Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

We’re Moving!

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After two years of checking the real estate ads religiously (like, on a near daily basis) and sending Drew links of all the different places I could picture us living and daydreaming of the next place we’ll call home, I finally convinced him that our lives would totally be perfect if we moved, and over the weekend, between dodging rainstorms and hosting a birthday party for 12 toddlers and their families, we signed the lease on our next apartment. We move in a few weeks. The new place isn’s far at all — just 2 1/2 blocks from our current spot, and we aren’t buying it (just renting), and, really, our lives won’t change that much (and in some respects, we will be sacrificing comforts and amenities we love, like our terrace and a second shower we don’t have to share with a young child who could poop in the tub at any time, not that he has or would ever do that, but it’s a CHANGE and it’s a move forward and it’s something I have been wanting for two years and I’m so excited.

Mostly, I’m excited that we’ll have a little extra room (the new place has three bedrooms) and that we get to stay in our neighborhood that we love (for the same rent that we’re paying now). For a while, we thought we’d surely have to move far away, that we’d never find a place big enough for a growing family at a price we could afford in this increasingly expensive neighborhood/area/whole damn city, but we did it. And it’s right around the corner from the public school where Jackson will go next year for pre-k (if he gets in, which we hope he will), and two blocks closer to my favorite bar, which, come on, is a perk! Also, even though there’s no terrace and I’m super sad about that and especially sad for Miles who basically lives on ours all day from April to November and will be pissed as hell he’ll have to give up his kingdom, there is access to the roof in the new place (via a steep and narrow ladder I’ll basically have to be stone-cold sober to master, but, still, it’s something).

The best part of the whole thing is that we will be moving into this place as an established family and I will design and decorate with that already in mind. I mean, we chose the place with Jackson (and maybe another child, if we’re lucky) in mind. When we moved into our current apartment, we were newlyweds and didn’t know if we’d have kids, let alone have one while living there. Where we live now is a great apartment for a couple and even a couple with a new baby. It’s not so practical for a family with a kid — a real kid, who walks and talks and runs and plays and wants to get into everything and be everywhere we are. Over the last year, I’ve often felt like the walls are closing in on me, and, ok, maybe some of that is my own general anxiety, but I know a lot of it is also because it was simply time to move on. To move somewhere that would be a better fit for us.

We move in about a month. I’ve already posted a bunch of stuff on Craigslist that we’re selling before we move. (Hey, does anyone want a retro diner booth that two cats have ripped apart? Anyone? Or hanging planters? Or a cool mid-century designer chair? How about a Bosch washer and dryer??). And we have picked out a new dining table and chairs and curtains and paint that will help make this new place home. (And it wasn’t planned this way on purpose, but our move will be just before Thanksgiving, which means I can wait until the Black Friday sales to make any big purchases and save like 20% or so, which is pretty genius if I do say so myself, thank you).

Anyway, if I seem distracted over the next few weeks, it will be because I am. But the good news is that change stimulates creativity for me, and I’m sure some of the new energy will find its way here, too. Also, I totally suffer from a syndrome I call “Life would be perfect if I lived in that house” (inspired by the book of the same name), so for a few months, until I realize that a move doesn’t actually solve all of one’s problems and actually often just creates different ones, I will be high on the delusion that it does and that I’m totally on my way to my fantasy life. If my fantasy life included sharing a tub with a toddler, that is, and climbing up a steep and narrow ladder for the nearest breath of fresh city air.

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  • coconot

    coconot October 15, 2014, 2:08 pm

    Congratulations on finding a place! Thinking about my next NYC move is already giving me anxiety and it is probably more than a year away, so I can appreciate the trouble you must have gone through. I’m sure your whole family — Miles included — will flourish in the new place 🙂

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      coconot October 15, 2014, 2:10 pm

      By the way, I’m totally jealous of the rooftop! And speaking from the experience of a very narrow spiral staircase, after a few months you can definitely learn to navigate tricky stairs while significantly less than sober.

