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Wendy’s Weekly Picks

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Wendy’s Weekly Picks,” is a feature in which I’ll highlight stuff I like or recommend in the worlds of fashion, gift ideas, home decor, makeup, websites, entertainment, and recipes. Of course, many of the stuff I link to will be affiliate products, which means I’ll receive a commission on any click-throughs or purchases you make through the affiliate links. As always, I appreciate your support! Here are my favorite finds this week:

Nordstrom is having a clearance sale, with select items up to 40% off. I’m still looking for a brown ankle boot and ordered this pair and this pair (I plan to keep the one I like best). Drew got me these Frye boots for Christmas three years ago and, after I took them to the cobbler this week for new soles, they’re good as new (but comfortably broken in), so I’m good on tall chocolatey-brown boots for a bit, but, if there’s another sale later in the season, I may look for some tall cognac-colored boots. So far I really like these. And these. And these UGGs aren’t quite what I’m looking for, but they sure are cute! Also, if you’re in the market for a new rain boot, I like this one as an alternative to the (more expensive and) ubiquitous Hunter boots.

Speaking of feet (we were, right?): Now that’s it’s getting colder, I’ve been wearing my favorite slipper socks whenever I’m home (and when it gets really cold, which it hasn’t yet, I will sometimes wear these with my winter boots when I go outside; I know, living on the edge). But, as I was cleaning out my closet last week and packing for our move (Thursday!), I found these Isotoner ballet-style slippers, which are my mom’s favorite and which she probably gave me for a Christmas gift a few years ago (tip: these would make a great Christmas gift!). I’d forgotten how comfy they are, and I especially like that they feel so secure on my feet with the perfect padding for padding around on a Sunday morning.

Speaking of Sunday morning (see what I did there?), what’s better than spending it reading a good book? Preferably in bed, with a cup of coffee and a cat nearby. As I mentioned in last week’s Friday Links, Anne Lammot has a new book coming out this week called Small Victories: Spotting Improbable Moments of Grace. From the Amazon book description: “Our victories over hardship and pain may seem small, she writes, but they change us—-our perceptions, our perspectives, and our lives. Lamott writes of forgiveness, restoration, and transformation, how we can turn toward love even in the most hopeless situations, how we find the joy in getting lost and our amazement in finally being found. Profound and hilarious, honest and unexpected, the stories in Small Victories are proof that the human spirit is irrepressible.” Sounds right up my alley. Maybe yours, too? For a book that tackles the same theme beautifully, I also recommend Paul Auster’s The Red Notebook. At 104 pages, it can be read in an afternoon and is like a little almond cookie for your soul.

My friend Mary just spent two weeks in Italy with her husband (rough life, right?), and, after she got back, she came over bearing some gifts, including a beautiful Venetian glass bracelet for me. She also spritzed some perfume on my wrist from a sample she picked up at some store in Venice. It’s a Versace perfume called Bright Crystal and it’s seriously good. It’s a light floral scent that’s not overpowering at all. If you just wanted to try a sample before committing to a bigger bottle, you can pick up a sample vial on eBay for under 5 bucks.

Piperlime is having a flash sale through tomorrow. An extra 30% off sale items (with code EXTRAEXTRA) makes this skirt practically free. These Mother jeans (I’ve written before about how much I like that brand of jeans — so soft and comfy!) are good deal at the extra sale price. And, I’m sorry, even marked way down, I cannot believe anyone would spend this much on overalls.

Finally, if this is too much materialism for you, or if you’d just like to counter it with a little altruism, my friend and DW contributor, Emily Morris, currently has a gofundme project she’s seeking donations for. She’s raising money to help her mom pay off some basic bills and buy groceries and have a emergency fund for the winter. Her mom worked as a nurse for 40 years and raised Emily as a single mom while earning a bachelor’s and a master’s degree on the side. And she, like a lot of baby boomers whose retirement savings were lost in the stock market crash a few years ago right as they began retiring, is having a hard time making ends meet on social security and part-time work (she earns just over the amount to qualify for aid). Of course, there’s no shortage of people who have a hard time getting by. But if you are in a position to help one of them and feel inclined, here’s someone whose troubles you can help ease and whose spirits you can lift as she continues looking for additional work to supplement her income. Thank you!

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  • the_optimist

    the_optimist November 10, 2014, 1:58 pm

    Shut the front door. That Piperlime skirt is HOT.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray November 10, 2014, 2:21 pm

    Oh hey speaking of Frye boots, Wendy’s last weekly picks had a pair, and it encouraged me to swing by the Frye store this weekend and….whoopsie I walked out with FIVE NEW PAIRS OF SHOES.
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    But how cute are these Oxfords with leggings? http://i1351.photobucket.com/albums/p789/AddieFPray/oxfords_zpsf4cf7a0b.jpg
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    I also got these combat boots. http://i1351.photobucket.com/albums/p789/AddieFPray/combat_zpsb20d5fa8.jpg
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    And now I can’t afford to shop for a long time.

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      Dear Wendy November 10, 2014, 2:43 pm

      Really cute, Addie!

