Complete the following sentence: “This week was really weird because _____________.”
Weekend Open Thread: This Week Was Weird
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1 – holy crap he looks so big! And adorable as always.
2 – aren’t you gonna play?
3 – This week was really weird because it was my last week at work in the place where I’ve been for 6 years. It’s bittersweet.
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I had two dates (with two diff men!) well, going on the second tonight. But still. Thats weird. Feast or famine eh?
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+1!
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Yayyy!! You have to come back and tell me how it went!
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It went well!!! I’m a little shocked by how similar we are and how easy he is to talk to. I was my open bubbly chatty self and he seemed charmed by it instead of all UH get this girl some adderall and shut her up. He actually seems a Bit MORE friendlier than I am, as he talked to strangers just randomly with no pretense, it was kinda interesting to observe.
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As long as it’s a topic that’s even a little bit interesting, I don’t mind it when a date is really chatty. It takes the pressure off of me a little bit.
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is that a metamucil canister?
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Puffs!
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…of the strange and sudden massive melting of ice in Greenland.
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… for a multitude of reasons. And no reason.
TGIF. 100%.
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Hurrah for Ash!
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http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/x6yef/reddits_had_a_few_threads_about_sexual_assault/c5jtt3p
Did any of you guys see this on Reddit? I stumbled on it last night and saw that a bunch of news sites are talking about it now.
A serial rapist tells his story. It’s freaky.
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OOPS I totally meant to put this on the Friday links page. Sorry!
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that was crazy!
i wonder your thoughts on it, i know you are involved in that realm of sexual health and sexual issues
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Ughhh I read that and it is so, so creepy. He’s a total narcissist. Non apologetic, blames it on a dark period of his life. And he’s married! I sincerely believe that you don’t rape a bunch of girls and then just get over it without any kind of counseling or self-awareness. He’ll do it again to his wife and others.
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Plus his wife KNOWS about it!! How can sure live with herself married to someone capable of doing that?
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This is really interesting, albeit very sad and creepy. But I’m not sure what my full opinion on is yet. It goes to show just how easily the majority of rapists blend in with regular society.
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There’s a pretty good chance that’s a fictitious account written by someone who is trying to typify a date rapist. You’ll notice the the male character is a proxy for a woman’ s perspective on these situations. And the detail points are implausible .
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I thought there was a good chance it was a fake too. But the part that made me think maybe it’s NOT was his description of the reactions of some of the women – how most of them didn’t verbalize “no”, some stayed the night, some even called him… I dunno, that seemed realistic to me and not something someone would think of if they were making it up. And yes, I do believe that men like him exist.
Anyway, the whole thread was full of guys confessing rape or near-rape situations. They can’t ALL be fake. I think it’s a good read because it dispels the myth of the rapist as a man with a mask in the alley attacking out of nowhere, and shows how common it really is.
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I read some last night– somebody on my FB posted the link– & I’m reading more, now that you linked to it. It’s really fascinating, & instead of being disturbed (although some obviously are quite disturbing) I find it sort of beautiful that everybody is coming together (in a way) on the issue of rape? For example, this post in particular: “I literally just read over all of these posts, every single one, searching for my story, from my rapist’s point of view… Some would start out resembling it, and I’d get my hopes up, but then as I read on, I’d find out it’s not him…” (it continues, but I don’t know how to link to the whole thing)
Anyway– the responses to her are pretty great, for the most part.
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I don’t doubt that many of the other admissions are accurate, it’s just that the primary one doesn’t ring true. The narrator somehow knows more about the subjective experience of the women than his own. I think that’s why so many of the commenters are convinced that he’s a ‘sociopath’.
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I became a homeowner. Yikes.
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Also, I didn’t make pie this week.
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Do you make pie normally every week? I feel like we should be friends.
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I do! I really love making pie! The only reason I didn’t make one this week is that we haven’t been home enough to finish the pie I made last week (which is actually just a giant chocolate chip/Reese’s cup cookie in a pretzel crust).
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that sounds like roughly 7 – 9 inches inches of awesome!
p.s. everyone feel free to take it from there.
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Congrats!
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Thank you!
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congrats! time to send in pics for the reader home tour??
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Because I left chi-town for so cal this week? Next week should be back to normal b/c I fly back on Sunday, phew.
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this week was weird because i woke up wednesday peeing blood. thanks, bladder infection.
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This week was weird because Monday morning I found myself suddenly without a manager to a project I’m working on, and a boss who was too preoccupied/out of the office due to other work to give me some guidance. Thankfully, things are under control today. (TGIF.)
