about the antichrist.

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        Classic November 17, 2013, 12:09 am

        I want to hear about AP’s horrible Tinder date, too!

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        Addie Pray November 17, 2013, 9:17 am

        Ask and you shall receive. Ha.

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      Addie Pray November 17, 2013, 8:05 am

      I slept another almost 8 hours last night – AMAZING!!!

      The bad date on Friday I now refer to as Mr. Offensive. Oh my gawd he was so terrible. He was just as cute, if not cuter, than his Tinder pictures. He seemed so nice and normal in his Tinder exchanges. He’s 40, an engineer, seems to have a lot of interests – football, local bands, cooking, etc. – and his texts were pretty funny/energetic – I was looking forward to the date.

      But oh man everything was wrong. First there were a lot of little things that rubbed me the wrong way – like when I got there he was sitting slouched in his chair and he didn’t budge an inch to greet me when I arrived – I would have expected him to stand and either hug or wave or at least sit up straight and, you know, motion me to my chair, like a “hi, have a seat” wave. He barely looked me in the eye though I wasn’t sure if he wanted me to sit down! He really just sat there slouched – so slouched that at one point I wondered if his shoulders just turned in like that. Eventually he stood up and went to the bathroom and I saw, no, he’s just a really bad sloucher. It was just weird because it was SO bad. But that wasn’t a big deal – that was just my initial reaction.

      The other thing about him is he is a LOUD talker. Oh my gawd, I swear everyone in the bar and upstairs could hear him. At one point he became extra animated and started talking extra loud and it startled me. He saw I kind of jumped at his loud voice and he said “sorry, I get excited.” And I said, no, excitement is good, just maybe try to use a quieter voice like teachers used to tell me “Addie, use your inside voice!” But really wanted to say “dude, you’re yelling!”

      Also, he would not shut up. I mean, he just talked and talked and talked. He rambled on about his current job and the last two he has held, the last three girlfriends, his family, etc. etc. At various points he’d say “oh my god I am just talking my head off but what about you, tell me about youuuuuu.” Then I’d say something and he’d interrupt me and just start talking again. It was pretty funny how bad he was.

      The other thing unappealing about him was he had this singsongy voice and he was really dramatic about his stories – everything was CUHRAZY OR UN-BE-LIEEEEEV-ABLE AND INSAAAANE OR HORRIBLE! He reminded me of pee wee herman a bit.

      But on top of all of that, he was really offensive. A couple of examples: He asked me the last concert I went to and I said Bob Dylan and before I could say anything about the concert, like if I liked it or not (which between me and you I did not like too much because Dylan’s voice was terrible and we had nose-bleed seats in the United Center and I prefer smaller-venue concerts) – but before I could say anything, he interrupted me and said “OH MY GAWD HOW WAS IT, I’M SURE IT WAS TERRIBLE, HE IS TERR-IBLE, HE NEVER SANG WELL BUT OK HIS SONGS ARE OK BUT OH HE’S TERRIBLE IF ANYONE TOOK ME TO A DYLAN CONCERT I’D BREAK UP WITH THEM SO FAST! I HATE THEM FOR IT!!!” … So substantively, I agreed about his voice (not so great) and his songs (great) but I was really offended by that! I hadn’t even had a chance to say anything!

      What else…. Oh this was great, so he had just told me that his family lives within a 10 mile radius of the ‘burb where they grew up. I said it’s funny my family is the opposite; we are spread out from sea to sea and before I could say anything more he interrupted me and said “well duh you’re from Missouri and EVERYONE was all like ‘let’s get the hell out of this shithole’ because MISSOURI is H-O-R-R-I-B-L-E, have you been to some of those small towns? Those people are N-U-T-S and R-E-L-I-G-I-O-U-S FREAKS, so what religion are you?” …. chirp, chirp….

      Um, wow. Never mind that I like the town I grew up in, never mind my mom and a sister still live in Missouri, never mind a lot of good friends live there and love it, and never mind that he should go fuck himself!

      As for religion, I refused to answer. I didn’t feel like giving him the satisfaction of knowing that Im not religious, he had just offended my home state, which ok, fine, it’s not as progressive as other states, but what the hell, asshole?! And he had just offended all my religious friends and I don’t know at that point I wanted to punch him in the face.

