Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread: Holidaze!

Can y’all believe next week is Thanksgiving (for Americans! Don’t go gettin’ your panties in a bunch, everyone else, Canadians) and marks the official start of the holiday season? I know it’s clichΓ© to say, but the time really flies, doesn’t it? Even more so, I think, when you have a kid. A friend gave me a framed photo of Jackson taken at her son’s birthday party last month and I swear, Jackson has ten times more hair now, just six weeks later. And the clothes he was wearing in the picture don’t really fit anymore. Six weeks!

So, next week is Thanksgiving (for Americans! Simmer down, everyone else, Canadians), and we’ll be spending the holiday at my father-in-law’s on the Upper West Side (in the same apartment Drew grew up in). His apartment is close to the Macy’s parade route, but we haven’t decided yet if we’ll take Jackson this year or not. I think he’d enjoy it… for a few minutes, anyway, which is about as long as he enjoys anything. But, dudes, 8 AM. Which means we’d have to leave our place basically at 6 to get to Manhattan and secure a spot along the route. And then you’re stuck in the middle of a crowd, with little to no access to bathrooms, and an unpredictable 1-year-old, and you’ve got hours to kill after the parade before the big meal and, I don’t know, it makes for a long day for me, I mean Jackson. We’ll see.

Over Christmas, we’ll be going to Missouri (holla, Missouri peeps) to see my side of the family. My grandparents live there, along with aunts, uncles, and a couple cousins. My parents will be flying in from Germany, and my sister will come from Austin, and we’ll all be together again for the first time in a long while. I’m trying to teach Jackson to say, “Merry Christmas, Grandma, your hair looks particularly pretty today,” which would blow my mom’s mind, but so far all we’ve got is “BAH BAH BAH BAH BAH.” Still, a lot can change in six weeks, so you never know.

So, whatcha got? What are your holiday plans this year? Are you still working out the details? Anyone doing the ol’ “meet the parents” next week? Is anyone done holiday shopping? Wanna come do mine?

p.s. Yes, that’s me in the photo above running after Sponge Bob.

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    applescruffs November 16, 2012, 4:13 pm

    I’m spending Thanksgiving with my mom’s family, and my boyfriend is coming, with his brother. Boyfriend has met my mom and all my brothers (4), but it feels like a new and exciting relationship this to have my brothers meet his. The super extra fun part is that my racist, homophobic antisemitic grandmother will be there, and I’m Jewish – as is my boyfriend’s family. She doesn’t know that part yet. πŸ˜€

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    MissDre November 16, 2012, 4:16 pm

    I wish we had another Holiday…. especially another excuse to eat pumpkin pie! November is so LONG without a stat! I think between Thanksgiving and Christmas is the longest stretch Canadians go without having a stat holiday…. boo!

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      aibhlinn November 16, 2012, 8:40 pm

      November does have a stat…in fact it was 4 days ago!! LOLOL Or did you not get Monday off in lieu of Remembrance Day being on Sunday?

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        MissDre November 19, 2012, 9:00 am

        Not sure what province you’re in, but in Ontario only government workers get Remembrance Day as a stat.

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    LadyinPurpleNotRed November 16, 2012, 4:33 pm

    It’s not just meet (some) of the family…it’s meet EVERYONE this year. My boyfriend’s met my parents, brother, and grandparents, but he’s meeting like 20-30 other people while at home next week. I’m excited. Thanksgiving is my all time favorite holiday and having my boyfriend come home with me just makes it all the better!

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    GatorGirl November 16, 2012, 4:33 pm

    We’ve decided to stay home this Thanksgiving. Just the two of us and the cat. I’m really excited. We’ve had a ridiculous amount of travel lately and have a ton coming up in December so a day off to just be home and enjoy doing nothing (other than me cooking an entire dinner for the two of us with all the trimmigns) sounds amazing.

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      lets_be_honest November 16, 2012, 5:01 pm

      I cannot explain how jealous I am of your plans.

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        GatorGirl November 16, 2012, 5:15 pm

        It was such a hard decision. We can technically afford and are able to go to his family, but I think I’m seriously on the verge of a melt down. We’ve block off this weekend, Thanksgiving, and the next weekend with NOTHING to do. No requirements, time frames, hoops to jump through and it is such a releif. But of course I’m creating a ton of artificial pressure on myself (thank you cards, laundry, clean the potty, sell stuff on craigs list) becuase I am incapable of relaxing. whew. sorry for the mini-vent.