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        ktfran November 10, 2014, 3:32 pm

        Alright ladies. I desperately need a new pair of brown boots. DESPERATE. I went to Macy’s and Nordstrom’s on Friday to check out the sales and found nothing I was interested in. A friend of mine told me she loved her Frye’s and that I should get a pair.

        Here’s my dilemma – I don’t mind paying $ for high quality items, BUT I’m ridiculously hard on shoes. I walk everywhere and most of my shoes, boots included, barely last a season. Scuff marks, worn soles, ets. So, I’m having a hard time to want to spend money on boots. I don’t mind taking them to a cobbler when needed, but that doesn’t really help with the scuff marks/worn leather near the toes. Or, does this not show as much with high quality boots?
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        Thoughts?

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        RedroverRedrover November 10, 2014, 3:58 pm

        Try suede maybe? It does eventually get messed up, but you don’t see the scuffs at first the way you do with leather.
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        You could also try oiling your boots with mink oil or something similar. I heard you’re not supposed to use food-based oils though, only animal-based. Anyway, oil will make the scratches not show as much. And then depending on the type of leather you might be able to buff them too.
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        I was curious so I googled it and found this:
        http://www.wikihow.com/Clean-Leather-Shoes
        I might give it a shot!

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        ktfran November 10, 2014, 4:11 pm

        I can’t do suede, only because I live in Chicago and walk everywhere (don’t have a car) and the weather would ruin them in a hot (well cold) minute. Although I did just buy a pair of suede flats. I digress.

        You’re right, I need to treat them, that would probably help. Thank you for the reminder!

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        RedroverRedrover November 10, 2014, 4:32 pm

        I wear suede boots in the winter in Toronto. I went out walking every day with my baby last winter, and they were fine! I make sure to put protector on them, and then I clean them occasionally to get the salt off. These are the ones I got last year, they’re actually only suede around the foot, which is the part that gets the worst of it. But they’re easy to clean, I found.

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        ktfran November 10, 2014, 4:51 pm

        Interesting about the suede. I was always afraid of it. Hmm….

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        RedroverRedrover November 10, 2014, 5:02 pm

        If you’re going to do it, start with a pair that are specifically winter boots (like the ones I linked above). And I’d get ones with less “nap” too, because that’s the main problem, that the nap gets flattened. The shorter it is, the less of an issue that will be. But personally I’ve never had an issue, maybe I’ve just been lucky. The worst thing that happens to mine is one of the heels gets messed up from driving. I haven’t tried fixing it yet because my pants usually cover the worst of it.
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        I’ve never worn my suede boots in the pouring rain for long periods though. That, I wouldn’t recommend. Snow is much easier to deal with.

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        Sue Jones November 12, 2014, 3:29 pm

        I bought a very cute pair of brown Steve Madden boots last year. They seem to have a great selection and are at a similar price point as Frye. I think mine were around $200+. I don’t wear mine in the snow. I wear my Kamiks in the snow.

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    Kate November 10, 2014, 4:02 pm

    If you don’t want to pay a lot for boots, I highly recommend the Mossimo Supply Company boots from Target that are genuine leather. I have this pair that look just like Frye and are very tough as well as comfortable. They can take a serious beating.

    http://www.target.com/p/women-s-mossimo-supply-co-katherine-genuine-leather-engineer-boot-assorted-colors/-/A-11195531#prodSlot=medium_1_7&term=mossimo+supply+company+boots

    They have a bunch of other styles as well. I have one that’s like a riding boot too and gotten tons of compliments on both pairs.

    I’ve tried on Fryes once or twice but haven’t been happy enough with how they looked on me to actually buy a pair. My mom has a bunch of their flats though and raves about them.

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      Kate November 10, 2014, 4:03 pm

      Sorry, that was supposed to be a response to ktfran’s comment.

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      ktfran November 10, 2014, 4:11 pm

      Thanks! I’ll check them out. I definitely want a pair of riding boots. I actually want a darker color brown.

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        Dear Wendy November 10, 2014, 4:19 pm

        I recommend Frye boots. They are pricey, but very high quality. I linked above to the pair Drew gave me for Christmas in 2011. It’s been almost three years and I only just took them to the cobbler this last week for re-soling. And I am hard on shoes — I walk A LOT and I tend to wear the same 2-3 shoes all season.

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        ktfran November 10, 2014, 4:50 pm

        Ok. That’s really good to know about Frye’s! Also, I tend to wear the same three or four pair of shoes as well.

        I have an awesome pair of brown boots, but they’re super casual, go above the knee, look like I should be in a sword fight and need re-soled. I want something a little nicer to wear with skirts and jeans and leggings.

        Also, AP, that’s amazing. You’re crazy! But I love it.

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        ktfran November 10, 2014, 4:53 pm

        And yeah, if a pair of shoes will last, I don’t mind spending the $. I would rather buy something I like that will last instead of trying to find something new every year.

        Although, I buy a pretty good pair of flats every year, and they usually only last a year.

