You may have noticed a recent reduction in the amount of posts going up on the site. Five years ago when I launched DW, I usually posted three times a day. Then I had a baby and realized that wasn’t sustainable, so I started posting twice a day (which was still pretty intense while caring for a baby!). More recently, even the two posts a day feels like a lot and it’s not just because I’ve got two kids to care for these days. That’s a big component, of course; I have childcare only 13 hours a week, and in those hours I try to squeeze in DW work, household chores, errands, self-care (dr. visits, exercising, a haircut) and occasional school volunteering, which is too much stuff and not enough hours. I thought about adding some more childcare hours — the site is making more money now and I could afford it — but I don’t want to sacrifice any more time with Joanie (and honestly, we have lots of other costs I need to prioritize). And beyond that, I’m tired of posting stuff just to post stuff. I’m tired of answering letters I’ve answered a thousand times already just to have a new column up. I’d rather post higher-quality letters even if it means having fewer columns, and then funnel some of the time I was spending answering uninspiring letters on things that matter more to me or that make my life more manageable.
So, here we are on a Thursday and I don’t have a new column or anything scheduled for today because I couldn’t bring myself to answer yet another question about what a couple should do if they can’t agree on where to live or whether a woman is insane for wanting a guy who acts like he actually likes her. Every week, there’s a day or two like this and I’m always stumped on how to proceed, so I thought I’d open it for discussion. On days when I don’t have something scheduled, what would you like to see on DW? An open thread so you can talk amongst yourselves? Links to hot topics in the forums (like the weekly forum highlights I post on Wednesdays)? A question/topic of the day (I’m leaning toward this one)? Daily article round-ups instead of saving them for Friday? Nothing at all? (It feels weird to me to post nothing at all, but it also felt weird to go from three posts to two and then from two to one, and I’m trying to do what I need to sustain this site in a way that is both manageable and meaningful). Any other ideas?
To clarify: I am not going away or phasing out DW or anything like that. This is about making it a better experience for all of us. If I had interesting, meaty high-quality letters to choose from every day and didn’t have two children under five to care for, we wouldn’t even be having this discussion. But that’s not the reality and I’m tired of devoting precious hours in my week to creating content that doesn’t feel meaningful or interesting to me and likely doesn’t feel meaningful or interesting to you either. So, what kind of quickie content (if anything) would you like to see on the days I don’t have a meaty letter to answer?