Also this week was weird because I went on a date last Sunday, and I’ve been excited to see this guy again! And, he said he feels the same way about me. (I’ll see him tomorrow.) (And this is weird because this has not happened in a loooong time.)
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So SO SO excited for you!!
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Ah thanks! And *I’m* excited for you!!!
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I talked to him on the phone last night to coordinate details and it was so nice. My friend was over and she noticed how my grin was ear to ear while we were talking. OOH AND he said that he prefers calls to texts. He’s mature. How weird. HA.
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Ooh! Yaay! This is so awesome!!!
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Is this the feminist?
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because we had no internet or phone at work most of the week. i was so productive!
and i love jackson’s sock collection. he has great style
so glad it’s friday! and i get to talk to my friend for the first time since she moved to England. it’s a great day!
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My best friend’s cousin and I might be starting to date (?!?) – and I have known him for years and never even had him on my radar. So crazy how you don’t see things until you’re ready to.
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I just got a bouquet of flowers delivered to me from “a secret admirer” and the woman delivering them to me said she’d get a $10 tip if she could find out whether I was married or not. STRANGE!!!!!!!
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Wow!!!
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Did you tell her that you’d give her an extra $10 to tell her who delivered the flowers?
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er… who bought/had them sent to you. Sheesh… it must really be Friday.
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No! Why can’t I think quick and in general just be witty in real time unless I’ve had a couple of drinks? I thought the same thing 10 mins after she left… I was too flustered when she was there. But it’s been a long time since I had flowers delivered… I’m flattered.
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This week was weird because I was feeling down that I am going on my 4th month of unemployment. Granted I got married and went away so I didn’t really start looking until a month ago.
This week was good because I finally got a job offer yesterday that I think is perhaps my dream job, or at least in my opinion one of the best companies to work for in my state.
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There’s a chance (and it’s looking like a good chance) that I’ll have a new job soon. I’m super excited, but a little overwhelmed by how fast it’s happening.
And Jackson is too cute. Every once in a while you see a picture of a baby and just know that it’s a preview of what they’ll look like as an old man, and I’m betting that in 80 years Jackson will be sporting that same expression with wrinkles and the grey version of that hairline. Adorable!
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This week was weird because I interviewed my ex-fiancé’s new girlfriend. I haven’t had contact with this guy in a few months, but some unhealthy FB stalking let me know who is new girlfriend is. I’m on the interview panel for my school and I saw her name but couldn’t place why it was familiar until she walked into the interview room. So, awkward!
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It seems like every person with an Internet connection is menstruating! I can’t deal with the bitchy comments I’m seeing everywhere!
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I’m not, and I was supposed to get it a few days ago, and I’m on BC…
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Can we kill the PMS/bitchy thing already… If you want to call someone a bitch – male or female – call them a bitch and done.
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This week was weird because I started falling asleep waaay earlier than I normally do (8-9 pm) and I’ve been sleeping on my back, which I rarely do.
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You’re pregnant
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Are falling asleep early and sleeping on your back signs of pregnancy?
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Noo.. If you read Le Pinch’s comment about. That’s why I said pregnancy.
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Lets hope not, after these past few months that is the last thing I need, especially with the ex turning out to be a real jerk (hit me up for a booty call a couple days ago, and seriously couldn’t understand that doing that after telling someone you don’t love them and breaking up with them, that asking them for something sexual is hurtful).
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Geez that’s a total douchebag move.
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This week was weird because I found out my ex is already in another relationship. With the girl that didn’t like me while we were dating that he was “just friends” with. Hmm….
And I got two new piercings, so yay!
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How strange! I bet you TOTALLY COULD NOT HAVE PREDICTED THAT.
And awesome about the piercings! Where are they? Can you share?
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Haha…I know right? Honestly I’m surprised it took 2 months to happen.
And I got my tragus and lower navel pierced. I love them! I also have my upper navel and nipples pierced. I really want a Christina piercing…which I may do if/when I find myself being celibate since it has a long healing time.
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Nice! I really want an industrial, but I can’t keep it in during the school year. I mean, I could do spacers and wear regular jewelry on the weekends and during breaks, but the last time I put my hoop in my nose over a weekend, I totally forgot i was wearing it and got about two minutes into first period the following Monday before one of my kids said something. I’m really bad about forgetting.
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I’ve been wanting to get my nipples repierced but the thought of having to pierce through scar tissue makes me squeamish. I have to google what a christine piercing is now…
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That Christina piercing is cute. I may end up getting that.
