Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

photo-8

This weekend kicks off party season for us which includes, in addition to three or four holiday parties over the next eight days, three 2-year-old birthday parties and a partridge in a pear tree. At some point, I want to pick out a Christmas tree and decorate it (we always get a real one). Drew and I have a tradition — going on four years now I think — where we save our spare change in a jar all year long and then in December we take it to the bank and get cold hard cash that we use to buy a tree and order a delicious Caribbean dinner (that we eat at home after Jackson goes to bed and after we decorate the tree). I make Bailey’s Martinis (or vodka gimlets) and we listen to Christmas music and it’s all very nice and cozy.

Last weekend we started what I hope will be a new tradition — the weekend after Thanksgiving we took Jackson to Chinatown (or, just “China,” as he calls it) to wander around the different markets and cheap toy displays, play at the cool playground, and eat soup dumplings at Joe’s Shanghai. He loved every second of it, which was a pleasant surprise as these days we always brace ourselves for horrendous public tantrums and meltdowns any time we step outside, and I’m hoping he will enjoy it just as well, if not even more, when we do it again in the future. What traditions do you have this time of year? And what are you up to this weekend?

P.S. Thanks again to all of you who contributed to the Dear Wendy Second Annual Holiday Book Drive! Roughly $1600 worth of books were purchased for 180 students from three different low-income schools. Thanks to the participating teachers for their care and interest in their students. And special thanks to my mom, a veteran middle-school English teacher, who helped Ogo, a first-year middle school English teacher, put together a list of books her students are sure to love.

P.P.S. If you’re starting/continuing/finishing Christmas shopping this weekend, be sure to check out my holiday gift guides for ideas. And if you still don’t know what to buy the impossible-to-shop-for people on your list, an Amazon gift card is a good bet!

111 comments… add one
  • avatar

    cdobbs December 6, 2013, 4:09 pm

    i’m putting up my tree this weekend….i have been collecting horse themed decorations basically my whole life….alot of them with the date of the christmas that i received them on them….so the tree is kind of a reminder of past christmases….my mom usually buys me the horse ornament for my stocking each year (although last year was a zebra! close enough i say! lol) as far as other traditions….we always open our presents together on christmas morning and have a huge turkey dinner….and everyone stays in their pajamas all day

    Reply Link
    • avatar

      csp December 6, 2013, 4:39 pm

      We do something similar. Every time we go on vacation (near and far) we pick up an ornament. We put the date and the location. Every year when we decorate the tree, we remember happy times. It also makes for small, easy to pack souvenirs.

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        cdobbs December 7, 2013, 2:34 am

        i love that idea of buying an ornament on vacation….i actually buy shot glasses on all my trips as my souvenir….so i have a shelf in my room with all these different shot glasses from all over….it is a nice way to remember 😀

        Link
      • avatar

        Callifax December 7, 2013, 9:25 am

        My family does this with magnets! They are cheap, easy-to-pack souvenirs and then you can remember your travels when you open the fridge. My parents started doing it years ago, and now that I’m off on my own, my fiance and I have carried on the tradition. 🙂

        Link
      • avatar

        cdobbs December 7, 2013, 5:51 pm

        that’s an awesome idea too! 😀

        Link
      • othy

        othy December 7, 2013, 8:49 pm

        I do this with shot glasses. Then I remember the good times when I’m drinking. And I always have to ‘break in’ a new glass.

        Link
      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow December 8, 2013, 12:26 pm

        I do this with mugs, and sometimes shot glasses. But mostly mugs.

        Link
  • avatar

    kerrycontrary December 6, 2013, 4:30 pm

    Tomorrow I’m going to book my wedding venue (woot woot!). Can we talk about how some people are engaged for 1.5-3years and thus book up all the available wedding venues for the next year. Is it so unreasonable that I want to get married 12 months from when I got engaged? I thought a 1 yr engagement was pretty normal. And we’re not going to put off getting married to get the “ideal” venue. Thankfully one of our choices has an opening for next fall. Also I have to do some whirlwind christmas shopping at the outlets. I’ll feel so relieved when all my shopping is done!

    Sunday the weather’s going to be yucky (freezing rain and ice yay) so we’re going to put up the tree (which takes like 2 seconds cause its 2ft tall), bake cookies, and I’ll make my fiance watch stupid christmas movies. Our only christmas tradition so far is to buy an ornament together each year.

    Reply Link
    • katie

      katie December 6, 2013, 4:34 pm

      weve done the ornament thing every year, but this year we have no idea what to get. i was upset at first, but then i was like, eh? why do i need a memento ornament from every year? i dont.

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        kerrycontrary December 6, 2013, 4:38 pm

        Ours is more cause we don’t have ornaments beyond traditional bulbs that I inherited from when my sister was young and single. So it’s basically a way for us to build up our ornament collection. His mom is also giving us some of his ornaments this christmas since we’re getting married.

        Link
      • katie

        katie December 6, 2013, 4:41 pm

        oh yea me too. my ornaments are just ones i thought were pretty (read: sparkly) when i had my first tree lol

        my only guess for this year would be a chicago ornament but… eh.

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 4:43 pm

        I have two huge Rubbermaid tubs at my parents full of MY Christmas stuff. I apparently hoard holiday décor. One day they will make the trek to FL.

