In a Dear Abby column this week, a LW writes:
I have been dating another guy for a couple of years, and we’re thinking about getting engaged. I am wondering if it would be improper to ask my ex if we could buy my old ring from him. It was – and still is – my “dream ring,” and I know my ex has kept it in the glove box of his car ever since I gave it back to him.
I don’t want to commit a faux pas, but it seems silly to buy another identical ring. What do you think?
— Headed Down the Aisle
Personally, I think this is a really strange and pretty tacky idea, and I can’t imagine what her current boyfriend must think (if she’s even mentioned it to him). I’d tell the LW to just MOA. She found a different dream man, so she can find a different “dream ring.” Also, why is her ex keeping an expensive engagement ring in the glove compartment of his car?! That’s almost as strange as asking an ex if you and your new boyfriend can buy back your engagement ring from him. I kinda wish these two would have stayed together — they seem well-matched, at least in terms of quirkiness.
What do you think: would you ever want your old engagement ring back for a new engagement (and new fiancé/e)? Related: do you or have you continued wearing jewelry from an ex, even after getting serious with someone else? Does the new person know whom the jewelry is from?