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    call-me-hobo November 16, 2012, 4:55 pm

    We’re cooking for everyone this year for my family- And for the first time, I’m not helping cook the day before. (Two tests the day before Thanksgiving!)

    Later that day we’re going to the SO’s Thanksgiving at his maternal grandmother’s. It’s a little bittersweet, because it will likely be her last Thanksgiving holiday with us since she’s decided not to follow through with chemo or radiation. We’ve actually ordered a whole slew of food from her favorite meat n’ three so she won’t have to cook (which honestly probably won’t totally work- you can’t keep that woman from cooking). But we’re all ready to have a good, fun time and focus on what’s important this season!

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  • theattack

    theattack November 16, 2012, 4:56 pm

    We’re combining holidays for the first time. We don’t know what our permanent arrangement will be, but this year we’re going to my parents’ house on Wednesday so I can cook all night. Usually I cook for two days straight because I do all of the cooking for my whole extended family. So we’ll do lunch with my family and then drive two to three hours to get to his family in time for Thanksgiving dinner. Then we’ll come back home, and I’m going to crash from exhaustion. AND THEN we have to drive BACK to my parents’ house that weekend to go talk to a florist for our wedding. It’s going to be incredibly exhausting.

    And then I start my NEW JOB on Monday morning afterward! That’s right, I got a job! I already posted about it in the forums, but I don’t care. I’m now employed, and I’m freaking excited about it!

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    • Diablo

      Diablo November 16, 2012, 5:02 pm

      Go Get ’em!

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      • theattack

        theattack November 16, 2012, 5:31 pm

        Jobs: Gotta catch ’em all.

        Just kidding. Pokemon is really stupid, and I don’t think I’m capable of keeping up with more than one job.

        Thanks!

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      kerrycontrary November 16, 2012, 5:02 pm

      Congratulations!!! I didn’t see it in the forum but I’m so happy for you πŸ™‚

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      • theattack

        theattack November 16, 2012, 5:30 pm

        Thank you!

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      GatorGirl November 16, 2012, 5:12 pm

      Good luck figuring out your family holiday bs because mine is not going too well. So many people to balance it’s exhausting. At least it sounds like all of your parents are in the same state!

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      • theattack

        theattack November 16, 2012, 5:29 pm

        Well our parents live in the same state, but we’re having to drive from Southern Tennessee to Southern Kentucky on Thanksgiving Day. His grandparents host Thanksgiving, so that adds another extra hour. Oh well. I’m just hoping everyone stays calm about however we ultimately decide to distribute stuff. Good luck with yours too. I’m really jealous that you get to start your own Thanksgiving traditions together. That sounds wonderful!

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      Caris November 17, 2012, 7:13 pm

      gratz on the job πŸ˜€

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  • Diablo

    Diablo November 16, 2012, 5:00 pm

    Dear Wendy,

    I know there have been some contentious threads lately, particularly the one on Obama. Definitely, politics is polarizing, as are some other highly sensitive areas (see circumcision thread). However, on behalf of all Canadians (because I think only we and you do Thanksgiving), I would say there is no need to get defensive! Twice! And I’m not even wearing panties! Because Thanksgiving is not a highly contentious holiday.

    On behalf of my fellow Canucks, Happy Thanksgiving to all our American friends! We’ve all got things to be thankful for. Thanks to you, Wendy, for creating such a highly engaging, diverse and interesting community through this site!

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      rachel November 16, 2012, 5:26 pm

      Haha, Diablo, not all Canadians are as accepting as you. You must have missed the last holiday thread where someone got all uppity at Wendy about not mentioning other countries.

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        Addie Pray November 16, 2012, 6:57 pm

        Oh that was really funny last year when someone got their panties in a wad because Wendy wished her readers a happy holiday without thinking to exclude readers who may not have a holiday… Oy vey.

        It’s weird that that was already a whole year ago – what the hell?!

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      • Dear Wendy

        Wendy November 16, 2012, 8:40 pm

        No, it hasn’t been a year. I think it was Labor Day or something. And I said “Happy Labor Day” and a Canadian reader — not a regular commenter — was all, “Oh, you just ASSUME everyone celebrated Labour Day this weekend. That is SO American of you!!!”

