In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Here’s where it gets complicated: I haven’t been in direct contact with her in a few months because I was one of the girls her stepfather assaulted, though I’m pretty sure she’s unaware of this. I didn’t feel like I could lend her emotional support during the arrest/trial because of my involvement and my attempts to reconcile what happened to me. I’ve been going to counseling and feel a lot better, but I’m still worried about her. None of this is her fault, and I’m afraid that she’s going to drop out of college and lose her dream. She deserves someone to treat her right and to be happy and healthy.
My question is: do you think that there is any way I can help her at all? Or because I was one of the targeted girls, should I just leave her alone out of respect for her? I want to make sure she is okay, but it’s probably pretty selfish of me to try and rekindle our friendship. Is this a friendship MOA? — Worried Friend