Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Would You Date Someone Who Ate Food You Hate?

In what’s arguably an effort to drum up some publicity, UK grocery chain, Asda, has launched its own online dating service, asdadating.com, which matches singles based on their food tastes and shopping habits. This begs the question: would you date someone who ate food you hate? And, perhaps more telling, can/do you judge people based on what’s in their shopping carts? After the jump, I take a stab at judging a few hypothetical shoppers and ponder their dating potential.

Woman 1

In her shopping basket: A pint of Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food ice cream, a bottle of red wine, five Lean Cuisines (on sale this week for $3.50 each), Activia yogurt, three boxes of Kleenex.

Judgment: Girl just got dumped. Could be looking for a rebound lay, but won’t be relationship material for a while.

Man 1

In his shopping basket: 10 Yoplait yogurts, two chocolate bars, one “Us Weekly,” a bag of Doritos, tampons.

Judgment: Married. A little bit pussy-whipped.

Woman 2

In her shopping basket: Oats, Seventh Generation cleaning products, Fair trade coffee, organic spinach, cage-free eggs, grass-fed beef, Fresca.

Judgment: Left-leaning, high expectations, probably a decent cook.

Man 2

In his shopping basket: Duct tape, bleach, rubber gloves, beef jerky.

Judgment: Mass murderer. Run!

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    ArtsyGirl February 8, 2011, 1:08 pm

    Waahaahaa: I love this posting and the hypothetical shoppers (I might have just laughed out loud at work and got some strange looks). My husband is a bacon aficionado and I HATE bacon – also I love everything chocolate and he dislikes all sweets. It actually is better to date someone with the opposite tastes because then you don’t need to fight over the last Oreo.

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      Wendy February 8, 2011, 1:22 pm

      Wha? You hate bacon?! Well, now I’ve really heard everything.

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        Wolvie_girl February 8, 2011, 3:14 pm

        Seriously! No Bacon?!?!?! I’m personally of the belief that bacon makes EVERYTHING better. I don’t think I could live a bacon-less existence.

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        ArtsyGirly February 8, 2011, 5:19 pm

        I readily admit that bacon hatin’ is hard in this era the of pro bacon agenda – but honestly I don’t like any pork products be it tenderloin, chops, or sausage. My husband hosted an XY-mas party (basically all his guy friends came over a few days before Christmas to play video games and watch action movies) and he made an almost all bacon menu including candied bacon made with brown sugar and maple syrup, bacon and cream cheese dip, and bacon cookies. I abstained.

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        Anne (I Go To 11) February 8, 2011, 8:55 pm

        I’m with you on the no pork thing. I really dislike pork products, so no bacon for me, either. I do like turkey bacon, though.

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      Natasha Kingston February 8, 2011, 1:38 pm

      I actually totally agree. My husband hates tomatoes with a passion, and I could eat them for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Its SO nice to bring home plump, tender heirlooms and know that they’re ALL for me, and he won’t even want any. <>

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      baby.blanka February 8, 2011, 3:17 pm

      If you hate bacon and he loves it… try bacon brownies. About half a pound of cooked bacon pieces in brownie mix – TRUST ME. It adds a LOT of flavor (chocolate and salt) without being overpowering.

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        Wendy February 8, 2011, 3:19 pm

        Um, I am looking up a recipe immediately.

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        baby.blanka February 8, 2011, 3:21 pm

        I had to make two batches for the Super Bowl because they FLY off of the plate. They are divine with caramel as well 😀

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        thefierycrash February 8, 2011, 3:57 pm

        no! my dad made these for superbowl and they were AWFUL! hahaha he was sooo proud of himself and seriously, in my 24 years of life i don’t think i’ve ever seen him make anything… and they were so gross. he admitted it and they ended up in the trash. maybe it was his baking skills (though the brownie part wasn’t so bad…) but those little bits of bacon… egh. no one even tried to act like they liked it– even my boyfriend who LOVES bacon. hahaha.