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        scattol November 16, 2012, 9:40 pm

        Labour day are both on the same day in Canada and the US. It’s thanksgiving that is one month apart (falls on colombus day). Here’s a handy chart: http://www.johncletheroe.org/usa_can/usa/pub_hol.htm

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      • Diablo

        Diablo November 17, 2012, 12:18 am

        There’s your problem. Wendy was referring to Labor Day, while you are talking about Labour Day. I do business with a software company in Montana, and the CEO was not pleased when I offered him a cheque (American translation: check). It’s like we’re SO close to communicating, but our cultures are just too far apart. Like if either of us tried conversing with an Australian. G’day, mate!

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        Addie Pray November 17, 2012, 3:43 pm

        Ok, good so it wasn’t *that* long ago. It’s weird though to think that soon DW is coming up on its TWO YEAR anniversary. Remember way back when you’d get only 10 comments on a letter? Now I alone leave 10 comments, haha.

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      j.walker November 16, 2012, 5:43 pm

      Seriously, I was not offended in the slightest by an American with a primarily American audience talking about American Thanksgiving.

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    kerrycontrary November 16, 2012, 5:04 pm

    Well I’m going to my parents house for Thanksgiving where we have like 25 people come over. I took ALL WEEK off of work so I’m excited to be away for that amount of time. I’ll probably go crazy after day 2 with my parents. I love them, but you know how that is. We’re doing lunch/dinner at 1 and then I’m going to head to the boyfriend’s thanksgiving in the afternoon. Luckily his family has thanksgiving only 30 mins away from my parents! Anyways I can’t wait to bust out of this joint I call work.

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  • QaraKoz

    QaraKoz November 16, 2012, 5:14 pm

    So my brothers are back in the country after 4 years and we’re all going to be together… Except they want to go black friday shopping. Which now starts at 8 pm THANKSGIVING DAY in some places. And I really don’t want to go because I don’t plan on buying anything but it’s the first holidays we’re all together in a while.

    Any thoughts on Black Friday? Has anyone else here actually found worthwhile deals? Should I bring pepper spray?

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      GatorGirl November 16, 2012, 5:18 pm

      I wouldn’t go at 8pm. I find it pretty upsetting that retailers are opening on Thanksgiving day, one of many 5 days a year the bulk of hourly workers have off. These people deserve to spend time with their families so I personally am boycotting the Thursday shopping.

      That being said I hear there are some pretty awesome Black Friday sales at Target and Walmart on electronics. Amazon is also doing some stellar online sales.

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        Red_Lady November 16, 2012, 7:50 pm

        Totally agree – being open on Thanksgiving is just flat out RUDE!

        As for Black Friday, I’ve done it once. My cousin & I got up at like 5am to go to a sporting goods store that was giving out gift cards. I think we each got $10 or $15, couldn’t find anything to buy, went to the grocery store to get bread for left-over turkey sandwiches, and went home to sleep. Kind of a waste. I’ve spent every black Friday since just sleeping in. My parents always go out though, and come home with a whole load of stuff, after scouring the ads on Thanksgiving and having a plan of where to go and when to make sure they get the stuff that they want. They do get some decent deals, and make a nice dent on their Christmas shopping, but I value sleeping in more than saving a few dollars. And this is coming from a very thrifty person. I mean, really, there’s usually pretty good deals all holiday season long.

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        temperance November 17, 2012, 8:08 pm

        Meh. I worked in a movie theater throughout high school and college. People never complained about us being open or boycotted … if anything, they were probably going to a movie.

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      katie November 16, 2012, 9:30 pm

      i went black friday shopping last year and it was really fun! my friend and i went to a midnight opening of a mall and then a 5 am opening of another mall. no terrible craziness, it was just like a normal busy saturday at the mall. ive never stood in line for hours and pushed and shoved people..

      there are definitely good deals to be had, but just remember the “rules”- there is only like 5 of each amazing deal, the doorbusters or whatever they call them, so you have to get there early and be the first few in line to get the voucher to get that awesome priced thing. i think that some stores are trying to cut down on the pushing and shoving, so like walmart is doing a sale on ipads, and as long as you are in the store between the hours of the sale, you are guaranteed the price. i hope more stores start doing that, i think its a much better system. also, you gotta do your research to figure out where there are good deals and bad deals- there is some stuff on the black friday circulars that are not actually good prices at all. also, if you want a lot of things that are at different stores, gather up all the ads of the things you want and go to a store that will pricematch for black friday. then you can do all your shopping at once and hopefully avoid craziness and bodily injury.