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I always wear my hair down, so I’m not too worried about my tragus being noticeable at work. I’ve never had anything repierced, but I’ve had other people tell me it’s not that much worse. I would be sad if I lost my nipple piercings. Actually once a ball came off the end of the barbell and it started to slide out without me noticing. The end had already started to close up and I spent forever getting the barbell back through. Ouch.
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Yay for new body work! I’m working on a new tattoo, which has taken me forever to decide on. But, you know, a tattoo *is* forever so no reason to rush.
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I don’t think I could get a tattoo…I change my mind too much about things. Plus I don’t think I could endure the pain. Piercings are so quick and pretty much painless.
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I need to find myself a good artist to draw what I want for my new tattoo, as I’m going to be kind of picky about what it looks like. I’m antsy for it, because I decided what I wanted about a year ago.
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Ooh! i found someone who will design my new tattoo for me, for what I consider to be a reasonable price. It’s sort of a continuation of one I already have. I just need to get my ass in there for a tracing so he can get started.
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You gals are making me want more piercings too.
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This week was weird because even though I am in my second trimester, the morning sickness came back with a vengeance!
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This week was weird because my BF and our friend settled on a flat to rent! Hurray for living in a great area, with a great friend (and greater boyfriend, duh) and the ability to DECORATE!
God, I’d forgotten how much money you have to suddenly have at hand to secure a flat. About a million pounds, and references.
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This week was “weird” because my boss only paid me for 18 of the 55 hours I worked.
Yeah, I’m feeling pissed.
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I’m not liking this because I enjoy your misery but because I’ve been there done that and it blows
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This week was weird because on Monday The Boy and I started discussing seriously our time lines on marriage, kids, etc (he brought it up). Then Wednesday he comes over and breaks up with me because of something along the lines of he needs someone who is completely confident in themselves all the time, not just in certain situations. I was completely blown away and it was so out of the blue, and now here I am.
And it sucks. But I will power through! And 2 days before he dumped me I scheduled my first therapy session to deal with my anxiety (something that was putting stress on our relationship) so that is good I guess. *sigh*
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I’m sorry. Honestly, your ex is going to be single for a long time because I’ve never met anyone who is confident in themselves all the time. We all have our insecurities and our strengths.
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i’m sorry
glad you already have a time set up to talk to someone!
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Oh my god, I’m so sorry! And yeah, I’m with Trixy. I’m pretty sure the only people who are 100% confident all the time are sociopaths. So, you know, good luck to him.
Also, it’s like we were talking about last week – those people who get you at a point where you’re totally comfortable and like, “Yes, we are feeling the same sorts of things!” and then jet, no warning, are just bizarre and cruel.
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I’m sorry Alice,
I hate it too when you think things are going well or getting to that point and then they drop it on you, or turn out to be so wishy washy and don’t know what they really want. Like Painted Lady said, its bizarre, cruel, and totally unnecessary. And it’s usually because of their own issues that they haven’t even looked at. Don’t beat yourself up about it, and its great that you are going to therapy, its a huge first step.
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Sorry, Alice, that sucks. I’m with Trixy though, everyone has times of insecurity, and your partner is supposed to be the one to help get you through them. That just means he clearly wasn’t the right one, so someone better will come along that likes all of you.
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I’m so sorry. That does suck.
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I spent the whole weekend trying to stay away from the computer (He updated his OkCupid account the same night he broke up with me), so I am sorry I missed all of your responses. I really do appreciate reading them, and they made me smile for the first time this weekend. It just sucks because I am not just breaking up with a guy, I am breaking up with a whole farm and lifestyle I was planning on keeping. Plus, we now have shared custody of 3 very pregnant goats.
One of the saddest things about the whole situation is that I’m not worried about me, I’m more worried about him. I’m 22, going to professional school, and super excited about life. He’s 27, ready to settle down with someone, and is tied down the farm. We made such an excellent match, and I honestly think that we could have worked through things if he had actually brought up his concerns. I guess I can just wait to see where life takes both of us.
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I’m sorry to hear about your breakup!
This part sounds so familiar to me: “I honestly think that we could have worked through things if he had actually brought up his concerns”
My ex blindsided me with a breakup and claimed to have not been happy for months. But all I could think for weeks after the breakup is that if he had just TOLD me he was unhappy, maybe we could have worked it out.
It’s been a couple years though, and I think I was wrong about that. After all, his willingness to dump me rather than talk to me says something about our lack of a good relationship. I know it’ll take you some time, but I think you’ll feel the same one day. In the meantime, hugs!
