Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread: What a Weird Week

This has been one of the more surreal weeks in recent memory. We spent Sunday and Monday holed up in our apartment riding out Hurricane Sandy, and most of Tuesday assessing the situation. The situation for us wasn’t so bad, which we are very grateful for. We had no damage, no flooding, no loss of power. The biggest issue we faced was getting Drew to work in Manhattan with a paralyzed transit system (he took Monday and Tuesday off, and then walked seven miles to work on Wednesday and has been camped out in a hotel near work since).

It’s been nothing but surreal to be in a neighborhood that was so minimally affected by the storm — which we are very grateful for — and see the devastation in other parts of the city. Everything is business as usual around here, save for the traffic pile-up and the helicopters overheard taking aerial shots of the madness. Lots of people are staying home from work and filling up our local coffee shops and restaurants like it’s the weekend or that week between Christmas and New Year’s when everyone’s enjoying a few days off. It’s just so weird though because this obviously isn’t a holiday week and so many of our friends, family, and fellow New Yorkers are suffering…

And then there was Halloween in the middle of this strange week which, in my neighborhood anyway, was celebrated. Seeing all the little kids dressed up in their costumes amid fallen trees and debris lifted a lot of spirits. And it was the first time I experienced trick-or-treating as a parent, which was pretty fun (for the record, “trick-or-treating” with a 1-year-old is more about strolling the streets in costume than collecting candy he can’t eat). I dressed Jackson in a Kermit get-up (see photo above) and took him to a party at a local pre-school/ community play space and then we met up with a friend and her 1-year-old who was dressed as a cat and walked around the neighborhood for a bit.

Did you do anything for Halloween?

Oh, and by the way, big thanks to all of you who signed up for Fab.com through my referral link after I recommended it last week. You helped me earn two months of free shipping and enough site credit to do some of my Christmas shopping for free. Thank you!! Now I don’t have to ask Drew for money to buy his holiday gifts (this is a topic I have been meaning to write about and need to remind myself to get to it soon. The personal finances of a SAHM is something I haven’t seen talked about much, but it is so rife with … emotion and tension. I want to share my thoughts and experience and hear how others deal with it).

And thanks for shopping Amazon though my affiliate link. I’ve started featuring some of my favorite Amazon finds in the ad in the top right corner of the side bar, which is also attached to my affiliate link. I’ll be changing these items all the time, but just so you know, everything pictured in the ad is selected and recommended by me, including this Orla Kiely diaper bag which happens to be the diaper bag I use (given as a gift for my 35th birthday from Drew, just a few weeks before Jackson was born). It’s a little on the pricey side, but it’s beautiful, completely functional – it even comes with a full changing mat in the bottom zipper section, roomy, and not at all matronly (most people assume it’s a handbag). It makes a great baby shower gift for someone you don’t mind dropping a little money on, like a sister, best friend, daughter or wife.

By the way, I’ve noticed that a lot of people ask about gift ideas in the forums and since a big part of relationships and friendships is navigating the whole gift-giving scene, I’m going to start incorporating occasional gift guides into the content here. If there’s a particular occasion or type of relationship you’d like to see covered, let me know!

Ok, that’s it for this week. I’m looking forward to Drew getting home in a few hours and starting the weekend. Here’s hoping things are a little more back to normal next week. My thoughts and prayers are definitely with those most affected by the hurricane. To easily make a $10 donation to the Red Cross, text REDCROSS to 90999.

How was your week?

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    LolaBeans November 2, 2012, 4:22 pm

    The picture of you and Jackson made me go “awwwwwwww”.. out loud at work. lol. So cute!! Wendy, you look so tiny!!!

    my week has been pretty good. My boyfriend and I have some major life decisions coming up. He’s applying to MBA schools in the U.S (we live in toronto), so it’s been a little tough talking about stuff. I support him 100% no matter where he chooses to go (probably Dartmouth).
    I don’t think I will be moving with him to wherever he goes to school. So, this delays our plans together a little bit.
    We will be doing long distance for two years, which really scares me.
    i also have to decide whether i want to stay in toronto or move back to ottawa where im from. either way, decision time is creeping up and it’s stressing me out. I guess i don’t have to know for a while, until the summer. So im just trying to not let it bother me too much… this time next year our lives will be so different! eek!

    this weekend, im just relaxing. I have a work conference beginning sunday evening, but other than that just staying home.

    My best friend asked me to be her MOH, so i’ve been planning trips back to ottawa for her engagement party, gown shopping etc. it’s been a fun week for the most part.