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        Uyzie February 8, 2011, 5:03 pm

        If you like bacon brownies, then you’ll probably like maple bacon fudge as well! My BF is slightly obsessed with both bacon and chocolate, and the first time I made this for him, I swear I thought he was going to propose to me right there in the kitchen. It might sound a little odd, but the bacon-chocolate pairing is pretty freaking awesome. This past christmas, I even made little decorative gift bags of these for my coworkers, and I’m pretty sure none of them lasted until the end of the workday.

        (And since I know you have to test them out for yourselves, just google “npr maple bacon fudge” for a slightly modified version of the ones I make)

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      Morgan February 8, 2011, 6:48 pm

      I’m with you on hating bacon! I don’t eat meat anymore, but even when I did I was not a bacon fan…the smell,the taste, just, no. Didn’t like sausage either.

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    BeccaAnne February 8, 2011, 1:08 pm

    Yes and no. Obviously since I hate mushrooms and the bf looooves them, that works out. I do think food habits are important. I want to be with someone who eats their veggies and at least makes attempts at a healthy diet. But I also won’t begrudge someone their pop tarts. I don’t think I would ever conciously judge someone on what is in their shopping cart, because who knows what that’s for and if it’s their whole shopping. Sometimes I just go on wine runs, if someone saw that they might think I’m an alchy.

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    Kerrycontrary February 8, 2011, 1:09 pm

    I totally judge people by what they eat! I can’t date someone with boring/bland food preferences. I won’t consider dating someone who won’t try new foods and doesn’t like international dishes. That must sound elitest, but my Dad dictated what restaurants my parents visited for the last 38 years and I never want that to happen to me!

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      BeccaAnne February 8, 2011, 1:15 pm

      While refusing to try new foods is bad, give people with a bland palate a chance! Some of us were raised in boring dinner households and have no idea what’s out there! All we need is someone to teach us! The bf and I went on “food-ventures” for a while, going to places I would never have picked on my own, and now I’ll try just about anything!

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        Uyzie February 8, 2011, 1:35 pm

        But that’s the difference, BeccaAnne– even though you weren’t raised to eat adventurously, you were more than willing to try new things. That’s totally understandable, and it’s awesome that you are now so adventurous with your food. What sucks are people who are perfectly content to eat the same type of food for the rest of their lives, and place limitations on where they and their SO can go (like poor Kerrycontrary’s mom).

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        AB February 8, 2011, 9:16 pm

        I am admittedly a bland food eater, and actually kinda picky. But I have never turned down a restaurant. I can always, always find food on the menu I like. So yeah, I don’t know about people who have problems with certain restaurants.

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      Wolvie_girl February 8, 2011, 3:22 pm

      I had a dad that was the same way Kerrycontrary, he was a total meat and potato boy. I’ve found in his old age, as our time together is less frequent, I’ve been able to “expand his horizons” . I think because he misses me and values our time spent together more than when we lived under the same roof, he is more willing to try new things I suggest. I took him to a cuban restaurant when he came to visit me that he loved and this past christmas I converted him to a goat-cheese beleiver!

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    Uyzie February 8, 2011, 1:28 pm

    Okay, so embarrassing confession time: A long time ago, on our third date, a really nice guy told me that he’d never had Thai food, Indian food, or sushi before. He was 33 years old, and had lived and grown up in the same place I had (a major metropolitan area). At that moment, I mentally decided that I couldn’t go out with him again. I know it sounds awful, and trust me, I got a lecture about it from my friends, but that one admission told me a lot of things about his personality. I’m a huge foodie, and a very adventurous eater, and there are literally at least 5 or 10 ethnically-diverse restaurants in any given block of this town. The fact that he had lived so long in the area without ever having even wondered what any of those foods were like told me we just wouldn’t be able to get along, culinarily-speaking. For what it’s worth, I was really nice about it and never let him know that was the reason we weren’t clicking. (Well, that, and the fact that he only listened to Coldplay and Dave Matthews Band. And had never even heard of Al Green or Otis Redding.)

    Man, I sound like a terrible snob.

