“Experts” (i.e. people with either nothing better to do or with some sort of book or project to promote) have discovered six distinct couple types that they say all couples fall into. Relationship counselor Val Sampson says that our childhoods largely influence what type of couple we’ll end up in, explaining: “When we’re children, we absorb information like sponges — we can’t help but take on board how our parents behaved and what went on in our own family.” She says we “recreate the roles of our mothers and fathers,” which, in my experience is not and has never been true. Has this been true for you? After the jump, a brief explanation of the six types of couples. Do you fit any of them?
1. CAT AND DOG
This couple fights constantly and is attracted to each “because they enjoy the cycle of fight and make up (often accompanied by passionate sex).” Relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam says, “The fights are fueled by insecurity and a break-up is liable to be messy.”
2. THRILL OF THE CHASE
In this couple, one partner is always in pursuit of the other, though that role can switch back and forth. “What drives this couple is a fear of being seen as needy.” says Susan Quilliam.
3. PARENT AND CHILD
This couple is self-explanatory — one partner takes on a parent role and the other a child role. “The parent partner is attracted because they feel that in caring for this person, they have found a purpose in life,’ says Susan Quilliam. But the “child” may feel stifled and overly-controlled.
4. IDOL AND FAN
One partner worships the other, and sometimes the idol may manipulate the worshipper to believe he or she will never find anyone else. “It’s more likely that the Idol will have a series of short-lived relationships with different fans,” says Quilliam. “They’ll adopt the stance: “You don’t appreciate me, so I’m off to find someone who does.”
5. BABES IN THE WOOD
Two peas in a pod with a foundation of similarities who seem to take on each other’s identities and live in a couple bubble that few others are able to penetrate. “It’s a pattern typically found in new relationships or where the partners may feel insecure. Perhaps they’ve been hurt in the past, so security appeals. [But] they’re lacking the differential spark that creates passion,” says Susan Quilliam.
6. THE GROWN-UPS
This is a functional relationship between two mature people at ease with their differences and with little interest in conflict. “These two will never have to face their dark side and so their relationship may lack a little fire.”