Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

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Happy Friday, everyone! I’m excited about this weekend because it’s the first one all month that we don’t have any plans (other than Jack’s Sunday morning basketball class), which means we can do whatever we want. I’m toying with the idea of dragging Drew and Jackson to the beach early tomorrow morning. Without a car, it’s about an hour and a half commute each way on the train, which is long (especially with a restless toddler), but doable. And if I pack some sandwiches and a million books and trains, that might keep my guys happy. Hmm… we’ll see.

Last weekend, we went to my favorite bar in Red Hook (Brooklyn), which is one of the best neighborhoods in the city as far as I’m concerned, and we listened to blue grass and drank shots of tequila and snuck outside and kissed on empty streets, and it was great. Our friends, Neil and Kirsten, who were visiting from upstate, crashed out our place for the night and when we got home to relieve the sitter, who has been Jackson’s daytime sitter since he was four months old, Neil took one look at her and immediately remembered working with her at a restaurant 18 years ago where she had been a really positive influence on him. He said he’d often wondered over the years what had happened to this woman so many of his co-workers admired and looked up to, and all this time (well, for the last 2 1/2 years anyway), she’s been like a member of our family. Small world, huh?

Anyway, Neil got to tell Mavis what she meant to him all those years ago and she got teary-eyed and it was just such a sweet moment, and it reminded me that you often don’t know what kind of affect you have on the people in your life, and sometimes — often — the universe works in such a way that you’re matched with the right people at the right time, and it may not be clear to you WHY it’s a perfect match and it may not even be necessarily for your benefit, but there’s a lot of method in this crazy madness of our lives. I’m not saying everything happens for a reason, but I do think there’s a lot that does. Related: if you drink enough tequila late at night at a bar on the water with good friends and great music, you might just be convinced of anything.

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    Morgan June 27, 2014, 4:21 pm

    It’s been a busy week for me! I finished my last week at my old job, moved into a new apartment, and now I have two weeks off before I start my new position, which is super exciting! My poor cat had a rough week, but she’s happy and settled again as well. I had a goin away party for work last night, And tonight I’m meeting up with friends from college. So all in all a good week.

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  • gigi

    gigi June 27, 2014, 4:52 pm

    Its been go go go for me for over a week now & its catching up to me….. as much as I HATE just sitting on the couch & vegging in front of the TV, I might have to do that tonite & fall asleep early. Unless my BFF calls, in which case, sleep will have to wait til another night, since I haven’t seen her in forever! I am looking forward to a no wild-n-crazy stuff weekend!

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  • mandalee

    mandalee June 27, 2014, 5:02 pm

    That story about your friend Neil and your babysitter is amazing! I’m sure that really meant a lot to her to hear that from him. It’s a great reminder that you can have an impact on someone and never know it.
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    I have a few women like that in my past that I wish I could see again to let them know how much they meant to me, even though they were in my life for a short time. Sadly, one of them passed away in the last few years and I never got a chance to tell her. She was this strong, loud-mouthed, assertive redheaded waitress I worked with during my first job. I was so self-conscious and unsure of myself and in an awkward teenage stage when we worked together and she was a lifelong waitress who didn’t take shit from anyone. She’d always encouraged me to stand up for myself at work, believe in myself a little more or give me advice about boyfriends while we sat in booths after closing setting up for the next day. The moment I finally got the nerve to dump my cheating boyfriend years after leaving that job, I could practically envision her waving her arms while smoking a cigarette on break and telling me “that a shitty man deserves a kick out the door”. She was the first person to really shake me out of my low self-esteem and let me know that it was okay to demand better from men and life in general.
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  • JK

    JK June 27, 2014, 5:34 pm

    Hey everyone! Long time no see (again).
    I figured the weekend open thread was the best place to jump back in the water, as it were.
    I´m looking forward to a relaxing weekend (hopefully), apart from a 3 year olds birthday party tomorrow.
    Also I´m really happy because my kids are flourishing at the new school, my 6 year old got her 1st report cards yesterday and they were good, today she won a special award (for academics/behaviour, and she´s been doing well on her tests. And my 3 year old went on her 1st field trip today! So I had an anxiety filled morning but she loved it.
    Also, yesterday I twisted my ankle, which sucks. So I´m trying to rest as much as possible to get it to heal quicker.

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray June 27, 2014, 5:43 pm

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      jlyfsh June 27, 2014, 6:48 pm

      hey jk! 🙂

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy June 27, 2014, 6:59 pm

      JK!!! Welcome back! Have a glass of wine and stay a while. You’ve been missed.

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      • JK

        JK June 28, 2014, 8:53 am

        Hah I don´t drink wine! But I´ll try to stay 🙂

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray June 28, 2014, 1:07 pm

        Your one tragic flaw. It’s ok, more for me.

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    • Moneypenny

      Moneypenny June 27, 2014, 8:01 pm

      JKKKKKK!!!!!!

