Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Why Are Your Marching?

When I was 15 years old, I was sexually assaulted while on a school trip by a man in an elevator who pushed the stop button, pinned me against the wall, stuck his hands down my pants and grabbed me between the legs, reached up under my shirt and grabbed my breasts and breathed his hot, stinky breath against my neck as I wondered in complete panic and fear if he was going to rape me before I summoned my courage and kneed him in the groin, re-started the elevator, waited for the doors to open and ran as fast as I could away from him. And now, 25 years later almost to the day, a man who has bragged about assaulting women in the exact same way I was assaulted as a 15-year-old girl has been sworn-in as the President on the United States.

Tomorrow I am marching for every girl and woman who has been told, implicitly by this most recent presidential election, that her body is up for grabs to anyone who wants it — that as long as a man has some perceived position of power over her, by his size or his age or his wealth or his title or his celebrity or his sex or the number of votes for him for highest office of our country, that he’s entitled to a piece of her. I am marching because women deserve quality and affordable health care and birth control, and the power to make reproductive choices. I am marching for equal pay for equal work, paid parental leave, and a livable minimum wage. I’m marching because LGBTQ people have the right to live and love freely, without discrimination. I’m marching for immigrants, for disabled people, and for everyone’s right to worship free of persecution or fear of being banned or walled off or sent to a country that is no longer, or never was, home. I’m marching because black lives matter, and so do their votes! I’m marching because our kids fucking matter — all of them — and they deserve quality public education led by someone who has extensive and respected experience in public education (as an educator, a former student, and a parent of public school kids). I’m marching because the damn planet matters and it won’t exist much longer if idiots keep denying the damage being done to it and blocking legislation to protect it. That’s #WhyI’mMarching. Why are you marching?

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    Niki January 20, 2017, 2:32 pm

    I am marching because I too have been “grabbed by the pussy” by a stranger at a bar. I am marching because when I was 13, a boy on my school bus put his hand down my shirt and went without punishment. I am marching because I can. Because it’s important. Because, for far too many people, the hurtful and dangerous words of our new president weren’t deal breakers. I am marching, with my husband, as an example for our two children.

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    MaterialsGirl January 20, 2017, 2:47 pm

    I am marching because I’ve experienced feeling “less” than my male counterparts, because I’ve had to deal with sexist, inappropriate comments. Because breaking that glass ceiling is a thing I even have to CONSIDER, and being asked to the upper management table is a fight and not simply a well-deserved promotion. I am marching because I take public transportation through a bad neighborhood everyday and strangers comment that its not safe.. but don’t have similar concern for the black mother and her children. I am marching because women’s locker rooms, nursing rooms, family changing rooms and paternity leave are currently an afterthought and not automatic.

    I am marching because I’m tired of being an afterthought and an oddity.

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    BecBoo84 January 20, 2017, 2:49 pm

    I am marching with my two sweet, innocent kiddos tomorrow because they deserve SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS!

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    TaraMonster January 20, 2017, 2:51 pm

    I am marching for all of those reasons. But I’m also marching because it is my responsibility as a citizen of this country, and as someone who respects the constitution, to make sure our elected officials uphold the laws of our country in a fair and just manner, and that those laws continue to protect all of the people in the United States, not just those who look like me, love like me, or even vote like me. I’m marching for my boyfriend and his brother, both of whom are “dreamers” and DACA recipients. I’m marching because I CAN, because the millions of women who marched before me made it so. I’m marching because I’m an American and I must.

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    Dear Wendy January 20, 2017, 3:42 pm

    Also:

    “I did try and fuck her. She was married. I moved on her like a bitch, but I couldn’t get there. And she was married. Then all of a sudden I see her, she’s now got the big phony tits and everything. She’s totally changed her look. I’ve gotta use some Tic Tacs, just in case I start kissing her. You know I’m automatically attracted to beautiful — I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star they let you do it. You can do anything… Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.”
    – The 45th President of The United States of America.

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  • Just Max

    Just Max January 20, 2017, 4:04 pm

    I am marching for birth control. For healthcare. For equality. For respect. I am marching for my nieces. I am marching for my 15 year old cousin, so she can see that we can do something, that we don’t have to stay quiet. I am marching because not doing something to promote change is not an option anymore.

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    Miss MJ January 20, 2017, 9:18 pm

    Marching in New Orleans tomorrow because loudly and visibly rejecting hate and intolerance is the right thing to do. And because there are still more of us than there are of them, we have a voice and we still matter, and we should spend the next 1382 days, 3 hours and 42 minutes (until Election Day 2020) never, ever let Don & The Deplorables forget it.

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  • Miel

    Miel January 20, 2017, 9:32 pm

    Wendy, reading your message and everybody else’s comments has convinced me to go to my local walk tomorrow in Madison. I’m a feminist, and even though I’m not American, this is where I live now, and I will walk in solidarity with the American women. Thank you =)

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    suzyinthesky January 21, 2017, 8:49 am

    I’m marching in Oslo, Norway with my two daughters. I’m marching for the rights of women, minorities, lgbtq, for the environment and for affordable healthcare for everyone, not just those of us lucky enough to be born in a Northern European country. I’m marching because I want a better world for my kids and because I feel the strongest need to DO SOMETHING.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy January 22, 2017, 6:59 am

      I saw a photo of the march in Oslo – thank you for being part of it!!

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    rocketgirl January 21, 2017, 11:10 am

    I am marching because of all of these reasons. I can’t be quiet anymore – it is time to stand up to those who think others are less then them by virtue of gender, orientation, religion, etc, etc. For love, compassion equality, the environment, to prevent hate from taking over our country. And though I do not have children, I am marching for them – so they have a safe world to grow up in and inherit

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    Kate January 21, 2017, 2:53 pm

    I did not march because I have a crowd phobia after a serious parade experience. But my parents marched in Boston in the ACLU section. Boston was the second biggest in the country. It was a beautiful 50 degree day with a clear blue sky. Over 100,000 people equally split between men and women. Elizabeth Warren and the other speakers were awesome. Please skim the Globe article for highlights from their speeches. I love Massachusetts.

    https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2017/01/21/thousands-protesters-expected-join-boston-women-march-saturday/uAWNwH9R5FHltkqyQNzeFL/story.html

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      Kate January 21, 2017, 2:59 pm

      My mom’s sign said “WE the People” and “RESIST,” and my dad’s said “Resist Tyranny, Reject the Evil, Stand Together.” They sent me a pic of one dude with a sign that said “I’m not Usually a Sign Guy but Geez.” Another one of a millennial girl with “The Young are at the Gates.”

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    Kate January 21, 2017, 6:50 pm

    Here’s a text from my aunt from Seattle:

    The D.C. March was unlike anything I’ve ever seen. So many people we couldn’t move. Long program but amazing speakers. Best part was later when the march broke up and went rogue. Everyone headed for the White House. Not part of the route. And went past trumps hotel and booed and yelled ‘shan’ and other chants.

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    Zombeyonce January 22, 2017, 12:33 am

    I marched in the hopes that when my daughter is old enough to march on her own, she won’t need to because this shit will no longer be tolerated by so many people.

    I’m in Portland and they expected 30,000 people in our march. I’m glad I turned out as one of the 70-100,000 that showed up to let everyone know we’re going to keep fighting just as long as they’re going to try and convince everyone that Trump’s actions and what he represents is okay.

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