      re: boycotting black friday… this just irritates me so bad. oh, the poor, poor retail workers. they have to work on a holiday! what! no, sorry, they have to work on a holiday. tough. there are SO MANY professions that work year around, and i seriously hate so much how retail workers get so much sympathy every. single. thanksgiving. because they have to work. its stupid. i would be all for supporting a movement to get businesses to shut down on holidays, but i will never support that until it included ALL professions that work on holidays. i dont get why retail works are given so much sympathy and people feel so bad for them, but they will happily go to grocery stores, watch football games, travel all over the country, stay in hotels, and get gas on holidays without a second thought. its dumb.

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        jlyfsh November 16, 2012, 9:40 pm

        and we can’t forget all the people in medical professions! πŸ™‚ but, yeah i don’t know why specific retail professions are pitied more than others. my husband was a manager in a grocery store before we moved and people always talked about how sad it was that people had to be at wal-mart, old navy wherever but didn’t think twice about going and picking up last minute things from his store. it’s just weird.

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      • QaraKoz

        QaraKoz November 16, 2012, 11:56 pm

        I appreciate all the perspectives. And I actually don’t have an opinion on people working in retail on Black Friday. Yes it sucks because I’ve known some people that have to pull overtime shifts, etc. BUT my entire childhood my mother used to always work holidays because it was double or at least overtime pay and then use the extra money to celebrate the next day that she had off.

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        GatorGirl November 17, 2012, 12:01 am

        I, personally, wish everyone could have the day off. But some people like say health care professionals and police officers HAVE to work on the holiday. Like people could die if they didn’t. But grocery stores and the mall? They should be closed. And I, personally, plan to avoid places like the grocery store, mall and gas station on thanksgiving.

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        katie November 17, 2012, 1:50 pm

        i agree that medical/emergency people would still have to work… probably also whoever monitors traffic systems, electrical grids, ect. i mean it takes a lot of people to make sure our society doesnt crumble.

        but, like, your a football fan- you know how many people it takes to run a stadium.. food, ticket people, ushers, security, ect. where are the petitions to boycott the thanksgiving football games so that stadium workers can have the holidays with their families? i just dont understand why everyone gets up in arms about the retail workers.

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        GatorGirl November 18, 2012, 8:57 pm

        Good point about the football. I didn’t think about those workers. I’ve never been to a thanksgving game and am 99% sure I won’t ever. There is no way we could ever have a perfect system and have all non essential people have the day off. But I’ll do my little part and get all my grocery shopping and gas getting the day before.

        And I probably won’t be watching football because I hate both the cowboys and the redskins.

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        temperance November 17, 2012, 8:05 pm

        RE: the boycott … THANK YOU!

        I worked in a movie theater all throughout high school and college, and I bet many of those same folks whining about having to work on a “family day” were part of the horde rushing through the doors on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Those were the busiest days of the year, actually.

        I bet that’s different to them, somehow.

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    TaraMonster November 16, 2012, 5:54 pm

    DOWNER ALERT:

    This is my first Big Holiday after my breakup. I’m trying not to let it bum me out, and my family has all been put on notice by my aunt to keep their mouths shut about it, but my family is Big and Loud and Intrusive. I really don’t want to stab anyone with a toothpick, so I hope they actually respect my privacy (the little voice in my head just went “HA HA HA fat chance” as I typed that).

    I have a feeling me and one of those big bottles of Yellowtail are going to be buddies on Thursday.

    PS I’ve never been to the Thanksgiving Parade. Too busy eating turkey! Now the St. Patrick’s Day Parade… that’s a different story. I’ve actually marched in that one!

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      jlyfsh November 16, 2012, 6:08 pm

      I have one of those in my fridge! My sister and I drove up to NY with a friend when I was a junior in college. We stayed right in times square and it was so much fun. Not something I feel the need to do more than once, but I’m glad I got to cross it off my list.

      And if the family gets to be too much I have another giant bottle of Yellowtail and a beach you can visit if you need to get away, haha.

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        jlyfsh November 16, 2012, 6:14 pm

        yeah and I meant to add and we went to the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade, haha. oh well.