        I also have like 25 Flamingo ornaments…

        Link
      • avatar

        csp December 6, 2013, 4:54 pm

        I think a better way is for major events. So one year we didn’t get an ornament but one we went on two vacations and had one from each vacation. We also do things like we went to the spy museum and got a tommy gun or this week I went to the Rockettes and got one from there. I like the events rather than one a year.

        Link
      • avatar

        lets_be_honest December 6, 2013, 4:56 pm

        I do that with magnets!

        Link
      • katie

        katie December 6, 2013, 5:00 pm

        that is basically what we were doing, but then we didnt have a major thing this year!

        its cool though. like i said, i was upset at first, but then i thought about it and… its really not a big deal lol. and im not going to force an idea just for the sake of having an ornament from 2013.

        Link
    • avatar

      lets_be_honest December 6, 2013, 4:53 pm

      You should ask for ornaments from everyone if this is your first tree together. When I had my first tree, I did that and love that all my ornaments have a little memory/person behind them.

      Reply Link
    • something random

      something random December 7, 2013, 12:05 am

      We’ve done a picture ornament every year since my oldest son was born. It started with a baby’s first christmas and we’ve just kept going. Other traditions include putting out our decorations the day after thanksgiving (black friday), a bunch of homemade cookie plates delivered to local friends on christmas eve, and a big breakfast with all the fixings before we open presents on christmas morning. We’ve been giving to charity each year but we’ve kept it pretty low key (mostly just donating new gloves and hats). I’d like to do something bigger this year but I’m not sure what and I’m running out of time. Not that donating stops and starts on the 25th but I’m looking to some how define more meaning for the holiday. I get a lot of joy watching my kids but I also feel kind of empty and like I’m just going through the motions when they’ve gone to bed. I feel like I’m missing some kind of bigger connection. Does this make sense?

      Reply Link
  • GatorGirl

    GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 4:30 pm

    Ooo Wendy your Chinatown tradition sounds awesome!

    I want to start a tradition this year since our first married, but IDK what. We’ve established that decorations go up the Sunday after Thanksgiving, but I want to add something else more fun.

    Oh, we watch The Year Without a Santa Clause. Best holiday movie ever.

    Reply Link
    • avatar

      kerrycontrary December 6, 2013, 4:38 pm

      we do love actually and home alone 1&2. We already watched Natl. Lampoons christmas vacation. I love holiday movies.

      Reply Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 4:45 pm

        Hmmmm. Maybe we can do like a Home Alone tradition? I could get GGuy into that I think. We always watch Elf on Christmas Day night. I’m missing it this year due to the dang rotating holidays thing. I’m sending my siblings a copy so they can still watch it.

        Link
    • Fabelle

      Fabelle December 6, 2013, 4:44 pm

      Year Without a Santa Clause yess, I love that movie!

      My traditional movie is “Noel” though— http://www.amazon.com/Noel-VHS-Charlton-Heston/dp/6302917506 I loved that movie as a child, & still love it. My mom told me in my adult years that when she first played it for me, she was kind of horrified because it’s really sad (it has a happy ending, though!) & kind of really dark at points, but I loved it. haha

      Reply Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 4:47 pm

        I think I’ve seen that!!

        Link
      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 6, 2013, 4:51 pm

        I will be really excited if you have, haha, because everyone looks at me like I’m fucking nuts when I try to explain it!! “It’s a talking ornament! He has a ‘happiness’, which is like a soul!”

        Also, I may or may not have a red glass ball ornament that I always display on the front of the Christmas tree when I’m decorating it… & I may or may not have privately named it “Noel”…

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 5:07 pm

        Haha. It’s the one where the ornament is all sad that no one loves it because it’s not at the front/top of tree anymore right? He has to learn to appreciate being on the bottom? Is there a kid involved?

        Link
    • iwannatalktosampson

      iwannatalktosampson December 6, 2013, 5:13 pm

      Ugh I know I’m not married but do not add any additional pressure on me to make fun traditions. This deserves it’s own post because I’m thinking about it right now, and it’s long, and my feelings aren’t totally fleshed out, and I’m whiny, but. Summary: I have been all about carpe diem these days. Which is AWESOME. I hiked a shit ton of mountains and ran half marathons and I’m going snowboarding and I get drinks with friends and essentially I love my life. Really, I love every part of how I spend my time. (done braggin and being annoying now). BUT the downside of that is that every single weekend is jam packed. With fun! But still. I almost tried to have a relaxing weekend this weekend, but then it hit me. I love in Colorado! It’s winter. I love snowboarding. I need to make good use of my time. So now essentially every minute of this weekend is already booked, including the fact that now apparently we’re staying over in winter park on Saturday.

      Second summary: do not make me feel guilty about pressure to make traditions on top of daily fun having. I used to think those “fear of missing out” commercials were so lame, but now I think I suffer from that. I need to move somewhere boring.

      Reply Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 5:16 pm

        Move to North Central FL. It’s super boring. Haha. The most exciting thing we have is tap take overs. (oh and Gator football but it’s over and they suck.)

        I think your life sounds awesome (well excluding the snow)!! You totally should not feel pressured to live your life in anyway other than what makes you happy!

        Link
      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson December 6, 2013, 5:53 pm

        You have humidity. You win. I love humidity. And thank you, I will not feel bad about not having any traditions in my life.