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray November 10, 2014, 4:33 pm

        I agree with Wendy – Frye boots are amazing. I have 2 pairs (well shit, now I have 7, why why why did I go overboard?) and they are perfect even years later. I had one resoled after… 4 years? They started getting slippery so I had the boots guy slap on a new whateveryoucallit. Sole? Sole.
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        I also have a couple of Steve Madden boots that are cute and I get a lot of compliments on them and they too are good quality. I don’t think they were as expensive as all the Fryes. Good god, I spent $1500 on Saturday. On 5 pairs of shoes. Then i sat there for 10 minutes debating whether or not the $9 wax was worth it or if I could save a few box by buying wax at Target or something.

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        Addie Pray November 10, 2014, 4:35 pm

        Two pairs were pumps for “only” $178. Meaning the BOOT boots were pricy. I need an intervention. My mom would have a heart attack if she knew.

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        RedroverRedrover November 10, 2014, 4:46 pm

        It’s fine! Shoes and boots like this are an investment, seriously. I usually pay close to $200 for dress shoes and more than that for boots. And then they last 5-10-15 years. I have a pair of suede boots that are literally 15 years old and still look great. They’re leather-lined so the inside is still in fantastic shape, and I’ve never even had them resoled. For about 5 years of their life, they were my main winter boots. In Canada. So yeah, they were worth $350 dollars.

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        Addie Pray November 10, 2014, 6:06 pm

        Your reference to dollars and Canada made me think of Canadian v. US dollars and it reminded me of a story to share that I may have shared but oh well I share boring stories over and over again: you know how on the back of books it’ll give the price in US dollars and Canadian dollars? When I was little they had those book fairs in our elementary school where you could fill out a scan sheet and buy books and then a big bag of whatever-you-ordered would get delivered to your classroom several weeks later, and I was always envious of the kids who got to order lots of stuff; my mom never let me buy anything but every once in awhile she’d let me pick out an inexpensive book. And anyway I used to always see the US dollar and Canadian dollar on the back of the books, and it was always more expensive in Canadian dollars, but I didn’t know there were US dollars v. Canadian dollars; I just thought a dollar was a dollar was a dollar so I thought the more expensive price was for Canadians and the US price was for Americans and I was really, really outraged that Canadians were forced to pay more; the poor Canadians, always getting picked on. I don’t think I realized that Canada dollars were a thing until an embarrassingly old age. Anyway, I agree: boots are worth the investment, even when you’re Canadian and must pay more just because you’re not as privileged as us Americans. 🙂

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        RedroverRedrover November 10, 2014, 6:54 pm

        Well prepare to be outraged again – we always pay more. Even when our dollar is at par. We’re totally getting gouged:
        http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/country-pricing-a-cause-of-canada-u-s-price-gaps-1.1405894
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        Whenever I see posts like this I think, must be nice to be able to get stuff so cheap. And then your online shops mostly have free shipping on top of it! Most of ours charge, and almost all charge for returns too, which is why I don’t like buying too much online. It’s ridiculous.

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        Sue Jones November 12, 2014, 9:41 pm

        Yeah, but you get free health insurance!

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        RedroverRedrover November 13, 2014, 7:58 am

        Yeah. I actually got offered a job in the US a month or so ago. The job was perfect for me, but I didn’t take it. I just can’t risk the health thing. Plus we’re thinking of trying for another kid, and I want the mat leave.
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        It’s funny, I would make more if I went to the states, plus pay less tax, plus everything’s cheaper. But health care alone is enough to make me pause. I hope you guys don’t get Obamacare repealed now that the house and senate are both republican. It’s just not right, the way you used to have it, how people could go bankrupt even with insurance. I hope it’s better now.

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    Kate November 10, 2014, 4:22 pm

    This is a nice Frye riding boot.

    Then Target has this one.

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      ktfran November 10, 2014, 4:50 pm

      Those are pretty cute. The target ones.

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  • mylaray

    mylaray November 10, 2014, 5:08 pm

    I’ve been looking for a brown leather ankle boot. I think I’ll get those Franco Sarto ones. Those Frye boots are also calling my name. I’ve started my Christmas shopping early this year, which means I’ve also started shopping for myself early. Oy.

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    prettycrabby November 11, 2014, 12:12 pm

    Thanks for sharing my go fund me link!! And thanks so much to those who have donated ! My mom is so amazed!!

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      sarita_f November 11, 2014, 1:25 pm

      Hi Emily! Just wanted to comment about the GoFundMe you set up for your mom. May I suggest she perhaps looks at ways to improve her situation? It sounds like she needs to make some changes to her lifestyle, and there are lots of online resources out there that can help. My current favorite is http://www.mrmoneymustache.com. They have forums where people can help your mom figure out creative solutions to get her ahead of her situation. Just be prepared for some tough love, and to hear suggestions that may fly in the face of conventional wisdom.

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      sarita_f November 11, 2014, 1:26 pm

      Also, have you considered perhaps scaling back on the wedding in order to help your mom?

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        prettycrabby November 11, 2014, 2:50 pm

        Yeah I help my mom whenever I can. As for the wedding, it’s at my dads house. People are contributing food and booze and cake. My dress costs $120. There’s not much to “scale back” on

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        Jane63 November 12, 2014, 1:30 pm

        Hi Emily – I was able to give a little bit to your mom. I wish her good luck in getting by!

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