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray June 27, 2014, 5:50 pm

    What a small world, Wendy! That sounded like a perfect evening. I would really like to believe the old EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON thing… but I don’t… but I want to, but I don’t, but you know what I mean. I do think Tequila helps with everything. But sometimes it makes things worse. I also think you should always trust your gut. But not my gut – because my instincts are sometimes off – but sometimes right on. Actually, often times, I’m so ON. Unless I’m OFF. And now I will stop being so profound.
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    In unrelated news, (earmuffs, Wendy’s Dad and Wendy’s Mom): I am having sex in about 2 hours. My old neighbor – the one I slept with for like 9 months but never really talked to – is coming into tow. I am so excited though that there’s a good chance I will combust in a million pieces all over the floor and ruin everything somehow before he gets here. It’s. Been. So. Fucking. Long. That’s all.

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray June 27, 2014, 5:51 pm

      (This is a deleted thread, right? Crap.)

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      • mrmidtwenties

        mrmidtwenties June 27, 2014, 6:32 pm

        way to go AP!!!!!!Get your sexytimes on

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray June 28, 2014, 7:25 pm

        I got it on! And it was… fun but terrible! See, sex is kind of like pizza. There’s Chicago deep dish (if that’s your thing), there’s fancy flatbreads with goat cheese and other hoity toppings (if that’s your thing) … and there’s New York style, St. Louis style, and oh oh there’s the pizza you buy in Europe that comes with an egg on it. And everyone has their preference. But everyone will agree that at the bottom of the barrel there are those frozen pizzas with like 80 grams of fat that you can buy for $4 at a gas station. (Gross!) There are healthy people that never stoop that low – they’ll go hungry before they eat that nasty stuff. Anyway, having sex with my old neighbor is like eating gas station pizza. Meh, I’m not going to lie, I don’t mind it, but it’s pretty terrible. I would rather have Imo’s, you know? The funny thing is after we did it, we ate a frozen pizza I had in my freezer from Walgreens. Keeping it VERY classy here, people.

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        bc020 June 28, 2014, 7:48 pm

        Haha, sad to say I know exactly what you mean!

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        jlyfsh June 27, 2014, 6:47 pm

        definitely a deleted thread 😉 enjoy the hot sex with the old neighbor AP!

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy June 27, 2014, 7:00 pm

      Git it, girl!

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  • Diablo

    Diablo June 27, 2014, 6:29 pm

    In Calgary with M and friends to see Nick Cave tonight! Day 2 of 6 in a row off. We so needed this. Time for cocktails!

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    • muchachaenlaventana

      muchachaenlaventana June 27, 2014, 10:27 pm

      I love Nick Cave! So jealous. Have an awesome time 🙂

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    • Roxy_84

      Roxy84 June 28, 2014, 6:21 pm

      Diablo! You’re here a week too early! Unless you hate Stampede, which would be blasphemy

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        Gwen Soul June 30, 2014, 9:30 am

        I saw him a few weeks ago in Louisville. He was so good! Very charismatic and much more friendly than I would have imagined.

        And my husband looks just like him 🙂

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    snoopy128 June 27, 2014, 9:15 pm

    Last weekend with the bf in town before he moves out and to a new city to start his new job. I’m trying not to cram every last thing in in the next week, especially because my project is so busy, but all I want to do is do ALL THE THINGS with him. Breakfasts in bed, brunches on the town, sushi, and food fests, dinners with seafood, and runs in forests and hikes and beaches…

    So for now we are just waking up and seeing what we feel like this weekend. Tomorrow night we host a going away party.

    Thankfully he put away all the bags he has packed so far so that we aren’t reminded of his imminent departure.

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  • Lyra

    Lyra June 28, 2014, 9:18 am

    I had a parade last night with the band and it went really well! But I was basically sleeping at like 9 because I was exhausted. Today my parents are coming up for brunch and Navy Guy is coming to stay over tonight. Not too many plans. It’s supposed to rain so I’m ready for a weekend full of Harry Potter since I’m rereading them. 🙂

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    • Lyra

      Lyra June 28, 2014, 9:21 am

      Also I feel like I haven’t been able to keep up with DW these last two weeks due to work! My team is me, my boss, and his boss and any time my boss gets sick of sitting in his cubicle he comes down unannounced (every 30-45 minutes) to hang out with me in my little hole-in-the-wall office and see how things are going.

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    Sunshine Brite June 28, 2014, 11:46 am

    It looks rather rainy but Wyatt really wants to go to the lake for his birthday 🙁 We’ll see how it turns out I suppose. I’ve been busy this morning, picked up his favorite cake from the bakery and have a homemade pizza ready to throw in the oven for our usual Pizza/Cake Birthday Breakfast. My mom started the tradition when I was little and I thought it was the coolest thing ever.

    Last night we stayed out til 1, I was yawning all over the place. I had just signed up for dinner! I would’ve prepared with things like Red Bull and a nap.

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    • Lyra

      Lyra June 28, 2014, 11:59 am

      You crazy kids! I was sleeping by 9…

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