        Link
      • avatar

        Bethany December 6, 2013, 6:05 pm

        Finally, another humidity lover!! My humidifier is cranked to the max right now. My goal is for my room to feel like the Amazon.

        Link
      • avatar

        Christy December 6, 2013, 6:20 pm

        You guys are freaks. I didn’t realize that ANYONE liked humidity.

        Link
      • avatar

        Morgan December 6, 2013, 6:44 pm

        Seriously, I think my hair just frizzed up just thinking about summers in MD. I loathe humidity.

        Link
      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 6, 2013, 7:12 pm

        Yeah, how the FUCK do you guys ~like~ humidity? I hate it, hate it. Jersey gets pretty humid in the late summer/early fall, but I could never live somewhere where humidity was the norm. I mean, MY HAIR.

        Link
      • avatar

        bethany December 9, 2013, 8:56 am

        My hair doesn’t frizz (it’s straight), and the humidity is great for my sinuses/allergies. I LOVE IT.

        Link
      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson December 6, 2013, 6:47 pm

        It’s the best. I love going to Florida and Costa Rica and other tropical places. It’s like permanent lotion on your body. I feel so youthful, young, and healthy in humidity.

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 7:14 pm

        Y’all are nuts. Humidity makes me sweaty, sticky, smelly. Just gross.

        Link
      • katie

        katie December 6, 2013, 7:17 pm

        ok, coming from denver, yes, ill agree that the “permanent lotion” feeling is awesome. i didnt have to use lotion for like a year when i moved to chicago, even on my hands that i wash 100 times a day.

        buttttttttt no humidity sucks. humidity makes the cold colder and hot hotter. humidity makes you never dry off when you take a shower in the summer. it makes you sweat all the freaking time. and apparently once you live in it for long enough, the permanent lotion thing goes away. today, actually, my hands are so dry and hurt so bad! so overall bad.

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 7:20 pm

        I’ve been here 3 years and my skin gets dry. Also I almost turned the AC on today. Not ok.

        Link
      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson December 6, 2013, 6:48 pm

        Okay now that I’m done with that hissy fit, I find it strange that no one called me out about how annoying I am. You know it’s bad when you irritate yourself.

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 7:17 pm

        I didn’t think you where annoying at all. I felt the same way about life being too busy in a good way this fall. I’m looking forward to a January of nothing.

        Link
      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson December 6, 2013, 7:28 pm

        But I almost feel like it’s so (good) busy that my life is just blowing by. I blinked and realized that I’ve been dating Colin for 6 months. WTF. (Technically we weren’t you know exclusive and dating dating that whole time, but whatever we weren’t banging other people so that counts as dating right?) I barely know him. 6 months when I was younger was sooo long. I seriously don’t even remember what I did this summer. It feels like the whole 3 months of summer was about 12 days. I can remember 12 days. Maybe.

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 6, 2013, 7:57 pm

        Haha, I don’t remember this summer either! I think it’s a symptom of getting old. I feel like this year is FLYING by, but then on the flip side I feel like our wedding was eons ago. It was really only 7 months ago! How is that possible? I feel like I’m going to blink and be 40.

        And yes, I’d say unofficially not banging other people makes you dating. (Only for you though, not LWs.)

        Link
    • something random

      something random December 7, 2013, 12:19 am

      I love watching movies, too! I like watching Mixed Nuts and Little Drummer Boy.

      Reply Link
  • katie

    katie December 6, 2013, 4:36 pm

    i have been to joe shanghais! super cool.

    i have no traditions. my first christmas i was 17 or 18… but i kind of like that. i can do whatever i want and not feel bad about missing out on anything/feel guilty because i didnt do something. i do go along with all of jakes traditions, of which there are many lol

    Reply Link
  • Lyra

    Lyra December 6, 2013, 4:56 pm

    It’s Christmas concert season! Whoo. ‘Tis the season for music teachers to detest Christmas music. I have two concerts tonight and though my kiddos have been doing great, I’m nervous. So I’m hanging out at one of the schools until the program starts, then I book it over to the next school. I’m already ready for it to be over and to be curled up in my jammies with my cat and drinking lots of wine. I’m not kidding, I drank every night leading up to today due to stress…I should probably stop that habit…

    Tomorrow is another concert in the morning and then the Navy Guy and I have another date. 🙂 I’m so excited to see him again. He’s cute and sweet and tall and I know I’m totally smitten but I don’t care haha. I’ve kind of always thought military guys were hot (despite being a Democrat) so this is exciting for me. 🙂

    It’s also FRIGID in Minnesota right now and is only going to get colder. I’m not ready for that.

    Reply Link
    • Lyra

      Lyra December 6, 2013, 6:29 pm

      And can I say how great overdraft protection is??? I usually am really really great at not overspending, but my automatic credit card payment was a lot more than what I actually had in my checking. Ooooops. I freaked out but am SO THANKFUL that my overdraft protection kicked in and saved the day. Lesson learned.

      Reply Link
      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 6, 2013, 7:11 pm

        Oh god I hate overdraft protection. When I first got a debit card in high school/college, I would overdraft all the time, & incur all these extra fees until finally I was like, “Can I NOT have this? Like, PLEASE decline my credit card when there’s no funds, I beg you.” So from now on I always opt out of that. I’m glad it helped you, but your post gave me flashbacks. haha

        Link
      • Lyra

        Lyra December 7, 2013, 12:33 am

        Fortunately through my bank I have a reserve line of credit for emergencies — the overdraft protection kicked that over to my checking. I had an extra fee and will have some interest, but that literally saved me.