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      Wendy February 8, 2011, 1:37 pm

      You had me convinced at no sushi. DMB was certainly the nail in the coffin.

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      Kerrycontrary February 8, 2011, 2:07 pm

      yes! I live in a diverse Metro area, how could you not try those new foods?!

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        LK7889 February 8, 2011, 2:28 pm

        Man, I wish there was an Indian restaurant in this area. Around here, Chinese and Italian constitute “ethnic” eating. 🙁

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        TMSC February 8, 2011, 2:33 pm

        I don’t know…my fiance was the same way when we first starting dating, he was younger at the time (only about 22). But it was just the way he grew up, his parents weren’t the eat-out, adventurous types. Fortunately, he was more than willing to explore new foods when he saw how much I loved it…now he’s had many different kinds of foods, and it was super fun to introduce him to all these new flavors and even to explore together. I think you can’t immediately write it off, if the person is interested and willing to go on a food adventure, it can be a blast watching them try something new and totally loving it.

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      LK7889 February 8, 2011, 2:28 pm

      Nothing wrong with sounding like a snob! I definitely couldn’t date someone who listened to Coldplay….

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      Wolvie_girl February 8, 2011, 3:34 pm

      Never heard of Otis Redding? Whaahhh
      That would be a Dino for me!

      **btw: “Dino” is a term a friend came up with when she had been on a few dates with a guy, it had been going great, then she instantly knew it would never work: he wore socks with the cartoon character, dino, on them. From then on, if a guy you’re otherwise into does or says something seemingly insignificant that totally kills it for you, it’s a “Dino”

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      Morgan February 8, 2011, 7:04 pm

      You had me convinced at his liking Coldplay!

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      Anne (I Go To 11) February 8, 2011, 9:01 pm

      I’m a bit of a music snob, so I sympathize with your foodie ways. For instance, I could never, ever, ever on God’s green earth be with someone who loved Nickleback. Just sayin’.

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        Uyzie February 9, 2011, 12:16 pm

        I’m not a terribly big music snob, but I am SO right with you there! To coin Wolvie_girl, I think that would be a Dino for just about anyone.

        (Although, after dating my current BF a little while, he once confessed to me that upon first meeting me, he thought I was “the kind of girl who listens to a lot of Kelly Clarkson.” Thank god he stuck around long enough to find out his first impression was incorrect!)

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    silvii February 8, 2011, 1:31 pm

    My fella tries to pass off his dislike for mushrooms as an allergy – they magically end up on my plate. However I got him into liking Marmite which is a big thing for me. I’ve never seen what people like eating as a means to not be friends with or date them. It’s like music, I’m not going to always make friends with people who like the same music as me yet those advantages means someone will be exposed to new things either way.

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    Betsy February 8, 2011, 1:32 pm

    While I’m sure there are some incompatibilities (I definitely couldn’t date someone that doesn’t like garlic), I don’t consider food preference a dealbreaker. However, I can definitely do without all the complaining my guy does when I buy fruit or put celery in the stir fry. You don’t have to eat it!

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      ArtsyGirly February 8, 2011, 5:24 pm

      Make snacks of celery loaded with peanut butter and rasins/chocolate chips (aka ants on a log) and that will convert almost any guy to being ok with celery

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    Firegirl32 February 8, 2011, 1:34 pm

    There’s good and bad about both! If you don’t like the same things you don’t have to share…but if you do like the same things, like my bf and I do, cooking together is awesome! Our only problem is he loves bacon for breakfast every morning. I don’t like bacon. At. All. So he bakes it, so the smell isn’t quite so overwhelming and we go about our day.

    I loved the hypothetical shoppers! I laughed out loud at mass murderer!

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      ArtsyGirly February 8, 2011, 5:24 pm

      Yay for another non-bacon lover – I was feeling a little lonely

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        Ally February 8, 2011, 7:03 pm

        No bacon for me either, can’t stand the smell!