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This week was weird because I found out my ex/fwb is falling in love with me and I realized I’m crushin’ on a guy in my drawing class… It’s weird because I was in love with my ex for ages and after we broke up because of his emotional baggage we kept up a fwb situation for the last 7 months and instead of being psyched when he started to show the signs recently I was mostly annoyed because I had mentally and emotionally moved on… He hasn’t said anything but his whole demeanor has changed he’s started calling and texting more often and just hanging out to cuddle instead of getting lost afterward. He keeps talking about how he doesn’t want to be with other girls and how wonderful I am etc…
Meanwhile, I’ve been taking a drawing class and I realized two nights ago that the guy sitting next to me likes me… and I like him too, which hasn’t happened to me in a very long time because I have a lot of “stranger danger” We always chit chat during class and this day we were joking and smearing our faces with charcoal and making faces from behind the easels and it hit me, he never walks other people to their cars and we always come early to talk and stay late to talk outside. He always lingers like he wants to say something but he never does, I know it’s immature but I’m really slow on the uptake sometimes. If he doesn’t pipe up this week, I am. Or maybe I’m just mushy because I live next to a church and there’s a wedding going on outside my window…
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Yeah sounds like the guy is into you. I would definitely ask him for coffee or a drink or something after class. But that’s just me, I’m pretty straight to the point with guys. I’m also single, so I may be doing it wrong…
And I’m with you on the “slow on the uptake” thing. My problem is that unless a guy flat out says he likes me, I don’t want to make assumptions and wind up looking like a dumbass. And even if the guy makes it pretty obvious, I’m still doubtful. It might be because my confidence is somewhat shaken, and I’m still readjusting to the dating world.
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haha Kare I’m pretty blunt with guys too. Maybe thats why both of us are still single?
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Yeah…my friends keep telling me “Play hard to get, guys want to do the chasing, let them chase you!” I would rather be forward and find out up front if he’s not into me than waste time pretending I’m aloof and super busy with my fabulous life when really I’m just home on a Saturday doing laundry and listening to Pandora.
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I’m totally with you when I’m not sure someone may be into me, and when or if they do ask for your number, you get all flustered and I still don’t know if it means they are into you or just want to chat or have a friend or whatever.
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My favorite line from a guy is “hey, we should hang out sometime…”
WTF is hang out?? Do you like me or is that too forward? Maybe you’re gay and just wanna be friends? Are you even single?!? BLEGH!!!!
Sometimes I wish that everybody had to wear their feelings on a sign so everybody else knew. Then again it’d make it really hard to pretend you didn’t know a guy liked you when you’re not interested.
I still haven’t figured out how I’ll ask that guy out yet, I don’t even know if he has a gf, I’m just going on the fact that he’s never mentioned one in the few months we’ve been in class. I suppose I’ll just awkwardly blurt everything out in a massive rush of word vomit and hope for the best.
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I always look for how guys word certain things. Like one time I was talking to this cute guy and our dogs got along. I asked him how old the dog was and he said he wasn’t sure but that “we” had gotten the dog a year ago. Stuff like that is what i look for to see if the guy has a gf.
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Just say something at the end of class, that way if it doesn’t go as planned you don’t have to sit next to him for what will seem like eternity. I tend to go for the awkwardly blurting everything out approach too. Ugh.
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This week was weird because the depression issues/thyroid symptoms (I’m not sure which is which, honestly) came RAAAAGING back. And I finally realized (shout out to Katie) that everything I was dealing with back in May and early June and went to the therapist about? It was totally like calling the IT department and then the computer stops doing the thing it was doing the moment they get there.
So, back to square one. Sonofabitch.
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Muddafocka…..
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Oh no! <3
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This week was weird because I officially transferred to a different university. That means I am definitely moving in a couple weeks and I am EXCITED for the change.
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Both friends that I was set to meet in the city of my birth during a short layover with my family had to bail on me. They both had really good reasons, but… still… what are the chances of that happening? But the day wasn’t lost. We met up with some family we had in the area and saw some art…
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My wife was out of town teaching a two week seminar, and my kids were out of town at camp, and my wife’s best friend was staying at our house for a class she was taking. So all sorts of weird feelings, because she and my wife are so much alike (including physical resemblance…they are often mistaken for sisters) but there was no physical contact or emotional connection. It was sort of like being roommates with my wife.
This week should be even weirder. Wife still gone and kids at “Camp Grandma” all week. So I’m home alone. Sometimes my own head is a scary place to be. I don’t like it, and get really lonely very easily.
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Come to DW more often! It’s such an absorbing hobby that it’s hard to stay in your own head for too long. Pretty soon you end up in everyone else’s head, and it sort of pushes out some of your own weird stuff. And when you can’t get out your own weird stuff… Well, that’s sort of the point of writing to Wendy! So hanging out here is really a win-win!
