We’ve been in Springfield, Missouri, since Tuesday evening visiting my parents. We’re here until tomorrow and then we’ll all drive to St. Louis for a couple days to visit our extended family there. It’s thunder-stormed most of our visit, which is a drag, so we’ve had a lot of down time at my parents’ house where Jackson is keeping busy spelling words with my mother on his brand new magnetic tabletop learning easel (highly recommend for any toddler/ pre-school/ kindergarten-aged kids), and I have kept busy drinking prosecco, eating Pringles, and looking through old photo albums. When it has stopped raining briefly, we’ve gone to the zoo, Bass Pro shop to see big fish, and to a farm where we saw a 4-day-old baby goat who was so cute that I briefly felt terrible for being a carnivore. I found two 4-leaf clovers at the farm side-by-side and my mom said it means I’m going to have twins now. (I’m not pregnant, and also, let’s hope not, God). I also planted some flowers around my parents’ house, and last night Drew and I went to a redneck Bingo hall for some local flavor. Tonight my parents are babysitting again and Drew and I are heading downtown for monthly “art walk” where a friend of mine is exhibiting some paintings.
Anyway, while we were out this morning driving to the farm, I asked my parents, who have been married almost 41 years (and who also read every comment on this site, by the way, and remember every detail of all of you commenters and talk about you and what’s going on in your lives like you are all friends of mine whom they’ve known/ known of for years), if they had any tips for making relationships last they’d like to share with you. This is what they said:
Dad: Spend the first 40 years of your marriage overseas where it’s a lot harder to get divorced.
Mom: Speak the same language. (Me: “Like love language? Or like English or Hungarian?” Mom: Like English or Hungarian.” Obviously, we have both been watching “Louie” this season).
Mom: Get a lamp with a nightlight in it so you can keep different schedules.
Mom: Have stuff in common, but not everything. Like, if he grows a beard, it’s ok if you shave yours.
Mom: Have some smart ass children to prove something to (i.e. “Look at us, smart ass kids! We’ve made it almost 41 years!”).
Dad: Be in love.