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    Mainer February 8, 2011, 1:34 pm

    The lack of perishables in my shopping cart is rather embarrassing. But I have a fear of things going bad. Especially milk. If I’m cooking with milk, I need to buy those little on-the-go single size things of milk. Meat and veggies are bought day of. But my big shopping day is usually for snack type stuff. And frozen dinners. And booze. Based solely on that, I do not come off attractive at all.

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      JennyTalia February 8, 2011, 2:00 pm

      I’m the same exact way. Looking in my cabinets I would not find myself attractive – it’s full of junk food and old soup. I do freeze my meats, but rarely buy fruits/veggies because they go bad before I eat them.

      That said I don’t think I could date a man with a cart like Woman 2’s because she sounds like a damn dirty hippie.

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        Mainer February 8, 2011, 3:29 pm

        I made the mistake of taking a girl grocery shopping with me (I had to go anyway, and we wanted to get stuff for that night). She was like “Oh, good. Pop Tarts. You’re eight.”

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    cdj0815 February 8, 2011, 2:29 pm

    I will try almost anything once. My boyfriend liked the thighs and the necks of the chicken. I would get nauseous looking at him eat it, but then again, I thought it was kind of sexy. I guess love makes you see crazy things. Go figure.

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    Pam February 8, 2011, 2:29 pm

    I have a hard time with this.
    My boyfriend is a picky eater… which means that he is unwilling to try anything new, and that just gets boring. While I can cook whatever things I want for myself the weeks I live alone, what is going to happen when we live together and he refuses to try any new recipes at all? It’s bad enough not ever being able to go out for sushi (he refuses to try it) or trying out new restaurants… but never being able to try out new foods at home?
    Bad enough the kids are fussy!!

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      thefierycrash February 8, 2011, 2:42 pm

      oh pam! i commiserate with you. when we go out for sushi he will usually at least get the terriyaki chicken or just do sake bombs… haha. but the cooking part is what scares me. every breakfast we have at his place is the same: (generic brand) eggo waffles, bacon, and eggs. hotdogs for dinner. ughhh. i love ethnic food and he hates just about everything that has ANYTHING on it. plain hamburgers, plain salad (i.e. lettuce…), it’s so tough. he says when i move in he’ll start trying to eat better/eat what i cook but i highly doubt that. so sad. sooo sad.

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    LK7889 February 8, 2011, 2:31 pm

    Food preferences don’t bug me at all. As long as my SO doesn’t whine when I cook something the way I want it, I’m all good. He can have a sandwich if he doesn’t like my cooking preferences. LOL.

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    baby.blanka February 8, 2011, 3:20 pm

    Food preferences DO bug me, but only if you are unwilling to try new things.

    My BF would pretty much rather die than eat anything actually grown in the ground – while I try to maintain a healthy diet. Since we’ve been dating he has tried potatoes (yes… I was not exaggerating), green beans, kale, and fish (something he also refused to eat), and a whole mess of other produce goodies. He doesn’t like them all but if I cook it, he eats it… it’s nice that he tries.

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      thyme February 9, 2011, 3:20 pm

      Been there! I spent two years with a picky eater and it was super annoying because I LOVE food. He refused to eat anything “complicated,” like onions, apparently, or anything blending different flavors, like sweet and salty or spicy. That wasn’t why we broke up, but never again!

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    belongsomewhere February 8, 2011, 3:24 pm

    I’ve been a vegetarian for virtually my entire life, and I probably couldn’t date someone who eats meat at every meal. I definitely couldn’t date someone who LOVED the foods I’m allergic to. I’m allergic to onions, peppers, and garlic, so being with someone who cooked every meal with these ingredients would be an real deal-breaker, since we’d never be able to live together or I’d have to leave the house while he cooked and ate.

    My boyfriend eats meat, but only once a day (if that), and he knows that I won’t kiss him after he’s eaten chicken (I hate the smell) or anything that I’m allergic to (duh). He’s sensitive about it. I feel bad for him because my allergies do put a limit on the things I’m able to try, so we’re in a rotation of Japanese, Chinese, Mexican, Italian, and American/pub food, but he knows that he can always cook or order in from someplace for himself if he wants something I can’t eat.