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      kerrycontrary November 2, 2012, 4:26 pm

      I second that Wendy looks tiny! I know you were working on losing weight, but I can definitely see weight loss in your face (though you’ve always been beautiful to us!).

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        Wendy November 3, 2012, 8:00 am

        Thank you! I’ve lost about 14 pounds since August (but truthfully, this photo makes me look thinner than I do in real life … which is one of the reasons I like it!).

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      Desiree November 2, 2012, 10:55 pm

      I agree–Wendy looks fantastic!! And of course Jackson is adorable.

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    Copa November 2, 2012, 4:25 pm

    Eep! Jackson looks so cute!!! Love little kids in costumes! And you look great, too, Wendy!

    My week was good, with the exception of an awkward moment worth sharing! So, on Monday, I went out for happy hour with some co-workers. One is a married guy a few years older than I am. He’s attractive, but I found some of the comments he made during happy hour very off-putting. (For example, he said at one point that women who are smart have all their kids before 25 so that they can get their bodies back. It rubbed me the wrong way.) Anyway, that was the first time I’d ever really talked to him since we work in different departments, and on Tuesday evening, I was still thinking about what he said, so I found him on Facebook. Then, I got curious about his wife, so I found HER on Facebook. Somehow, I wound up on her Pinterest…and accidentally “liked” something. Oof! I immediately “unliked” and childishly deactivated my Pinterest and Facebook accounts, figuring that social media can’t announce that I liked something if I “don’t exist”!! I have no idea if she saw it or not (and chances are if she did, she’d have no idea who I am or share this with her husband/my co-worker), but I felt extremely, EXTREMELY awkward come Wednesday, at my company Halloween party, when she was there. In short, I had a good week with a really awkward move made on my part. That’s what I get for creepin’, I guess!

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      painted_lady November 3, 2012, 3:40 am

      Oh, god, that’s like my worst social media nightmare. Once I got friended by a guy from high school, and I accepted and posted, “Hey, ______!” Except I got an error message so I kept resending it, not realizing it was posting each time. Eventually his wall was covered with greetings from me. He un-friended me that same day…but he was kind of a dick in high school anyway.

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        Copa November 3, 2012, 11:39 am

        Akk!!! At least you were just trying to be friendly!! I was being a full-on creep as I tried to answer the questions, “What kind of woman would marry this shallow guy!?” and “Did they get married because she got pregnant!?” Whoops! I had to stop Facebooking from mobile devices because on small touchscreens, I always wound up “liking” things when I was trying to scroll.

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      *HmC* November 4, 2012, 2:27 pm

      Meh. I don’t think you should feel that awkward Copa! People choose to put these things online, the world wide web, for all to see. Why is it creepy of you to look at what they’ve voluntarily offered to the world?

      My old roommate was kind of dramatic generally, and she got all weirded out when she met her boyfriend’s mom for the first time and the mom was all like “oh I’ve seen your facebook photo, you look even prettier in person!”. Like, my roommate thought it was weird that she had looked at her photo. If you don’t want perfect strangers looking at your photos then don’t post them on the internet for God’s sake. Even if you have your profile on lockdown, the world can usually still see your main profile pic. What’s the big deal?

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    rachel November 2, 2012, 4:30 pm

    I’d definitely like to hear your thoughts about finances and being a SAHM, Wendy. I’m not a sahm, nor do I have any desire to be a mom at all actually, but my boyfriend has been supporting me financially while I look for a new job, and it’s really really tough on my ego. I feel like I need to be extra careful in how I spend money since it’s not mine, and it’s quite tricky. I’m curious how that feels for someone in more of a permanent situation like yours.

    Also, love Jackson’s costume. Babies in costume are just SO adorable.

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      spark November 5, 2012, 8:18 am

      I’m also interested in an essay about finances and being a SAHM!

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    Pant-less drunky November 2, 2012, 4:38 pm

    Halloween pretty much sucked this year. I’ve just finished uni so all my friends from there have gone home / got jobs and my friends from home have either moved away or drifted apart and changed. So it was just me and my mum watching kiddie scary films (and a few adorable trick or treaters).

    Also it was mine and my boyfriends 3rd anniversary and he completely forgot (I know it’s not that big of a deal but it really bugged me). By forgot, I mean didn’t talk to me at all but still had time to go on youtube all day but not skype for two minutes to say hi.

    Sorry for the slightly depressing post I just needed a bit of a rant.