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      • TaraMonster

        TaraMonster November 16, 2012, 6:54 pm

        That is VERY tempting! Especially since it’s so dang cold up here!

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        jlyfsh November 16, 2012, 7:25 pm

        i think it’s pretty cold down here too. but, i have a feeling you would probably disagree! πŸ˜‰

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    • theattack

      theattack November 16, 2012, 6:13 pm

      I’ve marched in the St. Patrick’s Day parade too!

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        TaraMonster November 16, 2012, 6:25 pm

        Well. I kinda crashed it. My grandmother marched every year with the Hibernian Society of Suffolk so my family would all get tickets to the Grandstand to watch her. When I was four or five, I kept insisting I wanted to march with her (when my mom tells this story I was WHINING about it ALL DAY), so when my grandmother came by waving and smiling I ran through the little space in the gates to go march with her. The only part I remember was the actual marching and waving because I WAS SO EXCITED! (my mom- um – less so haha). And apparently they just let me keep going and I didn’t get in trouble either because everyone was like AW LITTLE IRISH GIRL in her plaid and her sweater with her pig tails ran up to her grandma! Win!

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      • theattack

        theattack November 16, 2012, 6:34 pm

        That is SO cute!!!! I hope someone got a picture of that!

        I just did it because my high school band was really good, and we were always getting invitations to go play in various parts of the country, so we made that our band trip one year. Much less adorable than your story. haha

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow November 16, 2012, 6:14 pm

      Sorry, TaraMonster. After my breakup I did the same thing: I told my mom to alert the family ahead of time and tell them to NOT MENTION IT AT ALL. They did a pretty good job… at first. Now, months later, my grandma asks me about my ex every single time I talk to her. She just wants to know what went wrong, dammit! He was such a nice boy!

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      • TaraMonster

        TaraMonster November 16, 2012, 7:00 pm

        Yup! My aunt (she’s like my mom really) who is in charge of making everyone else not mention it? She’s already cried to me twice about how sad she is and how she misses my ex and how she’s mad at him and wants to call him. And then she invited him to Thanksgiving because she forgot he’s in Africa (Zambia for now, I think. He’s hopping around). I do understand that this will be the first time in 8 years he hasn’t been around and I know it’s sad for everyone, but oof. I think my sadness is just a teensy bit more of a priority, ya know?!

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        BecBoo84 November 19, 2012, 12:53 pm

        O.M.G. My grandma seriously asked about my high school boyfriend for years after we broke up. This was after both my mom and I had told her, in the most polite terms possible, that he’d cheated on me and we therefore hadn’t ended on good terms, but evidently grandma didn’t care. Not kidding… even after I was engaged (and we’d been broken up a solid 5 years), she still asked about him. Thankfully, actually getting married and having children has seemed to put an end to it.

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    • Brown-eyed NoVA Girl

      Brown-eyed NOVA Girl November 17, 2012, 6:15 pm

      TaraMonster, we should make shirts because I’m part of that club this Thanksgiving as well. But I put my foot down this year, I’m staying home in NoVa and going to Old Ebbitts for dinner instead of adding a lot of stress to my life by going home (Ohio). I have a plan to keep occupied though: 90 mins of hot yoga in the morning and then indulging on crab dip and Jamesons at Ebbitts the rest of the day.

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      temperance November 17, 2012, 8:01 pm

      Me too! I’ve been part of the Philadelphia one, which made me feel like a freaking rockstar …. even if it was for a group of lawyers and law students, lol.

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  • CatsMeow

    CatsMeow November 16, 2012, 5:54 pm

    I’m doing the same thing I do every year: Going back to my hometown, going out and getting drunk for Blackout Wednesday, then going to my aunt’s house on Thanksgiving to stuff my face with the whole family. I’m not cooking anything this year, but I’ll probably supply some sort of alcoholic beverage. I’m thinking mulled wine.

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      Red_Lady November 16, 2012, 7:58 pm

      Haha, I’ve never heard of Blackout Wednesday before! Sounds a bit nicer than Black Friday, honestly. Too bad I have to wake up waaaaay too early on Thursday to go to my Aunt’s house.

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      • becboo84

        BecBoo84 November 19, 2012, 12:55 pm

        Best day of the year to go out in your hometown, especially if it’s pretty small. Everyone’s home and doesn’t have plans!