    In the past, I have had friends who were really pushy about getting me to eat things they liked. One girl tried to bribe me into eating a dumpling and refused to tell me whether it contained meat or onions (I did not eat it and later found out that it did contain pork…that friendship was short-lived after that, because that’s truly insensitive). Others honestly refused to believe that it’s possible to be allergic to onions and insisted that I must just be lying. I would definitely not be able to date someone who tried to push their food preferences on me.

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      ArtsyGirly February 8, 2011, 5:28 pm

      What a crappy friend – good for you kicking her to the curb.

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      Diane February 8, 2011, 10:27 pm

      I totally get the allergic thing. I am allergic to sesame and pineapple. So many people, especially in the restaurants think I am just being difficult when I tell them I can’t have any thing with sesame; not oil, not seeds, nothing.

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      Anne (I Go To 11) February 9, 2011, 8:29 am

      I’m allergic to apples, and I always get a, “Really?!” response when I mention this to waitstaff. I do my best to try and order dishes that wouldn’t contain apples in the first place, but you never know what might have them. Apples (and products derived from them) show up in the weirdest places, thanks to them being so cheap to acquire. Example: I once made a cup of raspberry tea, and couldn’t figure out why my mouth would swell after I took a sip…turns out dried apple pieces were in the tea bag. Who puts apples in raspberry tea?!

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        ArtsyGirl February 9, 2011, 12:25 pm

        Allergies suck – not only am I allergic to many cleaning and soap products (damn you dryer sheets) but also a bunch of preservatives which show up in anything from sausages to falafel. I have a co-worker who is allergic to eggs and chicken! No joke.

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        belongsomewhere February 9, 2011, 9:42 pm

        Oh no! My dad has a chemical sensitivity disorder, so I’m familiar with how frustrating it can be to avoid cleaning products, especially in public buildings. Ugh!

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    ladiejoy February 8, 2011, 3:30 pm

    I was raised with rather bland meals – my mom doesn’t do much seasoning of any kind – likes everything plain plain plain. Maybe that’s why I’m so adventurous with my food, but I will try anything. I always make it a point to try things I _know_ I don’t like if it’s been a while – your taste buds definitely evolve over time, and things I used to hate I now love, and other things I’m coming around to.
    My guy HATES cheese. If you knew me at all you’d know how obsessed with cheese I am. Maybe it’s partly _because_ of his hatred, but I really do love cheese to a point where it’s a little bit weird. When people ask him why (because they always find that strange, like someone who said they hated bacon ) his standard response is “I was raped in a cheese factory”. It’s funny when people actually think he’s serious at first….

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      Anne (I Go To 11) February 9, 2011, 8:35 am

      I was raised on fairly bland food, too. I used to be a very picky eater, but as I’ve grown up, I’ve expanded my palate a lot.

      I’d say your boyfriend hating cheese is weird, but my best friend hates bread. Actually, to be more specific, she hates *sliced* bread. She’ll eat rolls, pizza crusts, flatbreads, etc., but don’t try to make her a sandwich with regular ol’ sliced bread.

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    princesspetticoat February 8, 2011, 3:30 pm

    Well… I have an unreasonable fear of food poisoning so I tend to err on the side of caution and unfortunately end up throwing out a lot of food. My boyfriend grew up with much less strict food safety and will often eat old leftovers that are long past when I would feel comfortable eating it. He sometimes gets annoyed when he finds out I’ve thrown out something that I thought was bad but he still wanted to eat. But I did get really bad food poisoning when I was a kid and there’s no way I ever want to be that sick again.

    Otherwise, we have a lot of similar food tastes and are both adventurous- we love to try new things, love to cook together and love to try new recipes. Once you’re living together, very different food preferences mean that meals will always be a compromise. I’m glad that we almost always have something we both enjoy.