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  • theattack

    theattack November 2, 2012, 4:43 pm

    I’m excited for your post about SAHM finances. I had a lengthy discussion about that with my fiance last night, and I can’t wait to hear about it from the perspective of someone living the life.

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      lemongrass November 2, 2012, 5:52 pm

      I’m almost living the life. I’m on medical leave until the end of my pregnancy and then will get maternity pay until 3 months after the baby comes, and then I’ll be supported fully by my husband. I’m only getting 55% of my regular wages until then so I don’t know what it is like being fully supported by my husband yet. But I also don’t see it being a problem at all. We’ve shared finances for several years now and have lived month to month on his income while setting mine aside so that we would be used to living off of just his paycheck. The psychological side doesn’t bother either of us- we view being a SAHM as equal to earning an income and therefore one is not “worthier” of the household income than the other.

      I do think that having completely shared bank accounts makes it easier- there is no “my” money, it is all “our” money. I also handle all of our money- pay the bills, save, etc. I don’t think my husband has looked at our accounts in several years, which is not something I approve of- I encourage him to, but he says he trusts that I handle them well. We have equal say in big money decisions. If one of us wants something (say I want a new kitchen table) then that’s fine, as long as it has been saved for. We avoid consumer debt like the plague.

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      GatorGirl November 2, 2012, 8:43 pm

      I’m pretty excited to hear Wendy’s SAHM experience w/ finances. I want to get on the baby making shortly after the wedding and who knows what will go on with our money. Especially since my fiancé is in grad school right now and will be in academia after graduation.

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      katie November 2, 2012, 9:09 pm

      im interested to hear it as well, even though i dont know if i want kids yet, lol. *if* i ever do, i think being a SAHM would be what i would want to do, atleast for the first few years, until school or whatever. but its probably not possible for me. so i dunno, im interested to hear about it.

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        NavyWife November 4, 2012, 1:43 pm

        Agreed…I am interested to hear what other people have to say about this. My husband and I are planning to start trying for Baby#1 this summer. Since he is a Navy pilot and is gone a lot, we’ve agreed that I’ll stay home until the kids are in school. I would love to find something part-time just to keep a hand in my chosen career field, but it will just depend on where we live, access to good childcare, etc.

        Lemongrass, I like your idea about living off just one income to get a feel for what it will be like. I am definitely the “spender” in our family, and do most of the purchasing for our household. We do have joint accounts so my husband sees what I spend and is fine with that, but I know I’ll have to cut back on some of the frivolous stuff (clothes and shoes!!) once little ones start arriving (which I wish could just show up on the front doorstep, like online shopping…just go to the internet, make your selection, and voila–5 business days later, you have a baby!)

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        lemongrass November 4, 2012, 5:57 pm

        It has been great for us doing our finances that way. It makes it really easy to save for big things if you are saving with an entire pay check! Paid for our wedding, honeymoon, another vacation, and half of the SUV we just got! It’s also a lot easier to spend less money on crap when the funds aren’t in the checking account.

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    Fabelle November 2, 2012, 4:45 pm

    You are gorgeous Wendy, & Jackson is such a cutie.

    This week WAS weird– I had no power, but still manged to check my phone & see all the devastation pictures from Queens (did you guys see the fucking fire???), the Jersey Shore, etc. & it bummed me out. On Halloween, my boyfriend & I went to the mall & the trick-or-treaters put me in a good mood even though being in such a crowded, well-lit area was surreal. The only “Halloween” celebrating I did was on Saturday, right before the storm, & it wasn’t the normal thing, but it was good. I’m just happy that everybody is okay.

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    katie November 2, 2012, 4:46 pm

    i had 7 whole trick or treaters this year! which is an epic record shattering number by 7! haha.. yea weve never had any, so it was cool.

    i am so glad you are doing gift giving guides and stuff, Wendy. i am the worlds worst gift giver ever. i am so bad. AND im furiously looking for wine picnic baskets right now to be able to pick up in the store and they dont exist, im very sad. im just going to have to do my box idea and now i feel like its dumb… ugh.

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    • theattack

      theattack November 2, 2012, 4:54 pm

      I’m jealous! We only had ONE trick-or-treater, and we even had a sign on the door that said we were giving out candy. (That’s much less creepier than it sounds. It’s what the apartment complex told everyone to do. haha) Now I have a huge bowl of candy, and we have two carrot cakes in the house from my fiance’s birthday. I’m going to be so fat for our engagement pictures on Sunday.