        Link
  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray December 6, 2013, 5:02 pm

    Tonight’s our second annual Holiday Hotel Hop. “Our” meaning me and three friends, and we invited oh maybe 15 people? 10-15. We bar hop from fancy hotel bar to fancy hotel bar. Our first stop is the Ritz. I’m wearing a short dress and heals. But I left all my make up and hair stuff at home so it’s gonna be “party” from the neck down and “tired plain hag” from the neck up. Should still be a good time – ha!

    Also I predict ditching the heals and putting on my sneakers in 1 hour.

    Also it’s freezing balls out here in Chicago. Today I had to bust out my “for when it’s freezing balls out” coat. It is a big black ankle-length puffy coat, with a fur-trimmed hood, and it is not flattering. It makes me look like a tootsie roll that has been genetically enlarged to the size of an SUV. No, I’m too hard on myself, more like the size of a sedan.

    But you know, REAL winter coats are all ugly. It’s just not feasible to make a big puffy coat that doesn’t make you look like a tootsie roll, you know? I am envious of those people who can saunter into J.Crew or [insert whatever normal store] and buy those cute “winter” coats they sell each season – and actually stay warm in those coats all winter. In Chicago no way man. You’d die with a coat like that by, oh, mid-November.

    Reply Link
  • avatar

    jlyfsh December 6, 2013, 5:12 pm

    I survived my surgery on Wednesday. I had an irrational fear of not waking up from anesthesia. Apparently I was a big meanie when I woke up though. I told M he wasn’t funny and that he should just go to work. Oops. He forgave me though.

    This weekend I’m doing nothing. I’m only getting up every hour to stretch my legs and prevent blood clots because the scary paper they sent home with me convinced me I was going to get one if I didn’t. I also still sort of feel like there is an alien in me rearranging my organs. Pain meds are magical things though. Although I do have some whacked out dreams. Like the one last night where I dreamed my husband was a vampire and he ate me. Apparently I woke up screaming but I don’t remember that.

    Reply Link
    • avatar

      Banana December 6, 2013, 5:22 pm

      Glad to hear you’re doing better — I hadn’t realized you had surgery! Best of luck in your recovery!

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        jlyfsh December 6, 2013, 5:52 pm

        thanks! just had my gallbladder removed. thankfully nothing too awful!

        Link
  • avatar

    rachel December 6, 2013, 5:14 pm

    I’ve been cranky for the past few days. It’s stupid cold (I wore long underwear today, and think I should maybe buy a few more pairs if this winter shit keeps going at this rate), and I haven’t run in a week and I just feel kind of “meh” physically which probably has to do with the cranky and the not running.

    Ross and I are maybe getting close to figuring out our job situation and where we will move to. But I’m also terrified to make a decision and accept a job, because what if it’s the wrong job? What if I change my career path in the wrong way by taking it? So I’m freaking out a bit. When will this career shit get easy??? (answer:never. sigh.)

    Reply Link
    • avatar

      rachel December 6, 2013, 5:22 pm

      Oh, and I have to work this weekend. Boo. BUT, on the bright side, tomorrow is the Festivus celebration in my neighborhood!

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        rachel December 6, 2013, 8:34 pm

        Okay, I know my first post was kind of whiny, but come on! Festivus!

        Link
  • avatar

    Banana December 6, 2013, 5:21 pm

    Wendy, glad you’re doing well with Jackson and you had a wonderful outing!

    Let’s see…tonight I’m hosting ladies’ night. When my roommate and I set that up, I didn’t realize that my boyfriend was attending a dudes-only poker night on Saturday, so we were both a little sad to realize we won’t have a weekend night for couple stuff (not the end of the world, I know). SO after we clear the girls out, I’m heading to his place for the night, and I’m planning on surprising him with a nice massage and foot rub (he’s been really stressed about finals). Then tomorrow we’re getting brunch and Christmas shopping at an adorable local farmers’ market. Saturday night I’m going to the first Christmas party of the year, with a bunch of gal pals, and then once again meeting Banano later in the evening for drinks with mutual friends. Sunday is family day. A pretty full weekend! Hoping to get some good writing done too — so close to finishing the werewolf story!

    Reply Link
  • cmary

    cmary December 6, 2013, 5:38 pm

    We found out today that Brian’s job is transferring him to their Chicago office. So we’re moving. not sure when, probably like February – which is, of course, the best. time. ever! to move from Milwaukee to Chicago. And for me to look for a new job. So easy in the winter, right? Not knowing my way around? Cake. Bring it on. Now…where the hell should we look for apartments? We like Roger’s Park – it seems like a nice-ish area, but normal. Or Lincoln Park if we can find something that isn’t mind-bogglingly expensive. Suggestions?

    Reply Link
    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray December 6, 2013, 5:44 pm

      Rogers Park can be really sketchy! But ok ok lots of places are sketchy. I’d just be sure you know Rogers Park well. In the same (ish) area but further south is Andersonville, Edgewater, Ravenswood, Uptown, Lincoln Square – I’d look at those places. Do you know where your husband’s job will be? I’d move to a place off the metra or el that will take him there directly. Just my opinion. Rogers Park does have the Heartland Cafe, one of my favorite places.