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    Wendy's Sister October 15, 2014, 2:11 pm

    I’m so sad you’re getting rid of the diner booth! I understand why, but it’s just been such a part of your home since you moved in with Drew. I’ve always loved it. If I lived in NYC and had space in this fantasy world, I’d totally take it from you!

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  • something random

    something random October 15, 2014, 2:14 pm

    Congrats! I can’t wait to hear about the new furniture, design, innovative solutions you come up with (if you feel like sharing). I live for that kind of stuff.

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  • muchachaenlaventana

    muchachaenlaventana October 15, 2014, 2:15 pm

    Congrats!!! Also I totally suffer from that delusion–I love nothing more than browsing CL and Trulia looking for my next dream spot and imagining how if I just had that yard and kitchen, was just a few more blocks in to the downtown, none of the other shitty stuff would matter. Luckily since moving 4 months ago I am 4000x happier and a lot of it is due to my new house/location…although that high is slowly fading. Good luck moving…although I love the idea of living in a new place every year or two-moving is one of the most painful processes ever.

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  • Lianne

    Lianne October 15, 2014, 2:18 pm

    Congrats!!! So exciting 🙂 More space is so good for the soul, I say.
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    I’m also moving! We close on our new condo next Thursday and the movers come on Friday morning…it’s a very exciting and scary time, to say the least. BUT, we shopped this weekend and THAT was fun. We ordered a new sectional and a custom dining table. I feel VERY grown up. I am also excited to paint and make this home one we can start our family in.

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  • Classic

    Classic October 15, 2014, 2:52 pm

    Congratulations, dear Wendy!

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    Jane63 October 15, 2014, 3:03 pm

    Congrats! Good luck on a smooth move!

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    Taylor October 15, 2014, 3:13 pm

    Congrats!
    Love the chair =)

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    Sarah October 15, 2014, 3:20 pm

    Take it from me, you do not want to try and navigate that roof ladder after two drinks.

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    FireStar October 15, 2014, 3:26 pm

    Congrats! Wow…actually wanting to move…that is so foreign to me – I plan on dying in my current house. I hate moving. Though I am envious of your purging. We so need to purge but I think everyone living in my house was a hoarder in a past life.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray October 15, 2014, 3:52 pm

    I hate and love moving. I hate packing and the physical move part (even with movers, you yourself have a ton of moving to do) but I love the unpacking part and the organizing part and the decorating part and the “this marks a new era and a new set of possibilities” part of a new home.

    Congrats!

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      jlyfsh October 15, 2014, 4:26 pm

      I like and dislike the same things about moving. We’re thinking of moving in the spring. We thought a one bedroom would be fine, and it is for us. But, we have way too many visitors.

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        Addie Pray October 15, 2014, 5:18 pm

        Yes! Having a guest room/bath is sooooo nice. It’s no hassle whatsoever to have guests with a room and bathroom they can have to themselves. It’s been a godsend for me.
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        About rooftops, you guys, remember the 2 seconds that I lived in Lincoln Park in a place with a big rooftop? I honestly used it like 3 times, that’s it. I know a lot of people who use their rooftops more regularly but I never did. I found the smaller porch off the living room got way more use. I guess b/c of the stairs. It seemed like a production to go to the roof, like “time to pack up, we are taking a trip to the rooftop” event though it was just one flight up.

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      • Portia

        Portia October 16, 2014, 9:00 am

        I’m two flights from the roofdeck and use it maybe 5-10 times a year, and that’s being pretty generous. It’s not the most amenity-filled roofdeck… Bassanio had a private roofdeck once and it was up a rickety ladder and is say we used that way more, but that was probably because we could put more of our stuff up there and guarantee no one else was going to be using it.

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      freckles October 16, 2014, 4:20 pm

      Yessss I feel the exact same way about moving. I detest packing with a fiery passion, and I cannot wait for the day when I can afford packers. I’ve finally graduated to using movers and I will NEVER go back to moving myself. Nope, no way José. But I LOVE unpacking and organizing. It feels like a fresh start! Plus, if you move as often as I do (about once a year), it helps you keep your level of clutter and useless crap to a minimum.