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        rachel November 2, 2012, 5:22 pm

        Bahaha, “come visit kids – WE HAVE CANDY!!” I hope you took it down after that night 😉

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        theattack November 2, 2012, 5:27 pm

        Uhh…. haha…. I’d better go check that actually.

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        theattack November 2, 2012, 5:28 pm

        *much less creepy. Dangit

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        Katie November 2, 2012, 6:19 pm

        Haha. Yea jake and I have has 3 halloweens so far and we have never had one! And it’s a big deal in jakes family (his mom does the house up all crazy and keeps a tally of how many trick or treaters they get (usually more then 200 which I don’t even know how is possible!!) so he has been very sad these past two years. Atleast he had some this year haha

        But then of course he got all weirded out because people here trick or treat before dark. I thought it was weird too, but jake was all RAWR I’m not giving candy out until dark this is an atrocity to Halloween RAWR. It was kid of funny.

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        GatorGirl November 2, 2012, 8:44 pm

        Oh engagement pictures! Can’t wait to see them! How’d your interview go btw?

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    kerrycontrary November 2, 2012, 5:04 pm

    My week was so so. Monday and tuesday were boring due to the hurricane. For Halloween I watched Hocus Pocus by myself (woohoo). But on Sunday I’m doing the Breathe Deep DC walk for Lungevity. It should be a nice start to the morning (and donations go to lung cancer research/treatment), so I’m looking forward to that! Also, since it’s past Halloween I’m starting to think of Christmas gifts for everyone. I would love some inexpensive, but not cheap looking, gift ideas.

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      Katie November 2, 2012, 6:08 pm

      Do you like food gifts? Cuz I’m experimenting soon with homemade microwave popcorn with compound butter that will eventually be gifts. Pretty inexpensive as pretty cool I think!

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        jlyfsh November 4, 2012, 2:35 pm

        that sounds amazing! popcorn is one of my favorite foods!! i want you to try and make a kettle corn-esque version and share the recipe with me, please 🙂

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        lemongrass November 4, 2012, 5:58 pm

        Would you like my mailing address?

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    landygirl November 2, 2012, 5:09 pm

    I had a pretty good week. The SF Giants won the World Series on Sunday, I celebrated my 1st Anniversary on Monday, watched the WS Victory Parade and passed out Halloween candy on Wednesday and now it’s Friday!

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    theattack November 2, 2012, 5:15 pm

    Halloween was pretty boring here. I had a job interview that morning, and several people were dressed up there. I put on crazy clothes to hand out candy, but we only had one trick-or-treater. Sad. 🙁

    The job interview though: Parts of it went really well and parts of it didn’t go well at all. On the good side, they administered a test to see how observant I am, and I pointed out things the interviewer hadn’t even noticed. I know I also went into the interview as one of their most qualified applicants. On the bad side, he asked me to describe my body language to him, and after I did he told me I was fidgeting with my ring. I don’t remember doing that at all. It must have been when I was walking down the hallway. I also just get really jumbled up with my words, like I’m in a race to finish saying something, and I get tongue-tied. Since this job requires good communication skills, that’s a pretty big hit. So now I just have to wait.

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      lemongrass November 2, 2012, 5:55 pm

      I get that way too. I’m much better at writing stuff down than I am verbally. I try to read stuff out to my husband often so I can get better at speaking. It’s almost like my thoughts are running too fast and my mouth can’t catch up!

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        theattack November 2, 2012, 5:58 pm

        That’s exactly the feeling! So frustrating! I especially get that way during interviews because there’s so much pressure on saying everything that needs to be said. Like, if I accidentally leave out a sentence then I’m not going to have a job, so inevitably I end up leaving out several things or saying things out of order! Good idea trying to practice speaking. I might try that out

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        lemongrass November 2, 2012, 6:04 pm

        It is really nice to have my husband for that. He knows that I’m self conscious about speaking, and reading aloud can be similar to that interview kind of stress. He never flinches when I mix up the words, or have to start a sentence over, or have to take a deep breath because I was talking too fast.

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      GatorGirl November 2, 2012, 8:47 pm

      Fiddling with your ring? Seriously? I fiddle with the two I wear and my watch and my earrings all day long but would never think to include that while describing my body language!

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      Kristen November 2, 2012, 9:29 pm

      That sounds like an intense interview! I bet your words came out smoother than you think. After you’ve gone over it in your head a billion times, it starts to seem worse and worse.

      Keep us updated!!