      You two should move in with me in Lincoln Park and then you can also take care of my doggie during the day. Deal?

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        jlyfsh December 6, 2013, 5:50 pm

        you should definitely move in with ap!

        Link
      • cmary

        cmary December 6, 2013, 8:54 pm

        Thanks for the tips, AP- we’ll definitely check those places out. The closest stops to his job would be the Merchandise Mart on the brown line or Clark and Lake- it looks like lots of the lines go there. What are your thoughts on Oak Park?

        Be careful with offering me puppy-time. I would totally take care of your new puppy! When’s his homecoming? Soon, right?

        Link
      • katie

        katie December 6, 2013, 8:56 pm

        yea cmary is movin here!!!

        Link
  • rainbow

    rainbow December 6, 2013, 6:01 pm

    I turned 29 on Tuesday! And I was very far from home on my way to meet some friends at a bar when the city police went on strike and there were riots and looting and a lot of people was hurt and a couple died, it was insane. Two kids tried to take my purse. They were too young to succeed, I mostly laughed at them. By the time I made it back (a cab driver picked me up out of pity when he was already going home) you could hear shots all over the place.
    And when I got home I found heart shaped “happy birthday” bunting on my door and a black female kitty with an orange bow around her neck, from my roommate. I wouldn’t give a cat as a present, but she knew I wanted one (some of you might remember the dead kitty fiasco from a couple of weeks ago) so it’s ok. I loved her. I named her Gilda!)
    My roommate was armed with a lighter and a spray can in case someone came in the house – they were breaking windows and getting in all over the place. It got better the next day, the police got their raise and got back on the street, but the city is still a mess of broken glass.
    And tomorrow it’s my birthday party! (and Santi’s, he’s my ex, exactly 10 years older). So we’ve organized a barbecue early for our closest friends and then dancing and drinks for anyone and whoever they bring (huge backyard) and I just got myself a white over black polka dot dress with a red belt to wear to the party, and my friend Mayra is coming later to help me make a K-9 (Dr Who’s robot dog) birthday cake. So it started a bit weird but it’s gonna be great!

    Reply Link
    • othy

      othy December 7, 2013, 8:54 pm

      I love it when you come home from a shitty day, and someone had done something nice for you. Hope your kitty is super cute! And good luck with the city riots. Stay safe.

      Reply Link
  • avatar

    Christy December 6, 2013, 6:23 pm

    Wendy, all of Ogo’s books were AMAZING choices – I wanted to go up to Baltimore and meet Ogo and tell her she was awesome; that’s how good those books were. So mad props to your mom! (Also, I couldn’t think of another way to say “mad props.”)

    Reply Link
  • kare

    kare December 6, 2013, 7:01 pm

    There was an underground fire near me and the power was shutdown for everything in a 5 block radius. Fortunately, I took the day off. Texas isn’t prepared for ice or snow, so everything is shut down. So I marched to my friend’s bar and am drinking crown and coke and eating free flatbread pizzas. Can I make this a tradition?

    Reply Link
  • sobriquet

    sobriquet December 6, 2013, 7:08 pm

    It’s freezing this weekend so we will probably stay in and do holiday stuff. I searched for a ton of Christmas movies on the DVR to record and we’re gonna make a homemade gingerbread house from scratch! If we go out, we’ll go ice skating. It could be 80 degrees on Christmas day for all we know, so gotta take advantage of the cold.

    I’m about to make my own homemade Bailey’s Irish Cream and it’s gonna be NON-FAT. You heard me. None of that 400 calorie 14 grams of fat business for me. I found fat-free half and half (didn’t know that existed) and I’m using the non-fat sweetened condensed milk I have leftover from baking pumpkin pie on Thanksgiving. I’m really excited. Bailey’s is the best. It’s amazing how good things can taste without all that extra fat, too! I’ve become a much more knowledgeable cook this year and lemme tell you, healthy food and tasty food are not mutually exclusive.

    We’re planning on making our Christmas gifts this weekend, too, if there’s time. Brand new business + college student + saving for wedding means everyone gets homemade presents and cards this year. My fiance has a lot of extra wood sitting around due to the nature of his business so we’re planning to make a bajillion wooden refrigerator magnets and a few wall-mounted bottle openers for people. We made heart-shaped wooden magnets for party favors for our engagement party and they turned out great.

    Reply Link
    • katie

      katie December 6, 2013, 7:14 pm

      oh i wanted to make homemade baileys for gifts so bad! but, i make mine with regular cream. its even BETTER then half and half haha.

      i have no one to give my baileys too, though. sad sad day!

      Reply Link
  • theattack

    theattack December 6, 2013, 9:26 pm

    I woke up incredibly sick today, and there was no way I could go to work. I missed work on literally the most important day of the year right before our Christmas party where all the Christmas gifts are passed out. I really don’t know what’s going to happen, but I was throwing up every time I slightly moved today. Let’s hope I don’t get fired or something.

    Reply Link
  • avatar

    Bethany December 6, 2013, 10:47 pm

    To anyone who thinks that being married is the be all, end all, just wanted to let you know what my Friday night was like tonight. My husband and I ordered pizza, he then watched Alaska State Troopers and Gold Rush while I watched YouTube videos of lava flowing into the ocean for a half hour.