      So, lots of offensive comments like that, a lot of interrupting me, a lot of non-stop really LOUD pee wee herman-esque talking out of him. Plus he kept pounding the beer. After my first glass of wine I wanted to go but he kept ordering himself beer so I said fine I’ll have a second – by then he was on his 5th or 6th beer – but I did say “after this second glass I have got to leave.”

      And then all of a sudden he became very sad. He was like “you seem so cool but I can tell you don’t like me; why don’t girls like me?” and then he said a few more self deprecating things and oh man I wanted to just lay it ALL out for his own benefit but I couldn’t. (Plus he didn’t really give me a chance to because per usual he just kept talking and didn’t actually let me answer the question posed.) He told me about two girls who showed up and then left before their date began and he surmised it was because he’s not that cute in person and I said, “well, honestly, looks-wise you’re very cute, so it’s not that.” … IT’S YOUR HORRIBLE PERSONALITY, ASSHOLE! (But I didn’t say that.) He told me about this one woman he met out and they were having a great time, and then he said that she put her hand on his lap and whispered “I’m $225 for the next hour.” Whoops! Poor guy.

      Anyway, I finished my second glass pretty quickly and I tried to pay for my two drinks. He would not except my $20 but I REALLY did not want to take advantage of this sad guy. He wouldn’t take it. So I took my $20 and left and spent it on a slice of deep dish spinach pizza to go and a cab ride home. I got home, ate half the slice and fell asleep on the couch while I watched The Heat with Sandra Bullock and whats-her-name Melissa McCarthy? That movie is so funny. I finished it the next morning. I was actually laughing out loud, as I watched it at 7 am with coffee.

      I swear to God, I hope this guy never ends up in prison because he would get the shit beat out of him so fast, and he would have no idea why. I thought of writing a character called Mr. Offensive who is a blissfully clueless guy without a mean bone in his body. He says whatever thought comes to mind without filter, unaware of how offensive he is. Everyone he encounters gets so frustrated they just punch him, and Mr. Offensive has no idea why everyone hates him. There’s got to be a character already out there like him. Oh he so was terrible. I felt so bad for the guy.

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        Addie Pray November 17, 2013, 8:39 am

        Anyway, that was long. He was a doofus.

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        Classic November 17, 2013, 10:31 am

        Oh Addie Pray, the slice of deep dish spinach pizza sounds great!

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        Addie Pray November 17, 2013, 11:10 am

        It was wonderful. Maybe too much cheese though. (I know, oxymoron “too much” + “cheese” in the same sentence.) Except I’m gonna say something that is a pretty controversial statement to make in Chicago: deep dish is not my favorite. I’ll choose a New York style slice of pizza over Chicago’s deep dish every time.

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        scattol November 17, 2013, 5:12 pm

        When we were kids, he would have been called weird. Now he’s got a disease http://www.succeedsocially.com/adultadhd

        Let’s hope he can overcome it for his sake.

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        Addie Pray November 17, 2013, 6:20 pm

        Oh man, I definitely have a little bit of that adult ADHD too.

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  • something random

    something random November 16, 2013, 7:05 pm

    I’ve had similar results on ambien (the blacking out and not remembering things part). Here is to better sleep, lemonade, and Ms Pray.

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      Addie Pray November 16, 2013, 11:24 pm

      so i wrote a bunch of random thoughts down and filled 20 pages pretty quickly of my not-so-deep deep thoughts, and i realized: i don’t have a lot of deep thoughts. though i’m going to keep writing stuff down because it’s kind of cathartic. the other thing i realized is my bad dates aren’t *that* bad – they’re regular bad date, not special bad dates – and who wants to read that? haha. i feel like i just need a really really bad date, like one where the guy stabs me in the leg or something.

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    Lets_be_honest November 17, 2013, 1:55 pm

    Remember me complaining about no one wanting barely used kid stuff? Well I tried all the places you guys recommended and still no luck. Crazy, right? Anyway, I found a family who needs stuff! And they are awesome! I basically just furnished their apartment, stocked them with Christmas gifts for their kids, gave them a TON of clothes (I think 8 boxes), wall art, you name it.
    And mom got 67 pairs of shoes! Wooooo!!!! I am beyond happy right now.

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      katie November 17, 2013, 3:45 pm

      jesus you had 67 pairs of shoes to *give away*???

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      bethany November 18, 2013, 9:19 am

      That’s awesome!! How’d you find the family?

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