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This week was weird for me because my sex drive decided to return after being gone for several years!! My husband is a very happy man, and I’m doing what I can to try to make sure it doesn’t leave again!
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That’s great, if you don’t mind my asking (because I have recently gone through a bit of it myself), but how do you feel or know that it came back, were you feeling it again? I ask because I recently had some surgery, and mine went awol, so I’m just trying to get some perspective.
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That’s great Bethany!
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…because I realized that maybe I DON’T want to marry my fiancee.
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Better to realize it before you get married. I’ve never been in that situation, so I can’t give much advice as to what’s a red flag versus typical cold feet. Good luck figuring things out and remember to trust your instincts.
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Oh and wanted to share this link
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-gauvain/doubts-before-marriage_b_919868.html
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There’s so many mixed messages on this subject.
I saw that article you posted, Kare. Then there’s these: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/letters-to-a-runaway-brid_b_1656764.html http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheryl-paul/letters-to-a-runaway-bride-2_b_1672876.html that says doubts are normal and not to let cold feet get to you.
Read them both, I say, and think about which one more describes the feelings you have. Are you scared or truly doubting? Only you can figure it out.
It’s difficult, but try to keep in mind that the people who love you want you to be happy. Good luck, Q!
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This week was weird because it’s the first time in years that I’ve been without internet service at home. It hasn’t worked since the storm Friday evening, and of course Time Warner didn’t have an appointment available until Thursday. *sigh* It’s going to be a long internet-less week.
This week was also weird because I found a house I might want to put in an offer on. I’m thinking about it seriously but the only two hangups I have is that it only has 1 bathroom and doesn’t have a dishwasher. I know I could get a dishwasher on Craigslist inexpensively and I could live with the one bathroom temporarily until I have the cash to add another half bath. The price on the house is insanely low and I love the 1.5 acre wooded lot it’s on. It’s move in ready and has a massive garage/storage building. It’s only been on the market for 10 days and the price seems too good to be true, so I’m considering an offer. Scary adult stuff!
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Not that I know a single thing about buying a house, but adding another bath sounds like a pretty big deal when you could probably find another house that already has what you’re looking for. Adding a bath is obviously more than cost. It’s a pretty obnoxious construction project. The dishwasher seems like it could be an okay compromise though, as long as adding one didn’t take up necessary cabinet space. From what I’ve heard they aren’t too expensive even new. Unless of course you want to go retro and opt for one of those old portable dishwashers.
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It’s not that big a deal really. My parents added a half bath to their master bedroom for under $5. I would prefer not to have to, but I feel like it would be a mistake to pass up this piece of land. I’ve seen lots of houses that have the right amount of bedrooms/bathrooms but are in locations I hate, surrounded by neighbors in “communities” with no privacy. Plus, in a super bathroom emergency I would have 1.5 wooded acres to serve as a backup. Like camping!
Also, this house has a perfect huge garage/storefront that I could use to start my business.
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Whoops, I meant under $5k. not $5!!
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I’m salivating at the thought of that space…..
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That looks really creepy typed out. I mean, I am jealous of the wooded acres. My flat has no garden and I’ve never had no garden and its weird.
sorry for sounding like a creep!
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This week was weird because LBH was almost entirely missing. Come back, friend!
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This week was weird, because it start off so normal, but ended with me being 100% dependent on everyone around me. I had my jaw surgery on Thursday, and I was convinced I was going to power through it all by myself. Well, fail. I have broken every personal space boundary with my husband, including showering together in the most non-sexy, I might pass out from the blood rush kind of way, but at least I know we can get through anything together. I was nervous because he’s not a caretaker, but after a day, he was cleaning my nose and blending my food like a trooper.
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aw! that is so sweet of your husband.
surgery went well, then? how is the jaw doing? are you enjoying the pain medication?
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Surgery went great, but recovery is not fun at all. I have six plates, 28 screws, and a brand new straight nose thrown in there at the last minute. The pain acutally isn’t bad, but the pain medicine has sucked. It’s heaven but it’s liquid and tastes like lava hell.
I scared my first child today which is always fun. Apparently someone drooling nonstop with a swollen monkey looking face and bruising can bring a kid to tears haha I felt bad and it hurt to laugh, but it was pretty great.
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This week was weird because after a lot of discussions, and addressing a lot of concerns, we finally decided to be a single-income household and my husband quit his job to focus on his MBA. Scary to be the sole breadwinner again, but I’m so happy he finally will have the time and energy to devote to one of his major life goals!
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