    Be jealous.

    Reply Link
    • GatorGirl

      GatorGirl December 7, 2013, 9:26 am

      Haha. We got in an arguement, didn’t eat dinner, and watched a dumb stoner movie (not my choice). This morning the cat threw up in bed. We’re glamorous too.

      Reply Link
    • avatar

      Ammie December 7, 2013, 12:02 pm

      I love Alaska State Troopers. It’s a sickness.

      Reply Link
    • avatar

      NoPantalonesToday December 8, 2013, 3:44 pm

      Thank you for this. My husband and I just watched YouTube videos that compare Otterboxes for 30 mins. Now we’re on to Vitamix demonstrations.

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        AliceInDairyland December 8, 2013, 7:47 pm

        OMG I want a vitamix SO BAD. Settled for a Ninja.

        Link
  • avatar

    Ogo December 7, 2013, 12:14 am

    I love that tradition with the change jar and the Christmas tree and Caribbean dinner Wendy. Sounds like something I would look forward to during the year…And I also want to echo your thanks to your mama for helping me out. The kids are soooooo excited to have something new and interesting to take home over the Christmas holiday and my Principal is super-impressed with the generosity of everyone who made this possible 🙂

    Reply Link
    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray December 7, 2013, 8:27 am

      Hey it’s teacher ogo, hi!!!

      Reply Link
  • avatar

    Taylor December 7, 2013, 10:06 am

    How do you make a Bailey’s martini?? I’m hoarding drinks that I can mix up again after the baby gets here. It’s been a mellow pregnancy (knock on wood), but I do miss having a cocktail! And sushi. And salami. Nummmmmm.

    Reply Link
  • CatsMeow

    CatsMeow December 7, 2013, 10:10 am

    I’m belly dancing on a stage tonight. In front of people! AHHHH!!

    Reply Link
    • Classic

      Classic December 7, 2013, 10:28 am

      Go Cats!

      Reply Link
    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow December 7, 2013, 6:40 pm

      dammit, I’m soooo nervous. ;/

      Reply Link
      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray December 8, 2013, 6:50 am

        You looked so beautiful in your pic!

        How did it go?

        Link
      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow December 8, 2013, 12:32 pm

        Thanks! It was kinda a big stupid clusterfuck. One of the girls in our group was sick, so we had an “emergency practice” to rearrange our formations, which one lady in our group was resistant to? for some reason? Like, she would not budge. It wasn’t a big deal, but she wouldn’t freaking move into a different spot. So I had to work around her. And then when we got on stage we were kinda bumping into each other. And I messed up slightly in a couple places. And the music stopped halfway through the song and then re-started. And and and. We went on third to last so I had to sit there all freaking night getting more and more nervous, AND I couldn’t drink. And and and. But at least I got my first performance done! haha, and our next show will be at a different venue with a BIG stage.

        Link
  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray December 7, 2013, 2:59 pm

    HEY YOU GUYZZZZZZ – I have some amazing news! Date 2 with the guy against gay marriage because “marriage is a contract for sex and our bodies were not designed, anatomically speaking, for gay sex” is this afternoon. (We agreed to go out on a second date before the gay marriage thing came up, and instead of just saying that I changed my mind, Plan A was to just blow him off. Well I did that but he kept asking about date 2 so I said ok let’s watch the Mizzou football game (he’s a Mizzou fan too). Oh come on, that’s a legitimate move, it just didn’t work out, so date 2 is today.) Anyhoo, he just called to say his parents are coming to. To our date. To watch the football game.

    I swear to God I can’t make this shit up. I’m so happy because it’s great fodder for my book about bad dates, hurray!!!!!

    Reply Link
    • othy

      othy December 8, 2013, 12:50 am

      Well, how’d the date with the parents go?

      Reply Link
      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow December 8, 2013, 1:37 am

        Yeah. UPDATE.

        Link
      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray December 8, 2013, 6:56 am

        It was fun! His parents are lovely. His mom – who is I dunno close to 60 – has the prettiest skin. It was translucent. I kept wanting to tell her but I didn’t because I figured she would think I’m kissing ass but really it was, and it was so hard for me not to tell her, ha! Really they were lovely and I enjoyed talking to his mother the most. More than him. So my next letter to Wendy will be: “Dear Wendy, is my love for his parents, and his mom’s beautiful skin, enough to make this relationship work or should I MOA before I get too attached to his mom?”

        Link
  • avatar

    AliceInDairyland December 7, 2013, 3:09 pm

    Guys, I compulsively tried out for America’s Next Top Model today because they had try outs in my town. I went with my sister and it took forever, but I was next to two hilarious gay guys in line so that made the whole thing tolerable. It was fun and an interesting thing to do, but I was definitely an out of the ordinary candidate. No I don’t have fancy pants photo shoot photos. No, I never walk in heels ever.

    I think I may have accidentally come off a little bit bitchy in my interview haha, but that may play into my favor. They asked me if I was competitive, and I said “Yes, I’m in a professional program and I work really hard to get what I want.” They also asked if there was anything that I would refuse to do on the show, and I said “Nope.” No morals, super competitive. PUT ME ON TYRA!! Apparently my sister told me that when I got on stage the girls in line said I had a fashion-y body and was super tall.