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    Wolvie_girl February 8, 2011, 3:51 pm

    I don’t have this problem with my BF, we are both very adventerous eaters and love to go to ethnic restaurants and try new things. He is VERY adventerous, and loves to experiment with flavor combinations that even I would fear to try. It’s actually really handy when there’s a fridge full of tiny amounts of random left-overs because he will pile anything and everything on top of lettuce and call it a salad!

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    spaceboy761 February 8, 2011, 4:13 pm

    My wife is a fairly picky eater and it makes our weekly dinner prep difficult. She’s happy repeating the same four or five dishes every week, while I go slowly insane in the process. Most guys get psyched for internet porn when their wives are going to be home late. I get psyched to cook a wok full of szechuan shrimp. 🙁

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    bostonpupgal February 8, 2011, 4:13 pm

    Haha well, I basically am ‘woman #2’. I am a vegetarian who tries to eat a very balanced diet of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, organic eggs and cheeses, diverse proteins, and occassionally sustainable seafoods and natural sugars. I’m also a pretty awesome cook/baker. My fiance is a meat eater who used to hunt, and who grew up on boxed dinners and processed foods, which he continued to eat until I came into his life. Lucky for us he is perfectly happy to let me do almost all of the cooking, which I do about 5 nights a week, and I’m happy to let him do the dishes. He has never once complained about what we eat, and tells his friends and family what a great cook I am. And for my part I don’t judge him for ordering meat/whatever he wants when we go out or he fends for himself.

    We also both love trying new restaurants, food types, and cuisines, and try a new restaurant about once a week. So, despite our hugely different food backgrounds, we harmonize pretty well.

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    Lexington February 8, 2011, 7:20 pm

    I’m with Kerrycontrary- I wouldn’t want to date someone who refused to try anything new. My bf had never eaten sushi in his life, but was willing to try it cause it was my favorite thing, without complaining and actually liked it. So huge points. I wouldn’t care if we had differing tastes, although I have to admit it makes things easier that he loves the food I cook (he told me the other day that the reason he fell in love with me was for my cooking haha 😉 but it wouldn’t be the end of the world if he didn’t.

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    AKchic February 8, 2011, 7:57 pm

    Yeah… uh…

    I have bought duct tape, bleach, and rubber gloves together once. And I’m female. I’m not a mass murderer (although, if I up my body count a bit, I could qualify. KIDDING!). I just happened to run out of duct tape (an Alaskan tool-box staple) and needed the bleach and rubber gloves for a bathroom scrubbing project (4 boys, stomach bug – you do the math).

    I can honestly say that my guy and I don’t have the same tastes in food all the time. He loves italian salad dressing on his pasta. The smell of it makes me gag. He loves meatloaf and green beans and pickles. Any of those things will send me into violent vomiting fits and I won’t even allow green beans or pickles in my house, and I certainly don’t make meatloaf. Him on the other hand, he can’t stand tomato soup and gets pissy if he smells it becaue he ate it a lot as a kid and now doesn’t like it at all. He also likes Taco Bell, whereas I can’t even figure out why it’s menu items are considered food.
    I’m also the anti-girl. I can’t stand chocolate. The last time I ate chocolate was when I was pregnant with my 3rd son, New Year’s Eve 12/31/03. I remember because I was in labor and wanted a chocolate donut and coffee, which was very unlike me, and I thought it was amusing.

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    AnitaBath February 8, 2011, 9:39 pm

    Damn. Lean Cuisines are on sale for $2 here!

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      cdj0815 February 9, 2011, 9:03 am

      Get out!!! Where do you live?

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        AnitaBath February 9, 2011, 12:41 pm

        Indiana! They’re usually only a little over $2 anyway! And my boyfriend and I stocked up on them not too long ago for $1.50 each B-)

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    Chantelle February 8, 2011, 10:35 pm

    I have dated a couple picky eaters and I have to say I much prefer non-picky eaters or guys who like the same things as me.

    One guy didn’t like anything with “sauces”…WTF is that? That’s everything. From salad dressing, to alfredo, mayo, curries…every that is good in the world gets dipped or drizzled. It bugged me so much, I felt so limited on what we could eat together, where we could go, and it seemed so juvenile.