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    the_optimist November 2, 2012, 4:17 pm

    It was a mess and I’m exhausted :(.

    Thankfully the worst that happened to any of my loved ones was some power outages and water shortage. I say “thankfully” because friends of friends lost their homes, and one was crushed and killed by a tree. I hate that such an awful storm has taken so much from the city, but I’m really amazed at how people are pulling together.

    On that note, I’m actually an ordained minister in NYC, and I’m offering my services free of charge to any couples in the area whose wedding was affected by the storm. You can reach me by clicking on my username and I think there’s an “email me” button on the right hand side of my blog.

    Anyway…Wendy, I am dying over how cute Jackson looks in that costume!! Love, love, love!!

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    Pamplemousse Rose November 2, 2012, 5:34 pm

    Halloween was fun!! We decorated (fog machine with zombie-head attachment=awesome!!), handed out candy and watched the Great Pumpkin on TV.

    I also found out this week that an acquaintance had announced on Facebook (over a week ago) that she got a job I had also interviewed for… and I still haven’t been contacted by the company to say I didn’t get the job, which is weird to me.

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      theattack November 2, 2012, 5:56 pm

      That really sucks that they never contacted you. People need closure on these things! It’s the only polite thing to do.

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        Pamplemousse Rose November 2, 2012, 6:07 pm

        I know, right? I know they’re a big organization, but my professional community is small enough that most people at least know of everyone else so not calling is bad form.

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    lemongrass November 2, 2012, 6:00 pm

    I had a very up and down week. I went to a 2 year old’s birthday party, a celebration of life for an acquaintance and my close friend had a baby. It was a lot going on. Being at home with nothing to do is kinda getting to me now. It wasn’t too bad until my husband started working graveyard shift and now sleeps during the day so I can’t make too much noise. That makes it wayyyy to easy to sit on my laptop all day long. Although he’s awake now and working on the house so I should be vacuuming, so whats my excuse?

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    AKchic_ November 2, 2012, 5:08 pm

    Extremely busy.

    Long work week, lots of medical stuff this week, and this weekend is going to be lots of cleaning, organizing, baking and all that jazz.

    The kids haven’t been able to talk to their dad (my 2nd ex-husband) because he’s been working non-stop since Sandy (he’s an EMT in NJ). Did talk to the former MIL and they got power back yesterday.

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    Lindsay November 2, 2012, 6:44 pm

    Agree. This was a weird week. I stayed home all week because my office was without power and the subway wasn’t running (you could not pay me to wait in line for one of those buses into Manhattan). So, in some ways, it was the same as always, but I’ve never worked at home for a week straight before. My boss lives in N.J. and still has no power, so it’s sort of been the inmates running the asylum, so to speak.

    Other than that, I’ve just been catching up on TV shows and volunteered a couple of times, making sandwiches for people in shelters. That and winning over the affection of my roommate’s cat while she was holed up in Manhattan. I think he thinks I”m his new mommy… >:)

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    TaraMonster November 2, 2012, 6:00 pm

    Lower Manhattan finally has power! I was just walking home from work (a bit early because I’m not feeling well on top of everything else), and dreading being in a cold, dark apartment when the streetlight came on and the storefronts lit up. People are cheering in the streets. It’s a mostly Spanish neighborhood so there was a lot of “LUUUUUUUUZZ!!!” being shouted. I got so excited I nearly cried. Didn’t realize how much the power outage had stressed me out and revealed my inner prima-donna. The rest of my family lives in areas of NY that probably won’t see power for another week, so I’m very very lucky. For now, I’m snuggled up with the HEAT on and will probably pass out watching bad TV.

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    jlyfsh November 2, 2012, 6:16 pm

    we had a good week here! pretty normal, which i am very very thankful for! i’m sending thoughts and prayers to all those people who can’t say the same.i have a friend who lives on long island who has shared that things there are awful. for anyone who is on long island or in the area and isn’t affected and wants to help my friend shared this event on facebook: . hopefully they get a lot of donations!!

    my dogs and i passed halloween candy out. meaning that they stayed in the yard and barked at everyone. i tried to get a picture of them at the door but they would.not.stay.still: . we only had about 10 trick or treaters. we had a ton of candy that i took to work. it only took a few hours for 12 adults to eat it all, haha. so glad it’s out of my house!

    i’m looking forward to a low key weekend full of catching up on things around the house. i’m also going to try and make bowls out of yarn. i saw this how to on pinterest where you dip yarn in i guess it’s macrame flour/water mixture and then wrap the yarn around a bowl that is covered in saran wrap. i’m pretty excited to see how it turns out! i want to hot glue felt in the inside of the bowl with cute initials or something too!