    Also they asked what my best modeling feature was, and I said “I’m tall. I’m skinny. I have a nice waist to hip ratio.” Bahahahahaha.

    Reply Link
    • Fabelle

      Fabelle December 7, 2013, 6:16 pm

      YES I am so happy you did this. You really do have the perfect model body, & I feel like they actually love taking girls on the show who “don’t have fancy pants photo shoot photos” & who “never walk in heels ever”, haha. And how cool will your blurb be during the show?? it’ll be like, “oh AliceInDairyland runs a farm” & they’ll show a bunch of photos with you & some goats, & then cut to the present scene of you, say, after a photoshoot, all made up crazily & in some outfit made of crystals. Ahh I am rooting for you!!

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        AliceInDairyland December 7, 2013, 6:37 pm

        …I wrote about my goats and cats an unhealthy amount on the questionnaire

        What 3 things would you bring with you to the house if you could bring anything?

        “My 2 adorable cats, all the fruits and vegetables from my farm, lots of good books to read.”

        The world isn’t ready… 😉

        Link
    • avatar

      rachel December 7, 2013, 7:19 pm

      This makes me so happy. I hope you get on!

      Reply Link
    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray December 7, 2013, 9:17 pm

      Alice I need you to get on the show!!!

      Reply Link
  • Fabelle

    Fabelle December 7, 2013, 6:21 pm

    Guys, tell me if I’m being an asshole. My boyfriend mentioned to me yesterday this dinner party thing at his coworker’s house. I was like, “mehh”. This morning, I’m like, “look, I really don’t think I wanna come, but you can go without me.” He gets all sad, & is like, “But I don’t want to go without you” & I reassure him, no, it’s fine, I’ll call up one of my friends & go out. This is something of a theme in our relationship— if he has plans, he insists on me accompanying him, even if I know I’m not gonna have a good time? Like, I’ve met his coworkers before, they’re cool, but I don’t wanna do the whole dinner party thing with them. They are all teachers who will be talking about work, & I would rather make this an opportunity where we can do our separate things? But he’s saying basically he won’t go unless I go 😐

    We left off with me saying MAYBE I’ll go with him? & I made him go home to get ready. because I don’t want him to miss out on things just because I’m feeling antisocial. ~But~ I’m going to see what my friends are up to? In case I can hang out with them instead? Am I being a dick?

    Reply Link
    • Fabelle

      Fabelle December 7, 2013, 6:29 pm

      Or okay, how do you guys deal with shit like this? do you mostly go to whatever events your S/O invites you to (or events you & your S/O are invited to)? if you don’t feel like going, is your S/O just cool with it, like “alright, later, bye, have fun”?

      Reply Link
    • katie

      katie December 7, 2013, 6:30 pm

      eh, it depends i guess. i do think there are things that you have to do as a couple sometimes. like, no matter what. work-related social things are one of those for me, so yea i would make you go regardless.

      Reply Link
    • avatar

      jlyfsh December 7, 2013, 6:33 pm

      if it’s a work related social thing then usually we go even when we’re not necessarily ‘feeling’ it. usually our compromise is we agree to stay for a certain amount of time, get to do something we want to do the next day, etc. if it’s not work related then it’s up to us. if we’re not feeling it we don’t have to go. but, i feel like since it involves work we’re showing we support the other person when we go.

      Reply Link
    • avatar

      AliceInDairyland December 7, 2013, 6:33 pm

      I don’t think you are being an asshole. But, my boyfriend and I never really feel the need to bring each other to work/school related events unless we think it will be particularly fun for both parties? (Like last night we went to the veterinary school’s drag show and we both went because we both love drag shows!!!) I almost prefer when he DOESN’T come with me to stuff, because then I feel bad when we just talk about school the whole time. Or I feel awkward trying to come up with topics that would involve everyone. Soo… I can kind of see why he wants you there, but it’s usually more exhausting for me than if I just go alone.

      Y’all can do separate things (coming from someone who is probably borderline co-dependent). Convince him he will have more fun without you!

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        AliceInDairyland December 7, 2013, 6:36 pm

        Oh, and as for the other way around…. Benjamin goes to farm related events and stuff without me all the time because I don’t want to hear people talk about soil. BUT, if he knows people will be there that I like or if the event is somewhere interesting then he always makes sure to let me know that so I can make a decision.

        I’ve never thought of it as a show of support, especially if it’s like an “unofficial work thing” like a dinner at a coworker’s house.

        Link
      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 7, 2013, 7:17 pm

        Yeah, I think you & I are on the same page (I even tried to convince him he’d have more fun without me— like, “do you really want a sulky girlfriend there who’s checking her cell/the clock the entire time?” I mean, I typically don’t act that way in situations I’m not feeling, but I was trying to frighten him. haha. And then I was like, “& everyone will be like, “Yo Fabello, your girl’s real weird.” But he was unfazed…)

        It seems like Benjamin is ~also~ on your page, though… hmm… which clearly isn’t the case for me. So maybe I should listen to @katie & @jlyfsh, because it seems like “work related social thing” is on Fabello’s list of “bring your girlfriend, even if she’s kicking & screaming the entire way there”… 😉 Sigh.