    My long term ex had just a few things he disliked. Seafood, olives, and mushrooms. I really love all those things so it was a bit disappointing but we still could go and eat pretty much anywhere. The only time it really bugged me is when we were at a traditional Chinese wedding, lots of seafood. Shark Fin Soup, tilapia, lobster, lobster balls, etc. I warned him ahead of time (even had the bride email me the planned courses) and he still pouted like a 6 year old once we were at the wedding. Then a week later at the grocery store he excitedly said we should buy and make lobster. I was so upset that I said I would never eat lobster with him because of the way he acted at that wedding.

    My current guy is on the exact same food wave length as me. I seriously fall for him anytime he talked about food, like when he said he felt like smoked oysters on crackers, or suggested we go buy a meat, cheese, antipasto platter, or said he wanted to go for sushi for his birthday. He’s not perfect though, he’s allergic to nuts and lactose intolerant. I can never put reeses peanut butter treats in my popcorn 🙁

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      Uyzie February 9, 2011, 12:26 pm

      Bummer. I don’t have any advice on the nut allergy, but regarding the lactose intolerance, I have one word for your BF: Lactaid. I’ve been lactose intolerant almost my whole life (asian genes), and that stuff is a godsend. Take two lactaid ultra caplets, and he can eat anything with lactose in it, even a double scoop of ice cream! I keep them in my purse all the time so I don’t have to worry about not being able to eat something when we’re out. I hope they work for him!

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        Chantelle February 11, 2011, 7:57 pm

        Thanks! I have suggested it to him in the past and he says he’s used them before. It just seems to be sour cream and soft cheeses that bug him most, and even then he gives into temptation.

        My twin is a lactose intolerant as well (most native people are, genetics again) so I’m used to it. But it’s weird that she can’t have dairy products and I can, considering we’re twins. Genetics are weird.

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    SouthernGirl February 8, 2011, 10:56 pm

    I married someone who eats loads of food I hate, some of which I am allergic to. (Although he keeps it far away from me.) It certainly makes cooking a challenge

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    biracial February 9, 2011, 10:29 am

    It would be much harder for me to date a man who doesn’t like a food I like (like fish a.k.a my life right now) than it would be to date someone who liked a food I didn’t. I love food. It’s unlikely that I would find a guy who likes a food I don’t. But it’s so hard to date guys who don’t like the foods I like especially when they’re not open to trying new things.

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    evanscr05 February 9, 2011, 11:21 am

    I don’t see this being an issue, unless the person you’re dating is completely closed to new things. My fiance and I have some very differing food tastes, and we still make it work. He’s from New Hampshire and is a HUGE seafoodie. I really don’t like seafood at all. I make an effort to try things (and have been pleasantly surprised on occasions to like something) and when special occasions come around, like his birthday, I put my tastes aside and take him out to whatever seafood restaurant he wants. He’s big into lobster, and though I won’t make it nor do I like it, he should still get to have it every now and then. As long as the seafood places offers me some chicken, I’m set 🙂

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    SSBoo February 9, 2011, 12:40 pm

    I wouldn’t judge from a shopping cart. Well…maybe man shopper #1 but I am a huge sushi eater and if a guy tells me he doesn’t like it or doesn’t eat it it’s a HUGE mark in the negative column. I don’t think I’ve stopped dating someone for that reason but it’s definitely been a contributing factor

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    Cporoski February 14, 2011, 1:48 pm

    I am a life long vegetarian and my husband is a meat eater. We have alot of compromises but it isn’t a defining issue in our relationship. I don’t cook raw meat but if he wants to bar b que himself or heat up something premade, it isn’t a problem. it actually allows us to cook together and can be romantic. We respect each other’s choices and it is a non issue. I think focusing on that stuff is silly.

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      Wendy February 14, 2011, 1:56 pm

      Ooh, good question! Look for ideas in an upcoming column…

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