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    SweetsAndBeats November 2, 2012, 6:53 pm

    I am mad because I bought a fuckload of candy and didn’t have a single trick-o-treater come to my door.

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      rachel November 2, 2012, 7:00 pm

      I didn’t get any either. Stupid apartment. Not that I *horribly* mind eating chocolate…but I definitely shouldn’t eat this much

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    Liz November 2, 2012, 11:45 pm

    Weird week indeed..I went to FL for a quick weekend getaway with the bf (I’m from Queens, NY) and got stuck there until tonight, had flight rescheduled four times, 3 transfers from Orlando and am glad to be home. It was quite surreal to see footage of all the damage back home while sitting around palm trees and Disney stuff. Luckily no one I know had any severe damage. The gas shortage is my only inconvenience at the moment, which is quite petty when I think of others. :/

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    Addie Pray November 3, 2012, 12:06 am

    There are certain times of the year when I *really* wish I had a kid. Halloween is one of them – man, Jackson is cute. I wish I had a kid to dress up! And to trick or treat. Kids are great because they like the lollipops and disgusting crap. At least the kids I know (nephews, nieces, friends’ kids) always pass up the chocolate. Score for grown ups! Anyhoo, yea, so that’s a cute frog. I also wish I had a kid at Christmas, Easter,… in the morning time when I’m up and have no reason to be up, on Friday nights when I feel pressured to go out but really just want to stay in (wish I had a kid for an excuse to stay in then)…. I also wish I had a kid when kids moves I want to see are released in the theaters (can’t go – need kid to come with), or when I really want to eat pasta with ketchup or buy a happy meal but have no excuse…. Sigh. See? I so want kids for the right reasons, haha.

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      lemongrass November 3, 2012, 1:05 am

      One halloween I asked my SIL what she was planning to eat out of her kid’s halloween candy and my husband’s family all kind of looked at me saying “you would take candy from a child?” in one of those horrifying moments when everyone around you thinks that you are a monster. But honestly, I will eat some of my kid’s halloween candy. I have no problems saying to my nephews “hey kid, what are you going to give me?” I share, they share. My dad ate lots of my halloween candy and I certainly wasn’t scarred from it. Side story to my story (I have cute nephews) I was teasing my 1.5 yr old nephew with his bowl of chips asking him if I could have one. He grabs this big chip, looks at it, looks at me and bites half of it off and then offers me the rest. Like you can’t have the whole thing, but here’s half. His 8 year brother says “you can have some of my chips, aunty.”

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        lemongrass November 3, 2012, 1:06 am

        Oh! Take Mr. Rainbow kisses out to see kid’s movies. It’s legit, we did it.

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    Kerrycontrary November 3, 2012, 8:12 am

    As a reminder, for all those who bought a ton of candy but didn’t get trick-or-treaters you can always send it to deployed troops overseas!! My office is doing this and I think it’s great for the troops (as well as our waistlines)

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      Lucy November 4, 2012, 2:58 pm

      Or bring it to a shelter if you’re in the NY/NJ area. Tons of kids (and adults) who are very down.

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    Lucy November 4, 2012, 2:57 pm

    Ditto for my Brooklyn neighborhood – no issues except trees down, no subways, and crazy panic buyers waiting in line for gas for hours so that the cops have to literally block off major avenues to regular traffic. Hopefully now that the subways are mostly back, people will stop driving so much. The local precinct tried to cancel Halloween – you can imagine how that went over. I think we actually got even more trick or treaters than usual.

    Then I spent the last few days cooking in various emergency shelters – what a contrast. And these are the lucky people – they for the most part followed the evacuation orders and got themselves out of harm’s way. I hope people still remember this aftermath the next time we have a major storm, and don’t just assume it’s overhyped by the media – it’s terrible to think about how many more lives could have been spared.

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    Rosie November 5, 2012, 12:44 pm

    Re: Gift Guide posts

    I’m just in a new relationship, about a month of hanging (we haven’t had the official talk yet but I can tell it’s something special). His birthday is coming up and then we have Christmas!

    I’d love to hear in your gift guides about what to do in this beginning phase where you want to give something sweet but not too creepy/intense. I’m leaning toward a nice bottle of whiskey or something but I dunno. Thanks Wendy!

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