        Link
      • avatar

        jlyfsh December 7, 2013, 7:29 pm

        and i do think it depends on what kind of ‘work event’ it is. things like weddings, dinner parties, etc that are meant for employees and SOs we go to with each other. things that aren’t meant for SOs necessarily like talks, etc we don’t ask the other to go to unless we do think it would be interesting or if mutual friends of ours are going to be there and it will be fun. after being in the work force for awhile i’ve definitely found it’s nice to have your SOs support at those employee plus SO events. even when i don’t necessarily want to be there or he doesn’t want to be there we can both tell the other appreciates it. and our coworkers, bosses, etc notice when we show up for each other and when we don’t. which also plays in to it some i think.

        Link
      • katie

        katie December 7, 2013, 10:52 pm

        yea this is pretty much how i think about it too.

        to me, if this was the official company/work holiday dinner or a boss invite at all, then yes the SO is going if they are invited. if its just a dinner party that happens to be also with coworkers, then it would be more optional.

        and i agree, i think it does really matter when SOs come. also, being social brings you connections which leads to better job opportunities and better job networks, bla bla bla. the social aspect of (some) jobs is HUGE.

        Link
      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 8, 2013, 11:56 am

        Okay guys so I went, & it wasn’t that bad. haha. It definitely wasn’t an official type thing, & also wasn’t a “fun for both parties” situation, but everyone invited had brought a S/O along, so it would’ve been weird & people would have been asking about me had I not been there.

        We got there at 8, & left at like 11-ish. I did get a bit drunk though because the coworker’s husband was giving me shots of Sailor Jerry, which I took because I didn’t want to let Fabello open the second bottle of wine (for fear of getting drunk. LOGIC FAIL)

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 8, 2013, 5:38 pm

        So, you already went but I would have said you should go. I don’t think your a terrible person for not wanting to go, but I do think it’s important to 1- support your partners career (even through dumb dinners) and 2- do things that are important to your partner. I go to
        A ton of boring history crap with GGuy, it sucks but it’s part of the deal.

        Also, the party doesn’t sound bad if there where shots!

        Link
      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 9, 2013, 8:36 am

        Yeah, if definitely wasn’t bad! It was just one of those things where I get into this anxiety ball of, “ohgodohgod mandatory-seeming function with people I barely know?? Is there any way I could NOT attend??” But then I go, & I’m like, “Oh. This will be survivable.”

        Link
      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 9, 2013, 8:46 am

        I hear you on the anxiety factor. I freak out for like 20 minutes before we go to every event, to the point I almost make my self sick. But once we’re there it’s no big.

        GGuy is going out for drinks with some visiting researcher or something to night and I don’t have to go. Win.

        Link
  • avatar

    AliceInDairyland December 8, 2013, 5:35 pm

    …Sunday evening confession:

    I want to wear glasses even though I have perfect vision. Has anyone ever done that?

    Reply Link
    • mrmidtwenties

      mrmidtwenties December 8, 2013, 7:21 pm

      Haha, I totally get that. I need glasses for seeing at night, but really don’t need them during the day. But I operate a saw a lot of times during the day where you have to wear safety glasses if you don’t wear glasses. So I used my benefits to buy glasses and wear them all the time at work even though I really don’t need to. When I leave that job, I’ll feel very conflicted.

      Reply Link
    • avatar

      vizslalvr December 8, 2013, 7:23 pm

      Confession: It is one of my biggest pet peeves when people do this. And it shouldn’t be, because when I wore glasses pre-Lasik, I loved them and considered them an awesome accessory and rationally know there is no reason to begrudge people with good vision the opportunity to wear glasses as accessories. But when I see people with that clear, obviously non-prescription glass, it makes my blood boil. It’s probably because LeBron James does it and I hate him.

      Takeaway: I haven’t done it, and you totally should, even if freaks like me will silently seethe about it.

      Reply Link
    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray December 8, 2013, 7:29 pm

      Do it, it’s good practice for when you will need to wear them all the time. And you will need them eventually. Does anyone make it through life without glasses?

      Reply Link
      • mrmidtwenties

        mrmidtwenties December 8, 2013, 8:01 pm

        Good excuse AP, I feel my hate for safety glasses, my inability to see at night without them, and that there is a small prescription in them. Anyways Alice, totally get them, get an anti-glare lens and use that as your excuse.

        Link
      • avatar

        AliceInDairyland December 9, 2013, 8:47 am

        Veterinary Safety Glasses. Protecting my eyes from all sort of potential animal trauma…

        Link
      • katie

        katie December 8, 2013, 10:11 pm

        im dreading the day i need glasses… i know i wont get through life without them. i just know.

        Link
    • avatar

      Ammie December 9, 2013, 7:36 am

      I used to do that. Then karma bit me and my vision ended up deteriorating so I actually needed them. Don’t risk it!!!

      Reply Link
    • GatorGirl

      GatorGirl December 9, 2013, 8:26 am

      It annoys me. GGuy and I both wear glasses, and it’s kind of a bitch. So IDK why anyone would ever want to deal with it. I especially get annoyed when there are no lenses in the frames…ugh.

      Reply Link
      • avatar

        AliceInDairyland December 9, 2013, 8:50 am

        Hahaha, I had a roommate who wore glasses without lenses in the frames and it annoyed me too! So I would probably spend 99% of the time wearing them being annoyed with myself and 1% being like OMG I look awesome. But that 1% would be SO AWESOME. I think my face is meant for glasses…

        Link

Leave a Comment