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    • katie

      katie November 16, 2012, 9:35 pm

      Remember how I said I wanted to make that too? My college amazingly sent me this article yesterday:

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow November 16, 2012, 11:00 pm

        Thanks!

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      • katie

        katie November 17, 2012, 10:22 pm

        i got some whole spices and beaujolais nouveau today!! im so excited!!

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    jlyfsh November 16, 2012, 6:06 pm

    i only have to work 2 days next week, woohoo! and i keep forgetting it’s friday, then i saw the weekend open thread and literally said wahoo.

    we’re staying in town this year again. i miss my family, but it’s so nice to have an extended holiday where all you have to do is hang out! we’re having friendsgiving with another couple and all of our dogs. we’re bringing turkey and chocolate pie. i’m making pie crust for the first time by scratch! i’m pretty excited!

    i also have plans to paint the bathroom, go through a lot of boxes and donate more ‘stuff’. we have so much crap we don’t need! and work on the yard some. and i’m making these bowls out of yarn for gifts so I’m going to make some of those while on break. and probably work on getting a list of the different food gifts i plan on making and what i need. i think i’m going to do homemade marshmallows and peppermint hot chocolate jars.

    AND in case people don’t know this weekend is buy one get one at Starbucks! πŸ™‚

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  • Copa

    Copa November 16, 2012, 6:31 pm

    I am heading to NYC first thing next Wednesday morning to visit my sister. She’s been living in the city for just over two years now and even though I see her a few times every year, I haven’t made the trip out to her yet. Between that and desperately wanting to avoid my parents for the holidays (their marriage is Dysfunctional with a capital D, and my sister and I know exactly why (and it’s pretty bad/not something we speak of EVER), and my parents know we know why, but it’s just the elephant in the room as we half-heartedly pretend we’re a happily family), I’m SO excited. There was a slight damper put on these plans because my dad has decided he wants to spend Thanksgiving with us (I sound awful right now, I know), so he’ll be with us for 2 days, but I’ll still have 3 days with just my sister and the city. And alcohol. πŸ™‚ I’m pretty pumped about everything BUT the flights.

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    Allison November 16, 2012, 7:06 pm

    WELL, I am hosting Thanksgiving dinner at my apartment with my roommate. I invited a friend, who in turn, invited like five of her friends. But none of the people she invited will respond to any of my emails asking if they’re actually coming and/or what they’re bringing (we’re sort of doing potluck-ish with the sides since we both work right up until Thursday). Plus, my roommate is sort of freaking out because she’s never cooked for so many people. I have, plenty of times, so I’m not worried, but I have to keep calming her down. I’d sort of like to go home, but it’s too expensive and my family hangs with my stepmom’s family on Thanksgiving, which I’m not a fan of.

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark November 16, 2012, 7:21 pm

    I’m flying off to San Francisco to see my best friend. Should be fun, I guess.

    It is a trip I can ill afford right now, but whatever. Life is short. And right now I feel as though I am in a losing race against time with time CLEARLY winning — but hey, look at me, I’m still blazing across the darkening sky like a comet… No wait, a meteor. That’s right, a meteor. Comets fly on forever — whereas meteors either burn themselves away to oblivion or smash into a bazillion pieces upon hitting the ground.

    “I’m at the point of no return…” To quote Madonna… “Just. Watch. Me. Burn…….”

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow November 16, 2012, 9:28 pm

      “Let me be your comet. I will fly.” – Brandon Flowers

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      • MaterialsGirl

        MaterialsGirl November 19, 2012, 10:37 am

        Oh cats … Brandon flowers. Mmmmmmm

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    • Classic

      Classic November 17, 2012, 12:04 am

      BGM, you are awesome, and you are just getting started! Have a great flight!

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    daisy November 16, 2012, 8:30 pm

    I am pretty psyched because despite living in country that doesn’t celebrate Thanksgiving, we nonetheless had 3 different invitations from American friends for Thursday night! Turkey isn’t so common here and you can’t get exactly the right ingredients for pumpkin pie (apparently it will be closer to butternut squash!), but it’s still always a great time to make a nice little American bubble and keep our traditions alive. So yeah, I’m looking forward to it!