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    RedroverRedrover October 15, 2014, 4:11 pm

    Congrats Wendy!!!

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  • TaraMonster

    TaraMonster October 15, 2014, 3:16 pm

    Woohoo! Congrats. I moved into my new place this past weekend and I’m pretty high on the delusion that everything is going to be perfect there too! I like this delusion. I’m just gonna go with it. 🙂

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    Lily in NYC October 15, 2014, 4:21 pm

    My main complaint about NY apartments is that they so rarely have in-unit washer/dryers. Or garbage disposals, but I don’t really care about that. Words cannot express how desperately I want my own washer and dryer (we aren’t allowed; multi-unit pre-war buildings can’t handle them). At least where I live now has them in the basement; when I was in Brooklyn and had to go to the laundromat, there was a big sign reminding us to make sure to remove bullets from our pockets before washing (I lived next to the projects).

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray October 15, 2014, 5:20 pm

      Oh that reminds me, a know a girl who moved from NYC to Chicago. She was OVER THE MOON excited to secure an apartment in Chicago with in-unit laundry and a dishwasher… then she realized that most (well, a lot) do here and she thought that was amazing.

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        MsMisery October 16, 2014, 12:48 pm

        They are still hard to find out in the suburbs for some reason. W&D are usually in the basement, even in some condos.

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      freckles October 16, 2014, 4:16 pm

      DC is the same way. I find it much more difficult to find an in-unit washer dryer in the city itself, vs just outside the city in Arlington. I’ve gone without, and now having my own W/D is a deal breaker for me.

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  • Ika

    Ika October 16, 2014, 7:26 am

    Yay Wendy!
    My move is finally comng up (we started building may last year!) Hopefuly in November. The contractors are putting the final touches on the house, but things just take so long here, its ridiculous.
    I am dreading packing so much. We have been living here for 10 years,and have so much crap accumulated its not funny. Great opportunity to get rid of stuff (I´ve already started packing some of the better things for charity). I am alsodreading moving the pool table. It is heavy (slate top), I´ve been trying to find movers with experience in pool table (to get it set up in the new house) but no luck thus far.
    I am really lookng forward to decorating as well! I never liked the house we live in at the moment, so I never made an effort. Now we are buying furniture, lights etc for the new house, and I am so excited!!!! My 6 year old is too, and she has some good ideas for her room and playroom. My 3 yos decorating ideas are basically “everything pink!!!”

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      d2 October 16, 2014, 8:08 am

      Oh my yes to all the stuff you accumulate!

      The more space you have, the more crap you will accumulate to fill it. That’s one of the lesser-known laws of physics.

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  • Portia

    Portia October 16, 2014, 9:22 am

    Congrats Wendy, that’s amazing news! It sounds like you found a great place. I don’t envy the moving itself (haven’t moved in 2 years and it’s been amazing), but in my experience, moving with intention for the future like that really makes a difference. Have fun!

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    freckles October 16, 2014, 4:15 pm

    Congrats! Moving is always so exciting – I’ve moved almost every year for the last 6 years, so I’m an expert at adjusting to new places. And I TOTALLY know what you mean when you say a new place feels like it will solve all your problems. Plus, if you’re like, me, change is exciting! Everything feels fresh, and new, and you get to decorate a new place, and pick our new stuff. And organize! I love organizing a new apartment. I’ve been in my current place for almost a year, and we’re moving to a new place in a few months, and I’m already beyond excited. Good luck with your move, I hope it goes smoothly!

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  • fast eddie

    fast eddie October 16, 2014, 4:24 pm

    Put the dinner booth out on the curb and hope someone that’s desperate will haul it off. 3 bedrooms is space enough to have a nursery. Jackson needs a sibling to pick on. Get hopping…

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