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      daisy November 16, 2012, 8:32 pm

      Actually, when I was in America in September my mom made me a pumpkin pie since it’s my fave and we know I’d be missing Thanksgiving. I have high hopes for the butternut squash pie — will let you know!

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  • katie

    katie November 16, 2012, 9:56 pm

    im not sure what is happening for thanksgiving this year. for the first year ever, jake is off weds, thurs, friday. that is crazy. so then i was all excited because my aunt (the only extended family who will associate with my mom) invited me to their house for thanksgiving, and jake hasnt met them yet. but now he doesnt want to go. he wants to cook thanksgiving too, which is fine, im totally ok with two thanksgivings, but then he says we cant do both. i say we can do both. today i was sad about it and when he asked what was wrong i said im sad/mad im not getting my way (which is true, its dumb), and so now hes like we can do whatever you want bla bla bla but thats not what i want either. i just want a nice compromise, so maybe we will try to make our own dinner on friday. prep weds, take thurs off, cook friday. (that is his dilemma- he needs two days to cook the meal, he cant prep before weds, the timing is off, ect.. also, he hates meeting new people. whatever)

    the good part about thanksgiving is that im off almost all week, i am making an epic surprise birthday cake for friday night, and i have another birthday party on saturday for my friends daughter. so, if i get my way (which i hate saying. i dont like that), itll be baking cookies on monday, getting new glass installed tuesday morning, dropping off said cookies and having a little dinner with people, baking/prepping weds, assembling cake thurs, thanksgiving dinner with aunt, final decorating friday, our own thanksgiving dinner, surprise birthday party, 1st birthday party saturday, relax sunday.

    thats my grand plan. we will see how it goes. haha

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      Addie Pray November 17, 2012, 3:42 pm

      Katie, what if you invited your aunt and mom to YOUR place and jake cooks? That way jake gets to cook and you get to see your aunt and mom and have them meet jake. Eh? Or, in the alternative, just tell Jake he can cook for me anytime, and we can pretend I’m an aunt of yours he has never met. The fun, cool auntie. πŸ™‚

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        katie November 17, 2012, 10:24 pm

        i would invite them here, but we dont have enough room for everyone!

        also, they just built a brand new house that is huge and has an elevator in it, and i really wanna see it!!! haha

        and yes, ill have to get jake to cook for you sometime.

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    Sunshine Brite November 17, 2012, 7:33 am

    I’m disappointed as my work is residential so people are always there. Thanksgiving’s my holiday, which isn’t too bad since I get the day off and work the weekend alone (position wise, other positions will be there).

    But Christmas bugs me as I can’t go anywhere really since I don’t get Christmas Eve off and need to be back to work Wednesday. My family is staying at Wisc Dells the week after Christmas together. My boyfriend was able to take that whole week off for a winter break. I’ll be sitting at work. Haven’t figured it all out yet, but if the bf goes to his family’s celebrations, I might be spending Christmas alone, which is too bad. I’ve always been able to visit family or work other years.

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    Kristen November 17, 2012, 8:25 am

    Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays, so I’m excited it’s already next week. I’m even more excited because we find out the sex of the baby on Tuesday and get to tell everyone at once. My whole family is hoping for a girl, but they’ll be happy either way. For actual Thanksgiving, we’re going to my grandparents’ house and then my aunt’s house. Then Friday, we’re flying out to California to spend 5 days with my husband’s dad and brother in Tustin. It should be a fun weekend!

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      Aya November 17, 2012, 11:25 am

      I’m going to be spending this Thanksgiving with my husbands EXTENDED (i.e. large) family, and I’m a little worried that I’m going to be answering the same questions over and over again.
      “How far along are you?” “Just started my second trimester” “Do you know the sex?” “No, not yet. We will probably find out at our next ultrasound in a month.”
      I think I’m going to ask my husband to call his patents this weekend, and have his mom broadcast all the details before hand.
      I’m going to see my paternal aunt and grandmother before the big gathering, and get to tell them the good news. They are the last important people in my life that I haven’t told yet, and I’m excited to do it in person.

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  • mandalee

    mandalee November 17, 2012, 12:11 pm

    I lovee Thanksgiving! For the second year now, we are hosting Thanksgiving at our house. Two of our friends stuck in Boston due to work are coming over and my in-laws are coming in. Which has been a big point of contention lately, so it’s a huge deal. I wish my SIL and her husband were coming too, but you can’t win them all. We are going to eat until we can’t breathe,watch football, drink some pumpkin beer, and wonder around Boston for Black Friday. So excited1

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    Addie Pray November 17, 2012, 3:50 pm

    Those are fun plans, Wendy. Especially the part where you will be going back to Missouri (hip hip hooray for Missouri not electing that legitimate douche bag Akin).

    One of my favorite Thanksgiving traditions is meeting up with old high school friends who are also “home” for the holiday. I am from a college town, so on the Wed. before Thanksgiving, all the students are gone and the only people out at bars are “locals.” So it’s always fun to meet friends out – it’s like a “who (was) who” from high school. It’s always fun to see familiar faces like that. Except for the last few years, since my dad died, really, I’ve stopped going “home” for the holidays. My mom moved, so “home” isn’t where home is anymore. It’s sad. And every Wed. Before Thanksgiving I receive a few texts to see if I’m “home” for break – I never am. I probably never will be. Sad.

    But I still love Thanksgiving and have plenty to be thankful about! I feel silly even commenting b/c I talk so much about my plans that I know everyone is rolling their eyes “duh, we already know” but who the hell cares I’m going to repeat myself: I’m going to sunny southern California for Thanksgiving this year, with my B O Y F R I E N D, who is about to meet the entire Pray family. I. Cannot. Wait.

    Let’s see, what else….. in other news: I now have internet at my home – cha ching! I also have wall mounts where my bikes hang in the garage. I feel whole now.

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  • Brown-eyed NoVA Girl

    Brown-eyed NOVA Girl November 17, 2012, 6:22 pm

    My favorite part about the holidays is spending time with my high school friends and doing our traditional Festivus fancy dress party. We started it our first year in college (was that really 2001?) and haven’t stopped since. We make homemade pasta and sauce, people bring sides and appetizers, and everyone brings a bottle of booze. During one of the first years, someone thought brought some Sutter Home rose and it was the last unopened bottle of the evening (or so I think… it was a long time ago and everyone is usually pretty drunk by the end). So that bottle made an appearance the next year, and while tipsy, a friend thought to use it to make a cocktail called ‘slutter home.’ Boom, instant tradition. It’s the best part about going home to Ohio.

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      temperance November 17, 2012, 7:52 pm

      Do you do the airing of the grievances, and the Feats of Strength?

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        Brown-eyed NoVA Girl November 18, 2012, 8:51 am

        we used to do the airing of grievances but now it turns into drinking and cranking out pasta from the old school pasta machine.

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    temperance November 17, 2012, 7:52 pm

    I’m having dinner with my friend and his husband rather than driving 4-hours round trip to New York State to be with Ryan’s aunt, or the 2-hour round trip to my parents’ place, which is far too cramped (they live in a trailer) to feel normal. It’s LIBERATING not to give into family guilt for a change!

    I’m a little sad that Ryan didn’t want to join me because he wanted to see that part of his family, but now he might not be able to travel at all, so we’ll see.

    I would love, love, love to be able to host a holiday dinner, but my family and in-laws insist on “tradition”. It’s so grating, lol.

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  • MELH

    MELH November 18, 2012, 4:25 pm

    This year, my husband and I are with my family. Last year we spent all of Thanksgiving with his family, but somehow this year his mom expects us to try and split the day and come to his family’s late. We have been presenting a united front and reminding her that we were there for all of Thanksgiving last year. I don’t think the guilt about our plans will ever stop, but we just ignore it now.

    I am super excited this year because my aunt asked me to make dessert for people who don’t like pie. I am really excited she picked me for a big job, as silly as that seems! I can’t wait to spend some time with my family and stuff myself with some turkey!

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    Melissa November 19, 2012, 12:39 pm

    We’ll be in Missouri for Christmas as well! They’ve all met my BF, but I’ll be meeting my brother’s GF and my best friend’s BF. Lots of crazy relationships to explore. Thanksgiving we’ll be here in Maryland with the BF’s family.

    My shopping list is just about complete, just need to actually buy it all. I do most of my shopping online, since so much of it has to go to MO anyway I just get it shipped to Mom’s and wrap when we arrive. So it’s a fairly easy process. It’s the few little things i go to small shops for that bring me out into the chaos. I’m a little worried about traffic since I just moved close to a big mall. I may never get home from work.

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